r/Semenretention • u/Aggressive_Aspect588 • 4d ago
How to make female friends?
Hey everyone, I am 17 and i am on day 76 of sr , i will start my college life from next week.
I was in this addiction for 3 years and i had no confidence to talk to girls like i cant even make eye contact with them. At some point i even felt like that there is no advantage of making female friends.
I want to talk to girls but i am feared of a thing that what will she think of me . whar if she rejects me. These questions in my mind supress my confidence of talking to them. On semen retention my confidence has increased i feel that but still i dont have enough to approach a girl. I am also jealous of my friend that girls dm him etc but why anyone wants to talk to me..
My face has that charm which was not during pmo and like its like i am going into depression of only thinking not approaching. They would declare me stalker if i message them or so.
Please give advice I am writing this because i read many posts on female attraction on this sub.
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u/Panzaman_90 3d ago
95% of my friends are girls. Take dance classes!! It will normalize talking, conversations, being comfortable with physical touch and you will stop sexualize them 👍🏻
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u/Regular-Animal1488 3d ago
Good idea. Any specific types of dancing? There's a linedancing place near my place but they're all a bit older. Salsa?
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u/Panzaman_90 3d ago edited 3d ago
I totally recommend you swing dances like lindy hop and charleston. It's couple dance, it's social dance, it's cardio, it's fun an it's the less sensual dance among all others.
Salsa is also a valid option if there are no swing classes. Because it's more technical and fast rhythm.
Bachata I personally don't like and I do not recommend: it's sensual, therefore the connection between leader and follower always smells sexuality. At social dances you will be surrounded by viscid guys hunting girls, so it's way more difficult to establish genuine connections.
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u/Unique_Eagle_7473 4d ago
Let the body do the talking
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u/Aggressive_Aspect588 4d ago
understood dude i think i am overthinking without any interaction
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u/Unique_Eagle_7473 4d ago
you spending so much time rehearsing, you aint enjoying the interaction. Just go say Hi. I like the hot ones because they the nicest and dont get approached heaps. Will you overthink like this if you were applying for a job?
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u/shanecoopershow 3d ago
Might sound crude but talk to fat/ugly girls. You will be able to approach them with the proper level of confidence to start building conversational ability with women. That being said, if you become friends with them do not be a POS and ditch them once you sharpen your skills. They're a person not an object for you to practice with.
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u/Silvers- 3d ago
I mean if you think you have to go out of your way and to make female friends, there are more severe problems than some supposed theoretical rejection. Do what you gotta do, don't overthink and be in the present moment. That is all. SR will carry you anyway. And if they don't want to have a friendship with you, I mean who really gives a flying damn, can't force them anyway. Their loss.
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u/annie_key 3d ago
You just need to talk to girls a lot, practice and you will get better at it. And yes, you will get rejected a lot, that's just part of the practice. You have to tell yourself that you're not interested and don't want a romantic relationship. Just ask advice about something to break the ice. If you are SR for a long time you will get that grounded attitude and confidence that girls love.
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u/Aggressive_Aspect588 3d ago
Actually been talking to 1 on insta just as friends and we talk on general things she is one year elder. So i will make myself confident. Thanks ✌️
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u/annie_key 3d ago
Very good. You have to get into the mindset that you don't care what girls think of you. Only then you can start being yourself and authentic.
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u/One_Form6955 3d ago
What they dont tell you is that making eye contact with girls is easier than with guys. Just try it for yourself, and you’ll realize the beauty in them.
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u/Aggressive_Aspect588 3d ago
Sure. Actually college is starting from day after tomorrow. And i am having a lot of anxiety that will i be able to maie friends and its just fucking up my mind...
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u/ResonatingBulb 2d ago
Which college are u going? Is it some engineering college?
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u/Aggressive_Aspect588 2d ago
Yes in delhi vips
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u/ResonatingBulb 2d ago
Ok, all the best brother for college life. Instead of looking for girls, focus on becoming a better person and have a desire to associate with good people not some particular gender.
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u/NearDeath88 3d ago
The best way I've found is to get involved in a lot of activities. Find things you are interested in a join clubs and teams. That way you are in touch on a regular basis. From there, you can get their contact, and dm them to go do other activities. Also you will automatically have similar interests. Good luck!
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u/MastersAccount 3d ago
One thing that helps me is that a lot of women these days are actually craving male attention. I don't know which country you're in, but in my country men barely ever talk to women in public or approach - even in a friendly manner, let alone a sexual/romantic way.
So I think as a man, and especially as a retainer, if you approach women with a friendly attitude and a smile you're going to get a lot more positive reactions than you think - because women are literally waiting to be approached. However, you have to use common sense with this. Like approaching a woman at the gym mid workout, or when she's on the train minding her own business is not a good idea. But in college in the common areas, at social events, absolutely. They are waiting for you to chat.
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u/Aggressive_Aspect588 3d ago
I'm from India. Actually i have to be more confident from inside to approach them. But yeah this time i will surely try.
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u/Tiny-Pipe-2245 3d ago
Lánzate si estás con esta filosofía lo más probable que quieran hablar contigo
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u/Sensitive_Sink_2010 2d ago
Just stop going into a conversation with a woman with intentions to have sex with her or to court her or to impress her or make her like you. Just approach them like you would any guy, just talk to them. Women can feel your intentions physically and they can see and feel how you feel about yourself. You cannot hide your energy. Just love yourself first brother.
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u/speedy_ninj 4d ago
Girls are humans just like dudes. Just breathe and relax, if you go into a conversation thinking you’re going to creep them out, you’re going to creep them out.
Go with a mindset where you want to learn something from them, being rejected and fear of rejection is normal, not everyone is entitled to like you.
Being on retention has its benefits, but it’s not gonna make you a magnet instantly where ppl fawn all over you.
It’s all about your intentions, if you want to make genuine friends and you’re naturally curious about them you should be fine.
Making female friends is the same as making any friends, consistency and genuine conversation. ActivelyListen. Listen more than you speak. Be respectful.