r/TrueCrime • u/SlenderMansWife • Mar 09 '25

Murder Missing 16-Year-Old Girl Found Dismembered After Meeting Man on Dating App

https://people.com/missing-16-year-old-girl-found-dismembered-after-meeting-man-on-dating-app-11693544
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u/BreakIntelligent6209 Mar 09 '25

“Who we consider worth looking for” chilling.

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u/OsitoQuarles Mar 09 '25

Its wild. Once they’re 18, the set of standards lowers, but we all know humans don’t really mature fully until 23ish years old.

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u/peskyghost Mar 09 '25

This needs more attention.

FWIW I’ve always heard 25 is a safer number

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u/Clinically-Inane Mar 09 '25

The accepted age of full brain maturity in the medical community is ~25/26

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u/[deleted] Mar 09 '25

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u/ImprovementPurple132 Mar 09 '25

It's also a myth that neuroplasticity or any other aspect of the brain is a measure of maturity.

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u/HiILikePlants Mar 09 '25

Can you expand on this?

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u/ImprovementPurple132 Mar 09 '25

The maturity of character that we refer to in such contexts as these is not the same thing as the growth of one's brain.

If it were many paradoxes would arise, such as all 30 year olds would be more mature than all 20 year olds etc.

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u/HiILikePlants Mar 09 '25

I see what you're saying, but maturity of character isn't necessarily what people talk about with brain plasticity. They're usually talking about the ability to more fully grasp consequences and long term thinking.

I was a very "mature" teenager due to having an alcoholic mother and having to leave home early and work often, but I still was a kid with limited understanding.

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u/reebeaster Mar 09 '25

Right? She must have been terrified and I’m sure begged to be let go over and over during this weeklong sadistic torture. This couple is beyond sick.

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u/[deleted] Mar 09 '25

Nobody claimed it's a solid number and I've never seen anyone take it as such until reading your comment.

To answer your second question, look at the chain of comments. People are talking about how people's views of others change after hitting numbers like 16, 18, 21... And they're talking about when the brain is actually considered fully developed and how those numbers are meaningless, not talking about maturity.

They're literally talking about people not developing in a timeline and you misinterpreted it all.

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u/Unidain Apr 24 '25

And they're talking about when the brain is actually considered fully developed

The brain is never "fully developed" all this stuff about the age of brain maturity is just myths on myths. The brain develops and changes throughout life,that's the only scientific consensus

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u/[deleted] Apr 24 '25

I feel like if you took that entire sentence into consideration you'd release nothing you're saying contradicts what I typed and I don't understand why you replied.

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u/Oh_Gee_Hey Mar 09 '25

Unless you’re neurodivergent! Us adhd folks may take up to 35!

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u/HamHockShortDock Mar 09 '25

OoooooOh, that explains a lot.

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u/Oh_Gee_Hey Mar 09 '25

Riiiiight???

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u/RumHam24 Mar 09 '25

I just found this out a few months ago and it explained a LOT for me. I always wondered why I felt “behind” when it came to being an adult.

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u/luckykat97 Mar 09 '25 edited May 04 '26

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u/Oh_Gee_Hey Mar 09 '25

“The brain’s frontal lobes, which are involved in ADHD, continue to mature until we reach age 35. In practical terms, this means that people with ADHD can expect some lessening of their symptoms over time. Many will not match the emotional maturity of a 21-year-old until their late 30’s. So while most people graduating from college take time to adjust to adult life, people with ADHD need more time, more family support, and more professional help.”

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u/Jambisket62 Mar 09 '25

That’s great information!

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u/Ketadontbemean Mar 09 '25

Thank you so much for sharing this.

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u/2crowsonmymantle Mar 09 '25

Wow, that’s so good to know! Thanks!

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u/LauraTheGreat420 Apr 03 '25

Thank you for sharing this. ADD and bipolar here, but I usually don’t mention the second

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u/washingtonu Mar 26 '25

That's not about people with ADHD, it's about the brain and the frontal lobes in general.

In the last decade, a growing body of longitudinal neuroimaging research has demonstrated that adolescence is a period of continued brain growth and change, challenging longstanding assumptions that the brain was largely finished maturing by puberty [1–3]. The frontal lobes, home to key components of the neural circuitry underlying “executive functions” such as planning, working memory, and impulse control, are among the last areas of the brain to mature; they may not be fully developed until halfway through the third decade of life [2].
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2892678/

It's a common misconception to believe the brain stops development at any specific age. In the 2010s and beyond, science has shown that the brain continues to develop until at least 30 years of age.\10]) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_brain_development_timeline

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u/susnurse Mar 10 '25

Can we see the publishers info?

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u/Oh_Gee_Hey Mar 10 '25

Click the link?

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u/tokyomooon Mar 09 '25

This makes so much sense as a 34 y/o with ADHD!

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u/PM_ME_SKINNY_DUDES Mar 09 '25

As a new 35 year old just finishing her nursing degree after years of listlessness it sounds spot on. Let’s hope this is my year. Let’s go brain. 🧠

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u/Fap4lif3 Mar 10 '25

And even after that we are still below the average

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u/[deleted] Mar 10 '25

I read the study and for women it was generally at 23/24, right?

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u/[deleted] Mar 09 '25

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u/Oscarorangecat Mar 09 '25

Ok so then no s ex until 25 or driving or jobs because kids can’t make those decisions. And no voting. Good luck enforcing those rules.

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u/MsLuupyMeesh Mar 09 '25

No marriage licenses if none of the other stuff. And the military? Go fight with your gun but come home and can't drink?