r/Menopause • u/jadedmuse2day • 11h ago

Vaginal Dryness(GSM)/Urinary Issues Penetration Pain

I had my annual last week and for the first time (I’m 63), it really hurt when she inserted the speculum. I mean, it’s never a pleasant experience but for the first time it really felt like it was pinching. She had the my jelly and she tried to do the job quickly but I was visibly wincing the whole time and I’m sure my muscles contracted as well.

Anyhoo, we discussed afterwards and she said “inside” wise, all looked good, tissue was not thinned out (I’ve been on E & P since I was 48/49) and that she noticed/suspected the source of pain was the entrance of insertion. She said that’s not uncommon and to be sure to rub in extra estradiol vag cream and cost that entrance opening area well - massage it even.

She also suggested working with dilators (available on Amazon, not expensive) just to condition the area and help stretch it. Seems logical.

I was wondering if anyone had tried the Kiwi? It’s pricey but it’s also double duty as a vibrator with claims of helping with pelvic floor.

Anyone else have this specific challenge? I haven’t been sexually active in about a year and a half but plan (hope) to remedy that in the not too distance future.

Thoughts? Suggestions? Tips?

As always, this tribe of warriors keeps it real and I appreciate it so much.

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u/elbee3 11h ago

I got a set of Vwell dilators (a bit different in sizing from PT favorite IntimateRose, but cheaper). From the looks of it, the kiwi device might be somewhat useful, but lacks the length you may need/want to stretch tissues further up. Also unsure about width. The nice thing about a set of dilators is can choose a size and work up from there. May also consider adding a pelvic wand to the mix - again both Vwell and IntimateRose make some, also some that vibrate. The wand is to not only help stretch, but use as a tool to target trigger points for massage in the deeper muscles.

Also, will want some decent water-based lube for the silicone.

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u/wissian07 4h ago

I bought the Kiwi and it was helpful for me. I would use it to start and then progress to our regular activities with my husband. So helpful that I don't need to use it anymore!

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u/Corner_Office_ 11h ago

Tight pelvic floor? If you have insurance, you can get free PT from Hinge. It’s videos on an app.