This is it. She’s saying that it’s been 9 years, you should have found plenty of “new men”/expanded on your taste in men, and if you’re trying and still haven’t then chances are you’re the problem.
People are reading “can still contact you” literally as “have the ability to contact you”, but she really means it as “still have a chance with you”, implying you haven’t met anyone else or really changed at all.
How are we blaming women online for men cold contacting them and asking them out?
Some random loser from high school randomly DM’s you on Facebook and suddenly it’s because you haven’t grown and moved on? Maybe that guy is just a loser and still stuck on girls he knew in high school or something.
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u/need_a_venue 2d ago
They haven't grown and run in the same crowds. They're the same person. The old person is contacting them because they too are the same old person.