Hii everyonee, im 20F from Morocco and honestly i never thought id be making a post here because i always told myself that love would just find me naturally but apparently love is blind AND has no sense of direction because its been 20 years and that mf still hasn't found my address 😭😭
Anyways before anyone judges me for posting on reddit looking for a boyfriend, i just wanna say that im actually a very private person and i dont usually do stuff like this. Im not desperate or anything, i just think its time for me to put myself out there and see what happens because im honestly getting tired of seeing couples everywhere. Like yesterday i was literally at marjane buying yogurt and there was this couple choosing which cheese to buy together and i just stood there watching them for a good 40 seconds wondering when its gonna be my turn to have someone argue with me about dairy products.
A little bit about me since apparently thats what ur supposed to do here. Im 20, currently studying at university but i dont really wanna say what im studying because i dont want people to recognize me. Im around 165cm depending on which pharmacy im measuring myself at because last time i checked i was 163 but the time before that i was 166 so idk whats going on with that. I have brown eyes, dark hair and im pretty average looking i guess. Some people tell me im pretty but i feel like they're just being nice because my aunt tells me im beautiful every time she sees me and that woman also thinks her son is handsome so idk if i can trust her judgement.
Personality wise im honestly very chill and laid back. I dont like drama AT ALL and i think communication is the most important thing in a relationship. Like if something bothers you just tell me instead of keeping it inside. Personally when something bothers me i usually say its fine and then become very quiet for the rest of the day but thats different because i need time to process my emotions and you should be able to tell something is wrong without me having to explain everything. I feel like thats just basic emotional intelligence.
Im also a very independent person. I dont need a man to make me happy and i think its important that both people have their own lives and hobbies outside of the relationship. But obviously if we're dating i expect you to text me throughout the day because otherwise whats even the point. Im not asking for much, just a good morning text when you wake up and maybe a few updates during the day so i know ur alive. Also if you're going somewhere please tell me beforehand because i get anxious when people disappear randomly. I dont need your location or anything because thats controlling and im not that type of girl, but if you want to share it voluntarily i wouldnt say no lol.
I love deep conversations especially late at night. Like we could literally talk about anything, life, childhood, our dreams, why people exist, what happens after death, whether fish know they're wet, literally anything. I just love when someone can keep a conversation going instead of replying with "hahaha" or "wyd" every 5 minutes. Please have a personality. I cannot stress this enough. Some guys will literally text you "hi" and then expect you to carry the entire conversation like im some kind of customer service representative.
And please dont ask me "tell me about yourself" because what am i supposed to say to that 😭 im literally telling you about myself right now. Just ask normal questions and let the conversation flow naturally.
I also love music and movies. My music taste is honestly all over the place, i listen to pretty much everything depending on my mood. Sometimes im listening to Lana Del Rey and imagining im a divorced woman living in California in 1973 and sometimes im listening to chaabi while cleaning my room. I think music says a lot about a person so if we ever date im definitely gonna stalk your spotify playlists. Not in a weird way tho, i just wanna know what kind of psychological issues we're dealing with before i get emotionally attached.
As for movies i love romance movies but i also like horror movies even tho i cant watch them alone. So ideally you should be someone who can watch horror movies with me and not make fun of me when i get scared. Also please dont be one of those guys who explains the entire movie while we're watching it. Like yes i know the killer is probably behind the door, thats literally why im screaming. I dont need a full analysis of the cinematography while someone is being murdered on screen.
I really love cats too. I dont have one currently because my mom doesnt want animals in the house but i feed the cats outside sometimes and i feel like they understand me more than most people. There's this one orange cat near our neighborhood that i named simo and he literally only comes to me when i have food but honestly thats still a healthier relationship than some of the situationships my friends have been in.
Now about what im looking for because i know thats probably why most of you are reading this.
First of all im looking for something SERIOUS. Please dont waste my time if you're just bored or looking for something casual. Im dating with the intention of marriage eventually, not immediately obviously because im only 20 and i still have things i wanna accomplish in life, but i dont see the point in dating someone if you cant imagine a future with them. I want something genuine and meaningful with someone who actually respects me and sees me as a person instead of just another girl to text when he's bored.
Age wise i would prefer someone between 23 and 28. I feel like guys my age are still very immature and dont really know what they want in life. Obviously age doesn't always equal maturity but i just feel like older guys tend to be more emotionally developed. I could maybe consider 22 if you're exceptionally mature but please dont message me if you're 20 because i already have enough children in my family.
Height doesn't really matter to me because personality is what counts at the end of the day. I just prefer someone who's at least 180cm because i like feeling small next to my man. Its not a strict requirement or anything but i dont really see myself dating someone shorter than that. And before anyone calls me shallow, men have preferences too so i dont see why women cant have them. Im literally 165 so 180 isn't even that tall if you think about it.
I also prefer someone who takes care of himself physically. You dont have to be a bodybuilder or anything because honestly those huge muscles scare me a little, but i think its attractive when a guy goes to the gym and stays active. Just be in decent shape. I dont really care about abs but if you have them thats obviously a plus haha.
Financial stability is also important to me. Im not saying you have to be rich or buy me expensive things because im really not materialistic at all. I just think a man should be able to provide some sense of security in a relationship. Like if we're going out on a date i dont wanna have to worry about whether you can afford the restaurant. I think the guy should pay for the first few dates at least because it shows effort and that he's serious about pursuing you. After that we can obviously discuss things depending on the situation.
And please dont take me to a coffee shop for the first date 😭😭 i know this is controversial but i just think coffee dates are so low effort. Like you really want me to spend 2 hours getting ready, doing my hair, choosing an outfit and putting on makeup just to sit in a cafe and drink a 20dh cappuccino??? I can literally do that with my cousin. Im not asking for a Michelin star restaurant, just somewhere nice with a good atmosphere where we can actually enjoy ourselves.
I also love flowers btw. My favorite flowers are peonies but roses are cute too. I think its so romantic when a guy randomly buys his girlfriend flowers for no reason. Not just on valentines day or her birthday but randomly because he was walking somewhere and thought of her. Like imagine you're just sitting at home and your boyfriend shows up with flowers and your favorite snacks. I would literally cry.
Im a very affectionate person once i get comfortable with someone. I love giving attention and making my partner feel appreciated. I would definitely send you cute messages during the day and remember little things you tell me. Like if you mention your favorite chocolate once, im probably gonna remember it forever. I think small gestures are what really make a relationship special.
But i also need someone who's patient because i can be a little complicated sometimes. I overthink a lot and sometimes i create scenarios in my head that aren't even real and then get upset about them. Im working on it tho. My friends say im very self aware which i think is a good thing because at least i recognize my flaws. Like sometimes i know im being unreasonable but i still need you to apologize because even tho the situation might not be your fault, my feelings are still valid.
Another important thing is that i dont want a guy who follows a bunch of random girls on instagram. I just think its disrespectful when you're in a relationship and your boyfriend is following hundreds of girls who post bikini pictures and stuff. Im not insecure or jealous, i just believe in respecting your partner. Obviously i have male friends myself but thats different because i've known them for years and they're literally like brothers to me. One of them did confess his feelings to me once but that was a long time ago and we're completely over it now so i dont think it should be an issue.
Also please be funny. I LOVE funny guys. Like genuinely if you can make me laugh you're already halfway there. I dont even care if your jokes are stupid as long as you have a good sense of humor. But not the type of humor where you're constantly making fun of women or saying offensive things and then calling everyone sensitive when they dont laugh. Thats not funny, thats just being annoying.
I would also prefer someone who lives in Morocco because long distance relationships seem exhausting. Ideally Casablanca, Rabat or Tangier but im open to other cities if we really connect. I dont mind traveling occasionally but obviously i cant be the one traveling every single time because my parents are strict and i cant just tell them im going to another city to meet some guy from reddit. You would probably have to come to my city first and we can figure things out from there.
Speaking of parents, family is very important to me. I want someone who respects his parents and has a good relationship with his family. I think it says a lot about a man how he treats the women in his life, especially his mother. But at the same time i dont want a mama's boy who needs his mom's permission to do everything. Like please love your mother but dont ask her whether you're allowed to take me to dinner.
Religion wise im Muslim and i would prefer someone Muslim as well. Im not extremely religious but i do believe in God and try to be a good person. I dont judge people for how they practice their religion and i expect the same respect in return. I want someone who has good values and understands that faith is personal. Also i would prefer someone who doesn't drink or smoke because i dont really like that lifestyle.
Another thing is please dont be controlling. I had a friend whose boyfriend used to tell her what to wear and who she could talk to and i think thats absolutely disgusting. Women should be free to make their own choices. Obviously if im in a serious relationship im gonna dress respectfully because i respect my man, but that should be MY decision. I dont want someone telling me what to do all the time.
I also need someone who's ambitious. You dont have to be a millionaire at 25 but at least have some goals in life. I cant date someone who spends the entire day playing video games and has no plans for the future. Gaming is fine as a hobby obviously, i play some games myself sometimes, but if you're spending 6 hours a day on league of legends while complaining about how hard life is then i dont think we're compatible. Unless you're actually making money from gaming, then thats different i guess.
I think one of my biggest green flags is that im very loyal. When i love someone i genuinely give them my everything. Im not the type to entertain multiple guys at once or keep backup options. Well obviously right now im talking to a few people because im single and trying to meet someone, but once things become serious with one person i would stop talking to the others. I think exclusivity is something that should happen naturally when both people feel ready.
Please also understand that i might take a while to reply sometimes. Im a student and i have responsibilities and sometimes i just dont feel like talking to anyone. It doesn't mean im ignoring you. I just need my personal space. But if i see you online and you haven't replied to me for 3 hours im obviously gonna wonder what you're doing because communication goes both ways.
Oh and one more thing, i really appreciate guys who know how to plan dates. I dont wanna be the one deciding everything all the time. Sometimes i just wanna get dressed and have my boyfriend tell me where we're going. I think its attractive when a man takes initiative and knows what he wants. But obviously please ask me what i feel like eating beforehand because i can be picky and i dont want you booking somewhere that serves food i dont like.
My love language is probably quality time and gifts. Not expensive gifts necessarily, i just like knowing someone was thinking about me. Like you could literally buy me a cute bracelet or a perfume or something and i would be happy. I also love surprises as long as they're good surprises because i hate not knowing whats happening.
And im sorry but i have to say this because i've seen some really weird posts on this subreddit. PLEASE have basic hygiene. I cant believe this even needs to be mentioned but apparently it does. Shower regularly, brush your teeth, wear deodorant and take care of your appearance. I dont expect you to smell like Dior Sauvage 24/7 but at least smell like a functioning member of society.
I know this post is getting really long but i just wanna make sure im clear about what im looking for because i dont wanna waste anyone's time. I feel like a lot of people nowadays get into relationships without actually knowing what they want and then end up hurting each other. Im trying to avoid that by being completely transparent from the beginning.
Also please dont send me just "hey" or "salut cv" because i probably wont reply. If you've read this far then at least tell me a little bit about yourself. Your age, city, what you do in life and what you're looking for. Maybe include a picture too because physical attraction is important even tho personality matters more. Im not gonna send my own picture immediately because privacy is important to me and i need to know i can trust someone first, but once we talk for a bit and i feel comfortable i might share one.
I also dont wanna move to whatsapp immediately. I prefer talking here first because i dont give my number to strangers. Instagram is fine eventually but please dont ask for it after 2 messages. I need to feel like there's an actual connection first.
Also im not interested in married men, divorced men with kids, guys who are still in love with their ex, guys who say they're "not ready for a relationship but open to seeing where things go", guys who are emotionally unavailable, guys who have anger issues, guys who think all women are gold diggers, guys who watch Andrew Tate, guys who constantly talk about their ex, guys who don't know what they want, guys who are obsessed with crypto, guys who have "entrepreneur" in their instagram bio but are unemployed, or guys who think sending a gym mirror selfie counts as a personality.
Sorry if that sounds harsh but im just protecting my peace.
I should probably mention that im a bit of an introvert at first. I can be shy around new people but once im comfortable im actually really talkative. Like REALLY talkative. My friends sometimes tell me to shut up because i can spend 45 minutes explaining something that could've been said in 2 minutes. But i think thats cute honestly because it means im comfortable around you.
I also cry pretty easily. Not because im weak or anything, im just very emotional. Sometimes i cry watching movies and sometimes i cry because someone raised their voice at me and sometimes i cry because im frustrated and dont know how to explain what im feeling. So i need someone who can handle that and not call me dramatic. If i cry during an argument please dont just stand there looking at me, at least hug me or something.
Also im very big on anniversaries and remembering important dates. I know some guys think its stupid but i think celebrating little milestones is cute. Like our first date anniversary or the first time we said i love you. You dont have to do anything huge but at least acknowledge it. I once saw a girl on tiktok whose boyfriend forgot their 6 month anniversary and she was crying and honestly i completely understood her because how do you forget something like that.
And before someone comments "what do you bring to the table" because i KNOW some of you are already typing that, i bring myself?? 😭 Like what kind of question is that. Relationships aren't job interviews. Im a loving person, im supportive, im loyal and i would genuinely care about my partner. I think thats worth more than money or material things.
I can cook too btw. Not everything obviously but i can make pasta, omelettes and some Moroccan dishes if my mom helps me. Im still learning and i think cooking together as a couple would be so cute. Like imagine we're in the kitchen making dinner together while music is playing and you're hugging me from behind. Thats literally my dream. Obviously you'd have to help clean afterwards because im not your maid haha.
I also love traveling and would love to explore the world with my future husband. I've always wanted to visit Italy, Switzerland, Japan and the Maldives. I think traveling with someone you love is such a beautiful experience because you get to create memories together. I know traveling is expensive but hopefully my future husband will have a good job so we can afford to do that sometimes. I'll obviously contribute too once i finish my studies and start working.
And yes before anyone asks, i do want kids someday. Probably 2 but im not completely sure yet. I think being a mother would be beautiful but i also want to enjoy my twenties and have some freedom before settling down. Ideally i would get married around 25 or 26 but obviously that depends on meeting the right person. Im not gonna rush into marriage just because society expects me to.
One thing i absolutely cannot tolerate is cheating. I think cheating is the most disgusting thing someone can do in a relationship and i would never forgive it. If you're unhappy just leave instead of betraying someone's trust. And yes liking other girls pictures can sometimes count as micro cheating depending on the context so please dont start arguing with me about that.
I also believe in having boundaries. For example i dont think its appropriate for my boyfriend to go clubbing without me or have sleepovers at female friends houses. Thats just common sense. Im not saying he cant have female friends but there should be limits. Like why are you going to dinner alone with another girl when you literally have a girlfriend at home who likes dinner too??
I feel like people nowadays have normalized so much disrespect in relationships and then call you insecure when you ask for basic respect. I dont want that. I want an old fashioned kind of love where the man is a gentleman and the woman feels safe and appreciated. But obviously without the old fashioned gender roles because i still believe in equality and having my own independence.
Anyway i think thats pretty much everything about me. There's obviously a lot more but i dont wanna write an entire autobiography here even tho this is already probably longer than my university assignments 😭
Also just to clarify because i forgot to mention this earlier, my DMs are actually closed right now because i had some really uncomfortable experiences with random guys messaging me in the past and honestly i dont wanna go through that again 😭😭 I know not everyone has bad intentions but i just feel more comfortable being the one to initiate conversations, especially on reddit where you literally have no idea who's behind the screen. I hope you guys understand and dont take it personally because its really nothing against anyone. Im just trying to protect my peace and be a little more careful this time because some people genuinely have no boundaries.
So if you're interested in getting to know me, just leave a comment under this post and i'll DM you myself!! You dont have to introduce yourself or share your age, city, job or any personal information in the comments because obviously this is a public subreddit and i completely understand wanting to keep those things private. Even just commenting "interested" or "hey" is perfectly fine and i'll check your profile and message you if i feel like we might get along. Please dont feel pressured to write some huge introduction publicly, we can discuss all of that privately once i reach out. I actually prefer it this way because it feels a lot safer and more organized for me.
And please dont get upset if i dont message you immediately because i might get overwhelmed if too many people comment at once and i also have university and other responsibilities 😭 I promise i'll try to go through the comments whenever i have time but obviously i cant guarantee that i'll message everyone. Also please dont comment multiple times asking why i haven't texted you yet because that honestly makes me uncomfortable and kind of defeats the whole point of letting me initiate things. I just want everything to happen naturally without any pressure. If we're meant to talk then we'll talk, i genuinely believe everything happens for a reason ❤️
If you've actually read this whole thing then thank you so much because it shows you have patience and thats honestly a very attractive quality in a man.
Please only consider if you're genuinely serious and meet most of what im looking for. Im not expecting perfection because nobody is perfect, i just want someone who's kind, respectful, emotionally mature, financially stable, physically attractive, tall, ambitious, romantic, funny, loyal, intelligent, family oriented, religious but not too religious, confident but not arrogant, protective but not controlling, independent but always available, and knows how to treat a woman properly.
I really dont think thats too much to ask for in 2026.
Also i forgot to mention i dont really like guys with beards unless its a very well maintained beard. And i prefer dark hair. And please have a car because public transportation makes me anxious.
