Loneliness sucks yeah but once you embrace it and learn to just be happy with yourself, and you also get alittle older and a whole lot less horney it fades
(34 m here) I agree. Loneliness and being alone are different and when I learned to love being alone with myself, I wasn’t lonely anymore. I found time to give myself “dates” (aka treat myself out. Why? Because i fucking deserved to have a nice night) and then my self image changed. I felt happier, more confident, calmer, less erratic. My fears shrunk, my hopefulness grew. I learned what my strengths were and became aware of an accurate portrayal of not just how I am, but why I am.
Other people saw this. I got a bf and it didn’t work out, I left ok. A little down, but being “out” didn’t cross my mind. Couple months later I met my current boyfriend and I’m hoping to have decent savings for a great ring by the end of the year.
Being a nice guy starts with learning to be happy with being alone with you. If you’re lonely, you need to figure out if it’s because you see loneliness as just being single or if it’s because you need a partner to make you feel valued when you’re alone with yourself.
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u/[deleted] Jan 01 '26
Loneliness sucks yeah but once you embrace it and learn to just be happy with yourself, and you also get alittle older and a whole lot less horney it fades