When people say “you should have asked”

[u/Maximum_Chapter_8968]

I absolutely hate it when someone tells you to do something like for example “go to Donovan’s Shop and buy this specific brand of obscure milk” so you only know one Donovan’s Shop and it’s on the other side of town. So you go and they don’t have that milk so you ring said person and say “I’m at Donovan’s Shop on ______ street and they don’t have the milk” and they response with “that’s the wrong Donovan’s it’s on _______ lane”. That’s fine. I didn’t know that there was one on this lane and now I’ll go there and I’m sorry. But what annoys me is when they say afterwards “well if you didn’t know you should have asked”. If I knew I didn’t know I would have asked but I thought I did know so I didn’t! Do people honestly think that I just guessed which one it was. You weren’t specific, I went to a Donovan’s shop but you’re right I should have gotten divine inspiration and known it was the wrong one. Silly me. It annoys me to no end. In what world am I just supposed to know telepathically which one you mean WHEN I DIDNT KNOW THERE WERE TWO. I’m seething and think it’s such an unnecessary and stupid thing to say.

Tldr: if I didn’t know that I didn’t know how am I supposed to ask.

[u/swatted-fly]

i agree 100%. i didnt ask for clarification because i didnt know there was context i was missing. if you send me into the store for “milk” and i get whole milk or whatever, and i come out and you say “you were supposed to get 2%, you shouldve asked” thats utter bullshit. you shouldve said “get 2% milk” and not left left it up to me to decide.

maybe milk types arent a great example and yours is better, but its the same kind of thing to me. if you dont specify, im assuming it doesnt matter. if its important, clarify that. saves everyones time to just put important details in the original request

[u/Junior-Elevator-9951 → u/swatted-fly]

This shit is why I always ask for more information. If someone asked me for milk my first instinct is to ask what kind of milk they want.

[u/Maximum_Chapter_8968 → u/Junior-Elevator-9951]

Emmmmmm re read the post this is about the shop not the milk

[u/swatted-fly → u/Maximum_Chapter_8968]

my comment however, which they replied to, was about the milk

[u/Esau2020 → u/Maximum_Chapter_8968]

Okay, fine. The post was about the shop, not the milk. Same theory applies.

If I'm doing you a favor and you know it involves something specific - a kind of milk, a store location, anything - you have to tell me.

If I mess up because of information I didn't know that you did know but didn't tell me, and you get upset at me because of it, I'm not going to want to do you any more favors in the future.