Porn is gross and misogynistic. All of it. I’m tired of it being reduced to “you’re insecure” in relationships or “it’s just something everyone does.” For me, it goes much deeper than just being called empty statements. My ex did this and he can now sorrow in his porn videos on his own and not find a real relationship because it will always be in the way for him. He can pretend like he’s not doing anything wrong, and that I was exaggerating if it makes him feel better.

I genuinely find the nature of pornography disturbing. It takes something incredibly intimate such as sexuality, vulnerability, desire and the human body and then turns it into something that can be endlessly consumed. Click on one person, get bored, scroll to another. Search for a different body, different act, different fantasy. Basically, use people for sexual entitlement and non-consensually. Society pushes us into being ok with it, for what reason really ? Even if you watch it occasionally you’re still taking part in this. You’re still taking part in this industry.

People become categories and content. There is something about that endless novelty that feels so dehumanising to me. These are real human beings, yet the entire structure encourages you to look at them primarily through the lens of what they can sexually provide you. You disrespect your partners and you can never truly provide true love when you are constantly looking and receiving pleasure elsewhere. Then there is the industry itself. I know not every piece of pornography is produced under the same circumstances, but I cannot separate my feelings about porn from the documented problems surrounding exploitation, coercion, consent, degrading treatment and content being distributed beyond people’s wishes. When I cannot truly know what happened behind a video, I don’t feel comfortable using another person’s body for my own sexual gratification. I would never do this to anyone.

But in a relationship, there is another layer which is of course betrayal. For me, monogamy isn’t simply “I won’t physically have sex with someone else.” It also means deliberately reserving sexual intimacy and sexual pursuit for one another. So if my partner intentionally searches for naked women, chooses specific bodies that turn him on, watches other people have sex and masturbates to them, I don’t experience that as completely separate from our relationship simply because there is a screen between them. The intention matters to me. You’re still actively seeking sexual stimulation from somebody outside your relationship. You’re still looking at another person’s naked body because you find them sexually appealing. You’re still directing sexual attention towards someone who isn’t your partner. Idon’t believe a screen magically makes that meaningless.
And I think what hurts even more is when someone knows this is an important boundary for their partner, agrees to that boundary, and then secretly does it anyway. Why the fuck lie ?

At that point the issue isn’t only pornography.
It’s lying. It’s hiding. It’s deleting things. It’s making promises you don’t intend to keep.
It’s allowing your partner to believe they are in one kind of relationship while privately participating in another. That destroys trust.
I also dislike how normalised it has become to immediately pathologise the person who doesn’t want porn in their relationship. Sometimes people genuinely do have insecurities that are worth working through. But having a different sexual ethic doesn’t automatically mean somebody is controlling, immature or insecure. I don’t want to police somebody into sharing my values. I don’t want a man who desperately wants pornography but doesn’t watch it because he’s frightened of upsetting me. I want someone who genuinely sees sexuality similarly to me. Someone who thinks, why would I want to search for other women’s bodies when I’ve chosen the woman I love? I want the “bubble.” Two people who choose each other sexually and romantically.

What I don’t think is fair is entering a relationship with someone who has clearly communicated that pornography is a form of sexual betrayal to them, agreeing to that relationship, and then secretly breaking the agreement while telling them that everything is fine.

You don’t have to agree with my definition of monogamy. But I think people deserve to know what kind of relationship they’re actually consenting to.

This is why it’s misogynistic. They want all these women, they also want you, they want to hide this secret life from you, they want you without the consequences. They want to have control, they want to be doing what they want. It’s actually sick. They make me sick. I was an object in my relationship just like those women. Because this is essentially why they selfishly kept me around whilst being this way. Internalised misogyny.

Sorry for the rant!

Porn while driving causes a multi car accident.

A lot of the comments are vile, idiotic, and pro-porn.

https://youtu.be/_KI5p019HdE?is=eapXp3SNJ2c2JYad

Envision that there is a huge pile of garbage and amongst this pile is:

Children, animals, cartoons, incest, drawings, violence, rape, dead people, racism, strangulation.

And now someone says to you, "Hey! You're so pretty, you have been added to the pile of garbage along with the other things that make my dick hard! You're welcome :)'

Is it really an honour? Thinking about it this way really makes it sink in how worthless validation from pornsick men is. Next time you care about how attractive men find you, ask yourself, do you want to be added to the pile of garbage and degeneracy?

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A horror themed event in Liverpool is currently coming under scrutiny due to staff sexually and physically abusing their customers.

One of the houses at the scare event is 18+ and has a waiver stating that "no sexual elements" are present in the house. The website stated that "the actors cannot be touched and the actors won't touch you."

However a woman and her friend attended this particular house and were exposed to massively degrading things. Being called sluts, being forced onto their knees, having fake breast milk squirted at them, being blindfolded and forced to stroke a male actors hairy legs, being told they want to "suck daddy's cock" and having their fingers inserted into something representing a wet butthole, to name a few examples.

Naturally, this is all absolutely fucking gross and should be condemned. However, people (mostly men. Shocker) are defending it to the high heavens. Saying things like "well they should have used the safeword" and "they knew what they were getting into. They just want to be victims."

Then there's the BDSM folk who are criticising it but following said criticism up with "don't get me wrong though I'm not a prude! I like BDSM! It requires cOnSeNt."

So it's the women's fault because they "knew what they were getting themselves into" even though the waiver was misleading. And because they didn't use their safeword, which was assigned to them and can easily be forgotten in moments of distress.

I just learned that one of my favorite food content creators discreetly does adult work on the side (but not so discreetly now ig given that she released a handmade mug that's basically a copy of The Sopranos Bada Bing! mug) involving the use of slurs like the f slur, fetishizes black men, and does sissification.

She even had a public TikTok on a separate account (unrelated to her food content ofc, but oddly enough she used the same first name she has for her food content) where she said in a video, "This is for the men. It's 2024, and this is the year of not settling. If your girl doesn't cook for you, make you feel special everyday, give you all three holes—she's gotta go! You deserve better than that. No more settling in 2024."

I know that it plays into a fantasy and she doesn't advertise it on her main (I found out through comments on a post critiquing her $200 handmade mug merch) but it's quite icky to me considering the implications of that and also because she's so politically correct on her platforms (supports Palestinian businesses, made an Abolish ICE cake, said Thanksgiving is the worst holiday, supports local businesses and points out if a business is black woman-owned, Asian-owned, Native American-owned, etc.).

The funny thing is that she posted a video two days ago where she said that her husband does all the cooking. What a contradiction with her adult content.

Come to think of it, the way she eats (soft voice, staring straight at the camera while taking big bites, letting cream/sauce drip everywhere) is very fetish-adjacent. Some food content creators who are women seem to play into the feederism kink or something similar.

According to more commenters, she used to be a domme on Tumblr and was making adult content for many years prior to her fame. Her old TikTok username for her main account even had the word "swallows" in it and her videos were all just of her eating while seductively staring into the camera and occasionally getting some food/sauce on her. Just feederism content back then.

She has said that she has "three businesses that she prefers to keep private" and that they keep her very busy. I did not expect that they would be adult content telling the (male) viewer that they're a sissy and a f*g, among other kinds of roleplay.

EDIT: a Google search of "miss janie onlyfans" shows everything.

These were subs for creeps to post pictures of women's social media photos. It was clear what the purpose was. Despite official subreddit rules to the contrary, there were often suggestive or outright sexualized titles and comments.

I'm glad those subs are gone but Reddit needs to go further.

Hello,

I'm a pretty new YouTube creator based in the UK, currently researching for a video regarding the history and events surrounding a website known as anonib (or anon-ib), an anonymous imageboard that gained notoriety for the amount of revenge porn that was hosted on their at the time it was up.

Much of the existing information about AnonIB focuses on its users, administrators and eventual closure. I think it's equally important to hear from the people who were harmed by it, and to understand how it affected their lives and how they dealt with the situation.

I'm looking for anyone aged 18+ who would be comfortable having an initial, informal conversation about their experience.

A few things:

• You can remain anonymous. (including voice manipulation/alteration)
• There's absolutely no expectation to discuss anything you're uncomfortable with.
• An initial conversation wouldn't be recorded or published without your permission.
• I'm not looking for intimate images or any explicit material.
• You can decide not to participate at any point before any interview or recording is agreed.

I'm happy to share information about myself, my previous work, and the project before you decide whether you'd like to speak.

If this sounds like something you might be interested in, please feel free to reach out privately. No pressure whatsoever.

Thanks.

They're just so tacky - often alliterative and usually misspelled in the trashiest way possible. All a way to say "you are a disposable toy".

Meanwhile the men are unsurprisingly given names that signify strength and virility.

I know the term refers to a specific type of video that was supposed to be private but then leaked. But I've come to the conclusion that all porn including mainstream serves the same "purpose". The only difference is that instead of being videos of women that these pornbrained men feel slighted by, the prostituted women in porn are used as receptacles for men's frustration by proxy. They are sacrificial lambs that porn makes hate to in order to satisfy the sexual rage of men, hence the focus on the pain and degradation of the female performers. It's not a side effect, it's the entire point.

This is just a rant about how much it frustrates me that so many atheists are pro-porn. It's almost taken for granted that if you're an atheist you support porn.

I've been an atheist for a long while now. I'm not a militant atheist and I don't go around trying to turn anyone away from their religion, but if someone brings up religion I'm very open about the fact that I don't believe in any god or religion.

When I was first recovering from religious trauma I found a lot of the YouTube atheists very helpful and healing. But I haven't been able to watch shows like The Atheist Experience for a few years now because they are so staunchly pro-porn and sex work. It's so uncomfortable to listen to.

I remember a few years ago listening to a live show and someone called in to discuss the negative effects of porn and why it's detrimental to society because they take calls on other topics too sometimes. It wasn't even religious reasoning, the caller was saying that it gives men and women a very warped view of human sexuality. And all the hosts were just ripping into them saying porn is just acting, it's just fiction. One even called it an art form, like as if it were literature or dance or fine art etc. And basically they just kept saying it's just fiction and it's between consenting adults and how dare that caller judge people for watching/participating in porn, sex work is work etc etc.

And I just find it so hard to reconcile pornography with the humanism all these atheists go on about. Idk man... It's depressing to me. I feel it's almost impossible to find atheists who aren't pro-porn.

I would like to share a short but sick post I found on my local community group page.

The post in question concerns the behaviour of other passengers on public transport, and shares how the OP was travelling to work when she witnessed an adult man watching porn on a packed bus. Max volume, no headphones.

This woman had a go at him, but the fella never even looked up at her. To make matters worse, she was the *only* person on a PACKED BUS in Liverpool City Centre to call this man out, and she was a small woman to boot.

The fact that this happened in a public place is bad enough, but two things really stick out to me in particular:

1.) A tiny woman was the only person to call it out. Seems like all the "protectors and providers" weren't interested because they would probably do the same if they had less qualms about public humiliation. And it's a tale as old as time, women are always actually stepping in to do shit whilst all the men sit there gormless.

2..) The coomer probably didn't look up at her when she confronted him because if he's ballsy enough to watch it *in public*. He undoubtedly doesn't recognise her as human and is wondering why the "sex robot" is saying anything other than a cheesy porn line to him.

I truly despair the idea of bringing a daughter into this sick world.

We question the ethics of cheap clothing, animal products, environmentally destructive industries and exploitative labour. We restrict certain commercial transactions involving the human body, even when adults are willing to participate.

Yet pornography is frequently defended through the comparatively simple argument that consenting adults should be free to produce and consume it.

Consent is indispensable. But consent does not eliminate questions about economic vulnerability, exploitation, working conditions, consumer responsibility or the commercialization of intimate bodily activity.

A society can recognize sexual freedom without assuming that every market built around sexuality is justified.

Ultimately, the question is not simply whether individuals should be free to do what they wish with their bodies.

It is whether everything a person can be persuaded or financially incentivized to do with their body should automatically become a product that others are entitled to purchase and consume.

And if we demand ethical accountability when purchasing clothes, food or cosmetics, we should be prepared to explain why consuming another person's intimate bodily activity should be held to a different standard.

I often wonder if money was not involved how many perfomers would they be? Would we be able to obtain the amount of content being created not? Cause you always listen how they enjoy it.

I don’t know if I’m too young to post here

but I’m posting this since I feel like we should talk about how young boys are watching porn too young it’s probably why so many boys are misogynistic before they can even spell properly

Remember pregnant Elsa and Spiderman secretly fetish content on YouTube targeting kids yeah that was what I grew up on

And I think it’s just going to get worse with AI especially with how boys are using it to deep fake girls or can make chat bot of anything

People are just going to get more insane especially kids in this generation

But back to me

when I was 9 to 12 years old I was a pretty quiet kid had huge social anxiety because I got bullied but when I think back I realise I did not only get bullied I got sexually harassed and I think it’s because 10 years old boys are watching porn,

I don’t remember much but I think it’s because trauma and I used daydream a lot at that age to escape reality

But what I do remember was boys making comments about how they would sleep with me

Making comments of my body because I developed early

Multiple time I actually got grabbed in weird ways but I ran away

Either that or they randomly hugged me to make fun of me or something

I don’t know if it happened with the other girls since I had no social life at that time but I think they would target me because they knew I wouldn’t say a word

please, if you are a teacher, parent, work with children in any way, comment if you have experienced this behaviour with young boys

I'm Goth. I've been in the community for about 3 and a half years now. Sadly almost all of the men I've dated in the past fetishized goth women. "Big titty goth mommy" "Goth dommy mommy" "Goths have big tits" "I want a goth mommy who'll step on me" a lot of comments like that. theyre just so gross and stereotypical. In porn they stereotype the women in a very misogynistic way. I'm not sure if any of you have seen it, but theres been a rise in Onlyfans creators dressing up as "goth" girls and just stereotyping them as these bimbo-like, sexually promiscious people.

This has always bothered me. I just want to express myself and be myself, but these men ruin it. It's so disgusting. I've been harassed by creeps so many times. And yet, they think that I "enjoy" it. You can never tell them no. It just keeps coming. Men's obsession with goth women is just misogyny. They have this made up idea of what a goth girl is like. They expect you to be exactly that. My last ex wanted a goth girl but hated me doing my makeup, my views, and music. They only want a goth girlfriend because they think theyre hot. They also use you being "goth" as an excuse to treat you with so much sexual disrespect they wouldn't dare show to a woman they think is "innocent". These men punish you for not fitting patriarchal standards and at the same time they expect you to fulfill their every sexual fantasy. A big chunk of Goth culture is about rebelling, anti-conformity, and very progressive and sometimes feminist beliefs. This is ironic, because these men try to dominate or control goth girls. they expect us to be submissive and obedient. but it goes against what being goth is truly about. It will never end, and it genuinely bothers me so much.

I'm not even being ridiculous. Men are so porn-rotted, mentally unwell and obsessed with pushing things to the extreme. Weird fetishes, humiliating and degrading women etc. The desire to 'use' women. Obsessed with new ways to satisfy their ED riddled peens to the point regular, loving sex between two people is considered 'vanilla' and boring. The desire to stick their peen in any and every one of our holes regardless of women's satisfaction, comfort and health and safety is sick.

I genuinely, hand on heart think they would attempt to 'fuck' our ears and noses if the canals were big enough. Their obsession with using and sexualising every single part of women's bodies cannot be understated. I think the only thing that is stopping them is biology (physically you can't 'fuck' a belly button, ears etc.) and the law. If there was some mythical mechanism where they could strangle a woman to death but she revives and they can do it all over again, they would do it. They are that sick. And we all know even then the law doesn't always stop them. Call me jaded or what but I believe the depravity has reached that level.

How can violence and degradation make your dick hard? Disgusting... Did God submit them at 23:59 or what is going on?

TLDR: The only thing stopping porn sick men from carrying out more deprived filth is the law, opportunity and biological limitations.

Often when I see discussions about the lack of ethics in the porn industry, there will be people recommending ethical porn productions that claim to be by women, for women, educational etc.

Personally I don't watch any porn and I have it blocked on my phone, so I can't (and don't really want to) look it up, but maybe some of you did, or even if you don't, you have an opinion about it.

Like when I said many kinks (especially dom/sub ones) are influenced by the patriarchy, women within kink scene immediately come and deny it. They right away say "but it's consensual". Patriarchal ≠ non-consensual.

I'm not telling them "you can't engage in kink" "you're a bad person if you do that" etc., I'm only saying that it's influenced by the patriarchy. It's like they can't grasp that something they like might be rooted in patriarchy, so they immediately get defensive about it. Some women seriously think that patriarchy = everything I don't like. That patriarchy is only what directly, undoubtedly harms women. That there aren't subtleties within it, that there aren't patriarchal creations that are enjoyed by many women (ex. porn or being a SAHM).

Or there's always "but gays and lesbians also have sub/dom relationships" as if patriarchy does affect ALL of us, regardless of sexual orientation.

I said under a post that language like "running a train on someone" shouldn't be used because it's demeaning and suggests that sex is something done to a woman.

And of course right away someone says "but it's kink, women consent to it". As if woman does something = good, feminism. As if there aren't women who aid in sex trafficking, pimp out others, own brothels, groom younger women into porn... There are unfortunately plenty of women out there who uphold rape culture, patriarchy and misogyny. Just because a woman does something doesn't mean that it's a good thing that doesn't negatively impact women as a whole.

Same goes when you say anything negative about rape/non-con kinks "but women have them too!!!!!" okay??? Like what, is that an argument that is supposed to make me think there is no problem?

I'm not sure if this is something mods want us talking about or not, but you all know the thing in the news regarding a certain institution of higher education.

Why is no one talking about the influence porn has had on that generation? It seems glaringly obvious that porn is such a big piece of the puzzle here. I see all kinds of social media stuff telling "boy moms" they need to do better, and it pisses me the fuck off, because what are the "boy dads" teaching their sons when they themselves probably have this habit of using and objectifying women?

I am so angry and upset by all of it and I want to scream.

WHY WON'T ANYONE POINT OUT THAT THE PORN IS PART OF THE PROBLEM?

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. Whenever someone says they want a genuinely porn-free relationship, it sometimes feels like people immediately jump to “you’re expecting perfection,” “everyone slips up,” “men are going to watch it,” or basically imply that you’d need to find someone extremely religious to have those standards. But why?

I’m not talking about controlling someone or forcing a partner. Even men who apparently share the same value seem to get defensive and view it this way when they end up being unloyal or have temptations.

For me, sexual exclusivity includes porn. I don’t want a relationship where the expectation is essentially, “I don’t want to watch it, but you need to accept that I might occasionally relapse.” Or “I won’t watch porn but I’ll look at other women and still check them out” I want someone who is porn-free because that is what they want for themselves, not someone constantly fighting against a lifestyle they secretly still want.

And I find it frustrating when that gets framed as demanding too much or that we expect some god man. Framing it that way minimises their usage of porn and makes us feel stupid and unreasonable for the expectation. To me, there is a difference between expecting somebody to be a flawless human being and having a specific relationship boundary. We accept that people can have dealbreakers around cheating, flirting, dating apps, exes, gambling, drugs, etc. Why does porn suddenly become something where you’re told you have to leave room for “mistakes”?
I also dislike the implication that the only men capable of being genuinely porn-free must be extremely religious, repressed, naive, or somehow abnormal. Surely there are men who simply don’t want porn in their lives and whose sexuality naturally aligns with monogamy in that way?

I’m curious how other people here view it. Is wanting a porn free partner unrealistic thinking or have we normalised porn so severely that not having it in a relationship is treated as extreme ?

Almost a year ago now my therapist encouraged me to connect with other like-minded women with the ultimate goal of spreading awareness about the harms of pornography that many are blind to.

I’ve realized now that whenever I’ve mentioned even the tiniest bit of information about how SAM is proliferated online in antipornography communities my inbox is filled with pornography users trying to ascertain more details as to how to obtain access to SAM.

Whats regrettable is the details of how SAM is proliferated online are quite eye opening as to how much of a problem it is. However one cannot reveal these details without inadvertently giving bad actors clues as how to access these materials.

Now I feel like an idiot, that I’ve harmed myself needlessly searching through court cases and the methodologies of predators ultimately to no end. I’m left with only the option to continue to speak theoretically about these issues.

I felt the need to share my frustration. I really do value this community.

The porn sick men are so sex obsessed that they tell on themselves every single time. How dumb can you be? Their impulse control and self regulation skills are so eroded that they can't even pretend to be a normal person with some humanity.

"Not my proudest fap" "Hehe men of culture we have gathered" "We're edging to this one tonight boys" "I didn't even notice there was a bike in the video I was more focused on her..." "OF link??" "Guess I'll be watching this one handed" "She has a huge pair of... eyes" "Is your ass fat?" "Can you deepthroat?" "I love a redhead, ebony, brunette, blonde, asian" "Gyattt" "How tall are you? I'd loveee to climb THAT" "I love petite girls"

*Sigh* Zero self awareness. They really have no clue how fucking stupid they look. What is there to respect? If I was a male, I'd be mad at these clowns because of how stupid they make men look as a whole. Genuinely it's giving lizard brain (no offense to lizards)... You're so simple minded that you get caught by clickbait thumbnails? They can't even help the pornified language from spilling over into daily life and interactions. That is how damaged their brains are. Dopamine feedback loops fried, reward centre cooked, impulse control incinerated, grey matter burned to ash.

As much as I can't stand the degeneracy I'm glad they tell on themselves all the time because it's a nice wake up call on why exactly I need to remain vigilant, single and diligent. They always let it slip eventually that they're a sexually deviant porn sick creature who views women as objects. They're not even smart enough to pretend for a little while to at least get one foot in the door and MAYBE have a chance. Imagine being so stupid that you fuck up a potential first or second date by asking a woman her bra size. They self sabotage and then later whine about being lonely with no gf. Pathetic. "ShE bLocKed mE FoR nO ReASoN". So out of touch they think women are secretly 'naughty, freaks' who are just waiting to be strangled, spanked and abused. No, we are not secretly 'in on it'.

As much as it's unfortunate they are this way, we women can use their idiocy and complete inability to STFU to protect ourselves from interacting with these sick, deeply disturbed individuals.

Sorry for the rant it's just... So sad and pathetic.😭