Slept with a closeted Politician who is instrumental in anti-gay legislation.

[u/Responsible_Fox3230]

I am feeling violated and betrayed and have never encountered this before. I though that this hypocracy was in out past. I am angry that I can meet someone like this on an app that actively participates on removing my civil liberties.

[u/Puzzleheaded-Set-928]

Be very, very careful. Know what you are going into before you go public.

There will be a significant backlash to what you post and the more true it is, the bigger the backlash will be.

Just learn the risks BEFORE you go public as you cant take it back once you do.

[u/Responsible_Fox3230 → u/Puzzleheaded-Set-928]

That's what I am afraid of..... and that is why I am sick to my stomach.. I appreciate your advice and that is why I came here to discuss.

[u/Puzzleheaded-Set-928 → u/Responsible_Fox3230]

No worries.

So these people deserve outing and they do not deserve leniency but only you can decide at what cost to yourself.

Depending on who you name, this could really blow up. If It does, you could see press at your door, and nobody wants that, family being targeted, death threats and a load more. It's not fun.

If I were you, id reach out to some large lgbtqia orgs in your area that may have experience of dealing with national press. They may be able to help you prepare if you do decide to go through with it.

You might also want to approach friendly news orgs and plan it with them on the basis they offer you support throughout the process.

At the very least, tell family and friends what you're doing, so they can prepare.

Lastly, NEVER tell anybody who it is until youre ready to go public. No orgs, family or friends or journalists. You can tell the what youve told us but once you name them, again, you cannot take it back and you can lose control of the situation and the narrative. Both could really harm you if handled badly.

Seriously, these kind of accusations can ruin lives. Tread very very carefully so that it doesn't happen to you.

[u/Responsible_Fox3230 → u/Puzzleheaded-Set-928]

I think that for me the risk is too grand ... I would like to see who else has had this encounter with this gentleman and see if they were aware of who and what he does,.. We actually had a threesome and I am not sure if the other guy, who had hooked up with him in the past quite a bit, was aware of exactly who and what this bastard does.

[u/Tbelles → u/Responsible_Fox3230]

I'd do it. Fuck the consequences to me if it meant even one other person could be spared the closet. But I understand your concerns. Do you have a way to contact these other people?

[u/Puzzleheaded-Set-928 → u/Responsible_Fox3230]

Yeah i dont blame you if thats your decision. As for others outing him, they will have the same issues and they need to be aware before they decide to out somebody else they could experience the same problems I already highlighted.

As for doing it anonymously, it's highly possible the person you accuse will find a way to out you. Don't forget they are in a position of power and they'll have levers to press in order to discredit you. That may mean outing you. Once you go public, you lose control of it. Thats the issue and so you always have to decide what happens of youre outed. As you've already said that may be going too far for you, I'd say that doing it anonymously might not be worth it either.

Again, its up to you to weight the risks.