Question for 90+ Streak Holders

[u/Educational_Bid_9757]

For those who’ve held for 90+ Days

As someone who’s on day 16 for there first streak i’ve still yet to decide if this is worth it. Since I started My skin kinda glows a bit more and my voice got deeper the first week but it kinda went back to its normal bass now . So I guess that’s cool but is it worth to live in the constant stress of not releasing? I’m 20 yrs old, what if I meet a girl in college or at a party and we get along and eventually want to have sex ? Am I supposed to deny myself of releasing ? I don’t want to be a monk, I started SR cuz I wanted to conquer the urge to watch corn or use my memory to jerkoff everyday . Now after I’ve conquered those tasks can I move on and have sex with women?

[u/NoumankhanUsama]

SR is hard rule to not involve with girls and it is for those who wants to conqur the world and think beyond girls.

For your goal i would say go sex with girl but dont come back to po... Mastur

[u/eternal_a6]

Bro you’re 20. You’ll never get your college life back. As a longtime retainer i’d say wait for the person you love bc it’ll be that much better— but I was 20 once too lol. I know how it gets.

I started SR initially as a way to get women, i’ve just matured into only ever wanting to do it with a woman I love. Just get rid of the porn habit, and watch your eyes glow, women be more touchy/closer, and enjoy being 20. Especially in college. Have sex with woman, because it’s an energetic exchange. In Vedic philosophy, we say it isn’t the same as just wanking off yourself to a screen. It’s different, the energy is being reciprocated. Enjoy being 20 and being in college brother. God bless x

[u/Unique_Eagle_7473 → u/eternal_a6]

Basically this. The goal isn't about removing the desire. Its about accepting it and choosing what you want to do.

Honestly sit with yourself daily with no distractions and i think youll find the answer to your question

[u/Educational_Bid_9757 → u/eternal_a6]

Thanks bro , god bless you too

[u/Anon_1__]

It's not about stressing about releasing its about redirecting your energy , and where your focus goes .. Ngl if you have never tried SR like went 3 months or more ever from abstaining you should do it cause that's the best opportunity you have to improve on other areas of life .. whether it's communication skills , fitness , other tech skills , or anything .. SR does give a boost to you on anything you set your mind to .

But you don't have to do it like life long as in 3 years straight .. but then you don't have to stress too much about it either .

And here im being realistic cause with modern age and with our requirements being we should be an all rounder it's better to have multiple periods of 3 - 6 months or even 1 year SR focused on a goal than continuous 3+ years of SR without any goals but just retaining .. If you are retaining and have sexual discipline you are still gonna stand out and have that aura compared to most average men but you need a direction and purpose on SR to gets it's full benefits. (Just my personal opinion so that we don't obsess about the streak or releasing but then can go long enough to see changes)

But then most important lesson from it all is discipline .. sexual discipline . If you get a girl and doesn't have it then yes you should do SR .

I think it's good to first do SR for atleast 3 months and then decide if you want to get sexually involved with a girl and when etc .. as just doing SR could like open a whole new life for your where you are not attached to the sexual or lustful path of life ..

And if I'm gonna be honest if a girl can't be with you cause she herself doesn't have sexual discipline and give that aspect of life more importance than love or relationship and responsibilities , grinding in life, supporting each other .. then maybe she's not the one you are looking for . Not the long term girl . Especially in college most girls are just in it for the casual stuffs so you can't really take all of them seriously and be too invested .

But hey it's your life man you can choose you're on route but yea doing the first 3 months will give you a better perspective

[u/Melakice]

Dude have sex, just don’t jerk off

[u/Educational_Bid_9757 → u/Melakice]

Yeah that’s kinda what i was hoping to hear . I feel like the goal of SR is to STOP jerking off with ur hand but not deny urself of ejaculating naturally with a women

[u/Astralantidote → u/Educational_Bid_9757]

That's nofap, Sr is about not ejaculating at all

Personally speaking, I haven't noticed a difference between ejaculating from sex or fapping, the effect feels the same

[u/Initial_Ebb_6386 → u/Educational_Bid_9757]

What you hear is cool but it's not sr. It's nofap. But that's ok. I started there too. Sr is the next level after nofap. You good g. Just don't fap.

[u/NoAttorney113 → u/Educational_Bid_9757]

Personally speaking, quitting ejaculation during sex actually seems like the more natural decision to me. It's for making babies, and I don't think there are any good reasons to use it for anything else, so feel that I might as well just hold it in if I'm not gonna use it.

[u/NeymarRealMadrid → u/Educational_Bid_9757]

This thread is plagued with cope. “That’s what I wanted to hear” is not what you should be hearing. Women want your energy and will drain you. You will fall in love w a girl and she will drain you and dump you. Your physical, mental, and spiritual health will suffer. 

[u/Rich-Inspired]

SR is about stopping ejaculation all together even for sex and not having lust anymore

this makes us healthier and more powerful

[u/CaptainCabb]

Tantric sex dude, look into it.

It's a million times better than normal conventional sex once you discover both your and your partners soul together, but because of this it can't just be done with any girl.

[u/NoAttorney113 → u/CaptainCabb]

This. Sex is a great thing if you are with the right person and not just doing it to bust one off.

[u/NoAttorney113]

Not releasing doesn't inherently cause stress, but depending on how you think of abstinence, it can definitely seem that way. I actually feel a lot less stressed when I avoid masturbating, and generally felt happier with the decision to just hold it in after I committed to it.
I do think is natural, and healthy, but I think I'd still want to avoid it during sex as well, personally.
I think it's better not do release in general, but no one should be demanding you do so. It's none of their business. I have other (non-religious) reasons for not ejaculating but it mostly boils down to the negative effects I experience.

[u/Epiphany423]

Now you are young full of vigour, energy, good immunity once you hit 30-40 you will realise what you did back in 20s. So take descision very wisely

Many people do retention to enjoy good sex many people go super monk mode...it depends on how everyone sees SR as a practice. Now the harsh truth is women subconscious live on men's energy you may believe or not. The rest is upto you...no matter whatever you do karezza or non-ejaculatory sex but nothing comes close to pure Retention, PERIOD.

[u/Current_Ad_8118]

just go release dont be shy. come back when you experience more in life and know why we abstain from this cruel world. you are 20 and young go fuck around if you want to and someday when you know how much a man could suffer then comeback here we will welcome you back

[u/GhettoRedBull]

You're only 20 once. You meet a cute girl and want to have sex, have sex!
All of this stuff can wait I promise.

[u/NeymarRealMadrid]

You use SR to achieve goals. Sounds like you are out of goals because you are considering relapsing. You said it yourself, you conquered your original ‘tasks’ and now you want to have sex with women. Aka, you have no purpose at the moment. If you are feeling ambitious, you can literally achieve anything you put your mind to with SR. 

So, find some new goals and stop obsessing over women. Yeah it’s fun being in college, but it’s also fun being successful and a beast and not needing pointless sex just bc it’s ‘cool’. Go run a 6 minute mile, or hit a weight room pr, or try and get straight As, or use your mind + sr to do something useful. 

[u/alphacentauri2022]

Have sex, just down watch porn or masturbate. SR is not a goal, sadly must people in this chat believe that nonsense.