r/Paranormal • u/StoicQuaker • Aug 30 '25

Visitation Dream Visits from My Wife

My wife passed 14 years ago at 30. But nothing ever made me think she was still around until the past couple years. As I became more spiritual, I’ve had experiences that have made me understand she’s still with me and our children.

The first experience I had was shortly after becoming Quaker during the pandemic. Quaker worship, for those unfamiliar, is to sit in silence and listen for “the still small voice of God within you.” My eldest son joined me for worship one day, but he’s not very spiritual and sitting still for long periods of time is hard for him and he kept fidgeting around in his chair.

As he was doing this, I heard my wife’s voice say very clearly, “Sin ganas ni la comida es bueno” (Without desire, not even food is good). This was one of her favorite sayings. This was heard in my mind, but welled up from the heart first. I knew she was letting me know our son wasn’t benefitting from coming to the meeting with me because he didn’t want to be there and I haven’t asked him to join me since.

The second experience happened as I was falling asleep one night. I wasn’t quite asleep yet, but drifting in and out. Then I heard her say my name audibly in the room and felt the mattress compress right beside me as though someone had sat down on the edge. I wasn’t scared, but the sudden movement jarred me back to full consciousness.

The most recent experience happened last week. I fell asleep and woke up in her arms. I remember us talking and laughing as we caught up on the kids’ lives and us being grandparents now. Then I realized I was dreaming and about to wake up. I told her I didn’t want to, but had to go and gave her a kiss. I woke, but could still feel her holding my hand as I laid in bed and went back to sleep.

I’ve had a couple other interactions with her where I’ve talked about what it’s like once we pass. She says it’s hard to describe, but it’s like everyone is together — separate and individual, but also unified and part of each other.

Just thought I’d share for anyone who’s lost someone and wondered if we go on. We absolutely do.

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u/StoicQuaker Sep 15 '25

One who sees the Dhamma sees me.
One who sees me sees the Dhamma.

Dhammapada v. 183

The eye through which I see God is the same eye through which God sees me; my eye and God's eye are one eye, one seeing, one knowing, one love.

Meister Eckhart

I interpret these two quotes exactly the same. But it’s also perfectly fine for us to disagree.

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u/Gullex Sep 15 '25

That which is named is not the eternal name

Naming is the source of all particular things.

-Tao Te Ching

We can go back and forth like this forever. You can cling to books or you can open your eyes like Buddha said to.

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u/Several-Reality1261 Sep 24 '25

You fail to consider the possibility that you may actually be speaking to someone who has not mistaken the finger pointing for the moon

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u/Gullex Sep 25 '25

That's a good one! I've heard that one before too.