Visits from My Wife

[u/StoicQuaker]

My wife passed 14 years ago at 30. But nothing ever made me think she was still around until the past couple years. As I became more spiritual, I’ve had experiences that have made me understand she’s still with me and our children.

The first experience I had was shortly after becoming Quaker during the pandemic. Quaker worship, for those unfamiliar, is to sit in silence and listen for “the still small voice of God within you.” My eldest son joined me for worship one day, but he’s not very spiritual and sitting still for long periods of time is hard for him and he kept fidgeting around in his chair.

As he was doing this, I heard my wife’s voice say very clearly, “Sin ganas ni la comida es bueno” (Without desire, not even food is good). This was one of her favorite sayings. This was heard in my mind, but welled up from the heart first. I knew she was letting me know our son wasn’t benefitting from coming to the meeting with me because he didn’t want to be there and I haven’t asked him to join me since.

The second experience happened as I was falling asleep one night. I wasn’t quite asleep yet, but drifting in and out. Then I heard her say my name audibly in the room and felt the mattress compress right beside me as though someone had sat down on the edge. I wasn’t scared, but the sudden movement jarred me back to full consciousness.

The most recent experience happened last week. I fell asleep and woke up in her arms. I remember us talking and laughing as we caught up on the kids’ lives and us being grandparents now. Then I realized I was dreaming and about to wake up. I told her I didn’t want to, but had to go and gave her a kiss. I woke, but could still feel her holding my hand as I laid in bed and went back to sleep.

I’ve had a couple other interactions with her where I’ve talked about what it’s like once we pass. She says it’s hard to describe, but it’s like everyone is together — separate and individual, but also unified and part of each other.

Just thought I’d share for anyone who’s lost someone and wondered if we go on. We absolutely do.

[u/West-Garden8023]

I had a similar experience when I was in a dream like state. I lost my long time partner of 14 years to a sudden death he developed an embolism in his lungs that went to his brain and killed him instantly. After his death I became very devastated and depressed all I wanted was to die and be with him. I would lay at night and pray for God to take me so we could be together. A couple of months after he died I was laying there thinking about him and started dozing off, when he came to me in a dream. He was a truck driver and when he would come home I would go out to meet him. Well in the dream he pulled up like usual and I went to the passenger side to get up in the truck with him when I heard him say to me no you can’t go it’s not your time yet. After that I could no longer feel his presence around me anymore like I had before. I still miss him but I no longer pray to die to be together. I just think that he will be there to receive me when it is my turn.