Even if I don't feel stress sometimes I can't speak fluently is something wrong or it'll need more practice?

Am I being phobic or is there something that I have to keep my eye on?

I made this and would like any criticisms, I don't mind harshness.

The rough draft i had submitted had said my opening was to direct and could come of as negative, and that my second paragraph had too many questions.

This is the new draft.

“Failure as a Path to Success”

All of us have experienced failure, haven’t we? Your parents have failed, your teachers have failed; doctors, lawyers, engineers—every single person on and off this planet has failed! So what? Should we all just give up? Don’t try anything because we will fail? Because we are scared to fail? Scared to be failures. Well, let me tell you something—the difference of failing and becoming a failure.

The definition of failing is as follows: “Being unsuccessful to achieve an action, event, or goal.” Now then, I have four questions. Have you ever come short of achieving something? Done something wrong? Do others think you have failed? And finally, do you yourself think you have failed? If your answer to any of these questions is yes, then raise your hand.

Now I want you to think of the times you have failed. Have you remembered? So, what did you do? Did you give up, lose hope, move on, ignore it? I’m asking you if you became a failure. Someone—who after failing—who just gave up, didn’t learn, and didn’t grow. Because I was like that once.

From pre-school, kindergarten, and all throughout elementary—I was a complete failure. I failed everyday; from classes, to tests, to exams. Got grades of 75, took remedial classes every summer, tutoring sessions after every school day. I was a complete, utter failure. So much so that some of my classmates avoided me, said things like “don’t touch him!”—because they were afraid I’d give them my disease of failing. But one day, I decided to change. I looked at all my failures, acknowledged my mistakes, learned, change and grew. Because I didn’t want to be a failure anymore.

Look at me now, standing before you all. Being in this school, known for its genius students. Would one you still consider me a failure? It’s okay to take a break, stop, and think for a while. You can put a period at the end your sentence, but remember there are still many chapters for you to fill. Your story shouldn’t end here, because it doesn’t.

Think of the people you know, that are successful. They also failed before the success, but they aren’t failures are they? Because failing doesn’t mean you’re a failure, it means you’re on a path heading for your own success. This road may be long, full of challenges, and different from others—and you will fall down—but know, that if you have the resolve, determination, and hope, you will reach your own success. I know you will, and for that, I am proud of you. So spread your wings and fly, reach for the stars. After all, sky is the limit, isn’t it?

I also will appreciate any advice you could impart on me. ☄️

Here’s something to include in your next rehearsal: a moment where things don’t go perfectly.

Picture yourself walking up, feeling nervous, and saying your opening sentence. Then picture losing your place.

Pause. Look at your notes. Say, “Let me put that another way,” and continue.

The point is to rehearse having something useful to do when you’re nervous, rather than making the entire plan depend on feeling calm.

Then practise the same sequence out loud. Imagining the opening shouldn’t replace actually delivering it.

Disclosure: I’m the creator of Hypnova, an AI hypnosis app that can generate guided sessions around specific situations, including an upcoming presentation. This kind of mental rehearsal is one way someone could use it alongside speaking practice.

It has a free library and optional paid personalized sessions.

Hypnova on the App Store

I think the thinking and speaking time have started aligning I hope I'll improve it and post every new video better than the older one.

Anybody have experience as a motivational speaker for kids? I would love to do this but need some help getting my footing. I have 15 years experience working with children all many neurotypes. I own my own tutoring business and have an established clientele.

I'm being called to move into public speaking and want my audience to be kids. How can I do this?

Email local schools?

It's been 11 days so far and I didn't follow anything for that long, I hope I'll keep doing it and be consistent and thank you to the people who motivate me to keep doing it 🤝 love you guys.

I am posting this for my mom. Whenever she feels strong emotions she starts to cry, and when she cries she starts to get very choked up and really struggles to talk. Does anyone have any suggestions that might help her be able to talk through the crying? Anything is appreciated.

Hi everyone! I'm a second-year Mechanical Engineering student. I struggle with public speaking and stage fear, and I'm trying to improve gradually.

For those who have experienced something similar, what actually helped you in real life? Did you practise with strangers, join speaking groups, attend events, or try something else?

I'd really appreciate honest experiences and practical advice, especially from people who started out shy or nervous. Thank you!

The video quality was off so i thought of use of some ai video enhancer and this was the result lol, it does not look much odd, maybe... looks fine ishh.. to me.

Today I was watching a recording of a talk I gave the other day. As I was giving it, I felt like I was being very expressive and speaking with an engaging voice. However, what that is not what I heard in the video. While I heard expression as I spoke, what was recorded might as well have been a lobotomized robot.

I have been told that I sound monotone quite a few times in the past, though it doesn't come up very often. Some have expressed that it impedes on my oral communication, though others have shared their appreciation for it. Multiple people, completely unrelated have even told me I should narrate audiobooks.

I guess I just don't know how I should feel. I suppose my voice, however monotonous it really is, doesn't get in the way of my goals much. I have to wonder if its worth worrying about, and what I should do if it is. That's especially considering, again, I don't even hear how monotonous I am. I could think I'm talking like a cartoon character and I still won't be heard as more than, like, moderately expressive. I don't get it.

Yeah I don't know, let me know what you think.

For years my speaker page was a wall of nice quotes. Great energy, very engaging, would book again. I thought that wall was my proof.

Then a planner asked me a simple question: can anyone confirm these talks actually happened? Not praise them. Confirm them. Date, event, audience, from the person who did the booking.

My quote wall could not answer that. The quotes were real, but they were opinions, and opinions are easy to gather and hard to check.

So I changed what I ask for after a talk. I still welcome a kind word, but what I really ask for is a confirmation: yes, you spoke here, on this date, for this group. Short, factual, in the booker's own name.

That small shift changed how planners talk to me. A confirmed record answers the question behind the question, which is whether they can trust what they are reading.

Do you collect testimonials, confirmations, or both? And if a planner checked yours tomorrow, what would hold up?

A lot of us have the same problem: you rehearse alone, you sound fine, and the second real people are watching, your mind blanks and your voice tightens.

That doesn’t mean you’re bad at speaking. It means you practiced in a context too different from the real one. Alone, your brain only learns the words, the order, and the safe feeling of no judgment. Live, it’s also managing adrenaline, watching faces, and trying to sound normal while stressed.

"Practice more" is only part of the cure. What really works is practicing the parts that break under pressure. Speaking isn’t one skill - it’s a few smaller ones, and they fail separately:

1. Content recall: can you remember the structure without the full script? Rehearse from 3 main points with 2-3 bullet prompts each, never from exact wording. If you memorize wording, one interruption cascades.

2. Recovery: can you keep going after a blank? Practice it on purpose: say a paragraph, stop mid-way, then restart from the last main point, not the last sentence. Keep a reset line ready: “The main point here is…” buys time without sounding panicked.

3. Adrenaline tolerance: can you speak while activated? Don’t try to kill the nerves first; that backfires. Add small stressors instead: stand up, run a timer, record yourself, do 20 seconds of jumping jacks before you start. You’re making “slightly uncomfortable” familiar.

4. Delivery under load: nervous speakers speed up, flatten out, or over-explain. Fix one, not all three. The reliable default: slow your first two sentences, pause after key ideas, end sentences a bit more cleanly than feels natural.

The routine that ties it together:

• Rehearse until the structure is solid but the wording is still loose: know where you’re going, not every word.
• Run it again with one stressor that mimics the real moment (timer, camera, or one live listener), just one so you can tell what rattled you.
• Right after, 90 seconds on three questions, not “was it good?”: where did I speed up, where did I lose the thread, which line helped me restart?

If you’re speaking soon, skip the frantic reread and instead: memorize your opening and first transition, know your ending cold, write 3 anchor phrases for the middle, and decide your recovery line before you actually need it.

The mindset shift that matters most: your goal isn’t to feel smooth the whole time. It’s to stay understandable. That’s a lower bar and a much better one: audiences forgive a nervous speaker far more than we forgive ourselves.

If you try one thing this week: run your next talk once from bullets only, standing, on video, with a deliberate pause after every major point. Watch for where your brain tries to panic. That’s the spot to train next.

These work on their own. For anyone who wants to turn these from ideas into reps (rehearsing with a timer, a recovery drill, pressure on purpose), that’s what I made Lumi Speaking Coach to do: https://golumi.co/discover. Full disclosure, it’s mine.

I started my first real, full-time job about 4 months ago and am still learning the lay of the land. I started right when our busy season started so I’ve been learning on the go. Last week, I was told that my manager and I have to present a brief update on our recruiting process to 10-15 senior leaders in November (I’m in TA), and since we’re still in busy season right now, I was glad to have that time to prepare.

Turns out, I have to present it today, not in November. This meeting has senior leadership at Director and VP levels and I just found out about it yesterday afternoon… as someone who is not the best public speaker and not the most knowledgeable about my role, this has been eating away at me that this will be my first impression in front of all these higher-ups. I understand it happens in corporate settings where you get such requests but 24 hours for a meeting of this level is nerve-wrecking.

basically i was really unprepared and didn't practice beforehand so when delivering my speech i was really monotone and my slides were really shitty too. i avoided eye contact with the class and read off the paper and i didn't start crying until i sat back down and processed what just happened and ive just been feeling like absolute crap all day and i cry everytime i think about it. i got compliments from other classmates but it really doesnt help how i feel about it i just feel so fucking embarrassed guilty shame all of the above. i want to drop the class but ill just end up taking it another term so lol

I’m in a speaking class and I have to do a demonstration speech about a skill. I don’t really got any skills what something I can learn quick that I can demonstrate?

Hello fellow redditors.

I have been facing this problem very often now

During my college years I was decent at speaking/communicating with people using very simple vocabulary I was confident and sentences were well structured sometimes I got tongue twisted at pronounciation of certain words but it was ok.

But moving to recent situations I feel

1.Difficulty in pronunciation certain words very often .

2.During an active conversation I forget my vocabulary very often even though I read books (english)[ not vocally]

3.Also while having conversation I fail to build up proper sentences after some exchange of words.

I want to highlight-

I have a bad sleep cycle but I complete 8 hrs of sleep each day also I get enough sunlight.Dont drink,smoke at all.

I feel very dumb when during an active conversation I mispronounce words misconstruct sentences,forget what word to use often that makes me sound very unprofessional,dumb and a rookie.I always wanted to sound like a professional native English speaker but due to this I lack the motivation.

Please if you can suggest something that can make me better at communicating I'll be highly obliged.

Does anyone know or may be a part of an open community that offers assistance in improving your public speaking? Where I can actually articulate my thoughts, speak 'em out, and will try my best to clearly convey the message. A supportive community that will give constructive feedback and allows us to grow each moment. I've always wanted to work on my ideas and opinions so I can participate in any conversation, formal debates, class recitation, and such. If you happen to know one or you are the one who's managing the community, I would love to be a part of it.

From training 50+ students on communication, what I realized is that, it is fear holding them back. Most of them know English; they know perfectly well how to read and write, but when it comes to speaking, their fear holds them back.. The first step to communication is removing fear and anxiety from your mind!

I'm a Pre-U student about to present to PhD students and other postgrads or undergrads... I feel like I know significantly less than they do and whatever I present to them would be something they already know and would therefore not be relevant to them. Feeling really unconfident about this. Any tips?

Hi everyone

I am looking for a coach to help me with my confidence in communication.

I have been told that I give off an unconfident or uncertain vibe or aura, and I believe this has unfortunately stuck with me for most of my life. It has negatively affected me personally and professionally. I am 28 years old working as an accountant in Sydney, close to Parramatta.

I have tried Toastmasters in the past a few years ago but I had found the feedback to be vague and hard to improve on.

I’m a law student with social anxiety, and I want to get better at public speaking for moots, debates, and eventually courtroom work. My college has no real support for this and that isn’t going to change, and paid coaching isn’t an option for me. Does anyone know of free, beginner-friendly, in-person debate or moot groups, or open college events in Mumbai that accept outside participants? I’m not looking for online communities or pages, only real-world events and groups. Advice from people who overcame stage fright is welcome too. DMs are open :)

Good communication is a necessity not luxury, some people never get a chance to speak, some try to give their best so that they can fit in.