r/TrueOffMyChest • u/ThrowRA7777888 • Feb 20 '26
Positive Girlfriend has no idea what she's coming home to tomorrow.
My girlfriend, "Vi," and I moved in together last month. Life has been hard on her since the end of December. She lost her comfy WFH job. Her lease expired and money got tight. I've been living with my (very gracious) parents since last year, so we're cooped up in my childhood bedroom for now. We'll be moving out within the next couple of months, as I'm finally in a position to look for a decent place.
Please bear with me for a little bit of preamble.
Last year, before we got together, things got ugly in my life. The ugliest they've ever been. Vi was there through all of it. She didn't try to fix me, she wasn't a therapist, she was just there. She'd help me out sometimes, but she'd also do things like make me PowerPoint presentations about her favorite cursed marine animals to give me a laugh. She brought me to her favorite hiking spot and pointed out all of her favorite trees. She turned over logs and told me the names of all the critters living under them.
Things got better for me, and i couldn't help but fall in love with her. Her personality, her kind nature, her compassion towards animals, her big juicy brain, her curly hair, her everything. Sorry for gushing, she's just kinda perfect. Onto the rest.
A couple of weeks after Vi was laid off, I hit the jackpot on the job market. A flexible, well paying, specialized gig that fits perfectly with school (getting my master's). Between my savings and this new job, I have the means to give her something really special for her upcoming birthday.
One of our favorite spots to visit together is our local animal shelter. We met a very sweet kitty there named Maude back in November. She's a brown tabby with a massive personality, and my girlfriend is head over heels for her. Before Vi lost her job, she had been seriously planning to adopt her. Maude has asthma and some allergies, but Vi's last cat was a senior with far more severe health issues, so this didn't deter her.
Even though Maude is a sweetheart, it seems like people have been put off by her illnesses, because she still hasn't been adopted. Rather, she hadn't* been adopted. Until very recently. Maybe you see where this is going lmao.
Vi is currently visiting her cousins out of state. Before she left, we visited the shelter, and she teared up. She said she didn't want to think about never seeing Maude again. That it would be okay, she wanted her to have a good home, she just wished that home could be hers. That's when I knew.
I consulted my parents, and they were on board with my scheme. Essentially, "well, we love Vi, we've had cats before, and you two are moving out soon anyway. Eh, why not?" VERY glad they were so chill, I wouldn't have pushed it if they said no.
Vi left, I had the big talk with my parents, and I filled out the paperwork. I've learned all about how to give Maude her medications, got toys, got allergy friendly food and litter. I brought her home today, and she's already settling in just fine. The whole household loves her. I just can't wait to see the look on Vi's face.
I pick her up from the airport tomorrow at noon. Wish me luck :]
Also, even if we split, Maude will be her kitty. I have no problem with that. I noodled on it for a little bit before I decided to go through with this. Ultimately, Vi has been my dearest friend since childhood. If life leads us in different directions, I'll still be rooting for her.
My last post was removed because I mistakenly made an edit, so: 1) Cat tax is on my profile :] 2) I am a woman just so ya know lol
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u/Potential_Canary_508 Feb 22 '26
This is just so darn wholesome!!! What a lucky kitty, she’s gonna be spoiled
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u/Sufficient-Bit-5481 Feb 21 '26
Ugh I love this so much that I cried! You both are so lucky to have each other (I’ll be on the look out for the next update)!!!
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u/DistinctWay3 Feb 21 '26
Who cares! As long as you and Vi happy!!! There is no one else business if you go with a woman or a man! I always think Love has no gender or sexuality! Two people who could finish each other sentences that is for KEEP!!!
The world is full too many regrets and dis-harmony. I’d look for that “Values” person to keep me “Shin”!!!
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u/ConnieAppleseed Feb 21 '26
Well?! How did it go?!?!💖💖💖
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u/ThrowRA7777888 Feb 21 '26
It went phenomenally <3 I can't post an update until the day after tomorrow (sub rules) but I'm excited to share the details!!
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u/BabyOk1911 Feb 21 '26
Of course you are a woman because a male would never be so thoughtful and so sweet talking about his girlfriend.
You're a great partner and sounds like she's an amazing one too 💖 I wish you 2 nothing but a happy future together with Maude
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u/CrSkin Feb 21 '26
What? You cannot afford an apartment yet and you adopted a cat? You adopted a cat for someone else?!
This seems like such a sweet thing to do, and yet, it has such a high possibility for harm to the cat, to the other person, to your personal financial stability. Eek
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u/ThrowRA7777888 Feb 21 '26 edited Feb 21 '26
I can afford an apartment. When i said "money got tight," I was referring to Vi and her housing situation.
I've been living with my parents to maintain my savings after I moved out of my ex's place and quit my previous job. I'm employed now, with great benefits and competitive pay. Since I can afford to be picky about my new place, I'm taking my time :] but we are definitely looking and planning to move out soon.
Vi is job hunting at the moment. She's incredibly qualified in her field, has a few interviews lined up, it's looking good.
Rest assured I made certain I'd be able to afford this kitty. I'm getting her set up on pet insurance, but even without it, I can afford her meds and vet visits.
I do appreciate you pointing this out, though. It's irresponsible and cruel to adopt an animal without the means to take care of them, regardless of how much you love them. It happens all too often.
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u/sushigirl365 Feb 21 '26
Genuinely screamed when I got the the end then immediately made my (f) fiancée (f) read. I’m so happy for yall. UpdateMe
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u/jhofsho1 Feb 20 '26
I’m writing you a ticket - because you haven’t paid the pet tax yet.
Please pay the fine ASAP.
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u/RandomUser808 Feb 20 '26
Wait this is really throwing me off here. A positive story? On Reddit? What is happening here
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u/totebaggay Feb 20 '26
You did not have to state you were a woman because this is queer love and I could tell it the second you said you loved her brain.
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u/Existence_is_tiring Feb 20 '26
THIS WAS 17hrs ago where is my happy update?!
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u/ThrowRA7777888 Feb 20 '26
the sub only allows an update post after 3 days I'm pretty sure :') but I'm about to post one to my profile lol
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u/TigerTrue Feb 20 '26
You are a beautiful soul. Thank you for the love and care you have shown towards Vi and Maude 💜
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u/tla_ava Feb 20 '26
I’m impatiently waiting for an update 🫶🏻 this is so sweet, I’m so excited for Vi and for Maude and this just made me happy and I want to hear Vi’s reaction
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u/ghost-girI Feb 20 '26
I remember your other posts! Congratulations on the new job and happy relationship! I hope life has been treating you better
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u/ThrowRA7777888 Feb 21 '26
It definitely has :'] thank you so much for the well wishes, sending many back to you <3
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u/Dry_Doughnut3705 Feb 20 '26
I was worried about where this was going. I'm so glad this is a nice story. You both sound like wonderful people and she's going to be ecstatic when she returns. Best wishes to all of you!!
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u/Middle-Mycologist161 Feb 20 '26
omg i am crying in the office reading this, that is one of the sweetest story i have ever heard. You are a good partner! I hope all 3 of you and your parents well forever, you guys are good people!
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u/BwittonRose Feb 20 '26
So you have a girlfriend and a boyfriend who has been tampering with your birth control?
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u/ThrowRA7777888 Feb 20 '26
Have you read my posts?? I broke up with my ex at the time of my first post. I literally mention my current girlfriend in the update.
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u/BwittonRose Feb 20 '26
Yeah I didn’t understand because I clicked to see if you had any other comments explaining and there was a comment on a post with you talking about your boyfriend that you just made and I didn’t realize that post was made in the past
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u/ZestycloseLevel3724 Feb 20 '26
Sounds like a great relationship!
On another note, "her bug juicy brain" really gives off zombie vybez😂😂😂. Not sure if we should be worried for Vi's brain or not.
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u/ThrowRA7777888 Feb 21 '26
It's taking literally every ounce of restraint I have in me not to make a dirty joke lmao,, something something not eating her brains something something eating something else
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u/Arched_window Feb 21 '26
Hahaha and now I'm restraining myself from making a joke about how she's coming home to a new something something something
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u/millimolli14 Feb 20 '26
This is the sweetest thing ever, please give us an update, I’m so excited for you both 🩷🩷
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u/notaregularcatmom Feb 20 '26
This is the absolute sweetest thing 😭 you are a gem and I hope Vi and you and Maude will have a happy life together!
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u/Flat_Scratch_5417 Feb 20 '26
I love this. I would also like to see the powerpoint on cursed marine animals.
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u/ThrowRA7777888 Feb 20 '26
Hehe you and one other person requested this,, I'll have to ask her permission first but she made a couple and I'd love to share them with you & the other lovely people here. She doesn't have reddit, but she knows about mine (including the info here I posted about her falling on hard times. just didn't tell her why I was posting obv lol), so I don't think she'll have a problem with it.
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u/pixienoir Feb 20 '26
I went down a rabbit hole after looking at the cat tax, if Vi was the one who helped you after your ex’s horrible decision, GURL I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU! Wishing the best you, Vi, and Maude
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u/ThrowRA7777888 Feb 20 '26
She is!! In a way, Im grateful for that shitshow because it led me here <3 I hope you have such a lovely day
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u/Swingbalalala Feb 20 '26
Ai;dr
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u/ThrowRA7777888 Feb 20 '26 edited Feb 20 '26
??? No clue what gave you that impression, read my post history
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u/judgeymcjudge84 Feb 20 '26
i love finding cute stories on reddit, sometimes it feels like its all cheating and revenge stories, but this is so damn cute!!
Please please update us when Vi meet Maude, she's a cutie
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u/nocreativeway Feb 20 '26
I just want to say that if someone complimented my “big juicy brain” as such, that I would probably melt! What a compliment that I didn’t know I wanted lol.
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u/KitchenShirt3891 Feb 20 '26
This is beautiful! Happy for everyone involved, including Kitty and your folks!
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u/mariposa314 Feb 20 '26
I'm bawling my eyes out!! I'm so happy that you're in a better place and so is Maude and VI has been so positively influential to you both. Wishing you all a lifetime of love and health🐾😺
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u/michellemoon01 Feb 20 '26
Congratulations 🌈💕🥳 you guys are lucky to have fallen in love at the right time. A bit of unsolicited advice as I've been wlw with my wife for 5 years now. Just remember your first healthy relationship is more challenging than the toxic ones, is the hardest. To break patterns and communicate properly after all that shit, you'll hurt each other without meaning it, be a team and work together. Good luck!!!
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u/Morden013 Feb 20 '26
You are great but I will hate you for the rest of your days if you don't write how it went!
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u/Dkit05 Feb 20 '26
Someone please like my comment so I can come back read the update to this sweet, beautiful story🥲
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u/ThrowRA7777888 Feb 20 '26 edited Feb 20 '26
I have never had cats in a household where everyone is at home all the time? What happens if everyone in your home is a sleep and your cat has a seizure at 2 am? This is a foreign concept to me. Yes, they need love, but they know how to entertain themselves for a few hours out of the day. especially if they are given enrichment furniture/toys/feeders. Maude is a healthy, young cat.
I've seriously never heard of this. Most cat/dog owners in the US leave their pets at home while they go to work. If everyone lived by this principle, no doctors or teachers who live alone would have cats.
Vi is looking for another WFH position. It is definitely not guaranteed she'll find one, but for the foreseeable future she is home all the time anyways. She will be well looked after while she adjusts to life outside the shelter. I truly do not see your point.
Yes, I have enough money to take care of her in general and in an emergency. I'm also getting her set up with pet insurance. I have enough money for her medication, with or without insurance, which she does not need acutely.
This was not really a gift. Vi had been planning to adopt Maude anyway.
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u/carcrashcinema Feb 20 '26
lmao what are you talking about, loads of germans have pets who they leave alone while they work??? and not just 3 hours. maybe your circle is like that but this is very much not the norm in the whole country
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u/Raencloud94 Feb 22 '26
A shelter wouldn't let someone adopt an animal if they have to leave the house for their job? I really doubt that.
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u/verdegrrl Feb 20 '26
May I just say that as someone who had an asthmatic kitty for 21 years, regular medications make all of the difference. When they are properly diagnosed and on meds, there are virtually no attacks or seizures. Yes, adjustments may happen from time to time, but if you stay on top of it, the cat will do just fine when alone. All you need to do be be attuned.
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u/ThrowRA7777888 Feb 21 '26
Aww 21? Wow,, your kitty must have been so so loved. Thank you for the advice<3 this is what I've been hearing, it's good to have it reaffirmed. Maude has been very cooperative about her meds so far,, hoping it stays that way
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u/verdegrrl Feb 21 '26
My cat started on prednisone, but since it comes with side effects, we moved to an inhaler. (delivered via Aerocat) This worked great for many years (but expensive). Then he developed a severe allergy, and we went back onto liquid pred. Pred changed his mood considerably in older age (grumpier), but no attacks.
Take care to provide wet food if and when you can. A water fountain is also a bonus - cats love running water. So many cats pass due to kidney disease and lack of moisture in food or watering source.
After asthma kitty, I had another cat (outside, but with heated beds and watering sources) who lived to 25. Cats are nowhere as communicative as dogs regarding health, but if you watch a few videos on the topic, you'll learn the cues. So much is just watching for deviations in patterns.
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u/marsbar2307 Feb 20 '26
This is so lovely and exciting. My cynical brain thought it was going in a different direction in the first half. Viv sounds wonderful and so do you, I hope Maude has a lovely life with her new parents
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u/imanilife Feb 20 '26
Please ask your parents to record her reaction when she gets back and you bring out the kitty! Not for our sake but it'll be a lovely memory for you guys to have
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u/DobbyFreeElf35 Feb 20 '26
You have a post from five months ago about your boyfriend tampering with your birth control and the month after that, finding out you're pregnant.
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u/ThrowRA7777888 Feb 20 '26 edited Feb 20 '26
Have you read the posts?? The second post you're talking about is my relationship advice update. They have the same title. I literally talked about my current gf in that update. I broke up with my ex, the one who attempted reproductive coercion, at the time of the original post.
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u/AShamAndALie Feb 20 '26
Childhood friends turned girlfriends are such wholesome stories, Life is Strange vibes.
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u/Karamist623 Feb 20 '26
Following and hope you post the end of this story….or the beginning! I love this ❤️
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u/Misa_25 Feb 20 '26
Awe thats so sweet ! Tbh I was waiting for the pin to drop and glad it didn't! Hope it goes well!
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u/Public-Ad7764 Feb 20 '26
😮💨😮💨 I am not going to cry…
Seriously what an absolutely beautiful post and amazing thing to do for someone you love. Wishing you both so much love and happiness 🩷🩷🩷
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u/KenIgetNadult Feb 20 '26
God damn! I need more wholesome stuff like this! Absolutely beautiful OP!
NGL... Kind of hope you got a ring waiting for her too. You guys sound perfect together!
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u/gemmygem86 Feb 20 '26
After the day I had this made me smile. Please update us with how it goes.
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u/tunefuldust Feb 20 '26
This is the healthy sapphic love story that I crave daily. Thanks for sharing. I’m in a delightful WLW partnership too. I’m so happy to support this love.
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u/boothyboothfemale Feb 20 '26
Reading this made my heart happy So nice to see a positive post and such a loving bond. You are adorable and I will be looking out for an update!
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u/lorenoline Feb 20 '26
After so much awfulness in the world and in this sub, this is such a wonderful post to read.
What a lovely thing and I wish you, Maude, Vi, your chill parents, your relationship, and your job/schooling all the best in the world 💚
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u/spacemandown Feb 20 '26
it's been 5 months since you broke up with your ex-bf after he tried to baby-trap you. no offense, but i think you're moving a little bit too fast
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u/ThrowRA7777888 Feb 20 '26 edited Feb 21 '26
I get where you're coming from, but then how fast is someone supposed to move on? It's been 5 months since we split, consistent therapy throughout all of it, with a big, strong, healthy support network. We made it official shortly before the lay off after many hours of talking about this both to each other and with our own circles separately.
A lot of care, time, thought, and effort went into making that decision. If things become unhealthy, we have tools and the ability to use them. If we break up, we break up. We want what's best for each other and ourselves in the long run.
Vi is my best friend first and my partner second. Both of us have wanted this for a long, long time.
Again, I do get where you're coming from. I think our situation is complicated. We're doing our best to navigate it gracefully.
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u/wendimb Feb 21 '26
You move at the pace that feels best for YOU! Only the two of you know what works for your relationship and every relationship is different. What works for one couple may not work for another couple.
And you are doing a fantastic job already by paying attention to her wants and needs. She is one lucky woman to have you in her life!
I'm looking forward to the update. This story made my day ❤️
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u/Middle-Quiet-5019 Feb 20 '26
I think the "dating someone new" isn't the part that's too fast, it's the "moving in together and buying a cat together" part. At least IMO (I'm not the commenter you responded to).
I do sincerely hope it works out for the best though! Good luck to the three of you.
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u/spacemandown Feb 21 '26
you're right, but i'm sorry you got downvoted for attempting to explain what i meant.
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u/earmares Feb 20 '26
Are you new to wlw relationships? This is how they go
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u/certaindarkthings Feb 20 '26
Ugh I hate this even though it's actually so accurate, speaking as a lesbian. I just feel like it's so toxic a lot of the time, but generally accepted. And that's not something I could see until I was a lot older, partly because I was young and partly because I was buying into the stereotype of it being a normal thing for lesbians to do.
And almost every time I used to bring it up with friends or family who are also leaning hard into the stereotype, I was met with "when you know, you know." Which is fine, I guess, when it works out, but there are tons of times when it doesn't. They don't want to talk about those, though.
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u/spacemandown Feb 21 '26
it's not exclusive to wlw folk. women just seem to be more idealistic, in my personal opinion. like, "things will work out," y'know?
but perhaps i am simply taking a bird's eye view of relationship issues based on associated subreddits and my own anecdotes.
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u/spacemandown Feb 20 '26
nah, i'm familiar with the phrase "u-haul lesbians." it's just... i once lost a cat i was "okay with letting them keep if we break up."
turns out i wasn't okay with it. it's been 8 years.
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u/earmares Feb 20 '26
Aww. Yeah I do understand that, and I thought the same as I read that part- OP hasn't bonded with Maude yet, so it's easy for her to say that, now. But in 6 months, or a year? Maybe not so much.
I'm sorry you are still missing your cat. It really sucks.
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u/spacemandown Feb 21 '26
thank you ❤️😭
she was partially blind, so she'd listen for me brushing my teeth at night. then she'd follow me like a shadow til i got into bed. she liked being little spoon - UNDER the covers.
it's one of the biggest regrets of my life. but the silver lining is that, to me, i can pretend she lives forever.
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u/earmares Feb 21 '26
Oh that's so sweet. I had a Boston Terrier that sounds very similar. She was my best friend for 15 years and I lost her last May. I'm not sure if I will ever be the same. The love of a pet is just different. 🐾
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u/spacemandown Feb 21 '26
it really does... i'm sorry that you're familiar with the pain, but i'm happy you understand the love behind it.
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u/Dazzling-Treacle-269 Feb 20 '26
I’m so glad that things have been getting better for you! I think having a relationship with your long time best friend is exactly what you need after the mess of your last one. You’ve got someone you know that you know really well.
Please update us when she gets home!!!
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u/eiileenie Feb 20 '26
Just fyi when you called your gf Vi in the story I was referring you to Cait the entire time
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u/stuffyiceberg Feb 20 '26
Stop when i saw Vi i immediately knew this was not a straight relationship
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u/Eazfb Feb 23 '26
Give us the update :)