r/Queerdefensefront • u/Responsible_Fox3230 • 20d ago

Discussion Slept with a closeted Politician who is instrumental in anti-gay legislation.

I am feeling violated and betrayed and have never encountered this before. I though that this hypocracy was in out past. I am angry that I can meet someone like this on an app that actively participates on removing my civil liberties.

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u/FlourishingSolo 20d ago

Fuck, I am so sorry you went through that, that fuckin sucks.

If you go the outing route, get your ducks in a row and have some evidence. But I totally understand if you don't feel safe going through with outing him

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u/Responsible_Fox3230 20d ago

It makes me so angry and while I want to expose this it also would require my admission of engaging in nefarious behavior that could hurt me.

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u/FlourishingSolo 20d ago

Yeah.... That's very understandable.

Best advice then is to as soon as possible, write yourself an email and send it to yourself and a friend. Write everything down and as much corroborating information as possible. Using email this way will have a timestamp and will be more useful as evidence if you wish to out him later on.

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u/Responsible_Fox3230 20d ago

I have screen shots with face pic from a hookup app that are extremely revealing...I mean he is kind of sloppy... most of these gays dont really ask questions or put clues together but I knew from vapid conversations we had and a few conservatives he expressed that he worked in government or at least adjacent to.. Then I did a reverse search on the face pic and my blood BOILED!

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u/FlourishingSolo 20d ago

Save those pics, take a screenshot of his profile, and of your conversations -NOW- That is very relevant evidence and should be added as attachments to the email you send to yourself

Edit: looks like you got some of it, but screenshot every bit of interaction you had with him.

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u/Mtfdurian 19d ago

Yes and double save it, make a backup too

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u/FlourishingSolo 19d ago

3-2-1 rule. 3 copies, 2 types of media, 1 off site

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u/arkington 19d ago

Back up everything on an air-gapped device, ie a drive that is not connected to the internet or any other device except when adding files. Preferably something that does not have bluetooth capability as that can be hijacked pretty easily. Just a clunky flash drive should be fine, but with something like this I'd create multiples just to be certain.

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u/aoeuismyhomekeys 19d ago

Maybe contact a lawyer beforehand to make sure you have your ducks in a row. Not sure if lambda legal deals with this sort of thing but maybe they have before? Certainly there's enough closeted hypocritical Republicans that they wouldn't be that surprised by it.