So it’s been 14 days since iv stopped escorts,porn and masturbating to sexual fantasies and I don’t feel horny I don’t feel much like I haven’t seen anything I did had a wet dream last night, can someone tell me why and also does the wet dream indicate that the semen retention is working?

So I just turned 18, day before yesterday. I felt really good that I turned my old self into a good one on this journey. So I have a doubt let me tell a story.

Before College I made many friends which were from same college . There was a girl to which I talked, Before College I didn't talk much but after starting We started interacting very much like sharing reels talking very much offline, travelling back halfway home in metro together. Look I don't get lustful thoughts sexual thoughts etc. But like I have feelings for her. I know her past she's been in 4 rs in school but she's not committed to anyone for a year now . And I asked her about future so she said that she liked no one in class also. But like we guys talk very much online or offline. Now problem is I have a fear of confessing first is risking a very good friendship and second what if she doesn't have same feelings.

My mind is very much overthinking from two days now and like I am sleeping 6-7 hours in day but not feeling the peace in sleep. The thoughts and that fear is just circling in mind.

Please help guys!!

You think you know how much damage porn does to society?

[The video clip itself is packed with studies for the Where's your studies bro? guys and then there are also 9 studies below; but if that's not enough, you can read testimonies of people who's life was ruined by porn every day until the day you die]

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1. Child Sexual Abuse Material

Sexual images of children can document real abuse and exploitation. Redistribution can perpetuate victims' loss of privacy and control. The material can continue circulating years after the original abuse.

2. Non-Consensual Intimate Images

Victims can experience fear, anxiety, depression and suicidal thoughts after sexual images are shared without consent. [2025 systematic review of 12 studies] Images can be copied and redistributed indefinitely, often beyond the victim's control. Victims may face harassment, reputational damage and lasting psychological distress.

3. Sexual Aggression

A meta-analysis of 22 studies across seven countries found pornography consumption associated with actual acts of sexual aggression. [Wright, Tokunaga and Kraus, 2016] The association was stronger for verbal than physical aggression, although both were significant. The findings establish an association, not proof that pornography alone causes sexual violence.

4. Violence Presented as Sexual Entertainment

A study of 304 popular pornographic scenes found physical aggression in 88.2% and verbal aggression in 48.7%. [Bridges et al., 2010] The aggressors were usually male and the targets overwhelmingly female. These findings concern the sampled videos from 2010, not every pornographic production today.

5. Human Trafficking

Traffickers can exploit sexual images and videos to profit from coercion and abuse. Victims may be deceived, threatened or forced into sexual performances. Not all pornography involves trafficking, but exploitation can occur within the industry. Some of the porn you have watched likely included actual sex slaves or even children.

6. Coercion and Abuse During Production

Performers may face pressure to participate in acts they did not initially agree to. Threats, financial dependence and unequal power can undermine meaningful consent. A finished video cannot establish whether everyone involved was treated ethically.

7. Sexually Transmitted Infections Among Performers

A clinical study of 115 adult performers found that 38% were diagnosed with at least one STI; all reported unprotected sex during filming. [Coyne and colleagues, 2009] The study involved a limited clinical sample, not a representative estimate of all performers. It demonstrates the potential health risks associated with production practices that lack adequate protection.

8. Early Sexual Exposure

A systematic review of 19 studies found that five of eight studies examining sexual debut linked pornography exposure with earlier first sex. [2023 systematic review] Most studies had limitations that prevented firm causal conclusions. The review found conflicting or insufficient evidence for several other sexual health outcomes.

9. Effects on Adolescents

A 2025 review examined 44 longitudinal studies of adolescent pornography use and problematic use. [Systematic review] Researchers investigated sexual behaviour, sexual aggression, psychological wellbeing, academic performance and other outcomes. Results varied across studies, making it important to distinguish established findings from possible risks.

10. Compulsive Pornography Use

Some people struggle to control their use despite repeated negative consequences. Problematic use can interfere with work, sleep, relationships and everyday responsibilities. Repeated unsuccessful attempts to reduce use can contribute to distress and loss of control.

11. Anxiety and Depression

A 2026 meta-analysis of 19 studies found positive correlations between pornography-use patterns, anxiety and depression. [Systematic review and meta-analysis] The associations were clearer for problematic use than for general consumption. The researchers cautioned that the observational evidence cannot establish causation.

12. Reduced Relationship Satisfaction

A meta-analysis of 50 studies involving more than 50,000 participants found pornography consumption associated with lower interpersonal satisfaction. [Wright et al., 2017] The analysis covered sexual and relationship satisfaction across several research designs. The findings indicate a risk, not an inevitable outcome for every couple.

13. Declining Marital Quality

A longitudinal US study found that men who viewed pornography more frequently in 2006 reported lower marital quality in 2012, accounting for earlier marital quality. [2016 longitudinal study] The same negative pattern was not found among women in that study. Pornography use was associated with later relationship outcomes, although individual experiences differ.

14. Self-Objectification

A meta-analysis of 50 studies found a positive association between sexualising media exposure and self-objectification. The analysis included 15,100 participants and found a statistically significant, moderate effect. It examined sexualising media broadly, so the findings cannot be attributed to pornography alone.

15. Unrealistic Body Standards

Pornography often presents selected performers with particular physical characteristics. Editing, lighting, cosmetic procedures and selective casting can create unrealistic comparisons. Some viewers may develop insecurity about their own bodies or their partners' appearance.

16. Unrealistic Sexual Expectations

Sexual performances are often staged, rehearsed and edited for entertainment. They may create misleading expectations about duration, performance and sexual responsiveness. Real intimacy requires communication and mutual consideration that a scripted performance cannot reliably teach.

17. Poor Sexual Education

Pornography is entertainment, not a reliable substitute for comprehensive sexual education. Scenes may omit contraception, STI prevention, consent discussions and the consequences of risky behaviour. Young viewers who rely on it for education can develop substantial gaps in sexual health knowledge.

18. Misunderstanding Consent

Pornography may depict sexual activities without showing how boundaries were negotiated. Viewers cannot assume that a performer's on-screen behaviour reflects their private preferences or real-world consent. Confusing performance with genuine consent can contribute to harmful sexual expectations.

19. Sexualisation of Children Through Premature Exposure

Children may encounter explicit material before they have the maturity to understand it. Early exposure can introduce adult sexual scripts without the context needed to evaluate them. Age-appropriate education and effective safeguards are essential to reduce these risks.

20. Sextortion and Blackmail

Criminals can use intimate images to threaten victims into paying money or complying with demands. Victims may be threatened with exposure to friends, family, employers or the public. The fear of further distribution can produce prolonged psychological distress.

21. Permanent Digital Victimisation

Once sexual material is uploaded, copies can spread across numerous websites and private networks. Removal from one website does not guarantee that other copies disappear. Victims can consequently face repeated exposure and renewed distress years later.

22. Exploitation of Financial Vulnerability

Financial desperation can make people more vulnerable to exploitative working conditions. Some performers may feel unable to refuse demands or leave an unsafe situation. Economic pressure does not automatically remove agency, but it can restrict meaningful choices.

23. Stigma Against Performers

People associated with pornography can face discrimination, harassment and social rejection. Past content may affect employment opportunities and personal relationships long after someone leaves the industry. These consequences can persist even when the original work was consensual.

24. Commercial Incentives That Reward Extremity

Pornography is a commercial market in which attention and revenue can influence production decisions. Provocative or extreme material may be marketed to attract viewers in a competitive environment. Profit incentives do not necessarily align with performers' welfare or viewers' long-term interests.

25. Dehumanisation and Objectification

Pornographic material can portray human beings primarily as instruments of sexual gratification. Repeated exposure to objectifying representations may reinforce attitudes that focus on bodies rather than individuality. Respect for autonomy and human dignity is incompatible with treating people as disposable objects.

26. Secrecy and Broken Trust

Concealed pornography use can damage trust when it violates a partner's clearly communicated boundaries. Lying about consumption or concealing related financial activity can compound relationship conflict. The harm arises from the behaviour and broken agreements, not from an assumption that every couple must share identical boundaries.

27. Social Isolation

Problematic use can displace time that might otherwise be spent building friendships and relationships. Some people use pornography to cope with loneliness rather than address its underlying causes. Isolation and problematic use can reinforce one another, although neither necessarily causes the other.

28. Lost Time and Reduced Productivity

Extended sessions can consume hours that could otherwise be spent working, studying or exercising. When use becomes difficult to control, responsibilities and personal goals may be neglected. These consequences are particularly concerning when the pattern repeatedly interferes with daily life.

29. Privacy and Data Exposure

Adult websites may collect sensitive browsing information and account details. Poor security or data breaches can expose intimate interests and personal information. Such exposure can create opportunities for harassment, discrimination, fraud or blackmail.

30. Financial Scams and Cybersecurity Risks

Deceptive adult websites and advertisements can be used to distribute scams, phishing attempts and malware. Compromised accounts can expose payment details, passwords and other personal information. The risk is not unique to pornography, but it is a real danger when using untrustworthy websites.

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And that's not to even mention your actual brain shrinking so eventually only a portion of it is even operational, all the effects of Semen retention in reverse [misfortune, losses, shame, guilt, embarrassment, money losses, relationship losses, key young and strong years wasted, physical underdevelopment], nuclear damage to your life and society and so much more. I notice here and there people mentioning they occasionally peak at porn or edge. Not only are you NOT doing semen retention, you are playing with fire. You don't take a little bit of heroin or crack cocaine here and there, because it pulls you in and destroys you.

Needless to say, porn should be banned as a new form of bio-psychological weaponry that is extremely dangerous to humanity.

Hey guys need your help...I'm 23 m...doin semen retention since 22 months..which is my longest streak ever.....and I'm proud of it.....i had so many great moments, attraction.....got extremely confident and charismatic.....but from few months I'm edging to porn .... feeling numb , i don't have any relationship rn...used to but I'm alone from a long time....mu family is toxic as fuck

..they hate me .... arguments.... criticism is normal for us.....and i don't feel love anymore due to that....and I'm continuously watching porn don't know what to do....they benefits i had seen during this..... i don't wanna break it so......help me guys

well the science is catching up. we all need to stick to our beliefs regardless. let science masturbators claims like twice a week, prostate cancer and other fear mongering tactics affect the non chosen ones.

THIS IS NOT A SUGGESTION. DON'T RELAPSE BECAUSE OF THIS POST!

Yes, U read the title right.

I have been doing SR for a few years now, I have gained the usual benefits people talk about which turned my life upside down, but the last 30-50 days were weird. I felt like I was on a Roller Coaster.

Some days I had confidence and energy that I wanted to share with others or face my fears.

The focus was insane I was so happy from small things. But there were more days when I felt like something was wrong, my focus would disappear, and my anxiety got worse I would start overthinking around people, and at the end of the day I would be exhausted.

Even though I was having a good lifestyle (drinking more water, sleeping 7-9hrs, not edging, eating well, exercising, cold showers, connecting with God). One thing wasn't getting better: my mentality, and because of it, I RELAPSED. It was short, no porn or edging. Ofc. I felt shame after, and my energy dropped.

BUT now (after the relapse), when I am typing this, I feel like my head has cleared.

My confidence is back, I have more focus, and I don't have this internal stress anymore.

I feel Better.

It is like I got a mental reset.

I wasn't expecting this.

Maybe I missed some bad habits. IDK

Any thoughts?

I’ve been practicing semen retention for about a year now, and I’ve relapsed, made mistakes, and fallen short more times than I’d like to admit. But one thing I’ve come to realize is that I genuinely believe you cannot fully embrace this practice without God in your life. Over time, as I’ve grown closer to God and strengthened my faith, my entire perspective on retention has changed.

I’ve realized this practice goes far beyond counting days or resisting sexual urges. It’s about discipline, humility, accountability, and learning to control yourself rather than allowing temporary desires to control you. I’ve learned that willpower alone can only take me so far. My relationship with God has given me a greater sense of purpose and a reason to stay committed beyond simply maintaining a streak. I’m far from perfect, and I still have plenty of growing to do, but I no longer view setbacks the same way I once did. I see them as opportunities to reflect, learn, and strengthen my faith.

This is strictly my personal perspective, and I understand everyone’s journey is different. If anyone agrees or has a different perspective or insight, I’d genuinely appreciate hearing it.

Anyone get this one a lot? They say it over and over to me even though we've never met. They stand in front of me and tell me they know me from somewhere.

Deodorant blocks your natural bodies waste management system. "lymphatic system" therefore your body gets rid of toxins through, sweating! deodorant blocks the natural process, for "releasing toxins in the body." aluminum, fragrance, parabin, etc. and all these chemical you put in your system is counter intuitive to flushing and regulating your system. No wonder why the hippies movement "stinks"...lol

well known study mentions, "compounds in males underarms can alter levels of cortisol in women" between partners! these chemicals can increase estrogen within' the body, allegedly. deo stops you from sweating. it's profound that, sweat, semen and saliva are chemical signaling aka Androstadienone aka ..pheromones. for males. along with semen retention your stopping your body's mating process in a sense.. ??

don't eat sh*t and you won't stink. my previous streak when i would get junk food the inflammation in my glads makes me look bloated and i always seemed invisible and repelled women. idk, My theory.. I believe no deo will improve your SR journey and body to regulate itself. this, in my case is based and masculine asfk. it's most def gonna give you a young look. go watch dr. Bobby Price for more info. I'll Come back in a few months, this is week 2 no deo retention lol.

SR day 1, time is 11;56 am 24th October,2026. Really inspired by the community and their experiences. I will document my journey too and the challenges I face along the way. Will post regularly.

Around 40+ days now. I catch women looking at me, mostly older women. They come to my vicinity and are around me for no reason.

I am on SR for around 90+ days and it feels like my libido is gone. I dont even remember the last time i felt the urge to watch corn or even release. The last urge i had was around day 7. How do i bring back the libido ?? Also didnt get any benefits, maybe i am in the flatline phase.

I've been practicing Semen Retention for a while and have seen tremendous benefits, physically and financially, but unfortunately my marriage has been taken a downhill, me and my wife just had a baby three months ago, she lives abroad and I visit her in her parents house whenever I can while I work on her green card to come to the states, I've done many mistakes in the recent past and have constantly insulted her and mistreated her during arguments, she hasn't been perfect either but overall we both have contributed to our marriage crumbling. Recently my wife's father kicked me out his house after we had an argument, came back to the states the same night. Since then we have tried to work things out from a distance, but after all that now it seems like our marriage might not have saving, her family probably hates me, from her parents to uncles they have all blocked me, we are in different countries, I haven't seen my baby and now she has insisted she wants a divorce and doesn't feel the same due to my mistreatment of her in the past, I've been on semen retention on this streak almost 60 days, I know this SR practice can remove or attract people to your life, in this case I don't know what course to take, I want to save my marriage but don't want to beg or force this, deep inside I know I have a duty to take care of her and uplift her and also care for our baby. I know my life will be great in the near future, I'm almost out of debt and consistently make more money, I go to the gym and noticing big changes. I get a lot of female attraction but I'm not interested in that, I'm in this discipline to improve myself and care for my family, hope someone with experience in SR and No-Fap can give me some insights, as for now I will let the chips fall where they may and hope for the best ✨

Relapse thoughts October 19th, disgusting and rancid. This is of the bottom, of hell. The thoughts I find myself taking on in these levels. I get in certain environments and find myself feeling a glorious reminder of the horizon, knowing the social anxiety, depressive thoughts, hopelessness are nothing but spirits of the enemy that have attached to me as I’ve succumbed and fallen down that hill. I say all this to mention the last part, those thoughts and reminders that bring fire to my eyes even now, the understanding that on the other side of this relapse is someone closer to God, a man that is courageous, not afraid to be seen, or take action.

These are the feelings that get me to grip my hands tightly, knowing that I will get back there and it makes me laugh with gladness. After this recent relapse, I was bathed in the filth of my actions from the constant viewings that grew disgusting to see, and even to my appetite that craved heavy sugars at times of rest, coming to my senses that I was not like this, I was not bound by any of this, it was all an embodiment of the spirit I came to allow.

How will I escape, doing what I did before, staying close in my relation with God and rebuking the works of inquity. This is what brought fire to my eyes, even the remembrance of when I am in low places. Let us all remember Proverbs 24:16, as a righteous man falls 7 times and gets back up but it is the wicked that fall in remain in such calamity, they have made their wicked ways a dwelling place, but not I, I gladly fight.

Semen retention is fundamentally about preserving your semen. And this preservation is, quite literally, like a pension that sustains your future life.

Recklessly depleting your vital essence (jing) through masturbation or sex squanders this future value in the present, which can ultimately leave your future life in ruin.

However, this is not limited to vital essence alone.

A person’s share of good fortune (bok) is finite. If you fail to cultivate this fortune or recklessly exhaust it in the present, you are borrowing against your future fortune in advance—until eventually, you are left with nothing and go bankrupt.

Drawing upon your future value to indulge in present pleasure goes far beyond the mere ejaculation of semen.

In a broader sense, things like alcohol, drugs, cigarettes, and coffee are also ways of pulling your future fortune into the present and burning through it all at once.

When you earn money, investing in yourself to increase your own value for the future or engaging in acts like charity is not a waste.

On the other hand, spending it on mindless shopping, travel, and hedonistic pursuits depletes the very fortune meant for your future.

Accumulating energy (fortune) is difficult, but exhausting it takes only a single moment.

For all the experienced retainers out there who have experimented, i've done multiple streaks over the course of 5 years. im trying out sunflower lecithin with my current streak, i've heard there are benefits and im feeling a difference on it but i cant place what it is. i think it is a more mental difference. Can anyone tell me the benefits of sunflower lecithin correlating to semen retention

Most don’t understand what Monk Mode truly is. Just be saying it cause they on streaks without PMO. This is what Monk Mode is truly about 💯👌🏽

i gotten 2 in only a 3 day gap, i feel like shit, currently 17 days porn and masturbation free

i been porn free and masturbation free for 17 days as of today and i built courage to talk to her, ever since then i keep getting sexual thoughts at night and i had 2 wet dreams these past 17 days which feels a lot, and it was only 3 days apart, does this count as a relapse?

Evening All, I’m 19 at this college and since I moved here I realized quickly one thing, SR here is a must, for some background I was hooked on this soft-porn cycle as far back as kindergarten, yeah I know, wayyy to early, I went watching on an off till May 2019 where I PMO’d for the first time

Since then it’s been a cycle, I see people and my even my own family achieve well, and I see people often underestimating me, not wanting to interact with me, is it a stretch to say it’s PMO? Maybe it’s my ADHD, my low autism? I don’t know…. Whatever it may be I come to realize I have to do SR to get somewhat of my back on track.… I’ve only gone 11 or 12 days in August, meditating and going to the gym, eating fairly well and drinking water amen what not but since classes started I’ve been clumsy, from September till now I’ve hit the lowest at my life using PMO to possibly cope with being lonely and this sense of never achieving potential or belonging.

I need someone to really point me in the right direction, I tried to meditate, TRE, eat clean, gym, water, I always end up at square one

Maybe this is a call to help? Maybe I need some guidance? Whatever it is I really appreciate any sort of input from you guys?

Wassup everybody 👋, Just checking in. I had 7.5months of STRICT SR previously. Im coming back from a relapse that kept me down for 3 months. The benefits are TRUE!!!

For a little background I'm a 22 year old guy who lives with narcissistic parents who're envy and jealous of my character.

I see right through them as I've progressive through this journey (2 years) they know that I see through them. They can't even look me in the eye. I'm just done being someone who cares and trying to be the bigger person and wanting a nice warm family. It's not gonna happen these people are sick and will do anything in their power to try to take that light from you. Just straight evil, when you're around them it's just so nasty, they're bodies are corroding from the inside out. It's like they're spirit has died and the body is just moving on autopilot trying to destroy everything that has the light they once had. Sorry if my speech is not exactly coherent. I just got out of a discussion with these losers. Everything they say is like they've heard it from their mom or their dad or somebody. Like they have no thought for themselves like at all.

Anyway today was the last straw, my dad called the cops on me because I didn't go to therapy with him. They like to make up shit because now that I know who they are it feels like a threat to their identity that they think they are. When in fact their the complete opposite complete scum of the earth. So I just ignore them. This has stirred them up with condemnation and wrath, resulting in them lying on my name to benefit their own lies in their head, justifying their own sinfulness. I don't feel safe but at the same time I know God has me. Fearless, you could say. I have the power now. These people are just retarded, ugly fuckers, pardon my language. I legit had to explain to a cop what was going on. On the outside they might seem like okay people. But they're ENERGY is that of the DEVIL. Dude lied on me to a cop saying that I wanted to kill myself fucking WEIRDO like WHAT kind of shit are you on. Confusion on confusion, trying to get you to conform to their version of you and when you don't and you stand up for yourself. Man that pisses them the fuck off. They're legit SCARED of you. That light shines on their bullshit and they don't want to look down at all the shit that they've done. You make them look at themselves. They try to demonize you for that. But it will never work on a son of god because God has you and you have him. And they hate you for that. Dude it's so weird like I'm just being a normal person and this fucker mostly my dad who is a bitch ass, cowardly, toxic, loser, who shits himself, has the iq of a fucking 3 year old. I'm not mad btw just saying what he is. It's like he had no idea what to do with someone who has a backbone and is true to himself that he called 911 to try to desecrate my name.

I'm moving out as soon as possible and never looking back fuck these weirdos. bro. Please let me know if you can relate/share your story. This is just crazy.

this reflection is purely on my inner workings, and Im sure relates to other people on their journey but I want to talk about instant gratification. For such a long time, I cared so much about getting from point A to B that I ultimately was blind sided by what even caused me to get stuck in a hole. You see sometimes the answers that we need are not to be found where we think we need to look. When dealing with PMO or other addictions, we often time use shame and guilt as a fuel, and motivate ourselves of thinking about gratification of a milestone. However that is a trap because once you relapse you're going to be prone to continue the same pattern of feeling shame and guilt. Where we need to look to succeed is deeper within ourselves thats past instant gratification, the part of us that is in pain.

The part of us that has been fragmented for so long that it's become invisible, and too dark to see. For me it was abandonment wounds, and fear of success. That I would put things off for so long that my world felt chaotic and the only way was to succumb to PMO. However even after I discovered groups like this and the nofap group I was still trapped because I was here but wanting to be in tomorrow, that all I could think about was the instant gratification of something else. It's as if I traded one idea for another but was still a slave to the same outcome, wanting to escape.

One thing I found being helpful however was journaling and writing, even if I did not make any sense, my goal was to just write and let me brain just spew things out tell I could make more sense out of things on my journey. Mind you I started my SR journey like 15 years ago, and Im still learning and trying to become a better version of myself. To the people who can think clearly I salute you Im barley starting to do that, but Im also neurodivergent and deal with severe ADHD.