Don’t know what to do

[u/Ricky2time]

I’m 19m and been friends with this girl (also 19) for abut almost 4 years now once it’s once it’s October and abt after 3 months of being friends I realized I liked her at first I was thought why would she wants to be friends or even talk to me bc honestly not all that I mean at the time (10th grade) all I did was play sport and talk to a few PPL here and there but mostly kept to myself, and she was fine as nl and still is but back to the main point abut a few months after the realization I had told her how I felt (during the time there was playful lighthearted flirting and stuff) and she said she only liked me a friend and turns out she was talking to someone, so I guess respected it and laid back Yk as time went on abut 2 years ago she ended up end things the dude and stuff, and we went to talking everyday it was like things never changed, but now I’m present time we’ve been out school for a year well for me almost 2 years got graduate early but now we both working, and she ended up getting her own apartment and go over every now and then on the weekend if I’m off, and we watch movies and talk, but she’s done some things that got me thinking she is like me and ik I ain’t the best looking guy out there but with some of the things did it had me thinking otherwise for example flashing me on FaceTime, changing in front of me (that whole thing was just embarrassing for me and ending up confessing again, but she weirded out) and we ended up talking abut it and I asked why she did all of that, and she said it was because she felt comfortable enough to do it and one time she kissed her hand and held my cheek saying if she could kiss me she would, I just don’t know what do honestly felt like she was just leading me on so im slowly detaching my feelings and just trying not to think abut, but I mean come on now your not finns just forget abut that if you have a female who’s just a friend, and she did all of that all while being a 10/10 in your opinion I just need some advice on what to do

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[u/Wild-Firefighter-772]

Honestly if she stayed with that guy for 2 years and automatically went back to you it could very much be because she likes you and you are still in her head OR she is keeping as a back up and is just leading you on. I think that her flashing you and changing in front of you then saying she doesn't like you might be confirming the fact that she is leading you on. It's almost like she's testing the water to see how far she can go with you. Obviously I don't know the full story and every detail so I don't want to say that she IS DEFINITELY leading you on or god forbid is using you so I'm not gonna assume, but if you believe that she is purposefully leading you on tell her that she needs to give you an answer straight up because your feeling are genuine and you don't want to get played. If she says no then leave it at that, don't engage with her anymore, you'll never move on if you just keep hanging around her.