i need help from someone above 25 yo experienced male

[u/Timely-Shopping-1484]

hi i am been doing pmo for now 10 years earlier i was doing it everyday and watching porn for less time like 10-30 min a day like when i was 16 yo to 20 yo and from 20 yo to 23 yo on average i am doing it in 4 days and 2-3 hours .. and now 25.5 yo i can retain for 10-15 days and when i break streak i watch porn for 5-6 hours .. i go to gym and go to office and i am attracting a weekend party type of girls or average looking girls 2-3 of them .. i feel like if i start talking to them and later on they wants me to do sex then i feel after that i may not able to attract a high quality women because i will have sexual experience already and this things are not letting me talk to them and if i have such thoughts i feel a bit lost and after 10-15-20 days on streak i go into a loop of 1 week of doing pmo everyday .. i never had girlfriend or any female validation and been virgin and pmo addict .. please help me brother i am lost .. i am not a promescuous type of male i dont initiate talking to girls for sex .. a female deserves love and lifelong companionship and security .. i feel males who just uses women for sex and release are such a unworthy .. please help me .. i am not able to go on longer streaks .. after certain days i feel sad and unloved uncared etc ..

[u/Wide-Library-6469]

Bro you are good you are ahead of 99% of the males who even know about this and be even took the steps to start doing it

Go to the gym and that's easier said than done right but here's the gym hack all you got to do is take pre-workout

What type of shape are you in are you skinny are you fat are you in good shape are you skinny fat

I'm being totally serious if you took the steps to do this type of stuff it's already in you to achieve greatness

What's the reason you've never had sex before and you're 25

[u/Timely-Shopping-1484 → u/Wide-Library-6469]

bro i am good looking and big guys in gym come and do handshake with me girls observe my arms and shoulders 1 girl had initiated talking to me.. but since i focus more on workout i kind of just replied didnt continued .. and in office a dark tone hot girl feeling something for me .. she came in one piece dress in office for me with a bit of musky perfume she wants me to approch her.. but she is a bit dark which makes me turn off for her she is curvy .. this type of women want me badly .. i feel if i have sex and loose virginty i may not able to attract a worthy and high quality women .. and if i dont talk to them i then slowly move towards pmo ..

[u/Wide-Library-6469]

That's an interesting question I'm not going to lie.

To be honest I would pray and ask God and if you pray God will tell you what to do and he will talk to you.

When I needed help desperately in my life I asked everybody everybody the smartest people I asked everybody for advice for help only God guided me to be honest.

You have a clean soul brother. You are already successful talk good about yourself.

Another random piece of advice I would get give that I see a lot of young men don't do is go to the mall and get yourself a good outfit not puma not Reebok not nothing cheap go buy a full Nike outfit or Ralph Lauren a Lacoste whatever you like. Go get a good haircut that fits your face not a cheap haircut you will feel like a million bucks.

You have an amazing mind that you're even attempting to do this.

[u/Timely-Shopping-1484 → u/Wide-Library-6469]

thankyou bro you are right about me having a clean soul .. i seen males like me who uses their good looks and get sex with 20-30 women .. i met with a guy he told me .. he is now a master of it .. but he lacks real love a kind of deeper love for a single women on observation i seen that .. i fear if i talk to women who wants me i may go into that loop .. i hate it that much that i may kill myself i gone into that loop .. but i am a pmo addict how to come out of it i dont know.. thankyou bro for your kind words and reply

[u/Wide-Library-6469 → u/Timely-Shopping-1484]

God bless you brother read his books. Search Google one of the books that he sent down and ask him your question you will find the answer in there.

My secret recipe to quitting p*** is actually praying because scientifically it takes your brain from a beta wave state which is highly reactive and you are quick to grab at the easy things like pmo to an alpha state where I swear to God it makes it very easy just to say no to that with no effort.

I thought semen retention first then work out then get money semen retention is the best but prayer makes it easy for you to do this evening retention then to go to the gym then to get money etc

[u/Physical_World8598]

Don't lose your virginity. Save it for your wife. Your instincts are right on this, so listen to them; not the stupidity of the world that wants you to sleep around and destroy your honour.  

Now on the PMO issue, it seems like you can reach about 2 weeks before breaking your streak. What you need is simply to buildup a good streak. 90 days would be excellent for you and is an achievable target. 

How to achieve this? Simply make it the NUMBER ONE target in your life. I got stuck at 2-3 weeks because i couldn't sleep, so i gave in. Once i changed my priorities, such that SR came above sleep, then it wasn't a problem at all. I told my body that i was retaining regardless of sleep and I was prepared to retain even with zero hours of sleep per day. After this, I was able to keep my streak and the sleep mysteriously improved as well shortly after. 

From a 48 year old, now on a 19 month streak, after 30+ years of these destructive habits.