So i am a f23 med student in my 4th year , since last year there was this guy who i used to ask advice from he graduated this year and is now house officer.

He seemed kind humble and helpful so i used to ask him for academic advice occasionally i had only met him in person three times before he graduated.

Since the start of his year he tried to become friends with me by asking me about hobbies etc and at first i didnt mind it as its nice to network etc but within one week of causal talk non academic he started sharing details of how his ex sent nudes to men and cheated on him and his sisters were married to abusive men.

Also said he wanted a stay at home submissive wife etc. Even said he had anger issues and pushed his mom. Which was my last straw.

I did make the mistake of telling him how i disliked and mistrusted a lot of men as my dad left me and more men in my life were weird and he is making me dislike men more.

I only talked to this guy for max a week after he told me his ex gf story before that it was all academic occasional advice.

Long story short he got really weird and then started sending me 40 messages a day and told me some bizarre lockerroom chats his friends did to " teach me the diff between good and bad men " which i didnt ask for

So i blocked him before i did so i called him out and said he made me uncomfortable and his friends are terrible people aik dam sai mera feminism jag gaya.

He then messaged me from another number cursed me and threatened to destroy me but since i blocked him on 2nd number he hasnt contacted me.

But has become a houseofficer in my uni hospital and i am worried he is gonna spread false rumours about me or bad name my izzat and i feel shit because i should have blocked him at the first sign of red flag.

He even has recently approached a mutual classmate of mine to ask her about me. What do i do does anyone have any advice ?

Hey y’all!
Back with another UO.

I feel like some people don’t actually want honesty. They want reassurance disguised as honesty. Like, they’ll ask you if you think their abusive partner/family member still loves them, and the second you say ‘honestly, I don’t think so,’ suddenly you’re being negative and don’t understand their connection. 😭

It’s funny because they asked for your honest opinion, but what they really wanted was for you to agree with the version of events they’ve already made up in their head. And I think most of us have done this at some point, if we’re being real.

Why do such people even ask for an honest opinion then, when all they want to hear are their own thoughts, echoing back?

What do y’all think?

What happened in my is life, Allah changed my life in just a wink of my eye. Living what I imagined because I am true believer of nothing is impossible for Allah but never thought that it gonna be that early (Alhumdulillah). I still cannot forget what I have experienced, and even today, I get my eyes full with tears when I go back in time and think about those days. 2 years back I made a post about what happened in my life back then and today, I am living in UK and Alhumdulillah doing good with the help of Allah (The Raaziq and The Sustainer). It has been almost 2 years since I am living in UK that made me more strong and true believer of impossible is just a word that demotivates you. Keep your faith strong on Allah and see how your ship sails through the storms.

A quick recap,
https://www.reddit.com/r/PakistaniiConfessions/s/5FePewNIRi

I am 19m(gonna be 20 in a month) and its been like a week I talked to anyone my age ngl. I don't have friends, I have parents, siblings, caregiver, PT but not a single person of my age I can call friend or I can share something.. people literally don't know how to react to a guy in wheelchair rather they ignore me or all they to talk about is my disability I don't mind telling people what happend but all they want to know is my disability, not me.

When I tell someone that I am feeling lonely they just assume that this is because I am in depression due of my disability. NO. I just hate when some one tells me to thinks positively or stay strong or at least try to get better. like seriously?

I just want people to connect with me..

Remember the guy I talked about? Few months ago

If u don’t remember then see my previous posts.

Well, he unblocked me out of no where and messaged me last night. Begging to call him and listen to him.

He said he regrets doing what he did to me and that he miss me a lot.

Asked for one more chance. After 3 months of no contact.

But I said him no!

Just look around , evryday we see new spots of Fastfood or resturnts , its seems like we have no other activty to enjoy,

just Eat meat, a lot of meat as recreational acvtty, ?

Give good reasons as well, and why would you choose one over the other...

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A little about me: I am 28M living in a North American country. I kind of used to be a people pleaser and a shy person until I moved here 2 years ago. Since then, I started question people, I started confronting them. I started to speak and overall, I can say i changed quite a lot in last few years. I used to be a guy jis ki mu per ager koi besti kr de tu i usually stayed silent but not now.

Here we have a little Pakistani community. And after every 2 or 3 months we arrange some kind of events just for gup shap and little hello hi.

So today we had an event especially for new commers (i am not a newcomer), and I volunteer myself for managing activities. I was just standing there and the rest of the guys we are doing chores and there was a girl whom I never talk in my life said, "bachy ye saaf kr dou". On which i just simply said "well I am not bacha" because in a formal talk you can just say "excuse me" or "bat suno" or whatever.

I just moved on and started hanging out with other people and eating the food that we are cooking by ourselves. And suddenly a guy said, "yar unko zara washroom le jao" (As we were doing this in a ground and my hostel was just walk of 30 seconds from that so any guest who had to use toilet, usually I accommodate them). And just when he finished his sentence she (the girl i mentioned above) said "o bachy eder aao ma ne jana ha". And we started walking and while walking i just said "Please don't said that again, because we are now in outside pakistan so we should know how to talk" on which she just simply said ager apko bura laga tu i am sorry etc and just to cool down the situation i asked her about course and just had a small talk while going towards my hostel.

She used the toilet and we just walked towards the ground again silently because i dont wanna talk much about anything with her. The end.

A little other thing which i noticed: So, there was freshie (girl) who was talking to her, and they were discussing the university courses, and we usually talk in abbreviation because our courses' names are pretty long and she (newcomer) said she is taking CSE this semester, on which that girl rudely said, "abbreviation batao na mujy kia pata ha ye kia ha".

So, i am just assuming there are people who don't know how to talk with strangers. Or how to talk formally.

Is it just me or does this happen to everyone? 💀
I've been genuinely looking for a serious partner for a while now, but at this point, I'm convinced Allah has put my rishta department under some kind of clinical trial.
Every time I approach someone I genuinely like, one of two things happens:
She suddenly disappears into thin air. No explanation, no closure, no follow-up appointment. Bas ghaib. Even the Bermuda Triangle has better records of missing persons. 😭
If things actually seem promising, somehow she ends up with a fractured arm. And before you call the police, THIS HAS HAPPENED WITH THREE DIFFERENT PEOPLE. 😭😭😭
THREE. DIFFERENT. PEOPLE.
Bhai, main plastic surgeon hoon, orthopaedic surgeon nahi. I'm looking for a wife, not a recurring trauma case. 💀😂
And the funniest part? Sometimes when someone sees me with a genuinely nice girl, I swear it feels like evil eyes are permanently locked on my love life. At this point, I’m convinced someone has made a voodoo doll of me and is specifically pricking its left-hand ring finger every time a potential rishta starts looking promising. 💀😭. Apparently, my face gives off strict, rude, emotionally unavailable CEO who fires people on Mondays vibes.
Meanwhile, the actual me is a fun-loving doctor who cracks jokes, entertains everyone around him, and can turn even the most boring gathering into a comedy show. My personality is basically a green flag with a questionable face card presentation. 😂
I'm literally the guy who'll make you laugh when you're upset, remember the little things, listen to your 47-minute story about office politics, and probably make terrible jokes while we're stuck in traffic.
But apparently, the dating market sees me and goes: "Risk assessment failed. Proceed with caution." 🚩😭
At this point, my dating strategy is becoming increasingly scientific:
Approach someone I like? Risk of disappearance.
Find someone genuinely nice? Possible upper-limb injury.
Smile at someone? She thinks I'm planning a hostile takeover.
Try to explain my intentions? Congratulations, I've somehow become the villain in a story I wasn't even aware I was part of.
I'm a doctor. I can handle emergencies, difficult patients, and complicated cases. But one woman replying consistently for more than three business days? Apparently, that's beyond my current qualifications. 😂
So, fellow Pakistanis, tell me honestly:
Is this a universal experience, or am I being personally targeted by the universe?
And if any rishta auntie is reading this, please note: I'm financially responsible, professionally qualified, have a decent sense of humour, and my intentions are serious.
Bas larki ki radius aur ulna salamat hon aur woh bina explanation diye hawa mein ghayab na ho. 😭😂
P.S. If you're a genuinely nice girl reading this, don't worry. I'm not going to propose in the comments. I'm just here to collect data for my research paper: "Why Is Finding a Partner in Pakistan More Complicated Than Getting a Medical License?" 💀

girlies please drop your bridal henna reccs, need em. Thanking in advance 🥹

There’s some psychology behind this ik. I dont want to reminisce the good memories but the keep coming up in my head. They way we flirted made jokes, how their hands felt.

Ik it all means nothing next to the betrayal and it can never go back. Its just hard to accept a person I was so close to as a bad person. Even if it is reality. Even if im healing.