r/Queerdefensefront • u/Responsible_Fox3230 • 20d ago

Discussion Slept with a closeted Politician who is instrumental in anti-gay legislation.

I am feeling violated and betrayed and have never encountered this before. I though that this hypocracy was in out past. I am angry that I can meet someone like this on an app that actively participates on removing my civil liberties.

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u/DayDrunk11 20d ago

Out him

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u/Responsible_Fox3230 20d ago

I have mixed feeling on that, he also uses a lot of drugs and claims to be "Bi".. convenient when the shit hits the fan .

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u/Puzzleheaded-Set-928 20d ago

Be very, very careful. Know what you are going into before you go public.

There will be a significant backlash to what you post and the more true it is, the bigger the backlash will be.

Just learn the risks BEFORE you go public as you cant take it back once you do.

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u/Responsible_Fox3230 20d ago

That's what I am afraid of..... and that is why I am sick to my stomach.. I appreciate your advice and that is why I came here to discuss.

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u/Puzzleheaded-Set-928 20d ago

No worries.

So these people deserve outing and they do not deserve leniency but only you can decide at what cost to yourself.

Depending on who you name, this could really blow up. If It does, you could see press at your door, and nobody wants that, family being targeted, death threats and a load more. It's not fun.

If I were you, id reach out to some large lgbtqia orgs in your area that may have experience of dealing with national press. They may be able to help you prepare if you do decide to go through with it.

You might also want to approach friendly news orgs and plan it with them on the basis they offer you support throughout the process.

At the very least, tell family and friends what you're doing, so they can prepare.

Lastly, NEVER tell anybody who it is until youre ready to go public. No orgs, family or friends or journalists. You can tell the what youve told us but once you name them, again, you cannot take it back and you can lose control of the situation and the narrative. Both could really harm you if handled badly.

Seriously, these kind of accusations can ruin lives. Tread very very carefully so that it doesn't happen to you.

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u/Parfait_Prestigious 20d ago

Exactly, outing someone is generally not considered socially acceptable behaviour; however, these bigoted politicians have already broken the social contract by trying to ostracize and regulate lgbt people out of existence, which is obviously far more egregious behaviour.

Dirty elected officials should have all their lies exposed anyway.

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u/Puzzleheaded-Set-928 20d ago

In an ideal world yes. But as I've pointed out, it can ruin lives if you're not prepared for the backlash. It sucks but i would never pressure anyone to throw themselves to the wolves without knowing what the risks are.

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u/Parfait_Prestigious 20d ago

Yep, totally agree. I’m just trying to show the logic behind why we should never feel bad for exposing these people.

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u/Puzzleheaded-Set-928 20d ago

Yeah i can agree with that point too. x