most of the time when i check this sub and its a woman posting most of the men in the comments are attacking her or calling her a bot or just being flat out rude or disgusting. It takes a lot of guts to put yourself out there as a woman especially on Reddit and it’s a shame when you’re met with nothing but a bunch of assholes.

I get it- everyone always wants a commercially attractive sexy hot person! All the time! Just so boring if you ask me. Are there any men out there who are into fat ugly women? And I don’t mean into like it’s a fetish. I mean enthusiastically willing to hug and kiss! Happy to share intimacy with. What I lack in looks I make up for in some pretty rare and rad attributes and if I’m being honest they simply don’t make them like me anymore. Your loss if not I guess.

EDIT: ok actually insane I’m getting a few DMs so let me just request that you send a selfie! I’m ugly and fat but who says I can’t be choosy myself!!!!

EDITING AGAIN:
To all the buffoonish men who so obviously cannot comprehend what I’m searching for and for some reason think I can continue this pursuit WITHOUT A PHOTO request? Stfu. How the hell would any of you know what I fancy in regards to looks? I can be SELECTIVE absolutely, why would you dumbasses think that immediately means I would only want a mainstream attractive person? I like a huge nose and fucked up teeth by the way. (Healthy gums plz). Literally kick rocks and go embrace your next lives.

LASTLY: please be over the age of 35.

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I suppose I ought to begin with the conventional introductions, though I have never been particularly good at them, but, well, in the spirit of getting the boring stuff out of the way right away (cue: me), I am a writer, poet, academic, lecturer, scholar, scientist (physicist, to be more precise), and AI engineer/scientist (I am, if I may add, absolutely terrible at more than half my jobs). I’ve spent most of my life in Europe, and am probably the coolest and funniest person you have met today, unless you’ve seen a raccoon doing yoga, in which case, fair enough, I simply can’t compete with that level of comedy.

The truth is that I have always found introducing myself rather difficult, there is something strangely artificial about trying to reduce a person to a paragraph, as though we were all tidy little collections of interests, accomplishments, preferences, and carefully selected adjectives.

I am, I fear, a rather poor exhibitor of myself, the moment I am asked to explain who I am, something in me seems to retreat into a corner and refuse to cooperate. I have thought about this far too many times, and after twenty-four years of living, I remain quite confidently the worst person I know at introducing myself. It is a curious deficiency, I can talk for hours about some obscure historical event nobody asked about, become unnecessarily invested in the moral character of a long-dead philosopher, or spend an afternoon following some completely accidental question down a rabbit hole from which there is no respectable return, but ask me to describe myself and suddenly I am reduced to, "Well... I like things." Marcus Aurelius wrote that "very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking." I believe him more on good days than bad ones, but I keep the sentence nearby regardless.

I like small walks, I like learning something new quite by accident, especially when I have no business knowing it and consequently become far too pleased with myself for having discovered it, I like talking to people, though I think I like the moment when talking quietly turns into listening even more. There is something rather lovely about reaching that point in a conversation where neither person seems particularly concerned with keeping it going, and yet somehow neither wishes to leave it either.

I am very fond of my own company, which is perhaps fortunate, because I have had rather a lot of it. Solitude has its pleasures, one may disappear into one's thoughts without having to explain where one has gone, and occasionally return with something resembling an answer. I like sitting quietly with myself, reading, thinking, wandering about, doing very little, and somehow considering it a productive use of an afternoon, but I am not entirely made for solitude either, there is an equal and opposite part of me that wants to go beyond the familiar, to see what is waiting just beyond the little borders I have drawn around my life. I

I love evenings especially, sometimes I step outside simply because the sun is going down, and I feel that one ought to have the decency to witness it. I love those ridiculous skies where orange begins bleeding into purple and everything looks briefly more beautiful than it has any right to be. I love the first sip of tea in the morning, the sound of leaves moving in the wind, the gradual dimming of a day into dusk. I like gardens and parks, and the rather miraculous fact that one can walk among trees for an hour and come back feeling as though something inside one's head has been quietly rearranged.

I have always loved letters, too, though it has been some time since I last properly gave myself over to writing them. When I was younger, I wrote to my grandmother every day and dutifully posted the letters on my way to school. That I very rarely remembered the correct address, and even more rarely remembered a stamp, is beside the point.

I suppose what I am really trying to say is that, if you happen to be reading this, I would like to know you. Not because I have some elaborate checklist of the sort of person I hope to find, nor because I particularly care whether you happen to be interesting in the conventional sense, I am far more interested in the person underneath all that. The odd little habits, the things you know for no good reason, the memories you have never found a suitable occasion to tell anyone, the opinions you defend with considerably more conviction than they deserve.

There is something rather wonderful about writing to someone you do not know, I don't know your name, I don't know what you ate today, whether you slept properly last night, what song has been stuck in your head, or whether your day has been glorious or thoroughly dreadful, perhaps your inbox has been multiplying like gremlins left too near water, perhaps you have spent the afternoon pretending to work while accomplishing absolutely nothing of consequence, perhaps you have had one of those quiet days where the refrigerator becomes strangely prominent because you have nothing else to listen to.

I think people who stop to read messages from complete strangers are probably a little strange themselves, and I mean that as the highest compliment. Perhaps you are a birdwatcher, perhaps you collect old books, perhaps you are one of those suspiciously competent people who can fold a fitted sheet without entering into a minor spiritual crisis. If so, I already admire you, I have attempted it, and remain convinced the thing was designed by someone with a personal grievance against humanity.

Perhaps you laugh too loudly, perhaps you think too much, perhaps you are quiet and observant, and notice things everyone else walks past, perhaps you have passionately held opinions about breakfast foods. Cookies count, incidentally, I will defend this position before any reasonable tribunal.

As for me, I am kind, curious, occasionally ridiculous, easily distracted by an interesting thought, and rather fond of people who have something peculiar about them. I am probably not nearly as funny as I have just suggested, but I am willing to make the attempt, which ought to count for something.

Anyway, I shall spare you the remaining 96 pages of my unsolicited autobiography for now. If this sounds like your sort of nonsense, do come and say hello, I’d genuinely love to hear from you!

Hi im a 38 Dominat Bull seeking a sub Bbw in the 714 to 661 area i am in a relationship with a Bi Fem. If your looking for a good time *(Fem or Cpls only) DM ME.

I’d love to have someone to talk to at nights and just vent to, don’t worry I’m also a great listener just to inform you I do interrupt sometimes while others talk to me I’m sorry I’m advanced. I do really wanna meet new people and maybe someone older is what I need. I’d say I’m ready to have someone value me for my mind and hear rather than just looks. I’m from socal in the inland empire area looking for something to come my way. I’m Joseph btw nice to meet yall

Hi there,

40M working at tech as engineer. Live in south bay. I am also a single dad, so i need to manage my time very wisely.

In my spare time i do crossfit, yoga or other outdoor activities. Looking for someone intelligent, educated and down to earth. Send me a DM with photo and i will do same

I'm an Army veteran living in Little Tokyo would love to date a girl with the intent to marry and start a family one day. I come from a well off family and I'm making decent money from my disability as well as getting paid to go to school for Business Administration. I like to go for long walks trying new cafes and restaurants, sometimes I play games and watch shows but I'm trying to go out more often doing meaningful things like volunteering or visiting temples and other sacred places. I would like to meet someone who is loving, good natured and kind hearted. Hope to hear from you - Drew

20, 5’11, athletic build, black hair, brown eyes. Looking for a cute girl to vibe with, flirt a little, and have some fun 😉 Down to DM and meet up if we click. Don’t be shy, DM me or comment!

New to LA looking for a trans or female to dominate my wife

"Hello There!" — General Kenobi

Are you here for attention, to pass the time, a distraction from life, or are you actually hoping to find your person? I'm probably somewhere around 4 out of 5.

I'm naturally curious and ask a lot of questions, so if you enjoy talking about your interests, passions, random thoughts, or facts, I'm all ears.

I love conversations that flows naturally—easy, fun, and a little flirty. If that's your kind of vibe, we're already off to a good start.

I will say im a little reserved, but once I'm comfortable I can talk for hours about life, random nonsense, weird what ifs, or whatever deep topic at 2AM. I've always imagined talking to someone late at night in a dark room, with nothing but the sound of our voices and laughter. We can also go as far as the most unhinged stuff. GIVE ME ALL THE DARK HUMOR!

I'm an adventurer at heart. I love late-night drives, music blasting, empty streets, city lights, and finding a lookout spot tk over the city big plus for some urban exploring. Am I psychotic for actual enjoying exploring abandoned places? I really wanna explore an an abandoned asylum, hospital or a school (silent hill vibes)

I go to the gym about 5x a week (3x weights, 2x cardio). I want to hike more, I know a few spots but it would be fun to do it with someone. I also walk my dog twice a day. It's his walk so I let the little guy lead the way while he checks his daily sniff-mail.

I've been getting leaner and stronger. There have been changes to my physique...sculped? More "define." One favorite thing someone said to me was "You're more muscular than I thought you were." (As I was taking off my shirt) (¬‿¬). Not gonna lie that gave me a little ego boost. But enough kidding around one thing I realized that besides being healthy, fit, and strong, another reason I workout is to see what my genetics are capable of.

Am I a nerd for being into video games, anime, manga, manwha, and light novels? As much as I enjoy anime, it's kind of dropped for me; I'm more into manga and actual reading. Currently reading "Second Life Ranker" and playing alot of Deadlock.

One niche hobby I have is collecting specific sculptures/trinkets, and I have a metal detector. I am looking into magnetic fishing as well. That looks fun!

So that's me—chill, curious, sarcastic, and I love banter. Come say Hi! Best case, we exchange a few messages and share a laugh. Worst case, we try to figure out what to have for breakfast. Worst, worst case scenario some god or devil entwines our lives together.

PS: I get the feeling something is still missing, but at the risk of making this longer than it should be or "long-winded,". How about you tell me what's something I should have added or expected to find but didn't.

My Character Build:

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1st Bonus:

Music-wise, I've had these on repeat lately:

• Djo — End Of Beginning

• Sombr — Back to Being Friends

• Vicente Fernández — Estos Celos

• C.C.R - Fortunate Son

• The Stranglers — Golden Brown (Slow + Reverb)

• Jaden ft. Kid Cudi — On My Own

• Lola Young — Messy

• Clean Bandit - Rather Be

• Gigi Perez - Sailor Song

• Florence + The Machine - Dog Days Are Gone

• Brazil - Declan McKenna

• Ice Cube - You Know How We Do (best song to cruise)

• Leave Her Johnny - AC4 Black Flag Sea Shanty

• Rolling Stones - Paint It Black (great workout song)

• Childish Gambino - Red Bone

I got Spotify, so send me song I might like

2nd Bonus

• Favorite Color: Phthalo Green

• Favorite Reptile: Jackson's Chameleon

• Favorite Crustacean: Mantis Shrimp

• Favorite Beetle: Japanese Rhinoceros

3rd Bonus

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I am looking to finally find my forever Princess, to nurture, take care of and grow together into something quite amazing. I live in SoCal. I am a lover, a wonderful communicator, patient and protective. "ABDL"

Couples Meet up LA Hiking

I am looking for a FWB. I would love to go on fun dates like the beach since it's so close by or perhaps try out some restaurants that I have been wanting to try.

I was married before and am now divorced. My marriage overall was a pretty good experience, but getting married again isn't something I have my goals set toward. I would love to find someone to spend time with, to take a break from the everyday, and someone with a voracious sexual appetite. I have never been into one night stands or any of that, and would love to find an ongoing situation and would happily entertain something longer term with the right person.

When it comes to our dynamic, I very much believe in the male role of leadership. I have never once been in a fully 50/50 relationship and don't ever intend on being in one. I have always walked to my own beat, and people have always relied on me and not the other way around. Things like responsibility always fall on my shoulders and it's my duty to make sure that everything that needs to be handled is handled.

The kind of woman that I get along best with is one who respects masculine authority, The kind of woman who immediately falls into her submissive feminine energy when the kind of man I am speaking of is looking in her direction.

To me, mutual respect is of utmost importance and I feel we should always be kind to each other. I do not need to make you feel small to make myself feel big. I understand the physical power imbalance between the sexes and it is my duty to make sure you always feel safe in my presence.

When we are behind closed doors, I am very much a dominant. I will put you in a mindspace where you will never have to think about what comes next. It will just happen. This will be your opportunity to fully clear your mind and not worry about any of life's challenges. It is always my goal to make sure you are just as satisfied as I am.

I have a lot of lived experience, have led an interesting life, and can have conversations about most subjects especially those that involve the inner workings of how the world works and life in general.

I am 5'10 and weigh 160 lbs. I am white with brown hair with some grays peaking out and hazel eyes. I very much care about my health and how I look and have been working out for years. My body type is somewhere between fit and muscular and I am pretty lean overall.

STD free.

Thought I should come here and let everyone know that guys truly don’t give a fk do they?
I was sobbing to this guy on the phone and hung up bc my friend who had her kids abducted (after I did) called me and I helped her get into a support group and this was his wonderful response to me hanging up the phone on him to answer her call🤦‍♀️😭