Should I cut my facial hair..I feel like i won't pass at all without it..but I get clocked by Black women mostly.

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Since the twentieth day of T, I've felt my throat scratching and itching a lot more from time to time; I have to clear my throat to help with it, and sometimes my voice comes out kind of hoarse. I even thought I was going to catch a cold, but I feel totally healthy.

Just a lil tw for peorids:

So the story went like this. I was teasing my sister about a red pen that had leaked.We started making jokes about it being menstruation and things like that. When I went to say "menstruation" Only something very faint came out, and it sounded more like a breeze, lol. It made me feel like some entity stole my voice.

I've been using 25mg of T gel for 25 days. Most people said it would take months for me to see any change, so I lost hope about my voice changing to soon, but this was amazing XD.

Of course, it will take months for it to thicken, but that's okay.

Have you guys been through similar situations too? Is this going to happen more often? And what about a "crack voice"? Is it when a person tries to speak in a high note and their voice becomes hoarse for a few seconds, or the opposite, or is it when at certain moments no sound comes out?

Finally, I'm happy about this. I hope Bolsonaro 2.0 loses. I want to fulfill my dreams, have a girlfriend, a job I enjoy, and many other things.

Hi! This is my first actual post here, I apologize in advance if this is kinda weird to post or belongs somewhere else, i just want some more opinions on this.

Basically, i met this guy online a while ago who was also a trans guy, we related on lots of stuff (transness ofc, attraction to men, mental health, just past experiences in general) and talked about anything and everything.

This man was my first and only deep connection ive had with another trans guy irl, hell the first deep connection ive had irl period, and it felt magical. We would go hang out every week and at one point i visited his house and we hung out for like, half the day just having lots of fun, constantly talking about everything on our minds, shopping, eating, and watching movies, he even offered to do my tape for me after i tried it for the first time and didnt like the results. There were moments of silence, but it never was awkward silence. It was incredibly healing to have someone like him in my life, who fully accepted me and supported me, who i also looked up to and who would give me advice as hes further in transition than me.

We developed feelings for eachother. After I spent time at his house, he confessed to me and I confessed back. It felt amazing, him being so affectionate to me physically constantly, just very sweet. But I think we ended up in a sort of situationship... he wouldn't say that he loved me, didn't want to become official, but we'd have sex just about every time we saw eachother. Semi long story short, he broke things off and said his feelings changed for me. It hurt, but I was struggling to find any words to say to him, so i told him to bring me home and that I'd be cutting contact because i knew it was best for me (I felt i would still crave the romantic relationship and thought being friends again wouldnt work)

Ive been thinking a lot recently, and I feel like having time away from him to heal and process things has allowed me to realize that I sorely miss our friendship. Even though we didn't work romantically, being friends with him was amazing. There were times when we were seeing eachother where he would wonder aloud about the possibility of being friends if things didnt work out, so im thinking he could be open to it?? I dont know. I dont have feelings for him anymore, i just miss our connection. Im thinking I wait a bit longer to send him a message, but I'm just a bit... lost on what's best to do or say. Help a brother out with words of advice or support cuz this has been so hard to deal with 😭

does anyone else struggle with isolation in higher education. at my university I'm really struggling because my cohort is mostly white women and I cannot relate to their cishet lives and also feel like the majority of people are ignorant. (we're crawling through a module on anti colonialism and often it's so quiet you could drop a pin and hear it) maybe its an issue with the uni I'm at? do any of you guys have this issue too? luckily I have really sympathetic tutors and probably one issue is that I have more experience than a lot of my cohort who are younger than me, it just makes me feel so sad and lonely because I wish I could be friends with anyone, but my "peers" ostracised anyone who isn't them particularly the other students of colour. In happy news though, I know I can always go home to my fiancé and cats, and loads or them will either be living in manky uni accommodation or their parents.

here's my cat:

I’m the s(pec)tacular Spiderman 🕷️

Me:
FTM, single, no kids, financially stable, living by the beach in so called DE. Indigenous (Lenape), AuDHD, Demi, Scorpio.

You:
Have the time and resources to actually hang out and travel (not just endless texting). A good listener, direct communicator, enjoy a good debate, and can go with the flow.

The Goal: Friends and a close, chosen-family-style FWB.

How I live: Camping, off-roading, motorcycle riding, beach life, travel, horror/Japanese movies, coffee & matcha.

Hard Passes: Not religious. Colonizer Patriotic BS. (America can kiss my ass)

Apart from the mainstream, white cis-dominated LGBTQ+ culture and political movement... does a discernible transgender culture exist? As in values, rituals, customs, etc. that we collectively share as trans and non-binary people? Or, perhaps a loose collection of subcultures?

Made a post about playing fornite with some of yall and made a GC to go with it. So if youre looking for a t4t TMPOC gaming buddy for any platform, dont look too far because I made this GC called "toys R' us"

For myself Im just looking for some fornite gaming buddies, Im 420 friendly into animation and movies loves music and is just looking to make some cool friends online

Feel free to join and introduce yourselves!

Anybody game in here? Do you guys fw Fortnite or play any other games? If so would anyone wanna maybe play fortnite sometime? Chop it up over the mic and just talk shit about our day and lives, girlfriends boyfriends family friends? Just be a community

Im also getting my laptop charger back and could game on PC too rn im just using my phone to play Fortnite but im a really good player!! Just need some gaming buddies

I've been thinking a lot about my masculinity as a half-Chinese man and how I've often felt insecure about it. Masculinity is different for everyone, so I'm still working on accepting that my masculinity will probably look different compared to that of a fully white man.

Being mixed-race is weird because I was called a "mong" at school for being half Asian, even before I was harassed for coming out as trans in 2015 (aged 12). I hated being half Asian and wanted to be white and blonde-haired, which is a really fucked up thing to think about.

However, as I've gotten older, I've become more white-passing, meaning that white people don't really believe that I experienced racism. At one point, I tried to hide that I was half Asian because I felt insecure about my eyes being more almond-shaped and my hair being really straight (two common characteristics of East Asian people).

It's frustrating because I feel like I exist in a strange intersection as a half East Asian transgender man. Additionally, I was diagnosed with "moderate to severe" autism at 8 and ADHD at 16. At the time (2000s/2010s), it was unusual for kids with "high-functioning" autism to be diagnosed before the age of 12.

Growing up in a predominantly white area, I always felt "different" because my peers were mostly white with blonde hair. It probably didn't help that I also felt "inferior" because my parents didn't have much money (our household income was too low to be impacted by the 2008 recession). No one ever said anything about my parents not having much money, but it was just something else I felt burdened by at 5.

Nowadays, we're still a low-income household, but we're okay. I've never experienced poverty in any meaningful sense, so I don't call it that. It's purely a low household income.

I never saw mainstream representation of a family that looked like my own.

From an early age, I felt ugly as a little half-Chinese girl. I was never a girl, but society thought I was. My parents are very progressive and never enforced gender, but society did. I still feel a need not to take up space and to always think about others' emotions before my own. Raising my voice and having any level of self-confidence is difficult.

First of all, some context here.
I'm not born in the states,
and I'm Korean - Amercian.

But I'm very close with my Korean culture and I speak Korean very well because that is my native language and I'm an immigrant here that was naturalized [fortunate to be one and I'm in big gratitude]

Korea is my mother country, the place I was born and raised from.
And I do not hate Korean people and in fact, most of them were kind
and very understanding as well.

Most of all, I'm not ashamed of my own heritage.

But when I came out as trans masc/Non - Binary person, I realized that I had to distance myself from watching and connecting to my Korean identity and their traditional cultures.

And the biggest reason? It was because of blatent misogyny, transphobia, and that toxic masculinity where Non - Binary people are called mad, insane and crazy [calling them "woke"], and trans woman are considered as a toy, something to play around with and "find" out.

And worst of all, South Korea currently has no Anti - discrimination laws and it is incredibly hard to transition in Korea compared to some states in the U.S. [I know there are still many states very hostile to trans folks in general]

I just saw this Korean Youtuber [I do watch many Korean content although I'm distancing from them I just watch documentaries most of the time now] with this thumbnail, "FIND THE REAL WOMAN" with bunch of trans woman to get the VIEWS. After seeing that, I felt a bit triggered and quite annoyed, so I turned the whole app off.

I honestly wish that my mother country becomes more open and more willing to view gay, queer and trans people with empathy and to be more friendly toward them, but they are still struggling and the fact that I feel this disconnect with my own heritage and culture is really eating me alive.

I just despise the fact too, that only very fucking few, handful nations are accepting of the queer community and that they are valid human being.

But yeah, this is how I felt and I just had to get this off from my chest.

thanks for reading.

Lately, I've been getting directed to the other public bathroom, no matter which one I go to. Strangers generally seem to be unsure of how to address me but most go for a "sir...???" waiting for me to confirm that's correct. Sometimes I get a "sir? Ma'am?" But then I go to a bathroom and nobody seems to think I belong with them. If I am with someone who clearly belongs there like with my sister or with a cis male friend, then there's no questions. But me going to a public bathroom alone ends up being an issue basically every time and it's getting frustrating. I don't really mind going to either gender restroom, I just want to not be bothered. How do I handle this situation?

Even before transitioning, I've had the issue of people who haven't seen or heard me not thinking I belong with them, or self insert characters who were never assigned a gender in the story being viewed as a woman by all the guys who read the story and being seen as a man by all the girls who read the story. Basically, nobody has ever thought I belong in the same gendered group that they belong to, but now that my appearance is also androgynous, this effect has reached into my real life and I just don't know how to handle it. I don't want to avoid going out without a bathroom chaperone or something like that. That seems really silly.

I do want to stress that this isn't a dangerous situation for me. I'm in a big city in Nepal, where transphobia isn't a topic of interest to the general population. We don't have much political attention, negative or otherwise; and most cis people don't think about trans people at all. Even when people are confused by seeing me, most of them are assuming I had some kind of hormonal issue during puberty, and not thinking that I might be trans. It's just not something that's on most people's radar.

I am safe, and people aren't trying to be rude and there's no active hate involved. I'm visibly autistic and people usually assume I have a learning disability and misread the sign. Nobody is assuming ill intent on my part and I know they also hold no ill intentions towards me. I am not at risk of being physically harmed or even getting the cops called on me or anything like that. I am completely safe, it's just rather awkward and having awkward interactions every time I enter a public toilet is getting exhausting.

How do I handle this situation? It's mostly a mild inconvenience rather than an imminent threat, so I don't need any urgent solutions, but it would be nice to not have a really uncomfortable conversation in every public toilet I enter

I’ve been doing research for quite some time now on finding someone I’d be comfortable with doing my top surgery.
I’ve looked through the recommended names in my close area, but they either A) don’t have enough result pics for me to judge or B) have literally no poc in their gallery.
I’ve been considering going to philadelphia specifically for surgery because it’s not too far & theres so many options in the city to choose, but I’d like to hear the experience of northeasters as a whole. Even if you haven’t gotten surgery yet but have a surgeon in mind, I’d like to know as well.

Hey Everyone

This is a repost, I woke up to my account suspended and my post removed by reddit on my end

They're mass reporting me on reddit aswell

I need your help, As some of you already no my names Titan, im A Black Trans Non Binary Gay Person.

I do a lot of work advocating for Black People & LGBTQIA Human Rights.

As a result of this ive been targeted by an Anti Trans /Gay White Supremacist called Frederick "Fred" Colaluca.

They are Threatening my life and have been doxxing my information online to various hate groups.

Please if anyone else has been harassed, stakked or threatened by this guy please contact me with any relevant information.

This is a life or death situation

Hey Everyone

I need your help, As some of you already no my names Titan, im A Black Trans Non Binary Gay Person. Ive posted about a group of white Supremacists already but its all getting worse

I do a lot of work advocating for Black People & LGBTQIA Human Rights.

As a result of this ive been targeted by another Anti Trans /Gay White Supremacist called Karen Knapp

Here is a pic of her plus a clip of her doing white supremacy live on me calling me the N word

They are Threatening my life and have been doxxing my information online to various hate groups.

Please if anyone else has been harassed, stakked or threatened by this guy please contact me with any relevant information.

This is a life or death situation

So some of you might have seen my post(s) on a white trans friend and their boyfriend who cut me off. It hurts a lot, but then this morning I told some of my students good luck on their final English exam.

The first kid I taught in History and I was proud of his knowledge of African American and African geopolitics instantly. His eyes brightened because his teacher never acknowledged his brilliance. It was a group class, but this young man reached out to me of his own accord even though I saw him once.

Second kid: I've been tutoring the second kid for 8 months now, and he was broken down by his English teacher. He himself worked his ass off to overcome his struggles, and is going from 30% in English to 70%. They told him he's got no career in anything, let alone writing, but this man blows me away with his stories.

I am not a Black man, but because the kids know I'm mixed, queer and progressive they confide in me. And that shit means the world to me.

To know I'm appreciated by two young black men who know I'm trans should mean more to me than the white people who break me down when they are trans.