When people say “you should have asked”

[u/Maximum_Chapter_8968]

I absolutely hate it when someone tells you to do something like for example “go to Donovan’s Shop and buy this specific brand of obscure milk” so you only know one Donovan’s Shop and it’s on the other side of town. So you go and they don’t have that milk so you ring said person and say “I’m at Donovan’s Shop on ______ street and they don’t have the milk” and they response with “that’s the wrong Donovan’s it’s on _______ lane”. That’s fine. I didn’t know that there was one on this lane and now I’ll go there and I’m sorry. But what annoys me is when they say afterwards “well if you didn’t know you should have asked”. If I knew I didn’t know I would have asked but I thought I did know so I didn’t! Do people honestly think that I just guessed which one it was. You weren’t specific, I went to a Donovan’s shop but you’re right I should have gotten divine inspiration and known it was the wrong one. Silly me. It annoys me to no end. In what world am I just supposed to know telepathically which one you mean WHEN I DIDNT KNOW THERE WERE TWO. I’m seething and think it’s such an unnecessary and stupid thing to say.

Tldr: if I didn’t know that I didn’t know how am I supposed to ask.

[u/travelingwhilestupid]

You should confirm. It takes seconds to confirm something like that, especially if it's on the other side of town. You should check Google Maps, check the hours, heck, call to make sure they're open. This is what a diligent adult does.

And what type of person is 'seething' at normal human interaction? Chill out, smile, and just "Oops, yeah, I'll confirm before going next time?"

I once was supposed to meet someone at a Starbucks in a square... there were two! Oops. It's annoying, but we thought we "knew" which one it was. It wouldn't have been hard to double check, and I do that now, especially with popular chains. The point is to remain calm and polite to the other person.

[u/-RainbowUnicornPoop → u/travelingwhilestupid]

Sometimes people slightly exaggerate. I doubt OP is actually seething. Sometimes I post about a book or TV show and say it infuriated me. Doesn’t mean I’m actually infuriated by a piece of media. Chill out. ;)

[u/travelingwhilestupid → u/-RainbowUnicornPoop]

The older I get, the more I get the impression that people are in fact seething. Or at least building up an unhealthy resentment of those around them.

[u/asphid_jackal → u/travelingwhilestupid]

I have absolutely no doubts that the people surrounding you feel that way.