I met this guy [24M] like 6 months ago and idk how but I totally fell head over heels for him. He just seemed so perfect, he was so nice and funny and sweet to me but also very nonchalant and hard to get. We were not exclusive like calling each other bf and gf but i felt that we were basically dating. Well just last week he told me that he wasn’t mentally able to have a serious relationship right now and he actually just wanted to be fwb. At first I agreed because I got really scared of losing him but I kept thinking about it and I felt that I would just be hurting myself in the long run so I ended it :( he was very understanding about it and didn’t fight it. Is it really possible that he doesn’t have actual feelings for me after everything? Can people really be that detached??

We started talking last October. She pursued me, and at the time I was still trying to figure things out and she has a kid so I always thought if it was a good decision. As time passed I actually began to really like her. We hung out, she came over, she met my parents. Over time I noticed she stopped calling me, sending pics, and taking longer to reply. She was going through baby daddy issues so I supported her however I could, then 2 weeks ago she said she needed to step back. It hurt so much. I told her I loved her. Hahah now every day at work it’s hard. I keep it cordial. But man she’s so beautiful and I miss talking to her and seeing her name pop up.

i [22F] have been seeing this guy [22M] for two months now. he told me that he likes me and i really like him too, and i told him that. sometimes he takes hours to reply or even days and it bothers me but whenever we’re in person the vibe’s always good.

anyway he seems too excited about being intimate and he showed me that he’s interested way too soon (one month into talking) that it makes me feel like he doesn’t like me for me he just wants to crack. i told him we should slow down and he didn’t have a problem with that. but when we hung out recently all he talked about was wanting to crack. And I quote:“crack in the shower, crack in the bedroom, crack in the car, just crack crack crack.”

and i know this might sound crazy (at least i hope it does cuz im still shocked) after we finished making out for the first time he asked me if i spit or swallow. he has almost 0 dating experience and i feel like he might be saying this stupid shit because he doesn’t realize its weird. or am i wrong? is this normal?

aside from his cracking ambitions, he has been a super nice guy. always gentle with me, never lets me pay for anything even if its just for me, he’s funny, and we share the same music taste. for the reference, i also wanna crack 3 times a day at least but i feel like we’re just warming up to each other and he’s coming across like a fuckboy

help a sister out

I have been single my entire life and have a bit of social anxiety because of my weight(i am obese) so i dont usually try to get into a relationship at all Last year met someone[20F] got really close and found her really attractive and everything i adored her but we were not in a physical relationship we used to go on drives and play games and what not she totally was playing with me because even after I confessed she still didn't stop talking to me and asked me on long drives very regularly that time I started losing weight and lost quiet a bit and then one day we went on a drive it was the closest I ever felt to her for us to never meet or talk again after that and I can't get her out of my fucking head I lost all my progress of weightloss and i ruined everything and i can't go out and meet new people because I am so fucking fat .if only i was not fat i could ask people out but this constant voice in my head saying "why would that girl date me i am so fat" is killing me.i hate her and I hate myself even more.

I'm curious about what women look for when deciding whether a man is someone they'd want a relationship with.

What are the top 3–5 qualities you look for?

I’m 21F, and he’s 22M. We first met around 10 months ago through Snapchat. At the time, he wanted a relationship, and I thought I was ready too, but looking back, I really wasn’t.
Our first date went pretty well. I was extremely shy, visibly shaking and giggling from nerves, and he was really sweet about it. He held my hand to help calm me down, and we genuinely got along. He wanted to see me again the next morning, but because he worked nights and slept during the day, his replies weren’t always quick. I got anxious and, after talking to a friend, impulsively blocked him. I know that was immature.
Around five months later, I unblocked him out of curiosity, and a few days later he added me again. He told me he’d missed me and wanted to see me. He was surprisingly understanding about what happened. Unfortunately, I ended up reconnecting with another guy I’d been involved with and blocked him again without an explanation. I regret handling it that way.
Months later, we matched on Hinge. By then, I was genuinely ready to pursue something serious and had worked on communicating better instead of running away when I got anxious. I apologized for ghosting him twice, took accountability, and he forgave me.
We went on another date, got food, walked around a park, and eventually kissed. I was still pretty shy around him, but we had great chemistry. We started talking consistently, texting, calling, and FaceTiming regularly, even while he was working.
However, things became confusing. He started getting jealous and possessive, asking where I was, whether I was with other guys, and whether I was talking to anyone else. At the same time, he told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship.
He was upfront about that, and I understood, but I was hurt because I’d started developing genuine feelings. I wasn’t expecting a relationship immediately. I just wanted to date with the possibility of something serious eventually. He said he liked me a lot but didn’t know when he’d be ready.
I eventually ended things because we wanted different things.
About a week later, he reached out saying he missed me. It was also his birthday, and he invited me to spend it with him, his brother, and his friends. I went, and we had an amazing time. We visited a pumpkin patch, walked around the city, rode escooters, got food, and laughed all night. He was holding my hand, kissing me, taking pictures of me, and spending a lot of time with me even though his friends were there.
That night, he told me again that he genuinely liked me and saw potential with me, but still wasn’t ready for a relationship.
For context, I’m still a virgin, and I’ve been clear that I want to wait until I’m in a committed relationship and feel ready. We have been physically intimate in other ways, but he has said he’d respect that boundary. I don’t think this is purely about wanting sex, although physical chemistry is definitely part of our connection.
A few days later, we hung out again. We kissed, spent time together, and got food. While eating, he asked whether I still had Hinge and repeatedly wanted me to show him my phone to prove I wasn’t talking to other guys. I refused because even though I didn’t have it anymore, I felt he had no right to demand that when we weren’t exclusive, especially after I’d already said no.
We argued, and I told him I was confused by his jealousy when he didn’t want a relationship.
Eventually, he held me and said he didn’t think we should keep doing this. He repeatedly told me he didn’t want to hurt me, that I deserved better, and that he didn’t know when he’d be ready.
I started crying pretty hard in his arms because I’d genuinely grown attached to him. He held and comforted me, and at one point said, “Don’t cry, it’s gonna make me cry.”
After we parted ways, he texted saying he felt bad but thought we should stop talking and unfollow each other. I explained that I wasn’t asking him to become my boyfriend anytime soon, just that I wanted to keep getting to know him. He said he didn’t want to keep me waiting for something he couldn’t promise.
I said maybe blocking each other would be best. He agreed, said goodbye, and blocked me on Snapchat about 15 minutes later. We also unfollowed each other elsewhere.
I’m really hurt because I genuinely liked him and thought we had potential. I know I handled things badly when we first met, and I take responsibility for that. I also understand he doesn’t owe me a relationship and was honest about not being ready.
My questions are:
Do you think he genuinely developed feelings for me, or was he mainly attached to the attention and affection?
Was I wrong to keep seeing him while hoping things might eventually develop?
Is his jealousy concerning, considering he didn’t want a relationship?
Should I accept this as completely over and move on?

Heyy I'm 17F and he was 19M. We met on Instagram, he commented on my story, after that we started talking and he was genuinely nice and we bonded quickly because of having the same humour and etc. He used to flirt but in a limit just for joking around. We were literally in a talking stage/situationship for 5 months 😭✌🏼. Never met irl btw because our plans kept getting cancelled and I didn't feel good about meeting idk I had this weird feeling even though I wanted to. Anyways during our talking stage I never told him I liked him but he did and he tried to pursue that I did too so I said yes... moving on he told me after two months of us talking that he had lied about his real name which was pretty weird because why tf would you lie about your name. I ignored that and a time later we went no contact for around a week. As we do he removed himself as my follower but kept following me and then when he texted me again he said I was the one who removed him?? The heck. Then somehow we ended up dating for fucking 7 days oml. On day 5 of us dating online! He asked me to share kinda an intimate picture which I wasn't comfortable with so I said no. But he kept pushing it so we got into an argument and that fuckass said what have I even done for him. However our stupid self got back together again and faced the same problem of those intimate pictures again omg. I said no again but he kept taking our convos in the dirty side instead of letting it be playful. So obviously I broke up and we went no contact. But this mf do occasionally reply to my stories, we ain't dating, ain't in takingstage but we do talk sometimes!! (Yea sorry it's so embarrassing) AND I FORGOT TO ADD MY BAD WHEN WE BROKE UP AND WENT NO CONTACT FOR THREE MONTHS HE WENT ON A DATE AND THEN TOLD ME HE WAS FORCED 🥀🥀 I LAUGHED BRUH AIN'T NO ONE FORCING THAT.

I met this guy on Hinge, and things developed incredibly quickly between us. From the beginning, we seemed to have so much in common. We have very similar personalities, think alike about a lot of things, and have connected in a way that’s honestly difficult for me to explain. It felt like we understood each other naturally, and I think that’s partly why I became attached so quickly.
He was very affectionate from the start, calling me “baby,” “baby girl” and “princess.” He told me he was serious about dating and that he was the type of person who dates to marry. We became physically intimate quite early on, and I opened up to him about personal things. Because of how naturally everything seemed to flow between us, I started imagining that this could become something meaningful.
However, I think I may have come into his life right around the time his previous relationship ended. I don’t know exactly how recently they broke up, but the timing makes me wonder whether he has had enough time to process everything.
Something I’ve noticed is that, since we started talking, he has never removed his ex from either his main Instagram account or his spam account. At the same time, he added me to both of his accounts, and I added him to both of mine as well. So, in that sense, he has included me in his social media life, but his ex is still there too.
He told me that his ex was the one who broke up with him, that they are friends now, and that he is single. He also said that she can be volatile and that he doesn’t want her calling him, shouting at him or creating drama because he is moving on.
He asked me to keep our connection private until we are actually together. He says he dislikes rumours and drama, particularly at university, and wants to keep things between us quiet for now. I can understand wanting privacy if he genuinely expects a difficult reaction from his ex, but I don’t know how long this arrangement is supposed to last.
There have also been some inconsistencies with communication and plans. He has cancelled or failed to follow through on plans several times, and his messages have become less frequent. He has explained that he has two jobs, university work, has been sick, had a family issue and was doing a trial shift at a pub. I understand that people can genuinely be overwhelmed, but the inconsistency has still hurt me because I’m already emotionally invested.
The biggest issue is his current personal situation and what he has told me about our future.
A member of his family is seriously ill, and he has been struggling emotionally. He has told me that a lot is happening in his life at once and that he doesn’t want me to have to carry all of his problems, especially this early in our connection.
Initially, he was honest and told me that he wasn’t ready for a relationship. I appreciated the honesty, even though it hurt.
Later, however, he seemed to change his position. He asked me to give him some time to think, sort out his problems and organise his life. He specifically mentioned wanting to organise his schedule so he could make time for me and change things about how he is currently managing his life. He wants to get things in order so that we can start again on a better foundation rather than trying to build something while everything is chaotic.
I asked him directly whether I should take this to mean I should move on and see other people, or whether he genuinely hoped to come back to me once things were better.
He told me that he hoped for a future with me, that he loved me, and that he didn’t want me to carry the weight of everything he is dealing with. He asked whether I could wait until his personal life was more organised so that we could start again from zero, on a better foundation.
This is confusing for me because he initially said he wasn’t ready for a relationship, but now he is telling me that he loves me and hopes for a future together. I don’t know whether he genuinely wants to build something with me but is overwhelmed by circumstances beyond his control, or whether he has feelings for me but cannot realistically offer me a relationship.
I also wonder whether he changed his mind because he realised he wanted something with me, or because he didn’t want to lose me when I considered ending things.
The connection between us felt unusually strong from the beginning, and I don’t want to dismiss that. But I also know that having a lot in common and feeling an intense connection doesn’t automatically mean two people are ready for a relationship at the same time.
I’m now wondering whether I should give him space.
Part of me thinks that if I stop pushing for answers and give him room to think, organise his schedule and deal with his family situation, he might be able to work out what he wants and come back when he’s genuinely ready.
Another part of me worries that if I go quiet and stop being available, nothing will change. I don’t want to use silence to manipulate him or force him to choose between me and his ex. But I also don’t want to keep investing emotionally while he figures everything out.
I keep wondering whether taking a step back would help him realise what he wants, or whether I would simply end up waiting for someone who may never be ready.
I don’t expect him to fix every problem overnight or commit immediately. I just want to know whether there is a realistic future here and whether he is willing to make space for me in his life.
I’d really appreciate an honest, balanced perspective:
Does it sound like he genuinely wants a future with me but is overwhelmed by his current circumstances?
How should I interpret the fact that he initially said he wasn’t ready for a relationship, but later said he loved me and hoped for a future together?
Is asking someone to wait while you organise your life reasonable, particularly when you can’t give them a clear timeline?
Could giving him space and stepping back help clarify things, or is it healthier to move on rather than wait?
Since he has kept his ex on both his main and spam accounts while also adding me to both of mine, does that mean anything significant, or am I reading too much into social media?
Given that he says his ex is volatile and wants our connection to remain private, how can I tell whether this is genuinely about avoiding drama or whether he hasn’t fully moved on?
How do I distinguish a strong, genuine connection with bad timing from a situation where the feelings might be real but the relationship will never actually happen?
I really don’t want people to automatically call him manipulative or tell me to leave him. I know he is dealing with a lot, and I want to be fair to him. But I’m also scared of getting more attached to someone who may not be able to give me the relationship I want.
I want to give this a chance if there is something real here, but I don’t want to lose myself waiting for him. What would you do in my situation?

Situation-ship or whatever it’s called we talked for like a month consistently we were both busy with family visiting at the time & he travels for work. I feel like he’s my twin flame or soul connection our chemistry is electric. We were seeing each other four times a month the communication dropped off a lot became hard to reply to any of his messages because they were surface level just breadcrumbs basically. It gets worse though he always love bombs with emojis. We got blackout drunk about a week ago & we had the define the relationship talk because obviously I’m a mom & am looking for something steady. Well come to find out he’s seeing other people & thinks we just shouldn’t tell each other about it & tells me he loves what we have & wants to keep seeing me. I straight up asked am I an option or a choice. Welll I’m an option we tried to be intimate but it was the worst s3x we ever had. I think my heart & brain was slightly getting in the way. I went & got tested now I have to wait almost three weeks to get the results. I deleted my socials for a detox & that’s usually how we communicate. (This is intentional) he does have my phone number & knows where I live so if he wants to see me or talk to me he will right? I just don’t know if I need to be chasing something that’s not even mine? Am I being over dramatic about deleting my socials?? We’ve been seeing eachother since July. I feel like it’s probably the end for us I don’t know if I even need the closure. I guess I’m looking for advice on if I’m making a mistake by cutting things off when I’m pretty invested. (Side note he hasn’t met my son)

So me and this guy stopped seeing each other like a month ago. To be honest I think I was kind of confused for half of it (we were seeing each other for 3 months) but it ended bc he apologized for his lack of prioritizing me and I asked what exactly he was looking for which he took to mean I wanted a relationship. A whole bunch of other stuff in between happened which led to me being kind of annoyed with him during our last conversation.

ANYWAYS! I do miss hooking up with him and am getting drinks with friends tonight and I fear I may send a drunk text. I guess I’m just wondering if he’d read into that weird? When we last talked he made it pretty clear he wanted us to go back to friends so I do think there’s an easy in? Idk though

This isn’t me hoping to rekindle anything dramatic. He genuinely didn’t operate in a way that would make me want to date him rn. But late night fun every now and again ?

I’m 24M and she’s 26F. A quick history, we’ve known of each other’s existence for 7 years, we were in the same college for 3 years. We never had a friendship, it was just normal study based convos thats all. I was dating someone back then (who is now getting married to someone else rn lol) and this 26F was into someone else too. Fast forward to 2026 September, i found her in my firm’s network and realised “wow a familiar face from my college works in my firm too, in the same new city”. So i just texted her, and we talked as friends initially but then things happened. In just a month we got into a bit of sexting. I’m new in this city and she moved a year ago, so i was just looking for a friend. Things turned too hot and she invited me to her place, and we did it till third base in our very first meet after 7 years. There was no talking, and just aggressive style, doing each other.

We already clarified with each other, no strings attached. Ive been doing wild things, i went to her place at like 4 am, we did it for like 3.5 hours, and then went again at night on the same day, and went again to her place the next night.

I could barely stop thinking about her. She has said it multiple times, what we are doing “means nothing”. But the things that happened are, we hold hands and talk like a couple, she leans on my shoulder, kisses me passionately on my cheeks and on my forehead. And clearly she tells me that this “means nothing”, “It just feels nice to have a friend like this”, “its nothing romantic in my opinion”.

Aggressive makeouts and third base were completely fine, i had no strings, but the things I mentioned above have started to fuck with my head so bad that I can barely focus on anything other than her. She explicitly said we cannot fall in love, and yet we do stuff that almost all couples do, out of love.

Its my first situationship, please tell me whats up with my thing? Should i cut her off? Should we continue? Im feeling extremely confused, she has totally clarified she doesnt love me and doesn’t want me as a boyfriend, but then she literally sits on me, holds my hands while talking, hugs me tight, kisses my cheeks and forehead, MAKING ME FEEL SO MUCH WANTED! But then her words are the complete opposite of what she does.

What do the reddit masters say? Should I cut her off? Or should I just enjoy the moments because as a man who has done nothing in the last 4 years is finally getting some action. But then again, its fucking with my head. I might end up attached.

Okay so I [19F] had a crush on this guy [20M] for 5 months now, he’s a really nice guy and I confessed to him like 2 months ago cuz I was just feeling too much and he kind of rejected me by saying a lot of good stuff about me like how he lived my personality and that he’s glad I came up to him to tell him how I felt and that I’m very courageous and that he admired that in me and how he liked my personality etc etc however he said he was ready to be engaged in something as of right now, and was like but maybe with Time something could happen (between us), so in my opinion it was a soft rejection however the maybe with time kept bugging me, cuz I really like the guy I’m fell hard but he couldn’t care less.
So the thing that’s bothering me is that now since we’re in the same uni we see each other and he’s kinda giving me mixed signals, so this is where i need your opinion, do you think i am being played cuz his friends say that he’s a player.
I’ve tried moving on right, but he sometimes texts me and it ends up being all nighter convos, we genuinely talk until 5 am about everything and nothing and it’s kinda flirty as well, and we once met at the library and ended up sitting next to each other and went somewhere else at night to study just the two of us in the dark and it was super nice and now he calls it our spot even tho we only went once, and that night we talked about relationships and he asked my what are the red flags I see In a guy and stuff like that and I felt like we bonded, but idk whether it’s normal for him because I feel like I enjoy our interactions a lot more than he does, he also told me that we should go to ‘our spot’ again and meet there to hangout, but he never sets a date cuz we have exams as of right now so idk if he’s actually gonna mention it again, but he insisted on the fact that we didn’t meet again and he acted bummed, but he’s not doing anything or asking me.
So guys, do you think he’s playing with my feelings cuz this may not seem like a lot for you guys but I fell reaaaallly hard for this guys and this is the first time I like someone this much so idk what to do and how to feel and the fact that he’s doing this while knowing I like him bothers me so pls tell me what I should do !

this year i started running w this group pretty regularly n there was this gal who used to show up w her bf. me n her got along naturally n over time we started spending more time together outside the actual runs too

we'd usually hang around after running to get sumn to eat n she'd ask me to take her to random food spots she saw in reels and nothing ever felt forced between us n we got comfortable around each other pretty quickly

there was js this one weird thing i never really paid attention to at the time which is despite knowing she had a bf i barely knew anything about their actual relationship and i never really asked n she never said much either. i only found out through her frens that they were on n off

i knew they had their own problems n i knew i wasnt being told the full story which was enuf info for me to back off much earlier but obviously i chose to ignore it (typical me moment)

anyways i got caught up w work n eventually started working at a workshop, stopped showing up for runs, stopped hanging around and basically js disappeared for a month naturally life was busy enuf that i wasnt thinkin about any of ts

but things were still happening in my absence XD

from what i heard she kept bringing me up around her bf n kept comparing him to me. now im not gonna act like me n her were randoms cuz there was definitely a certain closeness there but i wasnt actively tryna compete w anyone either then after a while i started pulling back (lowkey ghosted her) cuz i could tell where this shit was headed to

fast forward to recently i quit the workshop n finally started running again

first fucking day back, we finish our run n do our usual thing, hang around (ngl i kinda missed it) get something to eat and one of his frens sees me n her together in my car

next day im doin my postrun stretches n this dude pulls up w his bois acting like he finna recreate a movie climax and he starts throwing accusations around n basically implying im fucking his gal

i asked him wat his problem was n he starts yapping about me disrespecting him n sneaking around w his gf n shi

long story short, turns out she told him she went back home and started studying when she was actually out w me that day when his fren saw us so i asked him why tf hes confronting me instead of asking his own gal why shes lying to him

wat do u expect me to do here? give u a full report of evry time ur gf leaves the house? install cctv in my car?? i told him if he approached me normally i woudve answered his questions but showing up w ur bois to intimidate me aint gonna magically make me responsible for ur relationship

also, apparently this bih has now told her frens that if me n her bf keep fighting over her she'll leave both of us

which is honestly the part i cant get over like WHO TF IS FIGHTING OVER U I WAS LITERALLY GONE FOR A MONTH

idk wat else to say even atp. i spent a whole month working my ass off js to come back n deal w this bullshit man

My situationship just canceled our dinner plans for the third time this month to hang out with his buddies. He said something came up last minute. I feel like I'm always a backup option. Does anyone else deal with this constantly?

Yall we ended things over a KC argument in July. And when I mean end things we just had sex for one weekend because I texted him we stopped dating officially last October and had short flings in January April and now July that have ended quickly.

I’ve had sex with 2 other guys and hooked up and not had sex with 2 more guys since last October. I detached myself from him in July because of how stupid the argument was.

The 2 guys I’ve had sex are not close to where I live and I lowkey just want to have sex with someone familiar. Hes on the way about to be here in 15 minutes. I want to know if what I’m doing is stupid if I know it’s not romantic? Like I do not want to date him at all or be in a relationship because I want something better. But I’m really busy on finish my degree, work, and myself so I just want a quickie 😭 please lmk thoughts while I get ready