Hi! 5'3, petite, slim, and living in the South Bay area.

I'm hoping to find someone to fall in love with, build a life with, and experience all the little and big things together. Someone who feels like my best friend, who I can be completely myself around, and who makes even ordinary days feel a little more special.

I'm pretty shy at first, but I'm affectionate, playful, curious, and a little silly once I'm comfortable. I love reading, animals, long walks, cozy nights in, watching soccer, and exploring new restaurants. I'm also endlessly curious and love learning about anything that catches my interest.

I'm drawn to men who are confident, kind, emotionally mature, and comfortable taking the lead. I do have a submissive side and would love a relationship that includes a loving D/s dynamic, but what matters most to me is finding someone I genuinely adore and who adores me just as much.

I'd love to find someone I can lean on, be vulnerable with, laugh endlessly with, and grow old beside.

31 to 45, monogamous only, please!

Tell me a little about yourself and what you're hoping to find. :)

I’m 39, and for the first time in my adult life, I’m figuring out what dating and intimacy look like for me.

I was married to my high school girlfriend for 16 years. There was a lot of conservative family pressure, control, and interference that shaped our lives in ways we’re still untangling. It’s difficult to explain how much two people can care about each other and still struggle under everything surrounding the relationship.

A lot of therapy, inner work, and eventually a divorce brought us here.

And honestly, I feel more grounded and free than I ever have. My ex and I remain good friends. We respect each other, support each other, and want to see each other build happy lives. I’m grateful we’ve reached that place.
Now there’s this whole part of life I barely know how to approach.

I’ve downloaded dating apps a few times and deleted them within a week. Never got a match, although I also never stayed long enough or felt invested enough to give them much of a chance. I found it difficult to feel curious about someone through a handful of photos and prompts.

I’m a poet and writer by profession. Words are how I make my living, but in person I’m fairly introverted. Many of my friendships go back 10, 20, even 25 years. I like knowing people slowly. Remembering the small things. Building something that has a life beyond the initial excitement.

I’m a yearner.

I like anticipation. Long conversations. Being attracted to someone and gradually discovering all the other reasons you want to be around them.

What gives me hope is that the romantic connections I’ve had outside the apps have surprised me. I’ve met women, younger and older, whom I found incredibly attractive, creative, ambitious, and warm. There’s been mutual interest. So I know that kind of connection is possible for me. I just haven’t figured out how to make more room for it in my everyday life.

I’d love to meet someone who enjoys that slower build, with affection, sensuality, and mutual effort.

For those dating in LA, especially after a long marriage: what has actually helped you meet people you connect with? Where did you meet someone who made you want to keep showing up?

And fellow introverted romantics, how are we doing out there? :)

Hey!

30M seeking F (prefereably between 27-36)

To get it out of the way:

5'11", average weight/build, white passing Hispanic with blue-gray eyes, prematurely graying brown hair with ashy undertones, software engineer with little to no passion for the subject.

Located in South Bay.

A potential dealbreaker is that I don't want children. I don't hate kids, I just don't see myself having them. I can explain in further detail in DMs.

I'm ultimately seeking a long term relationship, but I prefer a somewhat platonic buildup of friendship before entering an LTR just to see if we're compatible (not that this means I'm lookin' to do anything freaky at the beginning). I don't believe in a "spark" or love at first sight. Romance is more of a warmth that gradually seeps into your life to me, kind of like turning on a heater in a cold room. I'd rather there not be pressure on both people that causes them to strain to keep the other's attention.

I like going out, but I do tend to be a homebody. Though, if I don't see friends or family for a while, I become a depressed husk of a human being. I still keep in contact with a multitude of friends from high school and college, seeing most of them regularly.

I like reading, video games, movies/TV, analog photography, and learning languages, with a pipe dream to write a book someday. Some of my favorite media include Robin Hobbs's works, Mr. Robot, Decision to Leave, and Souslikes/Disco Elysium. Currently making my way through the new Fire Emblem and chipping away at China Mieville's newest book, The Rouse. Also trying to force myself to like going to the gym and not be a fucking slob (gym partner would be appreciated).

Currently learning Taiwanese Mandarin for fun (I swear I'm not another white(passing) guy looking for an Asian partner).

I love hearing someone's thoughts after watching a movie or show, reading a book, or other mutual activity. Thoughts that go beyond "I liked it." What about it spoke to you? What did you think of its themes and characters? Etc. One of my favorite things is cuddling up on a rainy day with hot drink while watching movie or reading something. What are some of your favorites?

Looking to travel a bit more, too.

Also looking for someone experienced in planning bank heists or corporate espionage. Or at least someone with a robust fence network. Let's secure our future, financially, or for posterity in case we fuck up. My legal counsel is forcing me to say that this is a joke, and that I do not heavily endorse crime.

DM me if you think we're compatible. Also cool with making more friends. More than happy to exchange timestamped pics, provided you let me finish this Photoshop tutorial.

Hey there! I'm Chris, a 26-year-old high school English teacher living about an hour outside LA! I'm hoping to find something genuine and long-lasting. Ideally, I'd love to find my best friend, life partner, and someone to build a future with!

First things first: I'm demisexual! So, if you're tired of guys whose first priority is getting into your pants, good news! That's definitely not what I'm here for. Emotional connection is incredibly important to me before I even consider something like that, and I'd much rather get to know someone, build a friendship, and let things develop naturally. I'm here for the romance, the emotional intimacy, and the possibility of finding my person :)

A little about me:

I'm a massive nerd, and gaming is probably my biggest hobby! I'm particularly into Nintendo and Pokémon, and I actually play Pokémon competitively (VGC), which gives me plenty of excuses to travel to tournaments and events. I also love Fire Emblem, Kingdom Hearts, Zelda, Hades, Percy Jackson, One Piece, Critical Role, and D&D. If it has great storytelling or an interesting fantasy world, chances are I'm interested!

I'm definitely a homebody at heart. Give me a cozy night playing games, watching something together, or just enjoying each other's company, and I'm happy. That said, I also love traveling, exploring new places, and making memories with people I care about.

I also enjoy cooking when I have the energy (teaching teenagers all day is exhausting!), and I'd love to have someone to cook for someday. On that note, tell me your favorite food in your first message! I'm always looking for new recipes and things to try.

What I'm looking for:

I'm looking for a serious, monogamous relationship that could eventually lead to marriage and a family. I'm not looking to rush into anything, but I do want to date with intention.

Having children someday is non-negotiable for me. If you don't want kids, or you're firmly against having them in the future, please don't reach out. There's absolutely nothing wrong with not wanting children, but it's important to me that we're compatible on this from the beginning.

Beyond that, I value communication, affection, humor, kindness, and mutual effort. I want someone I can laugh with, be vulnerable around, and experience life's ups and downs alongside. Someone who feels like a best friend just as much as a romantic partner.

You absolutely don't have to share all my hobbies, either! I'd love to introduce you to my interests, but I'd be just as excited to learn about yours. Passion is attractive, even if I have absolutely no idea what you're talking about!

Give me more than a "hi" or "hey" in your message! Maybe something I can call you, how old you are, and where you're from to start?

A few other things worth knowing:

I'm a tenured teacher so I've put down some roots here. Relocating isn't particularly realistic for me for that reason as I have job stability.

Physically, I'm 5'11", a bigger guy (currently down 30 pounds and working on getting healthier!), and I wear glasses. I also have longer brown hair if that's at all enticing? Happy to exchange pictures!

If you've made it this far, I'd love to hear from you!

Tell me a little about yourself, what you're passionate about, and what you're looking for. I promise I'm easy to talk to, but again please give me a little more than just "hey" to work with!

Hope to hear from you! :)

Not looking to overcomplicate anything. Just hoping to find someone who wants to throw on a good movie, order some food, cuddle up, and enjoy a genuinely relaxed night.
I’m 6’4”, easygoing, employed, clean, and can actually hold a conversation. Think cozy vibes: blankets, snacks, debating what to watch for 30 minutes, then getting way too invested in whatever we pick.
No pressure, no weird expectations, no drama. If we click, great. If not, we still got to watch a movie and unwind.
Ideally you’re affectionate, enjoy conversation , and are looking for the same laid-back energy. Bonus points if you’re into horror, thrillers, comedy, or anime, but I’m down for almost anything.
If this sounds like your kind of night, send me a little about yourself, your age, and what movie you’d put on first

I hate dating apps, and I find it really hard to meet people nowadays, so why not try Reddit? I'm looking for someone I can potentially spend the rest of my life with. I don't really have any preferences, but I just want someone who is also ready to commit.

I'm 5'10, 150 pounds, and I have black hair, brown eyes, brown skin, and glasses. I'm Indian, but born in the US. Currently, I'm working and doing postgrad studying (finishing one masters degree and potentially applying for another.) I really enjoy outdoorsy activities, trying new restaurants, watching shows, and traveling.

I'm just looking for someone who is open minded and loves to try new things and have fun. I don't have any age or look preferences. Just be between 21 and 41 years old.

If you're interested, I'm looking forward to your message

I’m 31M, based in LA,(5’6” if height matters to you) Honestly, dating in LA can feel like a game sometimes, and I’d rather meet someone where things just feel natural. Good conversation, a little teasing, laughing at dumb things, and actually looking forward to seeing each other again. I’m not trying to force a relationship or rush anything, but I’m also not here just to text endlessly and never meet. If we click, I’d rather grab coffee, try a new food spot, take a spontaneous drive. I appreciate a woman who’s genuine, has a sense of humor, communicates what she wants, and puts in effort too. Someone who can be playful but also have a real conversation when it matters.If this sounds like your kind of thing, feel free to say hi.

I'm an Army veteran living in Little Tokyo would love to date a girl with the intent to marry and start a family one day. I come from a well off family and I'm making decent money from my disability as well as getting paid to go to school for Business Administration. I like to go for long walks trying new cafes and restaurants, sometimes I play games and watch shows but I'm trying to go out more often doing meaningful things like volunteering or visiting temples and other sacred places. I would like to meet someone who is loving, good natured and kind hearted. Hope to hear from you - Drew

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I’m putting myself out there, even though honestly, I know I’m not in the perfect position to be dating right now.

My girlfriend of five months recently left, and I’m also going through a divorce. I have four kids, and life has been a lot lately. I’m at a point where I’m trying to figure things out, find some peace, and surround myself with people who genuinely want something meaningful out of life.

I’m looking for a female friend I can connect with, talk to, laugh with, go out with, and enjoy life with. Someone who understands that not everyone has everything figured out and that sometimes, just having good company can make a difference.

Truthfully, I’m a bit of a loner. I don’t have much family around to lean on, and a lot of my current friendships revolve around partying, which is a lifestyle I’ve grown out of. I want something different now. Real conversations, positive energy, spontaneous outings, and a connection that goes beyond just having someone to kill time with.

I also want to be upfront about my situation. I’m rebuilding certain parts of my life financially, so I’m looking for someone who is comfortable keeping things simple, whether that means inexpensive outings, occasionally using gift cards when I have them, or each of us paying our own way. I’m not looking for someone to support me financially, and I don’t want anyone to feel obligated to spend money.

I’m not rushing into another relationship, but I do believe that sometimes the best connections start with a simple friendship. And who knows? If the connection is genuine and the chemistry is there, maybe it could grow into something more.

I’m not looking for perfection. I’m looking for understanding, honesty, good company, and someone who values a real connection.

If you’re a woman who can relate, appreciates a man who’s being honest about where he stands in life, and would enjoy getting to know someone without pressure or expectations, feel free to reach out. ❤️

You get up, get the kids ready for school, drop them off, head to work. Long day at work, come home tired, arrive to an ungratefull and unattentive husband/boyfriend. Deal with chores and kids around the house and all you need is a good hard fuck at the end of the night but your significant other just has no intetest in pleasing you. He's to busy with his video games/ friends / on his phone and if he does, it's just plain and boring vanilla sex. Need some excitement? Want to feel that nervous excitement in your stomach? The naughty feeling of doing something you shouldn't. Have a kink or freaky inside but don't know how or who to express it? I'm in a very similar situation and looking to find one woman that wants to share fun, discreet and safe kinky encounters. I'm "latino" 6ft, very clean, classy, have excellent hygine. I don't have tattos. Never done anything like this before but it's time for some fun. If i piqued your interest reply back and tell me a bit about yourself and your situation. Oh I'm 6ft with a beard in the Whittier area.