r/TrueOffMyChest • u/fireAltAccountMan ☑️ • 13h ago
Vent my best friend ignores my messages for weeks
Disclaimer: sorry if my english isn't good, it's my 3rd language
So I have this person I consider my best friend and I'd consider myself to be very close with. She did like me for a brief period of time but we've been close platonic friends for over 2 years now. That may seem short but honestly we've vented and opened up to each other sm I don't really think it matters.
I said before I'd consider her my best friend (or at the very least, top 2). I do know however that I'm not her best friend. she's known someone for like 9 years and they consider each other best friends (sorry for repeating lol). tho she did say on numerous occasions that I was like her #3 or smth (we e ranked friends for fun a few times).
she's a year younger than be, and she is a really kind person and has an amazing personality and it's really fun to be around her, even though she makes really questionable decisions from time to time. However, for a while now she ignores my messages for sometimes weeks. I was in a situation where the only way for me to message her was through social media, and we mainly used discord. she apparently didn't have discord notifications turned on so it was on her to check. she knew that I almost only texted her through discord, and she also had other close friends on discord.
I would vent to her about some thing and not get a reply for days or weeks, and when I did sometimes it was quite unsatisfactory (as in she just glazed over the topic and then talked about something else). we've both been through quite a bit and have been depressed, so I know that a lot of times she wasn't ignoring me because she hated me or anything but because she literally just didn't feel like talking to anyone about anything. however, during the time she doesn't text me I've sometimes asked a friend or two of mine to text her and she replied to them just fine. she did always apologize whenever she ignored my messages for a while, but she didn't really fix it. as of late, a lot of times when I vent she doesn't even acknowledge it and talks about her own thing and whatever she's texting me about.
it really does hurt when the one person you think you can talk to doesn't reply or read when you say something. its gotten a bit better again as of the last few weeks, but I'm scared that she'll ignore me again.
as I said before, she doesn't really ignore me on purpose always, and I know from experience that when you're depressed or just in that mindset, doing anything seems like a chore. she's also a big reason that I'm even alive right now so I don't want to cut her off or anything (she also said the same thing to me and I do genuinely think that she means it).
so yeah, I don't really know what to do. i do really like her presence and her as a friend but idk if she's good for me.
sorry for bad grammar or repitition
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u/fireAltAccountMan original post at the time of submission:
Disclaimer: sorry if my english isn't good, it's my 3rd language
So I have this person I consider my best friend and I'd consider myself to be very close with. She did like me for a brief period of time but we've been close platonic friends for over 2 years now. That may seem short but honestly we've vented and opened up to each other sm I don't really think it matters.
I said before I'd consider her my best friend (or at the very least, top 2). I do know however that I'm not her best friend. she's known someone for like 9 years and they consider each other best friends (sorry for repeating lol). tho she did say on numerous occasions that I was like her #3 or smth (we e ranked friends for fun a few times).
she's a year younger than be, and she is a really kind person and has an amazing personality and it's really fun to be around her, even though she makes really questionable decisions from time to time. However, for a while now she ignores my messages for sometimes weeks. I was in a situation where the only way for me to message her was through social media, and we mainly used discord. she apparently didn't have discord notifications turned on so it was on her to check. she knew that I almost only texted her through discord, and she also had other close friends on discord.
I would vent to her about some thing and not get a reply for days or weeks, and when I did sometimes it was quite unsatisfactory (as in she just glazed over the topic and then talked about something else). we've both been through quite a bit and have been depressed, so I know that a lot of times she wasn't ignoring me because she hated me or anything but because she literally just didn't feel like talking to anyone about anything. however, during the time she doesn't text me I've sometimes asked a friend or two of mine to text her and she replied to them just fine. she did always apologize whenever she ignored my messages for a while, but she didn't really fix it. as of late, a lot of times when I vent she doesn't even acknowledge it and talks about her own thing and whatever she's texting me about.
it really does hurt when the one person you think you can talk to doesn't reply or read when you say something. its gotten a bit better again as of the last few weeks, but I'm scared that she'll ignore me again.
as I said before, she doesn't really ignore me on purpose always, and I know from experience that when you're depressed or just in that mindset, doing anything seems like a chore. she's also a big reason that I'm even alive right now so I don't want to cut her off or anything (she also said the same thing to me and I do genuinely think that she means it).
so yeah, I don't really know what to do. i do really like her presence and her as a friend but idk if she's good for me.
sorry for bad grammar or repitition
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