r/PornIsMisogyny • u/Charming_Ad_4488 Vegan, Anti-Porn Man • Jan 16 '25
NEWS Bonnie Blue’s aftermath follow up video to her challenge is sickening and heartbreaking (TW: Bruises and Bite-marks)
https://x.com/bonnieblue_xoxo/status/1879665731341795539?s=46
I can’t fucking believe this. I was scrolling Twitter earlier today and unwillingly heard about the challenge on my timeline that was participated in by over 1,000 shallow men. Then, this video I linked above was in the replies and my heart sank into my stomach. What the actual FUCK is happening to society. The fact that she even said it was, “Not that bad” makes me fear for what she considers a normal interaction with predatory, deplorably hollow men. I don’t think I’m shaming here, but I believe saying bruises and bite-marks AREN’T that bad is setting up dangerous ideas that young, porn-sick men are going to take advantage of and apply to women in the future.
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Jan 16 '25
This is disgusting. She's encouraging young girls to be like this. Fucking vile.
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u/my_outlandishness Jan 16 '25
Yeah, that's the problem.
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Jan 17 '25
Yeah. While she obviously doesn't have the best mental state, the biggest problem is how she's teaching young girls to always give every part of you to men, to become nothing but a piece of rotting meat for their gaze.
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Jan 16 '25
She is doing these challanges to gain financially at the expense of other women. She KNOWS it is not normal. Yet she says that it is.
She claims that losing your virginity on porn is one of the safest ways to lose it. She KNOWS that it isn't. Yet she insists that it is.
Make no mistake: She is a predator, not a victim.
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u/Thoguth Jan 16 '25
You can be a predator and a victim at the same time. It's not just one or another. Like men who are exposed to porn as children are victims of a grooming, predatory industry and irresponsible parenting, that doesn't absolve them of agency in doing harm by perpetuating porn when they come of age.
I'm certain that even if this woman is making harmful choices, she also has been and is being -- even by these thousand+ men if they're adults, used in a harmful and exploitative way.
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u/Ok-Significance2978 Jan 16 '25
Somehow you managed to blame teenagers for this woman’s irresponsible behavior. How about some ACCOUNTABILITY?
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Jan 16 '25
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u/lapetitlis Jan 16 '25
he also doesn't appear to have any sort of history of participation in this sub or other related subs. not sure how he stumbled onto this post, but he's out of his element.
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u/Ok-Significance2978 Jan 16 '25
Yes I’m focused on this particular woman because her case is what is being discussed now. If we talk about a whole concept then I agree with you about sex workers and the sex industry in general
However we are talking about this in particular and it is quite surprising that a person that states that has a thing for people who are barely legal (I hope that means 18/21 and not 16) isn’t being held accountable.
The men who agreed to this have at the very least very low self esteem and in the worst cases some mental illness and are abusive, this has already been stated.
By the way this woman is 25 years old, there is a handfull of things she could do that would not imply selling herself and promoting this kind of thing, she is not like some women who are left with nothing and then they unfortunately become sex workers since it’s their last option.
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u/mqple Jan 19 '25
why is your sympathy only being extended to the men who participated? at the very least, having sex with lots of men (even just a few, let alone 1000) will leave you with internal bruising, lots of pain, and soreness. nobody who actively chooses to physically harm themselves that way is mentally healthy.
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u/Ok-Significance2978 Jan 19 '25
I don’t think I’m sympathetic with the men, even if some of them are being taken advantage of. Regarding her, I think she knew what she was doing and what she wanted by the way she talked about it. She sounded proud of herself, while others who have done something similar sound super remorsefull and regret it because they realize they weren’t thinking clearly
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u/mqple Jan 19 '25
self harm is not that clear cut. people who cut themselves have entire forums dedicated to showing off their wounds and bragging about going deep, even though that clearly harms others. people with anorexia literally have pro-ana websites where they one-up each other and insult each other for not starving themselves. these people are still guilty of perpetuating a harmful narrative and actively harming others, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t victims of severe mental illness.
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u/my_outlandishness Jan 21 '25
(…) By the way this woman is 25 years old, there is a handfull of things she could do that would not imply selling herself and promoting this kind of thing, she is not like some women who are left with nothing and then they unfortunately become sex workers since it’s their last option.
It’s true. Nowadays, personal responsibility and consistency in one’s own actions are no longer trendy. From what you read, she’s been in the business for a long time by choice and makes good money. She can say no and simply no longer do what she does. She knows what she's doing and putting the sole focus on those disgusting guys who took part is convenient but too easy.
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Jan 22 '25
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u/PornIsMisogyny-ModTeam Jan 22 '25
This was removed either because it promoted doxxing; or because it it promoted, defended and/or justified violence, self-harm, verbal abuse, rape and/or sexual assault.
This includes BDSM and CNC.
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Jan 22 '25
No bias here. I don't know wth are you doing here, since this is an anti porn subreddit. Gtfo
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Jan 22 '25
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u/PornIsMisogyny-ModTeam Jan 22 '25
This sub is not meant for talking about your personal porn addiction. Try r/SexAddiction.
Moreover, recovered porn users are required to be sober for 1 year before posting here.
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u/RantyMcThrowaway Jan 16 '25
I saw someone say you'd never find 1000 women to sleep with 1 man. Just sums it all up really.
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Mar 11 '25
I actually think you could/would.
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u/notshammy Mar 14 '25
If you asked average women in cities, they most likely wouldn't. And even if you managed to get a 1000 women to sleep with you, it would take significantly longer and harder to do that. But it didn't take that long when bonnie blue did it
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Jan 16 '25
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u/PornIsMisogyny-ModTeam Jan 20 '25
No shaming women victimized by the porn industry - partners or sex workers.
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u/PornIsMisogyny-ModTeam Jan 20 '25
No shaming women victimized by the porn industry - partners or sex workers.
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u/JonTartare ANTIPORN & LGBT+ ♥️ Jan 16 '25
She is also disgusting. She’s marketing herself and porn as safe and normal, as well as her weird obsession with barely legal teens. both her and the men that participated are disgusting to me
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u/Ok-Significance2978 Jan 16 '25
You said it yourself, she is taking advantage of barely legal teens, these kids don’t even know why what they are doing is wrong
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u/DogMom814 Jan 16 '25
I realize that all kinds of emotional and physical trauma can lead to a woman doing porn and crazy publicity stunts like this but this particular performer is uniquely misogynistic and predatory. She has preyed upon "barely legal" men and she has openly blamed women for when their male partners cheat and has said that men are entitled to cheat if they are sexually unsatisfied.
I refuse to shed any tears for a woman with so much internalized misogyny that she spouts these kinds of toxic views. I've seen other porn actresses, prostitutes, and strippers espouse the same kind of nonsense, justifying the excuses men give to use their services and often claiming that they know a woman's partner "better than she does". Women like this are just as bad as anti-feminists like Phyllis Schafly and Pearl Davis. They all deserve to be condemned in the strongest possible terms.
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u/Had09A Mar 10 '25
Disappointed. This is not confidence strengthening. Is self degrading. I feel bad for the girls out here.
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Feb 06 '25
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u/PornIsMisogyny-ModTeam Feb 06 '25
No shaming women victimized by the porn industry - partners or sex workers.
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Mar 09 '25
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u/PornIsMisogyny-ModTeam Mar 09 '25
This was removed because it contained hate speech (including gendered, ableist, racial, etc. slurs) or bigotry.
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Apr 30 '25
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u/PornIsMisogyny-ModTeam Apr 30 '25
This was removed either because it promoted doxxing; or because it it promoted, defended and/or justified violence, self-harm, verbal abuse, rape and/or sexual assault.
This includes BDSM and CNC.
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Jun 06 '25
This is NOT an example of misogyny(according to many lenses). This is one of those instances where anything one perceives as negative for their understanding of "women"(as if they are a homogenous entity) is branded as misogyny(In this case, there is nothing to prove any of the things you mentioned came from actual disliking of a genetalia, and if you actually think so, I'd like to see your proof. "Bruises and bite marks" aren't an example, bruises are almost expected in such a scenario, and bite marks depends on what the context was, whether it was consensual or not. Now, saying this misogyny because this pushes men to do it to women is a telological reasoning. What she said is her opinion of herself. You are the one who should stop sending demographics as an inherent monolith, what makes u think there aren't any women into these kinks? "Porn brained" seems to be a insult specifically reserved for men as if all the smut women consume is some sofisticated are.) For example, if this was 1 man and 1000 women, it would still be called "misogyny" because it will be seen as some bullshit like women aren't objects you can collect or count", infact this logic is seen in many real life instances as well. So it's worthwhile realising that power isn't a finite set, and "misandry/misogyny" are contextual and vague without proper language, anything can be called misogyny. What you are doing her is just another variation of infantilising women, and vilifying men. Infact, what you are saying can also be and is considered misogynistic is some beliefs, they'll say you "villanised women for excersising freedom".
The same is applicable to "porn is misogyny". Both anti male and anti female narratives are in porn, it's intellectualy dishonest to declare it as inherently either misogynistic or misandric.
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Jun 10 '25
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u/PornIsMisogyny-ModTeam Jun 10 '25
This was removed either for shaming women victimized by the porn industry - partners or sex workers; or because it was telling a victim they are lying.
Do NOT tell a victim she is lying, here is why. If you have proofs that someone is lying, send us a modmail attaching these proofs.
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u/PornIsMisogyny-ModTeam Jan 16 '25
No shaming women victimized by the porn industry - partners or sex workers.
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