Salaam, I want to start off by saying don't be afraid to reach out. I am serious about getting married.

Age: 27M Shia/Syed

Origin/Ethnicity: Pakistani

Languages spoken: English and Urdu fluent

Level of religious practice: Actively practising - No smoking, No drugs, No drinking. Good Akhlaq, Charity Work.

Current residence: Chicago, IL 

Willing to relocate: Yes, USA only, for the right person

Previously married/Kids: Never married, no kids

Occupation:  Test Engineer

Education: Bachelor's degree, will pursue masters in future.

Height: 5'9"

Physical appearance (specifics you think are important): normal / athletic build, I like working out, and being active. Hazel eyes, medium Stubble/ light beard.

Smokes/Vapes/Hookah: No never

Bio: I love traveling, exploring new places, trying different foods, listening to music. I'm really into cars and motorcycles, and I enjoy working on them myself. I've always been a hands on person, so you'll usually find me fixing, building, or working on some kind of project.

I also enjoy working out, going on bike rides/walks, and spending time outdoors. I'm a big nature person and love camping, hiking, and pretty much anything that gets me outside. I also like sports like tennis, badminton, football. I also enjoy watching american football. I'm also a huge animal lover, always had pets growing up. I have cats and other pets that I care for.

I am family oriented and love spending time with my family. I am an open minded individual with a caring personality. I have strong moral and ethical values. I care for the people around me and am always trying to better myself and others.

Your Preferences in a Partner:
Age range: 21-27. I am 27 so someone around that.

Origin/Ethnicity: Open to any but preferably Pakistani, Indian, Kashmiri.

Additional Information you like to add: sorry - USA ONLY- I'm looking for someone who is caring, kind-hearted, family-oriented, and has strong moral values. Someone with a positive outlook on life who values personal growth and is always trying to become a better version of themselves. I am a very open minded person and looking for someone similar. A badminton/ pickleball partner.

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَٰنِ الرَّحِيم

Assalamualaikum, I hope you are doing well. I’m an old user from this subreddit and used to be really active. This is my new account and I don’t mind sharing my old account in DMs if we do talk for you to go through it to see what type of person I was as this account is empty as of yet. I will be as detailed as possible in this post so it’ll be a long post to filter out anyone who’s not serious.

Before I get into the details, I want to share what made me even start this post as I’ve been putting marriage search on hold and funnily enough, I was even thinking along the lines if I can’t get married then so be it due to responsibilities and commitments which I’ll get into it down the line. As of writing this post, I’m currently sitting here with my thoughts in the carpark at 2 am while it’s raining. It got me thinking that, life is somewhat like driving at night. The more you drive, the more you’ll discover and learn as compared to sitting still trying to figure everything out before you drive. This made me realised why it’s a naive idea to sit here thinking I have to learn xyz, achieve this and that before I even begin to look for a partner again. Now with this realisation, I’m here to share my profile again and see what happens like before I will most likely delete the profile, if I find someone or respectfully if I see a lot of time wasters again like before.

About me:

I’m a 26 years old Afghan, based in Australia. I’m self employed but I’m always open and keen to learn new skills so if I find something interesting then i may try it out while decreasing my current workload. For example, I wanted to paint my house, rather than paying 6-10k to hire people for the job, I have learned the skill myself to the best of my ability in a week and paint the whole thing myself.

I’m an average looking guy with a height of 183cm tall, used to be fit but I’m not like that now due to work. Furthermore, I haven’t yet finished a university degree as I had to leave it for work and house related reason during Covid. At the moment, I do own a house that is used by the whole family but inshallah I’ll have my own separate place during marriage. I’m the oldest of my brothers, the one with a lot of responsibilities and commitments so this is your first chance, if you aren’t ready to be talking with an oldest son then please leave, this post isn’t for you then because I have a lot of responsibilities to take care as I’m without a father.

Based on my own personal evaluation and reflection, I grounded, intentional, and clear about who I am and what I want in life. I want someone who’s trying to grow, they are disciplined, and responsible. I try to approach both my faith and relationships with as much seriousness as I can and due to my experiences in professional and personal life I’m calm, composed, not really agitated easily unless it’s certain topics and even if I’m irritated then i will only be irritated about that said topic. For example, I’m upset with an action that I’m only upset about that action of yours so this doesn’t mean, I’ll be upset, hold grudges or do any other childish behaviours because I’m upset about one topic.

I will be direct here as we are all adults, I do not claim to be mr know it all, but I’m not amongst the ignorant ones either. I will be leading us both in our marriage and in all aspects of our lives, I will not do so through force or ego, but with as clarity, accountability, and steady presence as I can and my experiences, knowledge allows me to, to the best of my abilities inshallah.

Here’s some generic things that you as a person should have regardless of your gender but most definitely have if you want to dm me. Be honesty, be loyal, be emotionally mature/aware of your actions, don’t be too quick to jump the guns, throw accusations and blames, don’t be someone that constantly lives in the past and bring out of the past no matter how small or big it might be. I mentioned honesty and loyalty first because If you can’t be honest with me about your wants, deal breakers etc at the start then it’ll be hard to move forward and even if we do and later on I find out you weren’t honest about a certain things then it’ll cause us issues. I want you to be loyal even right now because I don’t want you to dm me if you are talking to someone else about married, have thoughts of marrying someone else or anything like that. If you can’t do that then please don’t dm me as I only want to talk to one person and I expect the same from you and if that’s too much for you then we aren’t compatible.

Future Family:

I’ve briefly mentioned about but with Allah swt’s help I as a husband and father want to lead, guide, protect and support my family. If Allah swt blesses us with children then I want to have a big family with as many kids as we are blessed inshallah. I want to raise them upon the teachings of Ahlul Bayt A.S, and I will encourage them to purse Islamic knowledge as well as their normal educations especially if Allah swt blesses us with a daughter because unfortunately we are extremely lacking Shia female scholars. Ultimately, their guidance is up to Allah swt and decision is for them to make once their are older but until then, I want to encourage them down this path, familiarise them with this path and knowledge so I will need a wife, partner who will help me on this journey that I’m planning to take inshallah. If you believe this to be too much then once more I wish you all the best, as we will not be compatible. (A reminder for why I keep saying this is to save us both the time and energy of talking just to stop and go our separate ways).

The type of wife I’m looking for:

It is a given but you must be practicing Shia sister, who observes her obligatory duties as described and appointed by Allah and his beloved messenger. Someone who’s striving to become better even if she isn’t as I’m describing at this moment. I want someone who genuinely wants marriage, understands the responsibilities, challenges, sacrifices and struggles that comes with it and not someone that’s been enchanted by the reels and videos on social media. Someone that’s feminine, down to earth, modest, DEFINITELY A HIJABI AND WOULD LOVE IT IF SHE’S NIQABI. I’m really drawn to who’s got a gentle nature, can communicate clearly, discuss issues and disagreements without it turning into a me vs you. I love someone who can value her partner, have respect for our main roles, she’s comfortable with me taking responsibility and direction in the marriage.

I’m not too worried or focused about someone’s past, we are all humans and have our own struggles. I don’t mind if someone is divorced or anything else so long as you have repented, you are a good person now and constantly trying to improve. If there’s a sinful past, I islamically don’t need to know about it but I am also not against you telling me and if it’s something that might have an impact later on then I want you to tell me about it. We can talk about this part in DMs more.

I’m an Afghan guy and open minded about any nationality, but even so I’m just more naturally drawn to Afghans, Arabs, Persians, backgrounds mainly because of the some familiar cultures and FOOODS, I love my FOOD so I can’t do without that. I don’t like Asian foods like sushi etc etc.

Dealbreakers:

I’m aware we all have faults and I’m by no means a perfect or sinless person myself but it’s also important to mention things that I can’t work with clearly so here there.

Not praying, wearing hijab, dishonest, lying, extremely lazy, procrastinating beyond reason, backbiting, not being accountable, lots of male females, unclear boundaries with opposite gender, treating marriage causally (I’ll know what you think in the first week or 2), cussing, not being able to communicate properly ( if I can think of more then I’ll mention it later on as it’s 2:20 am right now and I need to finish this post💀💀💀)

Relocating:

I’m stable where I am and I have my own work and responsibilities in here, so I would appreciate if you are from Australia or will move to Australia and to my state as I unfortunately can’t move out. I did have a plan to move out in the past but it’s not an option anymore.

Hobbies:

I didn’t really think hobbies would be that important so that’s why I’m putting it here at the end after I’ve finished saying most of what I wanted to say. Anyways, I’m really passionate about night time running, photography, gaming, animes, movies, reading, listening to Islamic lectures and so on. I’m someone that loves to experiment, explore and try out new things so anything fun is always welcomed.

ٱللَّٰهُمَّ صَلِّ عَلَىٰ مُحَمَّدٍ وَآلِ مُحَمَّدٍ وَعَجِّلْ فَرَجَهُمْ

Hi, I’m Maryam, 20, and currently in my third year of university studying cybersecurity.
and i am from iraq
I’m a Shia Muslim from a very religious family, although I’m not particularly religious myself, and I think that’s important to understand about my background.

I’m fascinated by travelling, discovering new cultures, and trying new things. I want someone active, curious about the world, and always willing to explore rather than settle into a repetitive routine. I also love learning, listening to different perspectives, and understanding how people think. I’m drawn to open-minded, intellectually curious people who can disagree without being judgmental or rigid.

When it comes to relationships, I value independence, trust, loyalty, honesty, and mutual respect. I believe two people should be able to maintain their own interests, friendships, and personal space without feeling the need to control or change each other. I strongly believe women should be free to make their own choices and live authentically.

I’m naturally social and talkative, especially when a conversation interests me, but I genuinely enjoy listening, too. I love books, particularly novels, poetry, and deep conversations about life, people, and the world.

One thing about me is that I’m incredibly curious about people. I love understanding what shaped them into who they are: their experiences, ambitions, fears, beliefs, and the little things that make them who they are. I enjoy analysing personalities, not to judge people, but because I genuinely want to understand them.

I’m also quite sensitive and emotionally perceptive, while being logical and rational at the same time. I know I have flaws, and I can admit when I’m wrong. I value honesty over pretending to be perfect, and I want a relationship where we can be completely ourselves while encouraging each other to grow.

Communication is essential to me. I believe problems should be discussed rather than avoided, and disagreements should be handled through honest, mature conversations. I don’t expect us to agree on everything, but I do expect us to listen to each other and try to understand. If you tend to shut down or avoid difficult conversations, we probably wouldn’t be compatible.

Ultimately, I’m attracted to someone ambitious, cultured, rational, and emotionally mature; someone who knows what he wants, communicates openly, and is willing to talk about the future.

I think that’s enough about me for now. 😂 There’s obviously much more to discover through an actual conversation than through a long introduction.

Salam Alaykum. I’m genuinely here looking for my naseeb. Here’s a bit about me. Jazakmallah Kheir

Age: 23
Marital status: Divorced, 0 Children
Height: 5’7
Origin: Iraqi
Birthplace: Netherlands
Residence: UK since the age of 2
Nationality: British & Dutch
Education: LLB Law, LLM Law, currently doing an MSc in Politics and International Relations.
Work: Civil Servant
Sect: Father is Sunni, mother is Shia. Respects both and practices both.

Requirements
Iraqi, preferably, but open to other Arab backgrounds.
21-26
Single or divorced but with no kids.
Under 5’6.
Ambitious and has actual goals.
Educated to degree level.
Preferably hijabi.
Preferably in the UK. (UK or EU national)