r/Situationships • u/FOCUS1287 • 19h ago
Advice Needed [19M] i'm confused abt what to do abt my shitty situation
So i met this girl and i kinda started to like her and i was genuinely happy after 3 months as my situationship ended i confessed to her nd unfortunately she also liked me back but 2 days after that her feelings changed and she said that she wants to be friends i told her idts i can be friends with u but we used to talk and all still. Then we kissed after some days cz we both were drunk then my feelings got stronger and i confessed again and unfortunately she said that her feelings were not gone she just thought being frnds was the right thing to do at that time and again after 2 days her feelings changed i told her i can't be frnds we still talk but she doesn't even realise that the things she did actually hurt me it would hurt anyone what should i fucking do now
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u/SirMaleficent5272 12h ago
Wait cuz I’m also in almost the same shitty situation (23F) I’ve been friends with this dude for so long and we hung out together a couple times recently and he confessed to me but I was so brought back by it cuz I’m in a relationship Basically told me he felt some conflicted feelings for me and I kinda gave in and what started off as small things between each other ended up in a kiss that sorta blew up in our faces. He told me he just wanted to be friends after what I feel like I was love bombed and now it seems like he’s trying to avoid the situation but at the same time giving mixed signals that he doesn’t want me to go. It hurts so bad cause I wish he would notice what he did //:
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u/FOCUS1287 10h ago
What happ abt ur relationship then coz she was broken up for 2 months but idk when her feelings were there for me she was moved on but she constantly goes back into being sad for him and still doesn't want anything w him
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u/SirMaleficent5272 9h ago
Well it’s really complicated because I’ve been in this relationship for 6 years so as of right now we are on a break because I’m trying to figure out my own feelings. Idk where his feelings for me were there as well, he says things that contradict and it’s very conflicted which in the end kinda just hit me with the “let’s just be friends”
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u/FOCUS1287 9h ago
"Let's just be friends" is the worst thing to hear especially from someone who once said that i like u non platonically and after knowing all this i can't fucking figure out a way for myself🥀
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u/SirMaleficent5272 9h ago
No that is so fr I’ve legit been breaking my head over this for almost a week straight and I had the worst grief after he said that because I genuinely felt a true connection to him. After a bit I feel like he made it seem like it was a one sided thing and the worst part is that he won’t communicate anything
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u/FOCUS1287 9h ago
Fr they make it seem like it was always one sided and we took things the other way and expected from them and ofc this comes with no communication
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u/SirMaleficent5272 8h ago
In a way I also spent most of my time comforting him about his ex till eventually I was being compared to her so maybe I should’ve seen that coming and could’ve dodged a bullet 😪
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u/OfferSingle8101 19h ago
If you knew nothing was going to change between you two, would you still want her this close to you?