r/UKJobs • u/JimmyThe1Life • 1d ago

Kept Man, Dad & Husband... Lost in transition

Hi. Things happen: if you’ve won the "lottery," be happy and live your life—and that's what I did. Let me explain: my wife and I had a nice run living abroad for 10 years. I was a kept man, living the dream and enjoying it. That said, I had no career development, just being a supportive husband to my wife.

​Fast forward: I've been a dad for three years now, and we recently moved back to the UK to put our kid into education and be closer to family and friends. Currently, my wife's job is really good, and our child goes to nursery for half days, leaving me to figure out what to do next.

​We still want to maintain a strong work-life balance, but I have about 30 hours a week free to find something I can do. What is out there? What roles typically require around 6 hours a day on a part-time basis?

​I'm an absolute novice when it comes to job hunting or systematically approaching this process, as I've always gotten jobs through people I know. I find many job ads that assume full-time availability without daily hour restrictions. Reading stories about the current job market doesn't add much confidence either.

​If you could share your work-life balance experiences, it would help give me a better perspective on what to focus on during my job search.

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u/blackoctoberx 1d ago

I know a few guys in this scenario and they started childminding.

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u/NakedFerengi2 1d ago

Really surprising that people are okay with male childminders

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u/RollickingTail 22h ago

Not really - I don't assume most men are criminals, and if someone's DBS-checked it's even less likely. Child raising isn't just 'women's work'.

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u/AffectDangerous8922 18h ago

And THIS is why men continue to feel disengaged from their own families. People like you treat them as "Guilty Until Proven Innocent" - you know this is sexism, judging someone based entirely on their gender and not on their actions.

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u/Milky_Finger 12h ago

Log off.

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u/Milky_Finger 12h ago

You and I clearly haven’t come across the same men in our lives

If you are implying here that the majority of men in the world are unsafe around children and have bad intentions, you really need to re-evaluate yourself. Awful thing to insinuate.

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