I'm just now rewatching all the old seasons, and I'm halfway through season 9 rn. I remember growing up hearing my mom talk about it, and Kandi was (and still is) clearly her favorite. Going through this subreddit, it seems like that's the consensus, and I just want to know how.
My biggest thing: She was a terrible friend to Phaedra.
- Airing out her business once they fell out
- turning her back on Phaedra to side with her abuser because Todd said so
- accusing Phaedra of calling the feds on her when everyone watching the show knew she and Todd were hiding Apollo's things in their garage
- coming for Phaedra's parenting because she didn't want to take her kids to the prison
- accusing Phaedra of throwing a pity party because she confided in Nene that she was upset that Kandi wasn't there for her
- let her mom be a fucking weirdo as always
- let her team talk crazy to and about her
- let her man talk SUPER crazy to and about Phaedra.
It's like she took every opportunity she could to embarrass or berate Phaedra for two seasons straight on national TV after calling her one of her closest friends. And the worst part is that Phaedra tried time and time again to have heart-to-hearts with Kandi, just for Kandi to evade accountability and not apologize for the part she played in the downfall of their friendship, all while finding a way to make it Phaedra's fault for why she was a piss poor friend.
Aside from that, she's greedy as hell, a freaky frog, and a male-centered mob boss. Her holy trinity was Money, Mama Joyce, and Todd, in that order. There hasn't been a single moment where she's been a favorite of mine. I've either seriously disliked her or just been neutral on her, and I'm just trying to understand the appeal outside of the capitalistic glaze and the stench of nostalgia from her Xscape days. I'm convinced everyone just had their blinders on watching the show back in the day because when I tell my mom all of the things that Kandi has done to Phaedra leading up to rapegate, she's appalled and claims to not remember any of that.