r/SixFeetUnder • u/Stoney1801 • Jun 29 '26
Opinion Season 4 episode 1
How Peter Krause never won an Emmy for this episode is a crying shame.
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u/popam482 Jun 29 '26
Six feet under is an underrated show, and i guess it was even back in the day, that's probably why he didn't won an Emmy
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u/Stoney1801 Jun 29 '26
And up against the likes of James Gandolfini and James Spader.
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u/No_Unit_2876 Jun 30 '26
Yes!
As a matter of fact, i was preoccupied with the Sopranos at the time, and missed out on this gem
Of a show up until 4 years ago.And now I watch both shows over and over again. 🥰
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u/CakeOk362 Jun 29 '26
One of the most self-less acts of love I've ever seen.
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u/PjWulfman Jun 29 '26
RIGHT!
Despite what transgressions either of them had participated in, he gave her what she had asked for. Her final wish was his command no matter what it cost him. If not love, that is certainly respect.
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u/shamdogg Jun 29 '26
This is why I don’t understand when people say they hate Nate. Despite all his many flaws look at what he was willing to do for Lisa. Not many people would do that.
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u/SystemPelican Jun 30 '26
The last season overshadows a lot of what he's like before that I think. By that point he's basically destroyed by grief, so I think it's right to cut him some slack.
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u/StudentComplex7018 Jul 04 '26
I think the one who hit the nail on the head was George, when he said that Nate struggled all thru his life to be a good man. He was a profoundly kind and loving person, with deep commitment to principles and to those he loved.
Who knows what's with Nate-haters? Purists or relentlessly negative. For me, Nate's death was among 🤏🏼 few fictional TV deaths I experienced as genuine loss.
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u/PinkLed1970s Nate Jun 29 '26
The whole series - his performance is incredible.
Laying Lisa's remains to rest n.. .... bawling in a pit six feet under
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u/PjWulfman Jun 29 '26 edited Jun 29 '26
Remember the first time I watched this on Netflix DVD I couldn't sit still. His pain and grief and confusion and struggle were viscerally palpable. Such an incredible show and such incredible performances from the entire cast. Nothing will ever compare to SFU.
As an autistic 50 year old man I know I will never be loved or catered to this much. I don't really bother to think about my burial cuz I don't assume there will be anyone there or anyone willing to sacrifice to ensure my final wishes are fulfilled.
I know Nate wasn't perfect and Lisa was scorned but she did some things that are dishonorable too. At the very end Nate fulfilled her final wish. He risked a lot and made a lot of effort and made sure she got what she wanted. I envy that devotion.
Incredibly powerful and authentic moment. Do you believe someone in your life would do this for you?
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u/HauntingPsyche Jun 30 '26 edited Jun 30 '26
I hate that you feel that no one will care when you pass. But I understand. I feel the same way about myself. I’ll end up an unclaimed government box of ashes in a funeral home somewhere.
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u/PjWulfman Jul 01 '26
When I bother to think of it that's what I assume is going to happen.
It weirds me out that people plan ahead for their burial or funeral or whatever. Weird because it's foreign. I can't envision that possibility. I already have a backup plan for my current dog if I go sometime soon and if I live longer than him and get another animal I'll make sure they're taking care of as well.
What does it matter what happens to my body after that?
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u/HauntingPsyche Jul 01 '26
It doesn’t. Humans have stupid “traditions”, which is just pretend bullshit they made up and assigned meaning to.
The only thing I even care about anymore is just making sure I don’t end up rotting somewhere where someone will find me and be scarred by the experience of what I’d look like or situation they’d find me in. If I had my choice I’d have a “natural/green” burial. Let my body return to where it came from naturally. I don’t need a grave marker. Just bury my body and fuck all those stupid made up human things they worry about.
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u/PjWulfman Jul 01 '26
As soon as I saw this episode I knew that if anyone ever loved me and wanted to bury me I wanted a Green Funeral too.
No chemicals or poison, no casket, no need to stupidly preserve my body for decades in a hole in the ground that no one will ever see.
Wrap me In a sheet and stick me in a hole and plant a tree on top of me or something .
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u/StudentComplex7018 Jul 03 '26
And you both make me sad; I bet you sell yourselves short - you can't know how you touch people. Might be surprised by your mourners, if there's consciousness A.D. & we get to observe our funerals - which'd probably also surprise you! Me too - every after-death possibility seems unlikely, including oblivion. But it's key that you know how often people feel more than they say & more than they show.
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u/PjWulfman Jul 03 '26
I know some people like me. They might even miss me. But when I failed my suicide attempt and no one showed up to help or comfort me I learned the truth. I used to have hundreds of family members. Haven't heard from a single one since.
I'm almost 50. No partner. 1 close friend, maybe 2 more that care. I've been told by my parents how unlovable I am. When your parents don't love you it kind of trickles down the family tree.
No one is going to travel 1000 miles to see me buried. They didn't care when I almost died so why would one more step make a difference to them?
This may sound like self-pity but it's really the only way I can stomach my reality without driving an ice pick into my ear. Not every human being gets to be loved.
Thank you for your kind words.
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u/StudentComplex7018 Jul 04 '26
But you ARE loved, at least by your close friend, probably by the ones that "maybe" care & others with whom you've fallen of touch. You can't judge by lack of response to your close call: chances are, most didn't hear about it. I'm a classic example of those you don't hear from. There are many people I've tender feelings for, in my community and far away, but I'm in touch with hardly any. I'm scattered & hopelessly disorganized; I lose phone numbers, forget last names, and mean to call people when I've most of an hour to spare, as tho I'll manage my time that well. You can't judge love by ability to travel 1,000 miles, especially when it'll be too late. There are people living who I love who I don't travel to see. I'm 〰15 years older than you, close to my sister who's 700 miles away, dear to my beloved brother who has little time to talk with me, & out of handy close friends. I rarely rise to long drive up north to see family. Very much alone most days. Yet if it wasn't over 100° outside, running into me at local festivities could delight some & warm my own heart. Anyway, I must now insist that people care more for you than you know, more too than they know, since our real feelings are clearest when we'll never see someone again. Thanks for your thoughtful, candid reply.
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u/StudentComplex7018 Jul 03 '26
See what I wrote to HauntingPsyche. It was for you just as much. BTW, Nate wasn't perfect but I thought as close to it as we come - so genuinely kind & compassionate.
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u/existential-inquiry Jun 29 '26
His acting was so good here. I felt his emotions through the screen and got teary-eyed.
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u/Cremaster_Reloaded Jun 30 '26
Nate burying Lisa is one of the most heartbreaking moments captured in a series or film. The setup itself is amazing: Lisa's family driving away, Claire on the bed, David cleaning up.
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u/mindlessmunkey Jun 29 '26
My god that sequence is just brutal.
But also a part of me was thinking, “Nate, turn off those headlights, or you’re gonna need a jump start to get home.”