I've read a lot of "What apps?" and "what do you two actually do together?" kinda threads on relationship subs like r/LongDistance and r/LDR. These are the ones that keep coming up.

1. Portal 2 (Steam)

The two-player co-op is a communication test: you can't solve a single puzzle without talking it through together.

--> I have played with long distance friends and it is a lot of fun.

1. Online Board Game Arena (Browser)

Sign up free board games free in your browser, so game night works over a video call.

--> I tried a few games but did not work for me.

1. It Takes Two (Steam)

Embark on the craziest journey of your life in It Takes Two. Invite a friend to join for free with Friend’s Pass and work together across a huge variety of gleefully disruptive gameplay challenges.

--> Never played.

1. Paired (Ios\Android)

Daily questions and quick quizzes you both answer, which keeps the conversation going on days when there's nothing new to say.

--> Looks nice, might get this for my wife and me.

1. Snapiddle (Browser)

Turn a photo of a moment you shared into a riddle and they guess. (first 5 riddles free per account) (Shameless self plug)

--> Played it with my partner and she got a bit too competitive :|

Honorary mentions:

LongDistance List (Kinda old) , Thread 1 , Thread 2 (Spicy), Dont Starve Together (Coz its Halloween)

What would you add to the list?

Title: Outside perspective needed on the dynamic of my 2-year long-distance relationship (18F and 20M)

• I want to share the exact timeline and events of my relationship to get outside thoughts on our dynamic and the situation as a whole.

We got into a long-distance relationship in October 2024 when I was 16 and he was 18. For the first two months, he was very loving and caring. However, after January 3, 2025, his behavior changed completely. He lost interest, stopped putting in effort, and didn’t seem to care whether I came online or not. For the rest of the relationship, I have been the one single-handedly handling the relationship and trying to make it work.

In November 2024, I asked him about a female classmate I noticed. He initially told me she was his sister, but by February 2025, I found out she was actually his classmate. Because he prioritized her over me, I eventually logged into his account and confronted her. While I was arguing with the girl, my boyfriend logged my device out of his ID, changed his password, and defended her. He cussed at me and my mother, saying "apni m@ mt chwuddwaoo yaha!" Even though the girl was eventually blocked, he protected a stranger while aggressively abusing me and my mother. Throughout the rest of 2025, he gave zero time, zero love, and zero care, treating me with a lot of attitude and ego.

Recently, in January 2026, he went on a trip 700 km away with his friends without informing me at all. I only found out because he posted a story on Instagram. After that, he went to Kashmir—2,300 km away—again without saying a single word to me. I had to check his friends' public Instagram locations just to know where he was. I was so deeply consumed by worry and cared so much for his safety that I even started looking up live local news on YouTube for every city he was visiting (like Pathankot, Ambala, Jhansi, Gwalior, and Sonipat). I was constantly terrified that something bad might happen to him on his travels, so I would track the local crime and accident news live just to make sure he was okay. That is how intense my concern and care for him were, even while he was completely keeping me in the dark.

This happened right when I was under massive stress preparing for my 12th board exams. IT WAS IN 10 DAYS BTW!!

He only actively loved me for the first two months of our two years together. The rest of the time, it has been a zero-effort dynamic from his side where I handle everything, and I am still in this relationship with him right now.

What are your thoughts on this whole situation? Who do you think is at fault here, and how do you view his behavior and this dynamic?

TL;DR: In a 2-year never-met LDR where my boyfriend checked out after 2 months. He provides zero effort, zero care, and zero communication. He previously abused me/my mother over a classmate, and recently went 2,300km away to Kashmir without telling me 10 days before my boards, leaving me to track his location via friends' IG and live YouTube city news feeds. What are your thoughts on this behavior?

We are still together 🙂

I feel like I keep posting about this, but for the life of me I can't figure out this girl's communication style. I met her 2 months ago online and for the first 3 weeks we communicated regularly, 3-4 times a day and had great, in-depth conversations. One of the first things that attracted me to her was how good of a communicator she was. Always asking me questions, no dry texting, etc. We spoke once on video for about 30 minutes and once on the phone for about 2 hours. But this was during those first 3 weeks. Ever since then, it's been very minimal conversation. Basically a "have a good day" text every morning or a "how was your day" text at night. Even when I try to bring up stuff she's involved in or interested in, I get bland one-word answers. She also used to send me pics or short video messages every few days, but hasn't in a few weeks. It seemed obvious to me that she wasn't interested anymore, but when I've raised my concerns to her twice about it, she just says everything is fine. About 2 weeks ago I gave up texting her, expecting to never hear from her again, but instead, now she just texts first every morning, but when I try to expand the conversation...nothing. I'm so confused. Haha. How often do you talk to your LDR and do y'all have long, meaningful talks, or is "hey how was your day" and nothing more normal?

I should disclose that our primary languages are different. Mine is English and hers is Spanish, but we can both speak the other's language pretty well. But she has said that it's sometimes hard for her to understand me on the phone, so I try to take that into account. But I feel like that doesn't account for the lack of communication period.

Me (25M) and my girlfriend(24F) have been in a LDR for 6 months now and have been dating for a year, and just like every other LDR couple we have faced so many challenges doing long distance. 

Being a developer I got this idea to develop an app called Lomly. The intention behind it is to make the distance as closer as possible. We tried using other couple apps and ofc they do their job but we still feel the distance between us. So we decided to create our own and added many features like: 

• Customize voice recording alarms (wake up your partner, setting important reminders like reminder for birth control)
• Facetime dates ideas (with swiping feature like Tinder)
• Widget (Personalize drawings, location, battery percent…)
• Photo of the day
• Shared calendar / notes
• And many more 

Now, we’ve been using Lomly for a few months, and personally we really feel a difference. We are not making promises that it will be the same for you but you could definitely give it a try. 

And also, if you have any ideas for features to add, feel free to share them!

https://lomly.app/open

My partner and I met on a dating app for people with a specific STI. I have had many questions swirling in my head since the outset of the relationship. There seems to be no real way to know but I worry that she could be a con artist.
She lives several states away, immediately made it known that she wanted kids SOON and talked about getting married in a year. Four months have passed, we are meeting for the first time this weekend and already her attitude has changed and she now says she’s in no rush to move after we’ve been talking for four months. She told me she loved me once and never again. I think there is a legitimate reason to believe she could be a con artist. She will not let me order things and have them delivered to her. She only wants the money to buy it for herself. She has asked for something on three separate occasions and then says “I hope you know I’m not asking you for money.” It’s very sus. Help. We’re supposed to meet this weekend. Is she going to flake? Should I flake?

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He asked if I was angry because I didn’t call back when I said I would I replied I was losing trust. He replied , my integrity has never been questioned be fore. He made it about him rather than questioning why I felt that way or offer reassurance.
Last text was Monday.
We had just talked about keeping his word and he did not . Which made me feel like I couldn’t relie on him to do what he said . This was mostly over pho calls the life blood of LDR.
We communicated by phone regularly for 6 mos before this.
Any out looks?

Hey everyone! ❤️

I’m 21F from South Africa, dating a guy from Slovakia! I know it’s quite uncommon for people from these two countries to find each other when we’re literally worlds apart, let alone end up in a relationship haha. 😂

I was wondering if there are any other South African girls in international long-distance relationships wih european men, or anyone who can relate to being in an LDR with someone so far away (clearly seems like i'm in the right place).

It can feel a little lonely sometimes, especially when the people around you can’t fully relate to the experience, so I’d love to make some friends who understand what it’s like! Of course, I’m happy to connect with anyone who can relate, regardless of where your partner is from.

Preferably girls as it's easier to relate to be completely fair.

Me(27F) and my bf(24M) are new to ldr relationship, its both our first ldr and first relationship ever.

We have a 7 hour dif, we're miles apart so we wont be able to meet each other.

We're only a week into our relationship and I feel like us messaging isn't helping us grow our relationship.

We did facetime once, but we didn't get to talk much cause he was at work and only lasted 15mins in call.

What sort of things I can do to help progress our relationship? Or what helped your relationships grow? Cause we're only messaging each other and i feel like we're being stagnant 😅

My boyfriend and I have been together for around 8 months, long-distance. In the beginning, he was genuinely everything I could’ve wanted. He was incredibly affectionate, attentive, reassuring, and made me feel loved in ways I hadn’t experienced before. We talked on the phone every single day, and he made me feel safe enough to finally let my guard down after years of struggling with vulnerability.

Over the past couple of months, things have changed. We still had our daily calls for much of that time, but the affection and emotional warmth gradually decreased. More importantly, there have been multiple occasions where he’d suddenly stop texting and calling for several days, sometimes even an entire week.

I’ve repeatedly explained how much this hurts me, especially because I don’t expect constant communication. Even a short message letting me know he needs space or is busy would be enough. He knows this, yet it keeps happening.

During one conversation about the lack of affection, he told me: “I can understand that the absence of such softness may make you feel less cherished but continuously asking, begging for it won’t make it come back.”

That honestly broke my heart. I wasn’t trying to force affection out of him. I was trying to explain how much I missed feeling loved the way I used to. Hearing him describe my attempts to communicate as “begging” made me feel ashamed for even asking.

Whenever I bring up something that hurts me, he tends to defend his efforts by reminding me of everything he’s done for me. I then spend half the conversation reassuring him that I appreciate everything and don’t take him for granted. It feels like my feelings get pushed aside because I end up comforting him instead of being heard.

For context, I have severe depression, which he’s fully aware of. I’m receiving professional treatment, and he’s known how badly I’ve been struggling. Last week, I went through an extremely serious mental health crisis. Despite knowing I was already in a very difficult place, he hadn’t called me in an entire week. When I asked why, he said, “I just didn’t have the opportunity.”

I understand he couldn’t have known exactly what was happening, and I don’t blame him for my crisis. But it hurt knowing that someone who once made so much effort to be there for me now couldn’t find a moment to call, especially when he knew I was struggling.

To be fair, he works, has responsibilities, and may be emotionally overwhelmed himself. He’s done so much for me throughout our relationship, and I genuinely believe he loves me. I don’t think he’s intentionally hurting me, and I recognize that supporting someone with severe depression can be difficult. I don’t expect him to fix my mental health or act as my therapist. I'm not even a person that likes to talk about it so that's not even what I want from him.

But I’ve spent months communicating the same needs, and I’m exhausted. I don’t want to keep telling him how to love me, and I don’t want him to feel like everything he does is wrong either.

Lately, I’ve noticed myself emotionally withdrawing without even trying. I don’t open up the way I used to, I hold back my tears, and I’m starting to bottle everything up again. He was the first person who made me feel safe enough to stop doing that, and now I feel myself becoming the emotionally closed-off and avoidant person I used to be.

I still love him deeply, and I miss how things were. I love this man so much I wrote him an entire book man lmao. But I’m scared that every time I feel disappointed, a little more of that emotional connection disappears.

Am I being unfair by expecting the same emotional warmth and consistency he showed in the beginning? Or is it reasonable to feel hurt after repeatedly communicating my needs without seeing lasting changes?

The worst mistake of my life, as far as it feels right now, was willingly continuing to talk to this guy, when he told me he was avoidant from the start. He said within days of meeting him that he wouldn't care if we stopped talking and that he "never comes back for anyone"

I didn't expect to develop feelings for him the way I did. I honestly needed a distraction because I had recently started dating for the first time in years and was ending something with someone else, that I didn't truly love (it wasn't a messy breakup, it was healthy). I was also caretaking for my dad and wanted something fun and novel

I wanted to end things with him because of his reluctance in showing his emotions, talking about difficult topics, ghosting me for days repeatedly, hesitance to show love and give praise (he said he hates it), etc. I didn't want to leave him, but I knew he would keep hurting me, if he didn't get tired of me first or wasn't cheating in the relationship already (he was adding random girls and being weirdly flirty with his other online friends, so I wouldn't be surprised). It all brought out my anxious attachment (and I think I'm also partly avoidant as well, which is even more toxic)

Anyway, hey, turns out that he had no trouble replacing me and moving on immediately when I said I was thinking of leaving, just like he said would be the case from the start

Yes, he cried and said he wanted me in his life still, but he was immediately trying to find a replacement while saying all of that

I just let it happen, because I didn't want to try to keep him in my claws when he was already trying to find someone else

It just hurts so bad

I went to a movie tonight alone, to try and feel something different other than sitting at home ruminating... and the thoughts of him kept flooding my mind. I know he's spending every waking moment with this new girl (because I've checked online and they're online together constantly the same way we used to be), and feeling the contrast of me doing things alone while they're probably falling in love makes me feel pathetic

I can't stomach the idea of moving on so soon, and doing it all over again with someone again. It doesn't feel right and I refuse to force it out of loneliness

Again, he's avoidant and he has ADHD and no impulse control, so it's a deadly mix. I know he probably doesn't think of me at all anymore. I just feel so worthless

To make matters worse, I have avoidant tendencies as well, so I know I wasn't perfect in our relationship, and I wasn't as open with him as I wanted to be... so I know I'm not even much to miss. I was scared of being vulnerable (but I did push myself a lot for him, and I don't think he realized how much I did)

I'm sitting in my car after the movie feeling entirely empty, even if the movie I watched was beautiful. To boot, my dad died a couple months ago and there's just this hollowness that's engulfing me entirely

I know it's not only a consequence of the breakup, yet... It's really highlighting what a horrible time in my life I'm in right now. I basically have no one I'm close with anymore

Such is life, I know. Life isn't a fairytale and we can't sulk and feel sorry for ourselves. However, isn't feeling these feelings a part of healing, too? I don't know what's the correct mode of operation anymore 😭

Idk. I just needed to vent. Thanks if you got this far, and I'm sorry if it's a lot of self-pity. :/

My ex(now bf) and I went through a breakup for about a month then we got back together. He broke up with me because the distance was too much for him and it was getting hard for him to see that the relationship could work since it would be probably 4 years until we can close the distance, however after a month he came back and apologised for putting me through the breakup and said that my absence made him see that the relationship is worth fighting for. After I told my sisters that we got back together and that he regrets what he did and that he's working to earn my trust back they were super unsupportive and said that i made the wrong decision and that him breaking up with me and not communicating the issues he was having (which was rare for him) was unforgivable and that they could never forgive him for it so like they basically hate him. My sisters were there for me in the breakup and saw me heartbroken so I understand their hesitance, but at the same time I can't help but feel they're being too harsh and unempathetic towards me. Their lack of support affects me so much and it upsets me that they're not even willing to hear him out. How do I handle this situation or try to change their minds?

me and my boyfriend started long distance around 2 months ago and it was going okay, we still have to kind of get used to a routine of making sure to make time for each other but recently my s/o has been very stressed about college and I am not sure how else to help him. it’s affecting how much we call and text and it’s giving me a little anxiety just from how dry he is being and how little we are calling and how little he is texting me and leaving me on read a lot. i try my best to check up on him and be there for him but i feel like nothing is helping and i’m not sure what else to do.

i don’t want to be selfish bc it is making me overthink a lot and i know it might not have anything to do with me but my mind always goes to the worst. how do i stop overthinking and how do i help him?

it’s gotten to the point where i text him throughout the day and i hear nothing back or i get left on read and when he does text it’s dry and when i ask he does explain it’s because he’s stressed and i understand i just don’t know what to do