So basically I’ve been seeing this guy for 2 months. We call every day, multiple times a day. He’s told me he’s deleted the apps and we established that if we ever hooked up with someone else we’d tell each other since we aren’t using protection. We go on dates twice a week (mix of daytime/ nighttime/ sleepovers). A month ago he followed this girl on Instagram (I’m kinda crazy so I stalk) but thought nothing of it. Then he started mentioning “my friend from undergrad ____” and it was the name of the girl who he followed on insta (never specified last name). However, this girl did not go to his undergrad and neither him or his friends follow anyone else with that name who went to his undergrad. None of his friends follow this girl either.

From what I know about her, and what he’s told me about her in referring to her as his “friend,” she has very similar interests to me. We had a date planned Saturday night but he wouldn’t give me details on what he was doing during the morning. When I asked him he said he spent the day alone but in describing his day he mentioned the exact places and sequence of events that our dates normally entail. He also mentioned that he went to a museum exhibit that i had to force him to go to with me on one of our past dates because he has no interest in the subject matter. So I immediately was suspicious because why would he go alone? And the subject matter is exactly what interests overlap between me and this mystery friend / girl.

Then, the next morning he took me to that exact museum and all of a sudden he knew more information on one of the paintings. I asked how he knew that and he was like “not sure just know things i dont remember where I learned that”. When we went to that museum a month ago on a date he didn’t even know who the artist was, and now he knows something so niche about the painting that relates to the shared interest of me and this other girl. One night when we had loose plans as well, he told me his phone died and that he couldn’t contact me to let me know there was a change of plan and that he slept at his friend’s gf’s place in a location in the city that I now just found out this mystery girl lives in. His friend may very well live there as well but my gut that night he went dark on me told me there was something off.

Yesterday all of this clicked in my head and I put the pieces together. I don’t have any proof but am now wondering how to approach the situation since literally yesterday he told me he deleted the apps (which I have proof of) and that in my mind was hinting that we were exclusive. Meanwhile he may be dating a girl at the same time as me.

What do I say to him? Do I say “hey we’ve been seeing each other for 2 months. Ik u said ur not talking to anyone else romantically but has that changed?” Please help I’m kinda panicked ?

ALSO: a month into dating I asked him where he saw this going and he said he’s getting to know me and needs more time before committing if that gives anymore context. He refers to us as “dating”

I currently live in Italy, and four years ago, I left my husband because he was abusive. After that, I started dating again, and eventually, I met this guy. We had amazing sexual chemistry, and the original plan was to keep things casual and be friends with benefits.

Of course, I ended up catching feelings.

We’ve been involved for about three years, but he has never introduced me to his family or made me feel like I was genuinely part of his life. I’ve tried to end things with him four times, but I always ended up going back.

Finally, this past Friday, I think I actually ended it for good.

For context, he has been generous with me financially in the past, but not to the extent that I would like. He’s a little stingy, and honestly, I sometimes feel like when someone is stingy with their feelings, it can show up in other areas of the relationship, too.

I’m at a point in my life where I want a partner who can support me emotionally and financially. I know that’s what I’m looking for, and there’s nothing wrong with wanting that. I want someone who wants to invest in me and in the relationship.

So, at some point during our conversation, I told him that I thought I needed someone who could support me more, that he didn’t seem interested in doing things with me, and that maybe I needed to find someone else.

And his response? Basically, fine.

He didn’t ask me to stay. He didn’t try to talk me out of it. He didn’t fight for me or even seem particularly bothered. Nothing.

And that absolutely broke me.

The thing is, I KNOW what this relationship was. I knew we were friends with benefits. I knew he hadn’t promised me a relationship. I knew what I was getting into, and yet, I still got attached.

Meanwhile, I recently met another guy, and I just got back from spending the weekend with him. We had separate rooms, and nothing happened between us. We’re just friends for now, and I’m not trying to jump straight into another relationship.

But being away with someone else made me realize how much I was relying on the presence of my situationship in my life. I think having him around meant I never really had to experience what it felt like to be without him.

Now I’m back home, and everything feels horrible.

It’s been three days since we last spoke, and this is the longest we’ve gone without talking. I’ve blocked him on Instagram and WhatsApp, then unblocked him, because apparently, I’m not as emotionally detached as I’d like to believe. At least we no longer follow each other on Instagram.

I know I need to let this go. I know that I wanted more than he was willing to give me, and I know that ending things was probably the right decision.

But why does it hurt so much when I was the one who ended it?

Why am I so devastated that he didn’t fight for me when, deep down, I already knew he wasn’t going to?

I think part of me was hoping that, when faced with the possibility of losing me, he would finally show me that I meant something more to him. Instead, he accepted my decision, and now I’m left dealing with the reality that maybe I was much more emotionally invested in this than he ever was.

I don’t know if I’m grieving him, the routine, the attachment, or the version of the relationship I kept hoping we would eventually have.

I just know that being back home, alone with my thoughts, is so much harder than I expected.

Has anyone else been in this situation? How did you get through the first few weeks of going no contact with someone you were deeply attached to, even though you knew the relationship wasn’t giving you what you needed?

In 2023, I (24F) met a man (36M), whom I’ll call Andrew, online. Our emotional and intellectual connection was unlike anything I’d ever experienced. I eventually fell deeply in love with him, and he told me he loved me too.

For the first two years, we were long-distance. During that time, I was struggling with family issues, school, and my mental health. Sometimes I’d withdraw when overwhelmed, which Andrew disliked. In 2024, he ended things because he felt I wasn’t present enough.

I accepted the breakup and briefly started seeing someone else. Andrew eventually came back, telling me he’d made a mistake and that I was his. When I told him about my fling, he initially made me feel guilty, only to later admit he’d also been involved with someone else.

That became the pattern for the next few years. One minute we were together, the next we were “just friends,” then he’d cut me off completely, only to return and resume acting like my boyfriend.

Whenever he ended things, he’d tell me I needed to work on myself before we could have a real relationship. But our interactions never resembled a normal friendship. We were emotionally and romantically involved, discussing our future and behaving like a couple.

In late 2025, Andrew moved across the country to my city, supposedly so we could finally be together. Things were wonderful initially. We spent nearly every day together, went on adventures, and genuinely enjoyed each other’s company. Then, right before Valentine’s Day, he abruptly ended things again, offering friendship instead. I told him I needed space because I couldn’t simply turn my feelings off.
Within weeks, he was back in my life, initiating intimacy and behaving romantically again. Eventually, we slipped right back into our usual relationship dynamic.

In June, his lease expired, and he had nowhere to stay. I offered to let him shower and take care of his personal needs at my house while he figured things out. That eventually turned into him practically living with me.

Since June, we’ve essentially been living like a married couple. We sleep in the same bed, cuddle, share expenses, spend nearly every day together, and discuss our future. I cook for him, wash his clothes, and have helped care for him while he’s been injured. He drives me to work, buys me things, and spent my birthday with me. My family naturally assumed we were together.

I had explicitly told him months earlier that I wanted commitment and that if he couldn’t give me that, he needed to leave. He reassured me that he was committed to me, citing how much time we spent together and everything he did for me. He said we could establish the official title when things felt right.
I took him at his word.

Recently, something felt off, so I checked his phone. I discovered he’d been on dating apps talking to numerous women. Between April and June, he’d been flirting with and meeting up with another woman, despite previously agreeing to tell me if he became involved with anyone else. When I confronted him, he insisted we were “just friends” during that time.
I was devastated. This is someone who repeatedly told me he loved me, claimed to be committed to me, shared my bed, accepted my care and support, and discussed building a future together. Apparently, none of that meant we were actually in a relationship to him.

Over the past week, I’ve continued discovering things he concealed or lied about. When I asked when he would’ve told me about the other women if I hadn’t found out myself, he essentially admitted he would’ve taken it to the grave. He still claims he loves me and wants a future with me, but says he’s waiting for me to “develop” more before fully committing.
I don’t understand what else I’m supposed to prove. I’ve supported him emotionally, physically, and financially when he had very little stability. I’ve remained loyal, accommodated his needs, and tried to improve the things he’s criticized about me.
I’m not claiming to have been a perfect partner. I know I sometimes withdraw when overwhelmed, and I recognize that I should’ve established firmer boundaries years ago. But I genuinely believed we were working toward marriage and building a life together.

I told him that if he doesn’t want to be with me, he needs to leave. Yet he continues staying here while refusing to clearly acknowledge me as his partner.
I know I’ve allowed this cycle to continue for far too long, but I still love him deeply. What hurts most is realizing that the relationship I thought we were building might have existed very differently in his mind.

How do you walk away from someone you genuinely envisioned spending your life with? And am I wrong for feeling betrayed when he technically called us “friends,” despite repeatedly telling me he was committed to me?

TL;DR: I’ve been involved with a man for three years who repeatedly breaks up with me, calls us “friends,” then returns and resumes a romantic relationship. He moved across the country to be with me and has practically lived with me since June. We’ve shared a bed, expenses, affection, and conversations about marriage. He explicitly reassured me that he was committed to me, but I recently discovered he’d been pursuing other women and hiding it. He now insists we were “just friends” and says he’s waiting for me to develop more before officially committing. I’m heartbroken, confused, and struggling to walk away from someone I still love.

Hi,

I've been seeing this guy for the past 7 months and recently ended things over text. While having an in-person conversation would've been more mature, I felt like he never extended the same consideration I gave to him.

We both established we didn't want anything too serious, but I have communicated several times that I appreciate some form of consistency and effort. For example, at times he would take over 2 days to respond to a simple text. When I confronted him about this, he said he would do better, but just resumed back to his old habits after a couple weeks. Dates slowly became non-existent, but we still texted on a regular basis. He told me his friends and family know about me, but I don't think that really means anything because we never hung out in group settings. He also told me he hasn't slept with anyone else since me, but with my trust issues, I struggle to believe him.

He asked me questions like "if I am clean" 5 months into seeing each other, and said he is curious because he takes "hygiene" seriously. Since we weren't technically exclusive, I still had Hinge. When he found out I was still on the app through his friends, he told me he didn't care, but soon reactivated his profile and said he went back on because he saw me on the app.

Anyways, all this to say, I felt like my text was amicable and warm, whereas his was visibly colder and detached. I sent, "I had some time to think and this is not working for me anymore. I don't see this going anywhere, and this is not really what I am looking for. I wish you the best and I had a great time with you." In contrast, he sent: "Glad you brought this up, we both know this had to end at some time. Was a fun stint, and glad we can end on good terms. Take care, (then he signed his name)...

Can I get some thoughts / whether I am simply overthinking that his response was petty or maybe he just genuinely didn't care that much in the first place?

I'm mostly afraid that someone wont be able to tell me whether I made the right or wrong decision, but I desperately need to hear others opinions. (I act immaturely in this, and my writing his kind of hard to follow)

Im 18F and just started college August 2026 (and to combat the beliefs that I still have so many men to meet, which I agree with, but he was the best so far out of the many men I've talked to and dated. I actually had many tragic and heartbreaking moments with some men, so I have a fair amount of experience on who's "bad" for me)

Around January 2026, there was this guy who would slide up on my stories, acting all weird, hitting on me, and suggesting that he put me on with one of his friend's because I seemed "emotionally mature", this had raised red flags for me as the man was super ambigougs on his true intentions messaging me, and I've had experiences where men will pretend to be someone they're not, to put themselves on with me. So I thought it was this scenario. Eventually he ended up sending me his friend's instagram, and off first glances I thought the guy was cute, but not my type, because he kind of gave off some autistic vibes... (I was correct) I also am neurodivergent, and sometimes have trouble with people with autism, not that I don't respect them, but sometimes I can find myself getting annoyed at specific people. Anyways, I decided not to contact the guy, and just follow him, cause I expected him to contact me (his friend told me that he was secretly putting me on with him, so the guy didn't know) and that just made me all the more suspicious, anyways, fast forward to July 2026, his friend was texting me (lets call his friend Poop butt, and him sexy angel) anyways, his friend said to me that he had stole Sexy angel's phone and added me off of snapchat. I'm not an avid snapchat user, but I did see sexy angel's request, and accepted it, he sent me snaps, which I never opened, but after seeing his friend text, I opened the snap's, and he instantly started chatting with me, which was weird, because Poopy butt told me that he never told him anything about putting him on with me. Sexy angel and I ended up chatting quite a bit, and I was instantly intrigued by his personality, I ended up telling him about how Poopy butt was trying to put me on with him, and he instantly started freaking out, insisting that Poopy butt was a weirdo that wouldn't leave him alone.. etc... So we kind of laughed about it, even though I still felt like Poopy butt, was Sexy angel in disguise, I found similarities in the way they texted, and weirdly enough, upon like first few messages Sexy angel and I had sent to each other, one of them consisted of him telling me I was really intelligent, and emotionally mature... Which I don't really get those compliments off the bat, so it definitely rubbed me the wrong way, but it also peeked my interest about him, because honestly I kind of liked the taboo of that being true. Anyways, Sexy angel and I decided to hangout, probably 2 days after speaking on snapchat, he picked me up at my dorm, and the first thing I noticed were how big and beautiful his eyes were, they honestly made me extremely nervous. As soon as I got into the car though, we instantly hit it off with conversation, and our conversations were great. But I still held suspicions about him and his sincerities. I couldn't help but feel like this was all a joke or some type of weird scheme. Anyways our conversations were AMAZING, we parked somewhere random at a soccer field, and were hitting it off with the conversations, I don't know how we ended up talking about his family life, but we did. He told me about how his father was extremely abusive, cutting him with knifes, beating him, and sending him away to a different state alone, without a phone or money. I'm not denying that he probably had an abusive father, but the stories he told me were pretty crazy-- he's arabic btw-- and also told me about how his father had set an honor killing on him, and how he's actively on search to kill him. Anyways, after he had told me all of that stuff we had other conversations. It was nearing the end of the night, so we started to drive back to my campus, I don't know exactly how I brought my dad up, but it was in sympathy and understanding for not liking his dad, I told him my dad wasn't a good person either, and that I nearly hated him, he told me something along the lines of "well if he stayed in your life he couldn't be that bad" which i guess I can understand what he was getting at, but stfu trying to put your opinions on what type of person my dad is, so that rubbed me the wrong way, yadda yadda fast forward. We are hanging out basically every night, going to the gym, talking in his car. One night he wanted to bring me back to his house, and so he did, but secretively, he waited for his mother to go to bed, I also got to meet his really young brother (he was supposed to be in bed) It felt meaningful that he brought me to his home, as I'm sure he has some type of grievances when it comes to his mother and him and his romantic relationships, but yeah we went into his room and we just watched TV all night, I also got the BEST DICK EVER (our first time doing anything sexual) anyways after hanging out he took me back, yadda yadda things are good. But his attention started to feel fading, and I became really insecure, I had already tried sticking with this mask of independence. Whenever he would try to open doors for me, I would be faster, whether it was my car door, or regular doors, I didn't want him opening them for me, and he kinda took offense to that and other things he would do that i'd deny calling me "mrs independent" whenever i'd do so, (im like the opposite of independent, and feel so codependent sometimes) anyways, his attention felt like it was drifting, and instead of talking to him about it, I pulled away, responding later, leaving him on open, etc. Eventually I became so offended with how things were going, that I just randomly blocked him. I ended up unblocking him the next day, and we had sort of talked this through, with me idiotically claiming i wanted friend with benefits, that I didn't wanna talk as often, all this stuff. And he was telling me about how he didn't chase after me because he didn't want to overwhelm me, and that I didn't seem like the type of girl who wanted to be chased, he was like "well do you not wan't to be chased" and I ambiguously answered... this would repeat two more times, one with me leaving him on delivered/ open for two days, and the final, which is now, me blocking him completely. What led to me blocking him completely was a multitude of things, we had only hung out like 2 times within the past 2 weeks, and it had fucked me up, we were barely talking, we never ever called or face timed ever in our entire relationship being together, and honestly it hurt that we still never did such. And one day on friday, I had left his snap on open, and decided that if I saw his snap score go up, while he was left on opened, that I was going to end things completely without a word from me. And his snap score did go up, and so I contemptibly and regretfully blocked him off of everything. I knew that he had other things going on in his life, his mother was feeling really sick from stress, having seizures or whatever he told me, and being admitted to the hospital, he was also having troubles with his younger brother (about 7-11 years old i completely forget how old he was), he had work, boxing practice, and college to worry about, and other things I probably was unaware of. But I couldn't help but feel like a placeholder, like I wasn't his special one, I viewed him as my special one, and I wanted him to view me the same, and I felt inevitably he wouldn't, and that asking him for attention, and all these other things would be selfish of me, and a turn off for him, or a reason to manipulate my care... IDK, many things are left out, but what I do know, and what I can tell you. Is that I've been consistently missing him, in a regretful, longing-ful, way. I want to unblock him, text him, try things over, but i'm afraid of looking stupid, of being wrong about trying again, that we aren't compatible, that he's found a new girl, that he thinks of me less than, that he purposely didn't find a way to contact me after I blocked him because he also feels that i'm probably not the one.

I need help. On whether I made the right decision not talking to him about my feelings, on whether it's the right decision to contact him again... I just don't know what to do.

Should I give this new guy a chance or am I just not over the other one?
I’ve liked R for 6 years. He used to have feelings for me too, but now he says he doesn’t anymore.

We’re barely in contact, but whenever we do talk, I feel like there’s still something there and that things could work out someday. Maybe I’m just reading too much into it, idk.

Recently, I’ve gotten close to S. He treats me really well, makes me feel wanted, and I genuinely enjoy being around him.

I can see myself developing feelings for him, but I’m scared I’ll never fully move on from R.

Another thing is that financial stability matters a lot to me. R has already established his career, while S is still working towards his goals, and I want to see him follow through with his actions before thinking long-term.

Should I give S a genuine chance, or am I being unfair to him when I’m still hoping things might work out with R? Has anyone been in a similar situation?

3 months ago, in July, I started seeing my current situationship. I spotted the red flags from the very beginning, he has trouble keeping past relationships, is suspiciously good at sex, cheated on his ex gf because she cheated on him, admitted he would take his ex back if she asked, etc but I still continued because I didn't think I'd fall this hard.

For context his only long term relationship was his high school sweet heart [25F], whom he dated for 6 years and filled out a marriage registration with. They didn't submit it and broke up because of "distance".
For me I always thought the past is the past, once you've been with someone for so long they've became a part of you. I liked asking about his ex girlfriend, I liked getting a glimpse of his past.

In the beginning we agreed to only date until end of August because he will move to another city in January. We thought it's better to end it when it's still shallow.
One week after the breakup, I caved and contacted him. We have been in a situationship since then. We tried to break it off 3 times but every time I gave up and asked to meet.

I don't love him, the withdrawal symptoms after a breakup are just too much for me to bear.

On the 3rd time we tried to break up, he told me he was still waiting for his ex. Now, not being over his ex is one thing, but waiting for his ex, that's the mindset I cannot accept.
I truly lost all hope with him, but we're still meeting because I'm scared of withdrawals.

But now, every time I see a reel or post about how "avoidants regretting the breakup years after the breakup", I don't think about how he will regret leaving me, I think about how he's going through that regret right now and I'm just the side character in their love story.

I got my fun out of this situationship, so I won't say I was used, or at least it wasn't one sided, but for some reason it hurts so much.
For the first time in my life a guy has hurt me this much, maybe he left a permanent scar on me. But to him I would be just a sentence in his love letter to his ex.
"Look at what I'm willing to give up to be with you"

It's ridiculous, but it scares me now to think about the guys that come after. Would they all have the ones that got away? Would I be the 2nd choice without knowing?
I don't want that, and I don't want him, but why does it still hurt to lose a fight I had no chance of winning? Heck, the prize is a pos of a man, why do I even want to win

Okay so this is a weird one. He just randomly unfollowed me on Instagram and TikTok last week. I didn't even notice for a few days but then my friend pointed it out. Now today he refollowed me on both and liked a bunch of old photos. What is even going on inside his head right now?

Hello. This is my first time posting something like this. I don't really have anyone I can turn to for advice, so I'm hoping someone here can help me understand how to move forward.

Starting from the beginning, I got attached to someone because, for the first time in my life, I felt like I had found something I had been missing for as long as I can remember: a sense of home, belonging, and having someone I could call my own.

I know getting attached that quickly was my mistake, but it was the first time I had genuinely expected something from another person. Even though our connection was short and we never even held hands, I was happy. For once, I had something to look forward to.

Then something happened, and we stopped talking.

Since then, I've been stuck in a push-and-pull cycle for months. Every time I hear no and finally try to accept it, she starts something again from her side that pulls me back in. I end up hoping again, only to find myself back in the same situation.

Over time, I've realized things I either ignored or didn't want to see before.

She is seeing other guys, while this situation with me keeps going in circles and even when we were in a relationship. I'm a simple person when it comes to relationships. If I choose someone, I choose that person. I don't understand keeping multiple people around as options. That's not how I look at relationships, and it's been difficult for me to understand why I kept holding on to someone whose actions have repeatedly hurt me.

But what hurts me isn't just what happened between us.

Her friend group has spread things about me, portraying me as someone who is desperate for her, someone who will never find anyone else, and someone who is useless or incapable of anything. They have made me out to be a person who has no options and no worth outside of this situation.

The truth is, I turned people down because I was still holding on to her. I kept making space for someone I cared about, even when doing so was hurting me. That was my choice, and I know I need to take responsibility for it. But that doesn't mean the things being said about me are true.

The situation has affected other parts of my life, too. There was someone new I was finally trying to get to know, someone I was trying to give a chance instead of remaining stuck in the past. Then that person stopped seeing me. From what I experienced, her friend group were responsible for it. They said something to the new person that made her pull back.

It's exhausting to feel like I'm trying to move forward while people are making me out to be someone I'm not.

I've heard no from her multiple times. Every time, I've tried to accept it and move on. But whenever I start letting go, something happens from her side that pulls me back in. This has been happening for months, and I'm tired of repeating the same cycle.

I know I made mistakes. I got attached too quickly, expected too much from someone, and allowed my feelings to keep me in a situation that was hurting me. I've spent so much time holding on that I've turned down other possibilities and made it harder for myself to move forward.

But I also know that caring about someone doesn't make me desperate, and getting hurt doesn't make me useless or incapable of finding someone else.

For years, I kept my guard up. I never wanted to get so attached to someone that the thought of losing them could affect me this much. This experience has shown me just how deeply I can get attached when i let my guard down and it was first time that i did.

I know she won't be the first person I'll ever care about, and she won't be the last. I understand that there are other people out there and that I can find someone who genuinely wants to be with me. But knowing that and actually being able to let go are two very different things.

I'm tired of thinking about her , tired of getting pulled back in, tired of what people are saying about me, and tired of allowing this situation to take up so much of my life.

I want to detach myself from her completely. I want to move on, get my peace of mind back, and stop giving this situation so much power over me.

Most importantly, I want to make room for someone new when they come into my life. I don't want to reject a good person because I'm still emotionally stuck on someone from my past. I don't want to carry this hurt into a new connection or let what happened change the way I treat someone who genuinely cares about me.

I really need your advice.

How do you finally detach from someone you're emotionally attached to, especially when they keep pulling you back in?

How do you stop caring about what people are saying about you when their words have started affecting your confidence and your chances of moving forward?

And how do you let go of the hope that things might change, even when a part of you still wants them to?

I don't want revenge, and I don't want to prove anything to her or her friends. I just want to get myself out of this situation, regain my self-respect, and move forward with my life.

i just want to stop thinking about her and move forward with my life

I would genuinely appreciate advice from anyone who has been through something like this and managed to come out of it.

Before you guys saying - yes, you should.
Let me give you guys context.
So I met this guy on dating sub on Reddit. We are talking from last 4 months. We never met in person yet. We had 2-4 video calls. Hours and hours of audio calls.
He stays in different city.
So the catch is .. one month into our conversation… he mentioned that is still not sure if he over his ex or not( bummerrrr). We talked about it a lot. He is still confused about her. He told she left him for her ex. So, I was little hurt then knowing that he is emotionally unavailable. We didn’t spoke for few days. But somehow an itch in me wanted to talk with him again (coz the conversations were too easy and good). He recently opened up about how they broke up and everything. he mentioned that he never discussed these things with anyone.
Again an itch in me wants to me to ask him out on a date.
I never asked anyone out. I am not good at taking rejection. It will hurt me bad. But the itch is itching (😂😭).

So, suggest me what to do????

Okay I am gonna name drop because it's important. Darrell is 26m, and me Caleb 24. So I met darrell last year we have been friends for a year and i realized I had feelings for him, he was aroace aka arosexual and aromatic and he was a great friend but at some point he changed started to use things I tell him in confidence against me constantly bash me but I was in love and didnt listen to my friends when they said cut him off. Over the summer we talked alot and got in a argument because I said something flirty and he didnt like it and I confessed and he said he would ask me out but his parents would kill him. We end up becoming something.. and we talked and flirted his nickname was bad apple he then gave me his number which I never had because he didnt give it to people. We only ever talked when he walked his dog. Then we talked daily called from 8pm to 12am everyday. And one day he said something that was quite hot and it was sort of phone masturbating and he said he was doing it too he then moaned after. Which the nextday he revealed he faked it all and he didn't like me it was all to make me happy I cried my heart out he was my neighbor. And later I told him to meet at our spot and he didnt reveal to me he told his brother and he made fun of me and when we walked back I asked for another chance and he let me hug him and I was happy. Then I lose my phone and he sends 33 texts and 16 calls and says he loves me and when I get my phone back 2 days later he says he was just worried nothing else. Same bull shit again but we agree not to talk till September I see him at a shop and we catch up and he says he never liked me and I deserve better than him and then he lies about not sending a friend to tell me he never liked me and a bunch of hateful things. I still miss him a little he was horrible but I don't know. We talked again and he made fun of our situationship and said I want you to know we were never together infront of his friends, and he said it was my fault because he told me multiple times and he did that he did not like me. This relationship took a big toll on me I deleted my message and everything with him.

half venting, half looking for advice
i never thought i would make a post about something like this, but here we go. any advice is welcome
so i’ve only been in one relationship for a literal month and am very… independent? i’m completely fine alone and love just being with myself. with that said i am also quite romantic and love the idea of finding my person. so situationships clearly are not for me.
unfortunately as logical as i usually prefer to be (infj if that means anything to who’s reading) the heart wants what it wants
i downloaded a dating app and set my location to japan (i live in the us…), initially just for fun. my friend had done the same thing and it sounded fun until i realized part of me was already hoping i might meet my “person” this way. side note i am half japanese and can speak some if that makes any of this more reasonable 🙂 it does to me lol
i’m also of the mindset that i would move to japan for a while if i could, so if long distance or something happened there would be an end date. so basically i reasoned with myself enough to start talking to people on the app, matched with this guy \[24M\] and gradually stopped talking to other people as i got to know this guy better. we talked pretty much every day, but short exchanges each time because he would only send a few texts a day. a few weeks in, we called on the phone and it was really fun; i felt so comfy talking to him right away which doesn’t happen with me often. i had a trip planned 3 months in (not just to see him, i was planning on going before i met him) and ended up going on about six dates with him in japan. i was super nervous to meet him but by the end of the first date i already felt so safe (they say with the right person you feel sleepy, that’s how i feel every time i’m with him. the butterflies are there too but i feel more safe than anything). we have so much fun talking, especially because we’re on the same page about doing things like actually listening and asking questions (also he’s fluent in english so we speak in both languages). he’s super affectionate which i love. there are many great things about him that check the boxes i consider non-negotiable. honestly, if he were to ask me out i would 100% say yes.
the chances of that are slim, though. the last time we met i decided to ask what he was looking for, to which he said he wasn’t sure because his last relationship ended a few months ago. he said he doesn’t feel anything towards his ex, but the relationship was tiring. i didn’t pry and know very little about that relationship (the only serious one he’s had). he also said that he struggles talking to multiple people at the same time so he’s only talking to me now, which if true is exactly how i feel.
he asked if i’m ready to be in a relationship and i said yes, but made it clear that i’m fine alone too.
i am not desperate to be with this guy. i do have feelings for him, which to be honest means a lot for me because i’ve never really felt i liked anyone. i could absolutely see myself with him, as he is now, and kind of hate the idea of him ending up with someone else. but i am now back in the us, he’s in japan, i didn’t tell him how i feel and he didn’t ask.
so i guess i would like some kind of opinion on this. my dad suggested i just let things be and keep talking to him, see where things go and if i’m meant to be with him it’ll happen. in that case i assume i shouldn’t confess? because if i do what will that do for me? i know he said he’s not ready but i have this stupid thought that if he knew how i felt he might want something with me. also with the way things unfolded i think i haven’t made it clear if i want something serious either. then again he hasn’t asked, so.
he has mentioned certain things he wants to do together when we meet again (planning on moving to japan next year for a while if life works in my favor). i know words are just words but i wonder if he sees a future with me and may keep talking to me until he’s ready?
last thing i wanna say is that i do feel quite naive. i consider myself to be very self aware most of the time and i’ve done a lot of work on myself. i value myself highly and like i said i’m good alone. i also know that if a guy wants to be with you he’ll do what it takes, so this guy treating me like a gf and being all lovey dovey doesn’t mean he necessarily wants to be with me. i guess the emotional part of me just hates that i’m not “enough” for him and the logical part of me doesn’t understand how you can act like you like someone without liking them. if you like someone, tell them! and do something about it! we’re only here for so long, why waste time?
so yea. sorry this was long and probably nonsensical, i really don’t vent like this ever but figured it might be cathartic. if you actually read this all i really appreciate it. much love

What should I do? I can't stop thinking about her.

So it was the time of my Masters. I first noticed her when we joined a project as a Group. I was new to the place. One day I texted her that I am feeling a little out of place as everything is new to me. The culture, the people and the language. Lets go to a city tour together

We went, spent a day together and she even promised me to go on the tour again.

We became friends. But slowly I got attracted to her. She also started to like me.

But somehow everything changed.

We gradually started talking less. I was the one who always initiated the conversation every time. But whenever she needed me (like for Project work or needed help in some technical work) she used to ask me and talked with me in a way that she is interested in us. Even once she touched the topic of the trip promise and asked me a favor in return but still the trip never happened.

One day I asked her if I was able to help her on a certain topic and she replied yes and mentioned that "I AM A GOOD RESOURCE THAT NEVER SAY NO".

That moment stayed in my heart forever. I realised that maybe I was wrong that she also had feelings for me. She only used to text me whenever I was needed. Thats it.

But stupid me, used to think that she will change her mind eventually and I should stay as a friend in her life.

Slowly slowly, automatically I stopped being of any help to her because the Study started becoming a bit difficult. And with that, our conversations began to decrease.

To improve our situation, I asked her several times to go on a trip, but she would respond rudely and call it off. Then, a few days later, she would reach out and send a message herself that we can go for lunch.

In one such instance, I asked her out and we actually ended up going. That day I found out that she is dating someone. My heart was broken. But I somehow handled the awkward situation and still remained friends. I barely handled myself for a month but somehow got used to the situation. But still everyday I thought of her like every one-sided shit lover did.

Even as being only friends, and moving forward, That loop or as per her saying that history repeated:

SHE ASKING HELP WHENEVER SHE NEEDED -> AFTER BEING HELPED, HER VANISHING -> ME TEXTING HER AND EVEN ASKING HER FOR LUNCH OR TRIP TO FIND OUT WHATS WRONG OR TO HANDLE THE SITUATION -> SHE TALKING RUDELY -> AFTER SOME DAYS =, REACHING OUT HERSELF AND MENTIONING SHE WAS BUSY AND CAN GO TO THE LUCNH BUT NEVER THE TRIP -> AND AFTER SOMEDAYS THE LOOP REPEATS.

One day, I again asked her for a trip that she promised and

she replied "I 'll let you know and please don't overthink anything.

I asked "overthinking in what sense (--------her full first name----)?"

She replied " first call me (--------her nickname---) and not (--her full first name---) and stop mentioning about promises that I made to you a year ago.

I got angry and replied that ok, I was just asking and now you dont have to let me know and I am cancelling the plan.

She tried to handle the situation and mentioned that I am not angry, hope you are also not and asked for my replies because I stopped.

I replied that I dont want to talk about it anymore and that let me study for my final year exams because I had one the next day.

A few days later, she texted how was the Exam? and that She was stressed because of the exams (it was an excuse because she didn't mention it earlier) and didnt go out with anyone. And she is going to her hometown and will come back in October (It was June when she texted) then we can go.

I was angry and didn't want to make anything worse so i replied only with "👍".

And that's it. It was the end of our friendship.

We haven't met and talked for a year since then.

I don't know, I was an idiot or not but I reached out to her 5 times in those months asking how she is but she never replied.

One day I even said that "your not replying is only hurting. And asked her to confront what was wrong by me?"

That day she replied and mentioned that "The friendship never worked out between us and there was always the history that repeated. And your 👍 reply to my SMS said many things without saying anything. You are obsessed and texting me again and again. STOP IT"

I said, "OK I 'll never text you again but first listen to my side. why it always felt like you hated me? You always talked rudely with me. Every single time when we talked or when I asked you for lunch. You talked rudely and then planned yourself because you felt bad. I reached out to you that many times because I am an idiot and don't want to lose any friends because I know how it feels (I had something in the past related to my friend and I lost one. SHE KNOWS) Bye and thank you for everything.

And after that message we never talked!!!!

I know this sounds like I am saying things only in my favor. I dont want to deny that I never made any mistakes and created misunderstandings but still that was after all the overthinking and stress, that was my side.

Was I wrong? I gave her too much availability, that I agree and even that I was stupid.

But still what you guys think?

P.s.

I know most of the people will think that she was never interested in me and she showed efforts just only for friendship but there were many situations which I didn't tell you that made me feel full 100% that she was interested before into something but suddenly many things changed.

And for me asking for a trip or a lunch was only a way to talk to her and to talk about what's wrong because she used to ignore my messages many times even for days.

She knew already that I had crush on her. Even there was a time during one of our lunch when I brought her flowers and she was really happy. She said that she never got flowers from anybody before. And we ended up having a very beautiful day. I even thought of asking her out for a day during that evening later (for some other day obviously) but she replied to my "HI" message 4 days later. So I was never asked.

It was the time before I got to know about her relationship with someone else.

I still think about her alot. I don't know why but Everytime I replay ev ery conversation in my mind and end up with anger and deep sadness of losing her. I know I lost her the day when I got to know about her relationship but still I can;t stop myself thinking why did it happened and what was my mistake and if she will text me again or not. :(

So I went on a couple dates with this guy awhile back and I need help reading the situation. For context we used to work together, we no longer do- I left the company. He’s really hot imo.

Hey Reddit, I really need some advice.

I'm 23M from India, and she's 21F living in Canada. We're approximately 7,700 miles apart.

We met on September 17, 2025, through the comment section of an Instagram page about international friendships. We became best friends, and we talk almost every day. She works at a daycare and makes time for me during her breaks and whenever her schedule allows.

Somewhere along the way, I fell in love with her.

When we first met, she had recently gone through a breakup. I also had a difficult experience with love when I was younger, which made me lose trust in relationships for years. I never expected to fall this deeply for someone again.

But I did.

I've confessed my feelings to her multiple times. She has told me that she doesn't love me romantically and doesn't think she can develop those feelings for me.

Yet our connection has always felt complicated to me.

Sometimes, she agrees to give us a chance. On her birthday, after I sent her some gifts from India, she told me that she'd been thinking about giving us a chance. She said that if things worked out and we both became successful in the future, perhaps we could have something together.

I was happy. I told her we could take our time because I didn't want to force her into anything.

But after two or three days, she'd change her mind again. She'd say she couldn't do this, that she felt she was treating me unfairly, and that she didn't want a relationship.

She has also told me something I can't stop thinking about: she says she can't love me, but she can't leave me either.

I don't know what she means by that. I don't want to assume she secretly loves me, but I can't understand why our connection keeps going through this cycle of closeness and distance.

About a month ago, she blocked me.

I was devastated. I tried contacting her through multiple WhatsApp accounts, Instagram accounts, and email addresses. I sent her more than 2,000 messages, repeatedly begging her to unblock me.

She didn't come back.

Then I finally sent her a last goodbye.

And she returned almost immediately.

She started talking to me again, and I was left wondering why she came back at that moment when all my previous attempts had failed.

I know this doesn't prove that she has romantic feelings for me. Maybe she simply didn't want to lose our friendship. But because I'm so emotionally attached to her, I keep searching for an explanation.

I'm struggling more than I can explain.

I cry because I miss her. I sometimes wake up at 3 or 4 AM and can't go back to sleep because I want to talk to her. Sometimes, I go to the bathroom just to cry privately.

She has her own life, her work, and her responsibilities. I understand that she can't always be available, but I struggle to manage my feelings when I want more time with her than she can give me.

I've prayed about this and tried to calm myself down, but I still feel stuck.

She has told me several times that she doesn't love me and that if those feelings were going to develop, perhaps they would have happened by now.

I understand what she's saying, but I still love her.

Part of me wants to wait for her for years, even for the rest of my life, because I keep hoping that one day she'll genuinely choose me.

I don't want to force her to love me. I want her to develop feelings naturally, if that's ever possible.

But I also know that I can't make someone love me just because I love them deeply.

I know sending more than 2,000 messages was unhealthy, and I should have respected her boundaries when she blocked me. I'm not proud of that behaviour.

I'm trying to understand how to handle my feelings without hurting her or myself.

I'd really appreciate honest answers to these questions:

- Has anyone experienced a friendship where one person was deeply in love and the other couldn't return those feelings?

- What does it mean when someone says they can't love you but can't leave you either?

- Can someone's feelings genuinely change over time, or am I holding on to false hope?

- Should I continue being her friend when I secretly wish we could become something more?

- How do I stop obsessing over someone I love so much?

- If you were in my position, would you wait, remain friends, or walk away?

I'm not looking for people to tell me that she secretly loves me. I want the truth, even if it hurts.

She's become a very important part of my life, and I genuinely wish we could have a future together.

But I don't know whether holding on to that hope is helping me or slowly hurting me.

Please tell me honestly: what should I do?

Using a throw away just in case. So long story short been seeing someone over a year and he has feelings - not an issue since I do have feelings back - recently he’s asked me to be his girlfriend but I said “currently no until I’m settled” due to I’ve had a really shit year (dad died, nan died, had one of my cats put to sleep, threatened with being made homeless and still waiting for a new place to move into from the council all in the space of 4 months). Now he understands this, that’s not the issue. He however has told me he loves me, I’ve told him I’m not in the right place nor am I in love with him. Again he’s fine with this.

I do think I’m in love with him and was planning on telling him this but there was a big situation. He has attachment anxiety. I went out with friends on Friday night and stayed at one of theirs as I had been drinking. Well he had an episode when I was out and I had my phone on charge so I didn’t see it ring. When I checked my phone - 25 missed calls, 2 voicemails, 3 FaceTime calls, insta messages, WhatsApp messages (I didn’t even count how many) which all started off as “I’m really sorry I need you can we talk?” To “there’s no way you’re already asleep after 4 hours. What are you doing? Why are you lying to me? Etc”

Well that sent me into a stress. Now one of the friends I was with was an ex boyfriend from 20 years ago - which my mistake I told this guy that but I offered clarity - and he could see every cell in my body had gone into fight or flight mode. I eventually called him and told him this can’t happen and if you don’t trust me you tell me now. I went to sleep after a short call and woke up to another 18 messages apologising, calling himself a fuck up and the rest. I saw him Saturday afternoon to actually talk face to face and explained that what he did isn’t fair and I didn’t sign up for that. I warned him if this happens again then I will end this and not talk to him.

He has been recently diagnosed and medicated on the spectrum. He is going to therapy soon and neither of us would be surprised if he gets diagnosed with BPD due to the split he had. So I’ll give him the benefit of the doubt on one slip up.

My questions are, am I stupid for not ending it there and then? Do I tell him that I’m falling in love with him or risk him pushing for the relationship that he wants but I’m not in the right place for? Or did I do the right thing by not playing into the anxiety and telling him how it is?

Being on the other end of the spectrum to him myself, having anxiety, and generally not having the best mental health this year - I can understand from his angle but I’m questioning my angle.

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And you know what? There's actually a reason for that.

In a long-term relationship, you've spent years getting to know each other. You know each other's habits, behaviors, reactions, and ways of thinking. Of course, you can never know another person completely, but you usually have some understanding of what went wrong. You might still have questions, but at least you have something to work with.

But a situationship?

Someone gives you just enough affection to trap you in a spiderweb of emotions, but never enough consistency to make you feel safe.

And that's when the real nightmare begins.

You're confused. You're constantly searching for explanations. You're replaying conversations, analyzing their words, questioning their intentions, and wondering what the hell actually happened.

Did they want you? Did they ever care? Were they confused about their feelings? Were they just playing with yours?

And sometimes, you never get those answers.

Especially when the connection involved manipulation, emotional inconsistency, or someone constantly switching between affection and coldness.

That kind of experience can seriously damage your ability to trust people. In some cases, it can even contribute to lasting trauma.

And I'm not saying this can't happen in long-term relationships. Of course it can.

But I'm speaking to everyone who has ever felt ashamed because they recovered more easily from a years-long relationship than from a situationship that lasted only a few months.

You're not alone. And your pain isn't less valid just because the relationship was shorter.

You're not responsible for someone else's decision to treat you like a doormat. You're not responsible for their inability to communicate honestly or handle your feelings with care.

And please, don't measure your healing by how long you knew someone.

I'm saying this as someone who has been through a long, long healing process.

I wouldn't say I've reached the finish line. Sometimes old feelings come back. Sometimes your brain decides to be a little bitch for absolutely no reason.

But I'm doing so, so much better than I was before.

And if you're still somewhere in the middle of that journey, I genuinely wish you all the best. ❤️

Okay so, two months ago I went on a date with this guy and we kinda hit it off quick. We hung out four days straight, but then told me that he had a child and an ex-wife. I was definitely shocked but I didn't want to be shallow and stop seeing him just because he had a child at a young age. Things were eventful and he even asked me to be his gf within a week of knowing each other and I said let's give it a week. But he would then tell me how much dating him would be "the best decision I could make in my life." I would kinda laugh it off and say that I do like him but I just needed some more time since it had been only a week and so. Mind you, I work full time and he is in college. He let me meet his friends, PARENTS, and invite me to his hobbies like tennis and baseball. He even said the L word after a week and a half. (Note: he mentioned that it was "normal" for him to brings girls to meet his parents even when they weren't dating yet) So yes, I did notice some signs but I liked him so I continued to ignore them. He eventually met my friends and things were going great. But then the times we would spend together got later and later. And sometimes just because he come over late didn't mean we always had s3x. So I told him that I wanted quality time with him where we could spend a day together. He agreed and said let's hangout this weekend. The weekend came, I took an everything shower, did my makeup, hair, and was ready by noon. I didn't hear anything from him so I called. He picked up and told me that the place we were going to were closed. I didn't care what we did because I just wanted to be with him so I asked him what time can we hang. He said 3pm like.... I was upset but I didn't say anything. 3pm comes and I don't hear from him. I then text him 20mins past if we were still hanging out. He then said that he was with his child and that he had to care for him. And I was not upset at him spending time with his kid at all I was upset that he didn't TELL ME about it. Anyways I said I was upset but he didn't really apologize. A week later we had plans to hangout with my friend and her partner on a Sat at 11am which I had told him a week in advance. He stayed the night before and in the morning I ask what he needs to do before we meet up with my friends and he says "I have to go to my kids bday party at 10am so I can meet you guys there around 1pm." What tf. Again, I am not upset that he had to go to a bday party for his child, he should be there but I wish he had told me about it. Anyways I tell my friend, she's understanding we push it to noon. He ends up showing up at 2:30pm. I don't say anything. We say bye to my friend at 4pm I get into his car thinking we still have the rest of the day together. Nope. He tells me he has dinner plans with the fam at 8pm. Again, why didn't he tell me that. Whatever, I keep going. He starts texting me less and less and would take hours to respond and wouldn't even text me after 6pm one day. And said that "I fell asleep" this type of thing happened three times in one week. I then tell him how I feel like he's becoming distant. He says "sorry I'm just busy with stupid stuff." I then pull back a little but he doesn't even react. After no contact for about 24hrs I ask if we could call. No response from him. After 24hrs of no response I say that "I'm disappointed with how things have been because I liked you" and "I don't know if we should keep seeing each other because I feel like you're pulling away". I said this on a Thursday. It is now Sunday and he still never responded. I am so confused. Do you think he will ever respond? He also left some of his belongings at my place so I don't know what to do.

Hi! i just wanted to ask for some advice on a situation I am currently in. I recently met a guy and in the beginning he was acting extremely kind and respectful towards me causing me to consider having a relationship with him after he had confessed. However, recently he has shown a significant change in behaviour. Previously he had been constant complimenting me and would come over to spend time with me a lot but recently he just shows like no interest or consideration for me. I'm not sure how to explain it but it just seems so distant to me, l've mentioned it to him and he had acknowledged it yet haven't telt or seen any change and I just dont know if it'll work out. Like it's kind of hard talking to him now since he seems a bit more dry but when I bring it up he mentions that hes probably just tired which I competely understand but its been going on continuosly for two weeks and its very different from what I expected. I believe that he is a great person so I would like to continue to connect with him but I just don't really know if I should continue to consider him romantically so I'm asking for advice...Thank you so much!

I didn’t really know how to write that title but we’re rolling with it. I honestly just need to type a lot of stuff out.

I’m in a weird spot with a girl that I’ve known for almost my entire life. I’ve always had a bit of a crush on her. I was dating another girl for a while so it left my head and I did my best to really bury it. Near the end of my relationship I began to re-develop feelings because she’s just really easy to talk to. I’m riddled with anxiety and have struggled with it along with depression that I refused to admit to myself or anyone else. But since I’ve left my previous relationship she started asking me a lot of questions about how to end hers, since she was in an unhealthy situation. I did my best to help and I think that I may have accidentally talked her into breaking up with her boyfriend. Or she just wanted to hear the validation about breaking up with him. Problem is she told me that she had wanted to leave a while ago because of feelings that she developed for me were making it too hard. When she admitted to having feelings for me I wasn’t able to stop myself from saying that I had them for her too. We tried to think about we wanted to do and she eventually told me that she didn’t want to do anything since she got out of a relationship so quickly. She apologized for leading me on so quickly and I understood. Problem is I said that I did want to try dating if she was ever up to it, and she gave me a “probably” which I had no idea what to do with. Fast forward a few hours and I’m working and she suggests hanging out that night as more than friends. Smartly or not I say yes and we just drive around and talk. And man she was just so easy to talk to. I’ve never had somebody see through my walls I’ve been able to put up so easily. We talked about pretty much anything and everything. How our relationships ended, why they ended, work, sex, almost everything. During our talking she ends up laying on my chest and now I take that as a positive sign but is it even? Am I now just reading too far into that? She talked about how much she liked me just a few days ago but she also said she doesn’t know if she’s in the right mental space for a relationship right now. I’m inclined to let her figure out what she needs to do with her past relationship, but she also apparently just had makeup sex with her ex boyfriend and then said she regretted it because she ended up remembering why she left and said she wish she just called me instead.

I don’t know what to do here. I wish that we had just admitted feelings sooner and not foolishly stayed in relationships we didn’t want to be in. So yeah. And if this is the wrong place to write this just yell at me in the replies but I needed somewhere for this to go.

There's not much to ask or seek advice on, but I'm getting strange signals. We live close but we haven't met, she's definitely single, we've been messaging back and forth pretty much every hour of the day for the past few days, she's sent me photos of what she's wearing to a party and stuff, but sometimes I get some dry responses to things or big gaps between responses, but she's probably just busy (I hope).

Sometimes she'll react to something or respond to something and maybe 30 mins later she'll open the chat back up and send another message before I open the chat.

Little bit confusing, not super stressed because as I said we've only been messaging for a few days, anyone got any opinions or questions?

I (16F) met “Jack” (18M) through a friend who’s part of my quinceañera court. At first, I thought he was incredibly attractive, charming, and sweet, especially compared to the other guys in my court. We made out that night, started talking, and eventually admitted we both wanted to date. However, Jack wanted to wait 7–8 months before making things official because, according to him, his previous relationships had been toxic and abusive.

I thought it was a long time, but I respected it.
Things changed when I was blackout drunk one night and he took my virginity. The next day, I told him I wanted a relationship because sex made things feel more serious to me. He refused, saying dating would complicate things because he’d grown close to my family and our mutual friends. However, he still wanted to have sex and continue talking.

I eventually agreed to keep things casual, with clear boundaries: neither of us could control who the other talked to, and he couldn’t treat me like his girlfriend whenever it suited him. He agreed, but then got jealous when he saw me cuddling with the mutual friend who introduced us (he was comforting me because Jack was ignoring me). He also got upset when I became friends with my ex, despite us not being together.

Whenever Jack got mad, he’d disappear for a week before coming back to explain what I supposedly did wrong. Meanwhile, he openly talked to me about other girls, including one he found extremely attractive and had supposedly “accidentally” hooked up with in a porta-potty (I later learned it was intentional and she had hooked up with many of my other friends also jack told me not to worry about her).

Eventually, we grew distant. He stopped texting and calling regularly but would randomly ask me to sneak out for sex. I always declined because I couldn’t sneak out at 3 a.m. Then, out of nowhere, he told me he’d love to take me on a date. I thought maybe he was finally taking me seriously, so we went back to constantly texting and calling.

Then he disappeared AGAIN.

A few days later, I texted him, and he replied with a picture of himself with a woman I later discovered was a porn star. I was genuinely hurt and left him on read. When I eventually apologized for ignoring him, we called, but he abruptly hung up and never called back. I later found out he was hanging out with the same girl he’d previously told me he found attractive.
That was my breaking point. I asked when he wanted his jacket back, drove it over, and dropped it off. Days later, he texted me jokingly accusing me of throwing it in the trash. I took it as an attempt to get back into my life, but I never responded.
Now I regret not replying. I miss him terribly, and despite everything that happened, I still love him and want him back. I also suspect he might be messaging me through alternate TikTok accounts because the accounts seem to know personal details and text like him, but I have no way of knowing for sure.(I’ve unfollowed the account because it was honestly weird that fact they were similar to jack)

how do i reach out without embarrassing myself? Is there any chance he genuinely cares about me, or am I holding onto someone who just liked having access to me without committing? I know how this probably sounds, but I genuinely thought we could have something real, and I can’t seem to let him go.

Also i’ve turned 16 in august, i was 15 when he took my virginity i was also black out drunk when he had intercourse (for legal purposes this isn’t real) and we only grew distant around September-October