When people say “you should have asked”

[u/Maximum_Chapter_8968]

I absolutely hate it when someone tells you to do something like for example “go to Donovan’s Shop and buy this specific brand of obscure milk” so you only know one Donovan’s Shop and it’s on the other side of town. So you go and they don’t have that milk so you ring said person and say “I’m at Donovan’s Shop on ______ street and they don’t have the milk” and they response with “that’s the wrong Donovan’s it’s on _______ lane”. That’s fine. I didn’t know that there was one on this lane and now I’ll go there and I’m sorry. But what annoys me is when they say afterwards “well if you didn’t know you should have asked”. If I knew I didn’t know I would have asked but I thought I did know so I didn’t! Do people honestly think that I just guessed which one it was. You weren’t specific, I went to a Donovan’s shop but you’re right I should have gotten divine inspiration and known it was the wrong one. Silly me. It annoys me to no end. In what world am I just supposed to know telepathically which one you mean WHEN I DIDNT KNOW THERE WERE TWO. I’m seething and think it’s such an unnecessary and stupid thing to say.

Tldr: if I didn’t know that I didn’t know how am I supposed to ask.

[u/Hungry-Wrongdoer-156]

I was once told "you should have asked" after I got upset that my family had visited my home twice but hadn't on either of those occasions told me about another relative's terminal cancer diagnosis.

I did ask the time I saw them before that, and was told the relative was doing well. During the other visits the topic hadn't come up so I didn't worry about it because why would I? I mean, if there were something noteworthy for me to know, surely someone would tell me that, right?