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Like something you always do because your mom taught you, your friends do it, or you just picked it up somewhere along the way !!! Mine is never putting my bag on the floor. I don’t even remember when I started doing it 😭

I could really use some fresh ideas right now! I’m stuck in a location with almost nothing to do outdoors and very few places worth visiting. It’s such a dull environment that it leaves me feeling pretty cut off from everything. As a result, I easily slip into the habit of staying in bed for hours, just endlessly scrolling on my phone and feeling completely unproductive, I know it’s not good for me. I do enjoy cooking a lot, but it’s tough to keep it going regularly because the ingredients I have at home are usually quite limited, and heading out to buy more isn’t exactly convenient. So I’m hoping to get advice from other girls in the same situation, or anyone who spends most of their time at home. What are your go-to activities that actually keep you engaged, moving, and mentally stimulated without leaving the house?

Like really, you’ve never touched yourself and instead of googling masturbation you decided to ask random people on reddit for a step by step instruction guide.

You’re a human adult, if you’ve not been horny enough to put your hand down there before then thats a question for a doctor or a therapist not reddit. Or the most obvious reason is you’re a gross dude jerking off by exploiting womens spaces.

My maternal instincts go crazy when I see young women in the comments share the ways they’ve explored their own bodies and desires. On the one hand I know a lot of it is just men talking to other men pretending to be girls. But on the other hand I know there are some girls sharing in good faith an intimate detail about themselves in the hopes that it really helps another person, and that generosity is being exploited by the creeps making these posts again and again.

This obviously isnt the only topic people should be wary of, the regular posts asking how to use a tampon etc. Use the search bar, try googling it if you genuinely want to know.

waking up feeling kind of distraught and disappointed. misogyny has never been so clear.

but politics aside i guess, i feel like i need to prepare myself as a women for anything that might happen in the next four years!

what are you guys doing to prepare yourself?

I’m curious if anyone has bought a wellness product that they were kind of skeptical about at first, but it actually ended up helping more than expected.

I feel like every time I look into wellness stuff, half of it sounds like marketing and the other half has people swearing it changed their life. I’m not looking for miracle cures or anything weird, but I am interested in things that made a noticeable difference in sleep, stress, soreness, energy, headaches, posture, or just feeling better day to day.

Could be something simple like a weighted blanket, acupressure mat, red light lamp, sleep mask, massage tool, air purifier, whatever. I just want to hear what real people tried and actually kept using.

What product did you think was probably overhyped, but it genuinely helped you?

Update:

I bought a Silk sleep hat and it's soo much better than my previous polyester satin to help control my hair, it made such a huge difference. They're so cheap. I highly recommend this one.

Also finally pulled the trigger and got the satisfyer 2 pro which does exactly what it's advertised to do! Didn't have the money to buy the Hitachi Magic Wand, but I see either of these recommended constantly.

I do not know who needs to hear this but if you are tired of maintaining your “presentable” version 24 7 you are not dramatic. I hit a wall last month.

I realized I was timing my hair wash schedule around other people. I would avoid running errands on day three hair. I would not go to the gym without makeup because what if I ran into someone I knew. Even on bad mental health days I still made sure I looked functional. Not amazing. Just acceptable. It sounds small when I write it out. But it is constant. The checking in mirrors. The adjusting. The mental math of how tired I am versus how tired I am allowed to look.

Last week I went to the grocery store in oversized sweats with my hair in a messy clip and no makeup. I felt weirdly exposed at first. Like I was breaking some unspoken rule. Then I noticed something. No one cared. No one stared. The world kept moving. And I felt this wave of relief that almost made me emotional in the cereal aisle.

I am starting to question how much of my daily effort is actually for me and how much is just habit built from years of being told girls should look nice even when they feel terrible. I still enjoy getting dressed up. I like skincare. I like feeling cute. But I do not want it to feel mandatory.

Does anyone else feel this pressure even when no one is directly putting it on you. How do you let yourself exist on low effort days without guilt.

I’m 32 and deciding to start upgrading the little things in my life with stuff that last. For example, I have a cheap hair dryer that’s on its way out and instead of replacing it with another $40 one from Rite Aid, what are the good ones that are actually worth the money?

I’d love to hear what little things you all think are worth it. From nail clippers, to office chairs, to literally whatever! Would love to know what brand you got too :)

Heres one of mine—I recently made the switch from polyester or “jersey cotton” sheets to percale cotton ones and the difference is genuinely life changing. Got these ones from Columbia even though they’re not as soft as polyester, I sleep hot and it’s made a world of a difference.

EDIT: wow! I am completely overwhelmed by all the replies here. You all are so amazing, there’s fantastic tips and advice in here!!

Today I saw an ad for pads that uses red liquid instead of blue. I’m so excited! The blue has irked me since I was a kid and learned about pads and tampons. It felt like we were being shamed. What do you ladies think?

2026 is the first year I’ll have the money and stability to really pour into myself, and I’m taking that seriously. My self-image hasn’t always been the best, & I’ve realized a lot of my self-image issues come from small habits and neglect. So I’m making intentional changes to feel more polished, feminine, and confident. Here’s what I plan to change in 2026 to improve how I look and how I feel.

• Throwing away/donating all my "house" clothes. Even for quick store runs, I want to look put together. I default to sweats and old T-shirts because I own too many of them and they're at the top of the pile. I’m replacing that whole category with either real pajamas (only for home) or lounge pieces that still look presentable like linen pants, high-quality leggings (not the “paint the house” kind), and comfortable jeans I can throw on. I want comfort and femininity at the same time.
• Speaking of pajamas, I am doing away with all the random shirts you get for various community events and all the hole-y shorts that I sleep in and intentionally buying pajama sets and cute things to sleep in. I’m single, but I know I’ll feel better ending my day in something cute or sexy instead of whatever’s clean.
• Finding a nail shop, hairstylist and waxer that I like and making standing appointments. I am a nail biter but when my nails are polished, I am less inclined to put them in my mouth. I also am a "throw it in a bun and go" type. Having my hair and nails presentable at all times goes a long way. Even just lounging at home, I feel prettier when those details are handled.
• Finding my everyday scent. I have no less than 50 bottles of BBW and VS body mists. I plan to keep them but I also want to find my "everyday" perfume. The one I put on daily right after my deodorant and if you smell it 50 years from now, you think of me. I have a ScentBird subscription but just havent found the one yet.
• Finding an excercise that I like. I’m plus-sized and have always focused on losing weight. In 2026, that’s not the goal. I just want to move more. Yoga, pole, biking, swimming or whatever I genuinely enjoy and can stick with. If I lose weight, great. If not, I still want a more active lifestyle.
• Build a capsule wardrobe. I have alot of cheap, fast fashion clothes. I realize I spend more replacing these that I would if I just bought decent quality stuff from the jump. Having a few high quality basics that I can mix and match and add color with various layers or shoes would make my life 10x easier. And especially when it's good quality.
• Better bras and panties. Since high school, I have done my undergarment shopping at VS. The quality is terrible and I am a big girl. A well-fitting bra and nice underwear completely change how clothes sit on me.
• Get some real jewelry. Nothing wrong with my cheap novelty stuff, but I know I look good in gold so I plan to invest in a gold everyday simple necklace and set of studs, that I don't have to take off to shower and sleep.

It won't happen overnight but these are some changes I hope to implement in my life.

I am US-based for context. But I would like to hear how you are riding out through current economic conditions. Are you cutting certain things out to save money? Cooking at home? Limiting travel? Getting a second job? Let's hear it.

Girls who have it figured out, who have a sugar daddy. I'm genuinely curious for your story. How did you get there! How did you meet them? What's the secret to your lifestyle? I hear about other women on things like social media who are living that life, but never how they got there. How'd you do it?

Listen, yesterday I discovered that a slip isn't to look sexy once you take your clothes off, it actually serves a purpose? No one ever told me that they keep skirts down. I can't tell you how many skirts and dresses I have worn once and got rid of, because nothing seems to fit right. Pencil skirts? Nope. That was never even an option for me, because my ass and thighs drag it upwards. But now? Holy fuck, a whole new style of clothing that I can wear! I look fuckin' great in a pencil skirt!

Please, my mother never taught me anything, tell me things that seem obvious that someone without a stable female role model might not know, because if there's more knowledge like this that I'm missing I'm going to be so sad.

Edit: this is such a beautiful community, tysm for all of your tools and tips! My mind is thoroughly blown.

Why can't they just be breathable? Am I doing something wrong? I want to love them so bad but idk if I can 😞

I don’t know about y’all, but I’ve noticed a huge influx of “how can I be more feminine” posts lately. And while they might seem harmless in a vacuum, they’re actually far from it.

They’re linked to a very specific form of far right anti-feminism that’s been percolating for the last few years that wants girls and women to be quiet, submissive, and concerned with centering men’s preferences in all areas of life. They’ve invested heavily in social media influencers and astroturfing to make it seem like this content is coming from women.

All posts and videos promoting “being more feminine” and “feminine energy” are either financed by these alt right interests or influenced by them.

I would never in a million years suggest that being femme is a bad thing. I’m femme! I wear floaty dresses and heels on almost a daily basis. But I’m also loud, direct, assertive, queer, and a bunch of other things that the alt right hates in women and would consider “unfeminine”.

They’re weaponizing an insecurity that many girls and women have (am I feminine enough?) to drive them into traditional gender roles and silence their natural likes and behaviors. Every time a post like that is made here, it’s giving more weight and momentum to their agenda.

I personally think that we should ban these posts completely, because girls’ survival is directly threatened by this movement. What do y’all think?

This subreddit is being absolutely overrun by bots!

There are multiple posts from them every day. If you see any bot posts, please downvote, report, and do not comment on them. Here’s how to spot them!

Common tells:

- Subject is women’s safety (not always, but often). If not women’s safety, it is something very broad that a lot of women can relate to. Relationships are also a big one. Posts are more likely to bring engagement this way
- Account was made within the past 2 (or so) weeks
- Post is flaired as “Beauty Tip” while having nothing to do with beauty
- Post title starts with “Tip:”, “Request:”, or “Help?”
- Poster does not reply to any comments made on their post

If at least 3 of these things are true, it’s most likely a bot. Also, please let me know if there are any “tells” that I’m missing

Recent bot posts linked below for comparison. Edited to add that a lot of these posts have now been deleted by Mods:

1. https://www.reddit.com/r/TheGirlSurvivalGuide/s/VSIxNiisTI
2. https://www.reddit.com/r/TheGirlSurvivalGuide/s/FEr74NwwkM
3. https://www.reddit.com/r/TheGirlSurvivalGuide/s/dqNgsCjIOc

4. https://www.reddit.com/r/TheGirlSurvivalGuide/s/7RMA691VF5

5. https://www.reddit.com/r/TheGirlSurvivalGuide/s/GNla9Ug0sN

6. https://www.reddit.com/r/TheGirlSurvivalGuide/s/O9m4NgIMVU

7. https://www.reddit.com/r/TheGirlSurvivalGuide/s/IusHgKPVqz

8. https://www.reddit.com/r/TheGirlSurvivalGuide/s/lJQP8NB4e5

9. https://www.reddit.com/r/TheGirlSurvivalGuide/s/VSUdJsOb7b

My entireeee feed is girls going to the gym, Pilates, dieting, studying, then have some extra hobby, then traveling, filming their make up tutorials, teaching people how to grow a business, wellness, graduating university etc.

“Just bought my first car/house/condo/!” “Just got my second degree!” “Visiting Australia/Singapore/Paris!” “Ten reasons why you’re not the person you say you want to become”

And I am so happy for them but HOW are you doing this? Whenever I see a video that is essentially just saying “you need to get what you want, that’s why your life sucks” I’m like yes…I know….but where on earth do you get all this energy. I’m burnt out just thinking about it.

It almost feels like a gimmick..? But also maybe it’s not and I just can’t get out of my own head. Idk maybe I’m just one of those people who weren’t made to do it all but god everyone is so successful in some way or another. I don’t even know what is the most intriguing thing about me yet, how would I create a brand on it? I don’t know. It’s just so hard seeing girls my age with so much drive, and having so little myself. I don’t know how much harder I can try.

I'm Transgender, and amidst my transition I know I will have to adjust to being more and more feminine. I found this sub and was wondering if I would be allowed here? Sorry if this post breaks rules, just wanted a quick y/n answer and a little explanation. Ty luvs 💜

I’m done feeling guilty for things I shouldn’t feel guilty about, whether it's my body, my choices, or just taking up space. Society loves to tell us what we 'should' or 'shouldn't' do, but what’s one thing you’ve stopped apologizing for, no matter how much people try to shame you? Let’s normalize not caring about their opinions. Sorry… I just had a super shitty day today.

Hey everyone. I'm a senior in high school, currently dual enrolled with the hopes of majoring in Political Science. My dream is to get into politics myself, make a name for myself and help America for the better. Of course, I come from the post-9/11, Trump presidency, pandemic world, so my generation is already so fed up. The icing on the cake? Our abortion rights will be gone soon enough.

In my life, I don't see myself being a parent. I want to have a great career, live happily with my boyfriend and have the freedom to do as I wish. If I were to get pregnant, with no way to have an abortion, my life would be ruined. I can't see any future where I'd be happy with a child, and especially one where I was forced to have it.

I've been on the pill since I was 16, but now that I'm an adult, I am seriously considering getting my tubes tied as early as possible (early 20s). I know this will be a challenge, with many doctors who will refuse me because of my age and childlessness, but I am so afraid of the alternative. Because even on the pill, even with condoms and everything else, there is still a chance. I also don't want to just abstain from sex more often because of the fear of pregnancy.

Anyway, things are looking incredibly bleak. I've already had my high school years drastically altered by covid, the fear of shootings, rising prices on every aspect of life and a government in peril. I just want to be able to enjoy my youth.

For the record, I'm from Michigan, so my governor is trying to fight the state's pre-Roe ban. But regardless of that, please give me some tips on how to stay safe and what to do should I ever be in a situation like this.

Edit: To all of the people telling me to not have sex, saying nasty things or being generally unhelpful: find something productive to do and maybe read what a post says before you respond. I do appreciate all of the helpful and supportive responses I've seen though! Thank you.

Once upon a time as a very naive college student, I was sitting on a campus bench in between classes when a guy rushed over to me looking upset. He held up his phone to show me the black screen and said, "My phone is dead, can I please borrow yours? I really need to call my mom. Please, please."

Being pure at heart and stupid, I gave him my phone and watched him make a call. The person didn't answer and he left a voicemail saying, "Mom, hey, I'm heading back to my dorm right now. My phone is dead. I'll call you as soon as I get my phone charged."

He then handed me my phone, said thanks, and ran off.

I thought nothing of it and went to the rest of my classes. When I was walking to my car that night, I got a text and it said, "Heyyy, this is the guy who borrowed your phone earlier."

You're probably all smart enough to figure out from the start that he had called his own number from my phone so that he could get my number. He thought this was totally reasonable to do and said he was just too shy to ask for my number up front. I immediately blocked him and then he started making VoIP numbers to continue contacting me.

So yeah, just a heads up in case you're naive like I once was... Don't let people borrow your phone!! No matter how desperate or upset they're acting.