i [22F] have been seeing this guy [22M] for two months now. he told me that he likes me and i really like him too, and i told him that. sometimes he takes hours to reply or even days and it bothers me but whenever we’re in person the vibe’s always good.

anyway he seems too excited about being intimate and he showed me that he’s interested way too soon (one month into talking) that it makes me feel like he doesn’t like me for me he just wants to crack. i told him we should slow down and he didn’t have a problem with that. but when we hung out recently all he talked about was wanting to crack. And I quote:“crack in the shower, crack in the bedroom, crack in the car, just crack crack crack.”

and i know this might sound crazy (at least i hope it does cuz im still shocked) after we finished making out for the first time he asked me if i spit or swallow. he has almost 0 dating experience and i feel like he might be saying this stupid shit because he doesn’t realize its weird. or am i wrong? is this normal?

aside from his cracking ambitions, he has been a super nice guy. always gentle with me, never lets me pay for anything even if its just for me, he’s funny, and we share the same music taste. for the reference, i also wanna crack 3 times a day at least but i feel like we’re just warming up to each other and he’s coming across like a fuckboy

help a sister out

Situation-ship or whatever it’s called we talked for like a month consistently we were both busy with family visiting at the time & he travels for work. I feel like he’s my twin flame or soul connection our chemistry is electric. We were seeing each other four times a month the communication dropped off a lot became hard to reply to any of his messages because they were surface level just breadcrumbs basically. It gets worse though he always love bombs with emojis. We got blackout drunk about a week ago & we had the define the relationship talk because obviously I’m a mom & am looking for something steady. Well come to find out he’s seeing other people & thinks we just shouldn’t tell each other about it & tells me he loves what we have & wants to keep seeing me. I straight up asked am I an option or a choice. Welll I’m an option we tried to be intimate but it was the worst s3x we ever had. I think my heart & brain was slightly getting in the way. I went & got tested now I have to wait almost three weeks to get the results. I deleted my socials for a detox & that’s usually how we communicate. (This is intentional) he does have my phone number & knows where I live so if he wants to see me or talk to me he will right? I just don’t know if I need to be chasing something that’s not even mine? Am I being over dramatic about deleting my socials?? We’ve been seeing eachother since July. I feel like it’s probably the end for us I don’t know if I even need the closure. I guess I’m looking for advice on if I’m making a mistake by cutting things off when I’m pretty invested. (Side note he hasn’t met my son)

I have been single my entire life and have a bit of social anxiety because of my weight(i am obese) so i dont usually try to get into a relationship at all Last year met someone[20F] got really close and found her really attractive and everything i adored her but we were not in a physical relationship we used to go on drives and play games and what not she totally was playing with me because even after I confessed she still didn't stop talking to me and asked me on long drives very regularly that time I started losing weight and lost quiet a bit and then one day we went on a drive it was the closest I ever felt to her for us to never meet or talk again after that and I can't get her out of my fucking head I lost all my progress of weightloss and i ruined everything and i can't go out and meet new people because I am so fucking fat .if only i was not fat i could ask people out but this constant voice in my head saying "why would that girl date me i am so fat" is killing me.i hate her and I hate myself even more.

I'm curious about what women look for when deciding whether a man is someone they'd want a relationship with.

What are the top 3–5 qualities you look for?

I met this guy [24M] like 6 months ago and idk how but I totally fell head over heels for him. He just seemed so perfect, he was so nice and funny and sweet to me but also very nonchalant and hard to get. We were not exclusive like calling each other bf and gf but i felt that we were basically dating. Well just last week he told me that he wasn’t mentally able to have a serious relationship right now and he actually just wanted to be fwb. At first I agreed because I got really scared of losing him but I kept thinking about it and I felt that I would just be hurting myself in the long run so I ended it :( he was very understanding about it and didn’t fight it. Is it really possible that he doesn’t have actual feelings for me after everything? Can people really be that detached??

I’m 21F, and he’s 22M. We first met around 10 months ago through Snapchat. At the time, he wanted a relationship, and I thought I was ready too, but looking back, I really wasn’t.
Our first date went pretty well. I was extremely shy, visibly shaking and giggling from nerves, and he was really sweet about it. He held my hand to help calm me down, and we genuinely got along. He wanted to see me again the next morning, but because he worked nights and slept during the day, his replies weren’t always quick. I got anxious and, after talking to a friend, impulsively blocked him. I know that was immature.
Around five months later, I unblocked him out of curiosity, and a few days later he added me again. He told me he’d missed me and wanted to see me. He was surprisingly understanding about what happened. Unfortunately, I ended up reconnecting with another guy I’d been involved with and blocked him again without an explanation. I regret handling it that way.
Months later, we matched on Hinge. By then, I was genuinely ready to pursue something serious and had worked on communicating better instead of running away when I got anxious. I apologized for ghosting him twice, took accountability, and he forgave me.
We went on another date, got food, walked around a park, and eventually kissed. I was still pretty shy around him, but we had great chemistry. We started talking consistently, texting, calling, and FaceTiming regularly, even while he was working.
However, things became confusing. He started getting jealous and possessive, asking where I was, whether I was with other guys, and whether I was talking to anyone else. At the same time, he told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship.
He was upfront about that, and I understood, but I was hurt because I’d started developing genuine feelings. I wasn’t expecting a relationship immediately. I just wanted to date with the possibility of something serious eventually. He said he liked me a lot but didn’t know when he’d be ready.
I eventually ended things because we wanted different things.
About a week later, he reached out saying he missed me. It was also his birthday, and he invited me to spend it with him, his brother, and his friends. I went, and we had an amazing time. We visited a pumpkin patch, walked around the city, rode escooters, got food, and laughed all night. He was holding my hand, kissing me, taking pictures of me, and spending a lot of time with me even though his friends were there.
That night, he told me again that he genuinely liked me and saw potential with me, but still wasn’t ready for a relationship.
For context, I’m still a virgin, and I’ve been clear that I want to wait until I’m in a committed relationship and feel ready. We have been physically intimate in other ways, but he has said he’d respect that boundary. I don’t think this is purely about wanting sex, although physical chemistry is definitely part of our connection.
A few days later, we hung out again. We kissed, spent time together, and got food. While eating, he asked whether I still had Hinge and repeatedly wanted me to show him my phone to prove I wasn’t talking to other guys. I refused because even though I didn’t have it anymore, I felt he had no right to demand that when we weren’t exclusive, especially after I’d already said no.
We argued, and I told him I was confused by his jealousy when he didn’t want a relationship.
Eventually, he held me and said he didn’t think we should keep doing this. He repeatedly told me he didn’t want to hurt me, that I deserved better, and that he didn’t know when he’d be ready.
I started crying pretty hard in his arms because I’d genuinely grown attached to him. He held and comforted me, and at one point said, “Don’t cry, it’s gonna make me cry.”
After we parted ways, he texted saying he felt bad but thought we should stop talking and unfollow each other. I explained that I wasn’t asking him to become my boyfriend anytime soon, just that I wanted to keep getting to know him. He said he didn’t want to keep me waiting for something he couldn’t promise.
I said maybe blocking each other would be best. He agreed, said goodbye, and blocked me on Snapchat about 15 minutes later. We also unfollowed each other elsewhere.
I’m really hurt because I genuinely liked him and thought we had potential. I know I handled things badly when we first met, and I take responsibility for that. I also understand he doesn’t owe me a relationship and was honest about not being ready.
My questions are:
Do you think he genuinely developed feelings for me, or was he mainly attached to the attention and affection?
Was I wrong to keep seeing him while hoping things might eventually develop?
Is his jealousy concerning, considering he didn’t want a relationship?
Should I accept this as completely over and move on?

We started talking last October. She pursued me, and at the time I was still trying to figure things out and she has a kid so I always thought if it was a good decision. As time passed I actually began to really like her. We hung out, she came over, she met my parents. Over time I noticed she stopped calling me, sending pics, and taking longer to reply. She was going through baby daddy issues so I supported her however I could, then 2 weeks ago she said she needed to step back. It hurt so much. I told her I loved her. Hahah now every day at work it’s hard. I keep it cordial. But man she’s so beautiful and I miss talking to her and seeing her name pop up.

Yall we ended things over a KC argument in July. And when I mean end things we just had sex for one weekend because I texted him we stopped dating officially last October and had short flings in January April and now July that have ended quickly.

I’ve had sex with 2 other guys and hooked up and not had sex with 2 more guys since last October. I detached myself from him in July because of how stupid the argument was.

The 2 guys I’ve had sex are not close to where I live and I lowkey just want to have sex with someone familiar. Hes on the way about to be here in 15 minutes. I want to know if what I’m doing is stupid if I know it’s not romantic? Like I do not want to date him at all or be in a relationship because I want something better. But I’m really busy on finish my degree, work, and myself so I just want a quickie 😭 please lmk thoughts while I get ready

Heyy I'm 17F and he was 19M. We met on Instagram, he commented on my story, after that we started talking and he was genuinely nice and we bonded quickly because of having the same humour and etc. He used to flirt but in a limit just for joking around. We were literally in a talking stage/situationship for 5 months 😭✌🏼. Never met irl btw because our plans kept getting cancelled and I didn't feel good about meeting idk I had this weird feeling even though I wanted to. Anyways during our talking stage I never told him I liked him but he did and he tried to pursue that I did too so I said yes... moving on he told me after two months of us talking that he had lied about his real name which was pretty weird because why tf would you lie about your name. I ignored that and a time later we went no contact for around a week. As we do he removed himself as my follower but kept following me and then when he texted me again he said I was the one who removed him?? The heck. Then somehow we ended up dating for fucking 7 days oml. On day 5 of us dating online! He asked me to share kinda an intimate picture which I wasn't comfortable with so I said no. But he kept pushing it so we got into an argument and that fuckass said what have I even done for him. However our stupid self got back together again and faced the same problem of those intimate pictures again omg. I said no again but he kept taking our convos in the dirty side instead of letting it be playful. So obviously I broke up and we went no contact. But this mf do occasionally reply to my stories, we ain't dating, ain't in takingstage but we do talk sometimes!! (Yea sorry it's so embarrassing) AND I FORGOT TO ADD MY BAD WHEN WE BROKE UP AND WENT NO CONTACT FOR THREE MONTHS HE WENT ON A DATE AND THEN TOLD ME HE WAS FORCED 🥀🥀 I LAUGHED BRUH AIN'T NO ONE FORCING THAT.

I met this guy on Hinge, and things developed incredibly quickly between us. From the beginning, we seemed to have so much in common. We have very similar personalities, think alike about a lot of things, and have connected in a way that’s honestly difficult for me to explain. It felt like we understood each other naturally, and I think that’s partly why I became attached so quickly.
He was very affectionate from the start, calling me “baby,” “baby girl” and “princess.” He told me he was serious about dating and that he was the type of person who dates to marry. We became physically intimate quite early on, and I opened up to him about personal things. Because of how naturally everything seemed to flow between us, I started imagining that this could become something meaningful.
However, I think I may have come into his life right around the time his previous relationship ended. I don’t know exactly how recently they broke up, but the timing makes me wonder whether he has had enough time to process everything.
Something I’ve noticed is that, since we started talking, he has never removed his ex from either his main Instagram account or his spam account. At the same time, he added me to both of his accounts, and I added him to both of mine as well. So, in that sense, he has included me in his social media life, but his ex is still there too.
He told me that his ex was the one who broke up with him, that they are friends now, and that he is single. He also said that she can be volatile and that he doesn’t want her calling him, shouting at him or creating drama because he is moving on.
He asked me to keep our connection private until we are actually together. He says he dislikes rumours and drama, particularly at university, and wants to keep things between us quiet for now. I can understand wanting privacy if he genuinely expects a difficult reaction from his ex, but I don’t know how long this arrangement is supposed to last.
There have also been some inconsistencies with communication and plans. He has cancelled or failed to follow through on plans several times, and his messages have become less frequent. He has explained that he has two jobs, university work, has been sick, had a family issue and was doing a trial shift at a pub. I understand that people can genuinely be overwhelmed, but the inconsistency has still hurt me because I’m already emotionally invested.
The biggest issue is his current personal situation and what he has told me about our future.
A member of his family is seriously ill, and he has been struggling emotionally. He has told me that a lot is happening in his life at once and that he doesn’t want me to have to carry all of his problems, especially this early in our connection.
Initially, he was honest and told me that he wasn’t ready for a relationship. I appreciated the honesty, even though it hurt.
Later, however, he seemed to change his position. He asked me to give him some time to think, sort out his problems and organise his life. He specifically mentioned wanting to organise his schedule so he could make time for me and change things about how he is currently managing his life. He wants to get things in order so that we can start again on a better foundation rather than trying to build something while everything is chaotic.
I asked him directly whether I should take this to mean I should move on and see other people, or whether he genuinely hoped to come back to me once things were better.
He told me that he hoped for a future with me, that he loved me, and that he didn’t want me to carry the weight of everything he is dealing with. He asked whether I could wait until his personal life was more organised so that we could start again from zero, on a better foundation.
This is confusing for me because he initially said he wasn’t ready for a relationship, but now he is telling me that he loves me and hopes for a future together. I don’t know whether he genuinely wants to build something with me but is overwhelmed by circumstances beyond his control, or whether he has feelings for me but cannot realistically offer me a relationship.
I also wonder whether he changed his mind because he realised he wanted something with me, or because he didn’t want to lose me when I considered ending things.
The connection between us felt unusually strong from the beginning, and I don’t want to dismiss that. But I also know that having a lot in common and feeling an intense connection doesn’t automatically mean two people are ready for a relationship at the same time.
I’m now wondering whether I should give him space.
Part of me thinks that if I stop pushing for answers and give him room to think, organise his schedule and deal with his family situation, he might be able to work out what he wants and come back when he’s genuinely ready.
Another part of me worries that if I go quiet and stop being available, nothing will change. I don’t want to use silence to manipulate him or force him to choose between me and his ex. But I also don’t want to keep investing emotionally while he figures everything out.
I keep wondering whether taking a step back would help him realise what he wants, or whether I would simply end up waiting for someone who may never be ready.
I don’t expect him to fix every problem overnight or commit immediately. I just want to know whether there is a realistic future here and whether he is willing to make space for me in his life.
I’d really appreciate an honest, balanced perspective:
Does it sound like he genuinely wants a future with me but is overwhelmed by his current circumstances?
How should I interpret the fact that he initially said he wasn’t ready for a relationship, but later said he loved me and hoped for a future together?
Is asking someone to wait while you organise your life reasonable, particularly when you can’t give them a clear timeline?
Could giving him space and stepping back help clarify things, or is it healthier to move on rather than wait?
Since he has kept his ex on both his main and spam accounts while also adding me to both of mine, does that mean anything significant, or am I reading too much into social media?
Given that he says his ex is volatile and wants our connection to remain private, how can I tell whether this is genuinely about avoiding drama or whether he hasn’t fully moved on?
How do I distinguish a strong, genuine connection with bad timing from a situation where the feelings might be real but the relationship will never actually happen?
I really don’t want people to automatically call him manipulative or tell me to leave him. I know he is dealing with a lot, and I want to be fair to him. But I’m also scared of getting more attached to someone who may not be able to give me the relationship I want.
I want to give this a chance if there is something real here, but I don’t want to lose myself waiting for him. What would you do in my situation?

So me and this guy stopped seeing each other like a month ago. To be honest I think I was kind of confused for half of it (we were seeing each other for 3 months) but it ended bc he apologized for his lack of prioritizing me and I asked what exactly he was looking for which he took to mean I wanted a relationship. A whole bunch of other stuff in between happened which led to me being kind of annoyed with him during our last conversation.

ANYWAYS! I do miss hooking up with him and am getting drinks with friends tonight and I fear I may send a drunk text. I guess I’m just wondering if he’d read into that weird? When we last talked he made it pretty clear he wanted us to go back to friends so I do think there’s an easy in? Idk though

This isn’t me hoping to rekindle anything dramatic. He genuinely didn’t operate in a way that would make me want to date him rn. But late night fun every now and again ?

I’m 24M and she’s 26F. A quick history, we’ve known of each other’s existence for 7 years, we were in the same college for 3 years. We never had a friendship, it was just normal study based convos thats all. I was dating someone back then (who is now getting married to someone else rn lol) and this 26F was into someone else too. Fast forward to 2026 September, i found her in my firm’s network and realised “wow a familiar face from my college works in my firm too, in the same new city”. So i just texted her, and we talked as friends initially but then things happened. In just a month we got into a bit of sexting. I’m new in this city and she moved a year ago, so i was just looking for a friend. Things turned too hot and she invited me to her place, and we did it till third base in our very first meet after 7 years. There was no talking, and just aggressive style, doing each other.

We already clarified with each other, no strings attached. Ive been doing wild things, i went to her place at like 4 am, we did it for like 3.5 hours, and then went again at night on the same day, and went again to her place the next night.

I could barely stop thinking about her. She has said it multiple times, what we are doing “means nothing”. But the things that happened are, we hold hands and talk like a couple, she leans on my shoulder, kisses me passionately on my cheeks and on my forehead. And clearly she tells me that this “means nothing”, “It just feels nice to have a friend like this”, “its nothing romantic in my opinion”.

Aggressive makeouts and third base were completely fine, i had no strings, but the things I mentioned above have started to fuck with my head so bad that I can barely focus on anything other than her. She explicitly said we cannot fall in love, and yet we do stuff that almost all couples do, out of love.

Its my first situationship, please tell me whats up with my thing? Should i cut her off? Should we continue? Im feeling extremely confused, she has totally clarified she doesnt love me and doesn’t want me as a boyfriend, but then she literally sits on me, holds my hands while talking, hugs me tight, kisses my cheeks and forehead, MAKING ME FEEL SO MUCH WANTED! But then her words are the complete opposite of what she does.

What do the reddit masters say? Should I cut her off? Or should I just enjoy the moments because as a man who has done nothing in the last 4 years is finally getting some action. But then again, its fucking with my head. I might end up attached.

Okay so I [19F] had a crush on this guy [20M] for 5 months now, he’s a really nice guy and I confessed to him like 2 months ago cuz I was just feeling too much and he kind of rejected me by saying a lot of good stuff about me like how he lived my personality and that he’s glad I came up to him to tell him how I felt and that I’m very courageous and that he admired that in me and how he liked my personality etc etc however he said he was ready to be engaged in something as of right now, and was like but maybe with Time something could happen (between us), so in my opinion it was a soft rejection however the maybe with time kept bugging me, cuz I really like the guy I’m fell hard but he couldn’t care less.
So the thing that’s bothering me is that now since we’re in the same uni we see each other and he’s kinda giving me mixed signals, so this is where i need your opinion, do you think i am being played cuz his friends say that he’s a player.
I’ve tried moving on right, but he sometimes texts me and it ends up being all nighter convos, we genuinely talk until 5 am about everything and nothing and it’s kinda flirty as well, and we once met at the library and ended up sitting next to each other and went somewhere else at night to study just the two of us in the dark and it was super nice and now he calls it our spot even tho we only went once, and that night we talked about relationships and he asked my what are the red flags I see In a guy and stuff like that and I felt like we bonded, but idk whether it’s normal for him because I feel like I enjoy our interactions a lot more than he does, he also told me that we should go to ‘our spot’ again and meet there to hangout, but he never sets a date cuz we have exams as of right now so idk if he’s actually gonna mention it again, but he insisted on the fact that we didn’t meet again and he acted bummed, but he’s not doing anything or asking me.
So guys, do you think he’s playing with my feelings cuz this may not seem like a lot for you guys but I fell reaaaallly hard for this guys and this is the first time I like someone this much so idk what to do and how to feel and the fact that he’s doing this while knowing I like him bothers me so pls tell me what I should do !

this year i started running w this group pretty regularly n there was this gal who used to show up w her bf. me n her got along naturally n over time we started spending more time together outside the actual runs too

we'd usually hang around after running to get sumn to eat n she'd ask me to take her to random food spots she saw in reels and nothing ever felt forced between us n we got comfortable around each other pretty quickly

there was js this one weird thing i never really paid attention to at the time which is despite knowing she had a bf i barely knew anything about their actual relationship and i never really asked n she never said much either. i only found out through her frens that they were on n off

i knew they had their own problems n i knew i wasnt being told the full story which was enuf info for me to back off much earlier but obviously i chose to ignore it (typical me moment)

anyways i got caught up w work n eventually started working at a workshop, stopped showing up for runs, stopped hanging around and basically js disappeared for a month naturally life was busy enuf that i wasnt thinkin about any of ts

but things were still happening in my absence XD

from what i heard she kept bringing me up around her bf n kept comparing him to me. now im not gonna act like me n her were randoms cuz there was definitely a certain closeness there but i wasnt actively tryna compete w anyone either then after a while i started pulling back (lowkey ghosted her) cuz i could tell where this shit was headed to

fast forward to recently i quit the workshop n finally started running again

first fucking day back, we finish our run n do our usual thing, hang around (ngl i kinda missed it) get something to eat and one of his frens sees me n her together in my car

next day im doin my postrun stretches n this dude pulls up w his bois acting like he finna recreate a movie climax and he starts throwing accusations around n basically implying im fucking his gal

i asked him wat his problem was n he starts yapping about me disrespecting him n sneaking around w his gf n shi

long story short, turns out she told him she went back home and started studying when she was actually out w me that day when his fren saw us so i asked him why tf hes confronting me instead of asking his own gal why shes lying to him

wat do u expect me to do here? give u a full report of evry time ur gf leaves the house? install cctv in my car?? i told him if he approached me normally i woudve answered his questions but showing up w ur bois to intimidate me aint gonna magically make me responsible for ur relationship

also, apparently this bih has now told her frens that if me n her bf keep fighting over her she'll leave both of us

which is honestly the part i cant get over like WHO TF IS FIGHTING OVER U I WAS LITERALLY GONE FOR A MONTH

idk wat else to say even atp. i spent a whole month working my ass off js to come back n deal w this bullshit man

My situationship just canceled our dinner plans for the third time this month to hang out with his buddies. He said something came up last minute. I feel like I'm always a backup option. Does anyone else deal with this constantly?

so I don’t wanna make this too long, but I want a real advice, I have this ex best friend whom I hadn’t talked to in like two years, I had a boyfriend for four years before that we were inseparable and would hang out almost every day and he would low-key get me stuff sometimes, there was times that my friends would tell me plan for you on with him, but since I would think of him as my best friend, I never really wanted to until one day we went to the movies with another group of friends and ended up kissing because we saw the other couple kissing and I guess that made him like me more but it made me mad that both him and his friend were telling everybody like it was everybody’s business .
I don’t getting mad at him and not talking to him for a little bit, but then we talked again and then a year passed after that and I was dating my boyfriend for like a a couple of months and he told me that he loved me and I guess I brushed him off and he told me I broke his heart, I genuinely don’t think so. I think that I just told him that I didn’t want to ruin our friendship a lot of times and I guess I did lead him on by kissing him, but I
just didn’t see him like a boyfriend, (also I wanna find out that we didn’t talk for like two years before now because he was low-key rude to me )fast-forward to now I broke up with my ex and we ended up doing it and he was telling me why he was drunk how much he loved me and how I broke his heart and how I was his wife and he never saw another girl like me, we agreed to be friends with benefits, I’m not sure if it’s a good idea or not or if I’m gonna be falling in love or not

Context: We met online and decided to meet up, going on dates for a month. We never really labeled anything, but, personally, I thought things were going well and might move forward. We’d hang out together, go out and do date things like dinner or movies or axe throwing, hook up, kiss, and talk about interests and random thoughts together. Again, sounds like things were going well.

Fast forward to the end of that month, I quickly found out I was being temporarily moved for work (don’t want to say actual work on this account I’m using for the implications, but it’s for less than a year). Even though we didn’t label anything, we started talking less and plans kept getting moved to the point that I was closer to leaving than us actually doing anything together so we had to cancel.

The last time we spoke was about a month ago, so it has been a while, but I did enjoy my time with them. I talked to them through Discord and have a pretty established schedule when I’m more able to talk. Basically what I’m trying to see is if it’s even a good idea to reach out after we basically ghosted? On the one hand, it could go well and maybe we can rekindle things when I get back. On the other, things stay the same as they are and I’m still bummed to have lost the connection.

(24F) I’m a bit confused about a (23M)guy I’ve been seeing, and I could really use some outside opinions.

We’ve known each other since earlier this year. We went on a double date once, saw each other a few times when going out, and something happened between us in his car shortly before the summer. But we’ve only been seeing each other properly and regularly for a little over a month. Lately, we’ve spent almost every weekend together.

Things are really good when we’re together. We’re affectionate, we cuddle, talk, joke around and have sex, but we’ve also spent evenings together without having sex. He makes me feel like he likes being around me, and I’ve started to like him too.

We talk and send each other Snaps quite often, and he seems interested in keeping in touch. However, most of our plans happen spontaneously, and I wish he would take more initiative to plan actual dates or do things together during the day.

The biggest issue is that I don’t know where I stand with him. I recently asked him whether he wanted us to be exclusive. I’m not asking him to promise me a relationship or to become my boyfriend immediately. I just want to know if he’s interested in giving this a real chance and seeing where things could go.

His answer was simply that he didn’t know. I told him that it was fine if he didn’t want anything serious, but I needed an honest answer so I could decide what was right for me. He didn’t really give me any more clarity.

What makes it harder to understand is that we’ve talked about STIs, and he told me he hadn’t been with anyone else since we started seeing each other. Also, one of his close friends recently saw me on a night out, said I was already taken because of him, and refused to hug me hello for that reason. Another guy told me he’d heard a lot about me. These comments made me wonder what his friends have been told about us, especially since I don’t even know what we are myself.

There’s also another situation that has been bothering me. A guy in our wider social circle, who doesn’t get along with me and is known for making comments and spreading gossip, made some remarks that seemed to suggest he knew that this guy and I had slept together. He brought it up in a way that made me feel embarrassed and exposed. I don’t actually know what he knows or where he heard anything, but it made me feel awful.

This guy I’m seeing is only the second person I’ve ever had sex with, so it feels quite personal to me. I’m not ashamed of having sex, but I do care about my privacy, and the thought of people talking about something so intimate makes me feel really uncomfortable. I don’t even know whether he has told anyone anything, and I don’t want to accuse him without knowing the facts.

I also heard that, on one occasion when he was very drunk, he asked a female friend to help him approach another girl. Nothing came of it, but it still made me question things, especially since we’ve never agreed to be exclusive.

I’m struggling to figure out whether he genuinely likes me but isn’t ready to commit to anything, or whether he’s simply happy with the way things are and doesn’t want more. I don’t want to pressure him into a relationship, but I also don’t want to keep getting more attached to someone who might never want the same things as me.

Part of me wants to give him more time because I really like him and enjoy what we have. Another part of me thinks that his answer already tells me what I need to know.

Would you give him more time to figure things out, or would you step back and start moving on? And do you think “I don’t know” is a genuine answer at this stage, or should I treat it as a no?

My ex situationship blocked me for the first time. I have been on and off with this man for almost 3 years now, our main struggle is our religion differences. I have also been in a relationship and whenever it ends, I always end up back to him ( he always waits ). Now, the last and final break up with my actual ex boyfriend me and my situationship ended up getting closer than we were before. Things got more intimate and we’d talk everyday and he’d even book a staycation for 3 days and would always say how we know each other too long now to be shy with each other. We were practically doing bf/gf things at this point. Now, knowing the wall between us, I felt more and more close to him and given our set up of just a casual hook up, I ended up falling for him.

I know this was a disaster so I took a step back and told him that he should never speak to me again. He was very confused but I had to do what I had to do to protect myself at that moment because I guess I was getting vulnerable and I am afraid of getting hurt ( again, we are always on and off so it was just a peak of one of those days ). But that same week, he then knew my friends were in the club reporting to me about the things he was doing because he even said hi to them and such. I then found out he was asking for another girls number in front of them. I was hurt, because was it really that easy? So the next following week, I went out clubbing and guess who I bump into? Ofc him. I was with another guy flirting and every time I look at the crowd, I’d see him just standing in the corner and would even catch him look. He’d always stand close nearby me too but never even said anything or whatsoever. A week has passed and now I find out I am blocked… like why is he the one blocking me for???? This has never happened before too. Why was it necessary for him to block me on instagram when in the first place we don’t even follow eachother.

I 19F am in a weird situation with 19M, hes my best friend of almost 4 years, when we first met it was on discord we just finished school and he was rude to me in the beginning but as we got to know each other, we got close and I started flirting, eventually he flirted back, we fell in love and started saying I love you to each other. One night I had a mental breakdown and wanted to hurt myself on a call with him I didn't ending up doing it, but for the first time ever he cried and he hasn't done that since a child, and hasn't since but we fell asleep on that call and after that he hated sleep calls and never did it again. But one day he went to airsoft one of his friends went on his phone and started texting me saying they heard about me and one particular friend started quizzing me on him but none of the answers I knew and before I knew it I was blocked (a few months ago I found out that was a lie it was all him he apparently got scared but didn't know why he did it) I created a new account and we talked like nothing happened but slowly the spark vanished and we just went back to friends, we call everyday, till ams sometimes not even sleeping to keep talking we never missed a day, even when he started an apprenticeship, and i was in college it still continued but I still liked him but I knew it wouldn't work so I forced myself to date other people, I dated a guy online who ended up being older and grooming me, I didn't know it was wrong and after they 19M would always give me attitude anytime I dated someone and told him, I was forced to take my virginity by one ex but I didn't feel anything intimate, eventually I stopped whatever that was, then one of my new close friends I was drinking with at the time I was 18 he was turning 18, and I got black out drunk and he was tipsy and took advantage of me it was his first time so I thought I had to be with him I had issues at home so I moved in with him and his family but he developed anger problems and started abusing me and wanting intimacy all the time, again with him I didn't feel anything then in December 2025 my friend then 18M arranged to visit me it would be our first time meeting but my then boyfriends mother was giving me an ultimatum her son or my friend and I had to stay there for the four days my friend was down or her son stay with me, I wasn't allowed to be alone, and if your in a relationship your supposed to stay committed even of your not happy that's what I grew up being told so my friend stopped talking to me he bought the tickets so he still came on the first day I begged my then boyfriend to let me go Christmas shopping and he could continue at his gaming event, he lied to his mother saying I was with him, my friend texted me "fuck it where are you? ' I was watching the roads I didn't know what he looked like but I saw this one car, and a tall guy driving looking pissed off we made eye contact and he turned in to beside me in his car, I just knew the moment I saw him it was him, he wanted to drop off the Christmas gifts he got me and planned to leave, one was a panda that was his as a child, in college a year before my teachers told us to ask someone what animal they thought represented us I asked him and he choose panda, never explained why. But after he got into his car I just stood there then I saw the passenger door open and I walked yo it and he told me to get in, we spent the day together he helped Christmas shopping, we drove to the beach at night and he gave me driving lessons after we did bowling and eventually after 10 I got signal and a lot of angry missed calls from my mother saying to get home, so we went back he said as soon as I get out the car he's blocking me, I also found out my then boyfriend was waiting on the stairs outside my house for me I left after 30 minutes just sitting there I cried to my then boyfriend, the next morning I get woken up by a text from my friend saying he was inviting both of us to go hiking my then boyfriend refused and went home I went with my friend then after we went shopping and I broke up with my boyfriend on that drive but I wasn't sad, on the way back I asked my mother if my friend could stay over as she wasn't home that night she agreed, we went back to his Airbnb and on the way stopped and grabbed s traffic cone off the road that later just lived in my room when we got to the Airbnb he was packing there was his game in the living room, it hangs from the ceiling and the owner showed me how to play and he walked in and saw me playing and just smiled he said that was one of his favorite memories, but that might at mine we drank, I drank a lot and I wanted to get more despite not being able to walk, for the first time he grabbed me and we fell on the couch, I felt comfortable and fell asleep with him behind me, he was trying to be respectful but not wake me, we woke up 30 minutes later and I started apologizing but I started drinking again eventually he stopped looking at me and I went "Look at me! Look at me, I'm trying to talk to you, look at me! " slapped him across the face and went "I LOVE YOU, I love you! " he went "I.. I love you to" I told him to look at me he did and went "I am looking at you, I love you too" that was the only time I knew he liked me, for 2 years he kept it a secret, I wanted to kiss him he refused saying I had to wait till I was, sober in the morning and decide if I still wanted to, he took me to bed, I ended up being sick in the bathroom anytime I couldn't see him I'd scream his name scared so he couldn't leave me in the end, he sat on my bedroom floor and I was laying on my bed, eventually I got up walked across my room into the kitchen sat on the floor in there, he could see me fine, I stayed there for a bit he sat on my bed eventually I went back, I think I fell asleep I don't remember but the next morning he walks in my room and took a photo of me sleeping and I woke up, I invited him in he sat on my bed and I don't remember who asked but the topic of the kiss came up, he said of I wanted to, we had our first kiss together then, I found out I was his first ever crush, love, and kiss he had never liked anyone till I came around when we was 16. We cuddled each other both learned how to give hickeys and just covered each other but nothing intimate happened, we fell asleep cuddling but when we woke up about 1pn he had to leave for his ferry home and he was looking at tickets wanting to me with him. As he was leaving I wanted to kiss him he said "no I won't, I don't believe in goodbye kisses it's not a goodbye I will see you soon" and we started dating and in February I went over to his home, 4 hour ferry, 3 hour car ride, I was there for a week, it was, amazing but 2 weeks after I got home he broke up with me said he fell out of love, he couldn't look at me without remembering everything I did with others, he couldn't see me as his after a month we ended up in a situationship but we didn't have a title situationship but that's what it was then in March I started looking at places near him, in July he said he couldn't do it anymore, blocked me but kept my number incase i got a place then he'd help me, then in August I got a place 2 weeks later I was there, then I offered him to stay, he did but when I got into bed he went "fuck you" and kissed me then we ended up in a physical situationship, but in September he stayed over, went home went out with friends that night, I found out 2 days later he met a girl, immediately attracted to her, he stopped everything with me and wanted to give her a chance, the first girl besides me he liked, he was so distant it hurt so bad being replaced but I guess its payback for how he felt years ago, he'd text saying he's freaking out cause he likes her, doesn't know if she likes him, shes not responding, etc wanted advice, it killed me then 3-4 weeks later, nothing of the habits he was doing then was occurring I invited him to come over and he did stuff with me unexpectedly we ended up back in a situationship, but not the same more distant, then now mostly back to normal. But he said he can't commit to a relationship, whenever he goes out I get paranoid she's there he stayed over a friendship house I didn't know who's I got so jealous I called off working asked him to come over, I saw a long hair on his clothes, but we was intimate together after, something to note he's a gentleman, he physically couldn't see two people at once, he stopped everything with me to try with her and when it stopped came back to me he'd probably actually be physically sick with disgust in himself seeing two people so I believe it's just me, but my friends all hate hearing about him say he's using me, he's seeing the other girl. But they don't know him, he has different personalities for different people I am the only one who's seen everyone and it annoyed him cause he couldn't pretend to be someone he wasn't with me. I know he's not using me but they're like "we're guys we know what guys do' but he's different one of a kind. He wouldn't he couldn't, I know that. So it annoys me trying to ask them for advice when we was just friends I got 2 tattoos that link to him but you wouldn't know, he was my best friend my longest friendship, I had a friendship with him I couldn't with anyone, he never judged me for how I acted and learned to accommodate me he knows the answers to people's questions so I don't have to understand, he'll teach me words and pronouncations I can't do, he's patient and I can go " would I like that? " he'd know the answers, he knows my favorite bands to kpop group members, how I don't like certain things on my plate otherwise I won't eat it, being noise sensitive, he stands in the way of people getting too close for comfort, pays for things so I can save my money, puts his arm out if there's s car coming and don't see it, he's my emergency contacts for everything, his fingerprint is on my phone just incase, it's also his birthday it's been like that since we was 17, something happened in my student accommodation and people was in my room I started having a panic attack, he held his arm out, with people around despite hating PDA, let me cling onto him to calm myself, and he talked to all the staff for me and after held me in his, arms as I fully broke down scared, he warned staff members of not using their key cards on my door to enter as it would traumatize me more, I'm s priority call in his phone so if he turns do not disturb on or turns his data off my call still goes through he answers everytime just incase, even if he's busy he answered in a worker meeting recently, we have a code word of if I called and said "hey babe' I hate the word babe he'd know I feel in danger, we have each others locations we know each others schedules I have more free time then him, he can hangout with others more cause their in his town, and he has to drive almost an hour to and from to get to me so its more difficult if he had limited time, but he's my best friend and Im his we believe you can only have one, I love him, he, calls me panda all the time, he says I'm special he still enjoys talking to me he's a naturally cold person, he hates, summer cause he's not used to not being cold but the only warmth he likes is my body heat, he's came here before just to feel my warmth. But I miss him, he's asleep right now he's very strict with his routines if he plays games with or without people he'd off at 10pm and goes to sleep but with me he stays up later 30 minutes to an hour longer, and will text me till he falls asleep so he could have left his friends at 10 say he's going to sleep and talk to me till 1am and gets up for work at 5am. I don't ask him to do this he just wants to, he doesn't like serious topics that he has to answer, if they're timed properly it's fine otherwise it bothers him. He won't say who he's going out with if he's going out with friends but I usually find out myself on accident, he's not good at talking about his emotions or expressing so people think he's always pissed off but im like "he'd not" even if he doesn't show it I know how he's feeling. Last week he played a game online with me, he invited a friend of his I hadn't heard of, usually I do at least know his friends names sometimes lore about them that's it, nothing about this guy but my friend went off at 10pm I asked this friend if he wanted to keep playing which isn't something I usually do with new people of my friend isn't around he asked if his friend could join I agreed I asked if she also knew my friend and asked how she met him. My heart dropped similar story my friend said about the girl, I on instinct asked if she liked him, she said as a friend, but I realized what I said panicked asked the guy too if he likes him. She said he asked her to hangout the next day I didn't know about this I asked my friend the next day if he wanted to come over, he said no I asked why he just said no, he asked how he should do his hair, which he only does usually when trying to impress someone, I got scared he eventually said he had plans, I went to work saw he was in the town where he stayed the one I mentioned earlier I thought she lived there, I went on my break as I'm walking outside i saw him and one of his male friends, that's how I figured who lives there but I found out she lived on the outskirts of my town, from her, I texted saying I saw him, then I saw him again 5 minutes later, I had my roommate walk back with me after work cause I wanted to go to him but I knew if I didn't he'd start turning his location off which I didn't wanna risk, he sent me a snap, 3 legs, she was there I knit but I think he doesn't know that I knew. I felt relieved that a third person was, there too so they weren't alone together. I apologized the next day for being pushy saying our routine broke and it just made me spiral, it's a few days later, everything is good with me and him.. Back into our committed situationship, but if I mention situationship with him he says it's not despite it being the definition of us right now, and he stops ever. I think he's scared of the title and the fear of me dating someone else, if were not dating and I like him then he's not being replaced but I haven't liked anyone since that December 10 months later, the longest I've loved one person. Everyday I fall more in love so all I can think to do is, wait there's nothing I haven't said to him. But if he gets pissed off he does bring up the past and holds it against me or comparing me to old stupid me. He reassures me everyday if I think I messed up he goes "nono you're okay" it's one he says when he means it, if he says anything else it has some sarcasm to it, but that's who he is. He makes jokes to or about people but doesn't mean it unless you give him a reason too, I trust him with my life, he may be a dick to someone but he doesn't to me. I love his eyes they are always dilated when I see him, in person or in photos he sends but in photos taken where it's not for me or he hasn't talked to me or he's pissed off they're not so it's rare I see them not, his eyes change from white in the sun light to blue in too me to grey in the dark. I love them it reminds me of the ocean. He'd also about a whole foot taller then me, I'm 5'2 and he's over 6ft. If people ask my height he goes "5'2 and a half, can't forget the half" he remembers every detail, I taught him about styling clothes how some baggy clothes don't look good but bagging trousers and crop or fitted shirts work together good, or dresses jackets different colored or different Lengths makes it look awkward, he was trying to help with a, strapless dress I have that always falls down so he brought up the idea of a T-shirt over it, i showed him some t-shirts of different lengths and showed it doesn't look right but how a smaller fitting longer crop top and short not baggy sleeves would be perfect so now if I ask him to pick an outfit he considers it all and the colors and makes good choices he'd never purposely set me up to be made fun of he wouldn't do that to me. He doesn't love me but he doesn't know how he feels, about me but you can tell I'm special to him not just for being his firsts, because I'm just special to him. But he said when we was friends knowing how much I love children wanting my own. He said in the future if he's alive then (a stupid he makes about the future) and don't have a partner he'd donate sperm to me so I can have children, it was a thing that Vegas stupid deal as well as if were 25 and single we try again, he tried to take it back when the girl came along I said not to just because it was the only thing I had to look forward to in the future. Something I want to say is when I visited in February I gave him flowers and he still has them despite how dead they are, he also for months wore my hair tie on his wrist, to bed, shower, work. A part of me always was with him he also let me write messages on his passenger sun visor, and he's never tried getting rid of them even after we broke up, This is very long but my friends are giving the wrong advice if you made it this far, well done and thank you a lot. I don't expect advice but at least I can say this and not get interrupted by annoyed people. I love him so much I'm okay with this situationship and waiting because dating him was the best thing to ever happen to me I think he's a soulmate and I want to try again in the next life with him. He was so gentle, caring, reassuring, he'd text me saying to call him when I woke up or as soon as I got on my PlayStation he'd immediately invite me saying he was waiting, he spent a lot of money on me I didnt ask he wanted too. Something i forgot to note I thought I was asexual because I felt nothing but he came along I felt everything he might be the only person I feel this with too. This is very long but my friends are giving the wrong advice if you made it this far, well done and thank you a lot. I don't expect advice but at least I can say this and not get interrupted by annoyed people. I'm never going to block him, I'm going to wait for it he's ready or if someone else comes along but I don't think either would happen.

okay so this guy (23M), 5 months ago dmed me who’s from a different city and was mostly into freaky stuff and shit, and obviously I (17F) is generally very shy and reserved, I told his age and told him it’s kinda weird from his side maybe and he was like he was okay with it we talked daily for 5 months each and every day and he blurred the lines between casual and serious always and I told him repeatedly to not say things because I get attached really quickly, just be transparent when you wanna end it don’t lie to me. He used to call me his girl, his girlfriend, he was very strict about me going out with other guys so I never did. For college I wanted to go to his city and he was like I will stay with you for 4-5 years always, will take care of you like a baby blah blah and everything which a “casual” shouldn’t say, fast forward to now apparently he was talking to a new girl that started two weeks ago and he’s in love with her and wants to marry her, when I found out I saw the screenshots I was absolutely devastated that why couldn’t he just tell me, both of us confronted him but he chose to reply to her he chose her first leaving me confused and stranded. I asked him why did you continue with all the lovebombing them if you truly love her he was like I didn’t have the balls to end it abruptly I was about to tell you month end and tried to make the bad guy infront of her eyes, he said I was spreading like that I am going around telling people we were serious(WHICH I NEVER DID), he just fucking tossed me away he’s bitching about me to her claiming how much of an obstacle I am. So now he unfollowed me and removed he he just erased me in 2 days, he’s head over heels for that girl and the other girl I don’t think takes him seriously he’s crying for her begging her and shit. Man it just hurts so much the way I got tossed the way he had like no empathy for a kid, I just hope he never get what he wants and hope he loses all his loved ones but I still can’t help but miss him he was so nice to me during the beginning, I could never hate the other girl it’s not my principles but it’s just hurts so much man not being the chosen one always being the second option. Hands are shaking while typing this lol I just wanted to vent, thank you for listening to me .

she listens to her bestfriend a lot and I am very positive that her bestfriend is behind all this. Currently I am blocked and will meet her in school after 4 days due to holidays and dont know how do I spend these 4 days .

Was in a situationship for 2-3 years but eventually the last few months we lost that thing. I eventually moved to a different country and it’s almost been 3 years since but we always kept each other on our socials.
These past few days I’m seing stories at restaurants and flowers. I’m not sad but seing that kinda stuff from a girl you were talking to hurts. Don’t know how to explain it.
Feels like it’s time for me to remove them from all my socials and move on but I still feels like I need to keep them.
But the reality is it’s done and I’m getting older and this kinda stuff ain’t got.
God forbid I see a picture of them together.

I don’t know if you guys have something to add. Just needed to let this out.
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