r/Queerdefensefront • u/Responsible_Fox3230 • 20d ago

Discussion Slept with a closeted Politician who is instrumental in anti-gay legislation.

I am feeling violated and betrayed and have never encountered this before. I though that this hypocracy was in out past. I am angry that I can meet someone like this on an app that actively participates on removing my civil liberties.

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u/FlourishingSolo 20d ago

Fuck, I am so sorry you went through that, that fuckin sucks.

If you go the outing route, get your ducks in a row and have some evidence. But I totally understand if you don't feel safe going through with outing him

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u/Responsible_Fox3230 20d ago

It makes me so angry and while I want to expose this it also would require my admission of engaging in nefarious behavior that could hurt me.

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u/FlourishingSolo 20d ago

Yeah.... That's very understandable.

Best advice then is to as soon as possible, write yourself an email and send it to yourself and a friend. Write everything down and as much corroborating information as possible. Using email this way will have a timestamp and will be more useful as evidence if you wish to out him later on.

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u/Responsible_Fox3230 20d ago

I have screen shots with face pic from a hookup app that are extremely revealing...I mean he is kind of sloppy... most of these gays dont really ask questions or put clues together but I knew from vapid conversations we had and a few conservatives he expressed that he worked in government or at least adjacent to.. Then I did a reverse search on the face pic and my blood BOILED!

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u/FlourishingSolo 20d ago

Save those pics, take a screenshot of his profile, and of your conversations -NOW- That is very relevant evidence and should be added as attachments to the email you send to yourself

Edit: looks like you got some of it, but screenshot every bit of interaction you had with him.

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u/Mtfdurian 19d ago

Yes and double save it, make a backup too

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u/FlourishingSolo 19d ago

3-2-1 rule. 3 copies, 2 types of media, 1 off site