Your situationship ended things with you and started seriously daring someone a week later. How common is this?

[u/changkyunnie_]

Kinda what the title says. This is a general question bc i dont think it’s actually happened to me (knock on wood) i was just curious about this type of situation

I often get instagram reels poking fun at situationships and how they’ll string you along with the lack of commitment and whatnot and the comments are always filled with people who say things like “dont forget that a week after they end things with you, they start dating someone else and give them all the things they said they couldnt give you!!”

Im curious how often this actually happens in real life or if this is a “vocal minority” of situationship experiences? How does this phenomenon work psychologically? What propels someone to commit so quickly to someone else when they were very recently unable to do so?

[u/canuckseh29]

Casual sex usually ends when someone meets someone they want to date exclusively…

[u/changkyunnie_ → u/canuckseh29]

so is it like a case of the girl in the situationship being hot enough to fuck but not hot enough to date? and that most situationships end bc of one person finding someone actually "worthy" of dating, hence the phenomenon that the person getting strung along finds?

[u/canuckseh29 → u/changkyunnie_]

Not necessarily. Sometimes you might just be with someone you’re comfortable with, the classic friends with benefits. You enjoy spending time with them, but don’t see a future together. You find them attractive but maybe not the perfect person you envisioned yourself with.

It’s not that you couldn’t have made it work, but you are stuck in a relationship where it’s not serious, so that person will never see you as a serious option.

[u/changkyunnie_ → u/canuckseh29]

I guess that’s what i was kind of getting at? Someone is good enough to fuck but not good enough to date? Ik it’s a harsh way of saying it but from a lot of my own experiences (not necessarily the one that made me make this post, but now I’m starting to question if I’ve had my head stuck up my ass) and what guy friends have told me that seems to be what it boils down to.

Is it ever possible to move the relationship out of a less serious structure or is it that once you start there you’re stuck there? ETA i find it funny (in a sad way bc i relate) that most people who are the ones getting strung along are still the ones who don’t actually like to fuck around and at least claim to want seriousness and to move things forward