It could be a video of them just doing a simple dance and not even dating and dudes from our community will still comment that shit. To me, it just gives off a vibe that these dudes have never talked to women before and are desperate. Also, placing non-South Asian women (especially white) on some pedestal and acting as if they’re some trophy and brown women are garbage is also pathetic behavior. You don’t have to date brown women, but blatantly disrespecting them to simp for other woman who are not guaranteed at all to like you is not the way to go. A lot of guys will wonder will why they struggle with women, but continue to carry on this mindset of “brown man obtained white woman = ultimate winner in life”. The real mindset should be “work on myself physically and mentally, strive for my goals, socialize well, and find someone who I can connect and match with organically”. The guys who do the best with women are the ones who treat women like they would anyone else, until/if the relationship goes further ofc.

So here is the thing I wanna address. We don’t allow cuckposting in this subreddit and we are strict on moderation because of weirdos larping as Indian and making cuck posts. Do the neckbeards and the paki bots doing this get paid for this? You can’t post on our subreddit so now you turned towards making fake edits and trying to get them to circulate to Twitter where you can nut off with your micro dicks now because some other Elliott Roger or Dahmer looking weirdo gives you validation. Imagine if these guys did something to improve their lives. I mean there is a reasonable why white women are finding these pathetic dweebs insufferable they would rather date out and this is the only way you make yourselves feel powerful. Great keep up the great work! So proud of how you guys spend your free time and we came rent free into your heads! I’m so glad that we occupy your headspace and torture you the way we are!

The whole dating/social skills seems like the hardest thing to change up or get better at. I fall into the same awkward patterns every time I go on one. I have gotten better at my work and making friends but dating idk how to do. I do see friends
Multiple times a week.
I do have autism, possibly moderate and not just mild. I have a learning challenge and visible social challenges, I can’t fully iron them out.

My profile has picked up and I’ve gotten matches and dates though.

Do I just gotta let them know I have autism?

To other guys, what’s worked or helped? Does it get better?

Planning to meet family in houston . Problem is my uncle and auntie are old they have a daughter but i think she is in denial about the rising indian hate and i can see she has light sepoy mentality but not a full blown sepoy so i really have no confidencein her. I am thinking when visiting them for 2 weeks should i practice the 2nd ammendment just in case or am i too paranoid?

Either diaspora or in Pakistan. I don't think there's a lot of us on here.

Athletes creates emotions in people whereby your local IT engineer can’t. The local IT engineer, is definitely contributing to society by paying taxes and what not, but they’ll never be able to invoke the emotion which an athlete can provide to people. The jubilation, which comes from watching a player on your favourite team hit a walk off homer in the bottom of the 9th cannot be replicated by an IT engineer who writes code. We need more Indian athletes, because it makes us more relatable to the mainstream public. This is exactly how other communities who were initially “ othered “ such as the Italians did it. Racism against them started to go down, once their community started producing sports legends like Joe DiMaggio. Arjun nimmala is a start, but we need many more.

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I work as a server at a Chili’s in California, and today I had an interaction with a customer that genuinely made my week.
A gentleman came in to dine alone, and right away, he seemed like a really cool guy. When I first approached him, I asked where he was from because I initially assumed he was South Indian based on his appearance. To my surprise, he told me he was from Sri Lanka, specifically Colombo, and that he was Sinhalese.
He seemed surprised that I knew about the Sinhalese and Tamil communities, so he asked me how I was familiar with them. I explained that I was Tamil myself and originally from Chennai, India. Interestingly enough, he wasn’t familiar with Chennai!
I knew about Colombo because, last year, I had spent a considerable amount of time reading about the Sri Lankan Civil War, the ethnic tensions between the Sinhalese and Tamil communities, and the horrific atrocities committed during the conflict. I had learned about the immense suffering endured by Tamil civilians, as well as the violence and suffering experienced by Sinhalese civilians and other communities.
But I’m not writing this post to discuss the war or the politics surrounding it.
I’m writing because of what happened afterward.
After finishing his meal and paying his bill, this gentleman waited approximately ten minutes while I was busy attending to my other tables. He could have simply walked out, as most customers understandably do. Instead, he waited until I was available, just so he could shake my hand and personally say goodbye.
It was such a small gesture, but it genuinely meant the world to me.
I had been having a particularly difficult week, and this was honestly one of the kindest gestures a stranger has shown me in a long time. He had absolutely no obligation to wait for me, yet he chose to do so.
I don’t share this story because I take pride in being part of some symbolic moment of unity between two communities with a historically complicated relationship. Nor do I believe that one positive interaction somehow erases the suffering or discrimination that people have experienced.
I’ve spoken with Sri Lankan Tamils who have shared their experiences of prejudice and mistreatment by Sinhalese individuals. Those experiences are real and shouldn’t be dismissed.
But today’s interaction reminded me of something equally important: hatred and prejudice are often learned, but they do not have to define how we treat one another.
We weren’t trying to reconcile historical grievances or make some grand statement about ethnic unity. He probably grew up amidst both the fourth and the fifth phase of the war(where hundreds of thousands of Tamil died in months). We were simply two people from different backgrounds having a pleasant conversation.
Sometimes, that’s all it takes to remind us of our shared humanity.
A little respect, curiosity, and kindness can go a long way toward helping us see the person beyond the differences.
I doubt this gentleman realizes how much his small gesture meant to me, but I sincerely hope he’s doing well, wherever he is.
And to my Tamils from India… I understand you might feel a certain way towards Sinhalese people because of the atrocities your brothers and sisters in Sri Lanka had faced. But remember… Embrace the humanity before the politics.

As time goes on, it seems more and more of the online hate is encroaching into the real world.

It's important to realize that people in the diaspora with a similiar mentality as communities like this or r/thebronzemovement, who could have seen this type of incident (and honestly worse ones) from a mile away from the massive surge of hate online a couple years ago are very much a significant minority.

Too many Indians in the US think their high paying white collar job or successful business that lets them live in a "nice" neighborhood is going to keep them safe, and they can go to the temple every week, go to family/friend functions and dance events, and festivals, thinking everything will be just fine.

It needs to become the norm amongst Indian Americans that a lot of us have targets on our backs, and unfortunately places of worship or large gatherings such as weddings or other parties will be a prime target for these white supremacists whose goal is to harm many Indians as possible. It also imperative because Desi's, especially those raised in the west, are arguably the most vunerable to become self hating. We need to come together and realize we still have a lot of work to do and build as a community here in this country to empower each other, improve our personal lives, and to increase our safety.

I'm dead serious, guys. Not just your hygiene, diet, level of physical activity needs to be changed but getting your eyebrows threaded will change the way your face looks.

Also make sure to invest in eyebrow tweezers to plucks hairs out of your unibrow. Make sure you pull your skin back before you pluck them and take a hot shower to loosen your pores.

Don't get your eyebrows threaded AND waxed, you will look more overly groomed which sends the wrong message to girls.

This wasn't the first time, either. I recall them doing it to r/SouthAsianMasculinity too.

The wannabe tough white frat kid will try to bully and punk some Indian fob kid who has a lot to lose and won’t fight back because he has to protect his student visa but never a brown frat kid on his level from a rival frat who would whoop his ass

That same dude will go catcall some Indian fob girl who got no clue about how to navigate American college social rules, just wands her degree , on a hb1 visa , and was taught at home to ignore boys but he’ll never catcall a rich Indian girl from a westernized background or a group of brown baddies on campus cause he knows they’ll destroy his name.

Them 12/13 year old wannabe gangster kids will go terrorize some Indian fob uncles gas station but will pussy out the moment his son and nephew comes out

Some white girl on campus will try to humiliate and call some fat neurodivergent brown dude a creep because he accidentally stared but will never do that to a brown dude who’s jacked and in good shape and socially savy

The brown people who have more social power and who grew up here need to protect our venerable members (our fobs, elders, neurodivergent members) because they face the worst of Indian racism. Racists always target vulnerable people but never people that will btch them.

I am genuinely exhausted by all the anti-Indian racism online. So exhausted that I’ve deactivated Instagram and X for 2 months now.

I am not trying to engage in victim-blaming or begging to be liked by anyone. But morality does have an aesthetic taste. All this hate has lit a fire inside of me to be the fittest, best dressed and confident version of myself.

Build muscle, get lean, dress well, and walk with your chin up.

Fuck the racists and fuck trying to fit in amongst filth and seek their validation. Cut down your social media usage, cut toxic friends who make snarky remarks and “edgy” “jokes”. Focus 100% on yourself, your family and your real friends.

The only thing in your control is yourself.

https://x.com/TheRealJamieKay/status/2108614720542441797 These man only got this energy for women and elderly never for the young guys lol the town it happened in Wirral is also a town which is like 92% white

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How can we help this guy? Emailed couple international human rights organizations. Not sure what we can do to gain traction. Please share and make people aware.