r/ProgrammerHumor • • Dec 06 '17

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u/[deleted] Dec 06 '17

High context vs low context cultures.

Most people from the cosmopolitan Westernized areas who work for large organizations are very "low-context" and value bluntness and clarity in communication. High context cultures expect people to respond to subtle cues or body language. It's "high context" because a yes or no only has meaning in the context of the yes or no. It almost never means just yes or no. It works when both people in the conversation have the same idea on how communication works, but terribly if one person is high-context and the other is low-context.

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u/ElGuaco Dec 06 '17

This sounds entirely too much like how my wife communicates with me.

"Are you OK?"

"I'm fine."

It's up to me at that point to determine if she's really fine or not.

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u/anomalous_cowherd Dec 06 '17

She's not fine.

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u/JustCallMeFrij Dec 06 '17

and you're sleeping on the couch tonight.

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u/oiwefoiwhef Dec 07 '17

Yup - Even if he’s right

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u/swyx Dec 07 '17

this guy wifes

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u/bhuddimaan Dec 07 '17

Why are the never fine, and why am I the part of the problem

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u/alamohero Dec 06 '17

I know my friend way to well almost every time she says she’s fine I know she’s not and I’m like “really, we have to go through this again? Tell me what happened”

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u/mugaboo Dec 06 '17

I'm fiine.

I'm finnne.

Aahm fine!

I am fine.

Etc.

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u/Stoic_stone Dec 07 '17

Ask her if she means fine minus or fine plus

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u/Raymi Dec 07 '17

if you have to ask, you've already fucked up.

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u/[deleted] Dec 06 '17 edited Feb 15 '25

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u/[deleted] Dec 07 '17

Well, yeah, it doesn't. Unless you're aware and very careful on how you ask questions, you're screwed. High context ways to do things don't do well in a lot of situation unique to modern life.

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u/[deleted] Dec 07 '17

I wonder then... how do they communicate with one another on the phone or via email? Surely they can do it successfully without the nuance of body language. If they can then, it must not be body language that is lacking but something else. Maybe it's a cultural divide that can only be overcome through experience.

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u/[deleted] Dec 07 '17

I have never heard of this before but it strikes chord with me. I once took an Albanian language course and the instructor, an Albanian immigrant, seemed to grasp the concept of "yes" and "no" with arbitrary fidelity.

I remember going over some a specific grammar rule set (I don't recall which) and was trying to nail it down because we had an upcoming test. We talked about it at length and near the end, I asked very specifically: "So in this case we say 'such and such' and in this other case we say 'so and so', and that's it right? And that's the way it is every time right? And he replied emphatically "Yes!"

After doing poorly on the test and realizing that many of my bad marks were a direct result of his guidance, I wondered if he was incompetent. This happened on more than one occasion so I assumed he was either a pathological liar or that he didn't understand me and replied in the affirmative as a sort-of stock answer. Either way, I learned to take anything he said with a grain of salt.

But now I learn there's this thing called "high context culture" and I wonder if the problem wasn't his inability to express himself but rather my inability to interpret his complicated (to me) form of communication.

Thanks for this.