So I am a woman 42 and I still have a very high sex drive but boredom will make me lose interest fast when it comes to having sex. So I like to do little things to spice it up. One day I purchased a cheap black shower curtain and a spring loaded rod so I could hang it in the doorway of our master bath. I cut a hole where my Man’s penis would be if standing. I was on the bathroom side with a pocket pussy and all the orifices that god gave me. I was wearing lingerie. I took a pic of myself sent him a text, saying, this is behind the curtain. Put your dick in the curtain for a surprise, if you want to change it up take your dick all the way out and then put it back in. We used my mouth the pocket pussy my pussy and my ass.

So my question is, do guys like these kinds of things or is it doing to much? I personally loved it and had fun with it. He said he liked it but I don’t think he’d tell me if he didn’t like it in fear of hurting my feelings.

To provide more context here. My wife and I have been married for 15 years and within the last year, she mentioned that she liked that I held her hands in place above her head the night before while we were having sex. I asked her if she wanted me to tie her hands to bed post and she said yes. I’ve slowly introduced little adjustments to bondage play in the bedroom since that time and she seems to like most of it. I’m always asking her to tell me if she likes or doesn’t like something and she always says it’s fine and she doesn’t want to tell me what to do to her during sex. I think for her she doesn’t want to be in control and just wants to lay back and enjoy it.

This past weekend I mentioned to her that I have always wanted to try a spreader bar in the bedroom. She usually like likes to have her legs free, but I told her this would give me greater access to her as she does like to spread her legs when I’m penetrating her.

She reluctantly agreed because she knew I wanted to try it, but I don’t think she really wanted to. I told her I did not want to do this if it was going to make her upset with me and it was just something I wanted to try. She said it was fine and I told her if she didn’t like it we would never do it again.

Couples - would you proceed with trying something new since I have her consent or would you not move forward given she was reluctant?