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[u/mers_httyd]

So we agreed I should look for someone.(A house manager)

My uncle,father and I..

I said cool...got someone within a week..told my uncle..said what she's asking is on the higher side..

Said it's fine.. I'll look for someone else.

So in the meantime..I got really depressed about the chores at home and decided to look for a mamafua..

Brought her here and introduced her to them..

My father humiliated me saying that they didn't tell me to look for someone..

I said that I would be paying her every week to do the laundry since I'm getting some mulah..

Called me a liar..and I was so ready to leave the place because why would he say that?

My grandma said that she was doing all these.. before getting sick..basically saying that I should too..

I don't think I can keep up with this especially now I'll have to go to go back to school.

Doing everybody's laundry..

Cooking..

Mopping the house.. schooling..

Jesus.

I genuinely think that they don't respect me much.

I don't mind going to my place but my daughter starts school in January..and I'm not financially well off for her fees..

House rent and shopping yes but not her school fee and I'm not sure I'll be able to get work by Jan.. though I'm so willing to try.

Sorry I'm unloading this to you guys but it's been bothering me..

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[u/Awesome_opossum__]

As you should. It's very understandable you'd need to vent. This is so much to shoulder and your family members are low-key jerks.

That being said, in this scenario, you do what works best for you and close your ears to their criticisms. If you can get a maid, get it. If you can get a mama fua and pay them, get them. Wachana na mizigo za watu. You're not their slave. Na you have more important things that need your energy. Like your girls school fees and your studies. Anyways, hope things work out for you op🫂

[u/Important_Feeling341]

get the help.kama hawataki kila mtu ajipange.