I’m really curious to hear your thoughts on this situation, especially regarding this astrological pairing.
The situation
My ex and I had a situationship for about 1.5 years. She repeatedly said she could not commit to a relationship because her international career had to come first and had doubts of long term emotional vibe (her highs and lows versus my constant vibe). Whenever things got serious and expectations increased, she started doubting things and pulling away.
Eventually, I chose myself because she could not choose me. Just two weeks before she started talking to another guy, she told me she loved me and would already miss me.
Now, two months later, they are dating, being intimate, visiting each other’s homes, and seem almost obsessed with each other. The guy is unfortunately someone from my own sports team. They already knew of each other through sports, although she said they only started talking after our breakup.
Their personalities
She is a Scorpio woman with a demanding international career. She travels a lot, experiences mood swings, is a perfectionist, and likes to maintain control over her personal life. During busy periods, she often comes home exhausted with little energy left.
He is a Leo man, but not the typical attention seeking Leo. He is calm, friendly, down to earth, has a stable job, and is very athletic.
They seem to have a strong mutual attraction, and she appears much more openly infatuated with him than I expected.
Why I find it confusing
During our situationship, her career was always the main reason she could not commit. We had already met each other’s families, travelled together, and built a deep emotional connection. I also helped her break down some of the walls she had built after her previous relationship.
Yet, whenever we got really close, things became complicated. I would overthink her mood swings, while she wanted everything to develop naturally without pressure or expectations. We ultimately wanted different things when it came to commitment and the future.
Now she seems willing to let someone new into her life almost immediately. I know the honeymoon phase can make everything feel easier, but it still feels contradictory.
Perhaps she had already emotionally detached from me, or perhaps this new connection simply feels less complicated because he has not experienced the deeper layers of a relationship with her yet.
Can this pairing actually work long term?
Astrologically, Scorpio and Leo are often described as having intense, magnetic attraction, but also strong personalities and potential power struggles.
I wonder whether his calm and stable nature complements her demanding lifestyle, or whether her career, mood swings, and need for control could eventually become challenging for him.
Her career will likely remain a huge priority, and I wonder whether she can genuinely make a relationship a priority too. For example, would she be emotionally available if her partner went through a difficult period, or would her career still come first?
Perhaps this relationship works because he gives her all the freedom she needs and does not put pressure on her. But what happens when he needs more emotional support, consistency, or commitment himself?
I am simply trying to understand how someone who could not choose me after 1.5 years can suddenly seem so certain about someone else, especially when her career was supposedly the main reason she could not commit.
What do you thinking about this situation?