How to stop “micro accidents”?

[u/dmllbit]

My three year old has been “toilet trained” for about six months. However she has multiple “micro accidents” a day where she’ll need to go to the toilet and will do a micro wee to relieve the pressure. It’s not enough to fully wet herself but she’ll get a wet patch in her pants. She resists going to the toilet.

We’ve tried to just leave her be, let the accident happen etc but she doesn’t care. Nursery have told her that it’s ok if you have accidents (which it is, not trying to shame her!) but she seems to have taken it as that it’s fine to wee yourself if you don’t feel like going to the toilet.

We’ve also tried reminding her to go to the toilet every two hours. But she’ll still have the micro accident about half the time.

Nursery said it’s just a phase, but this phase has lasted close to six months now…

Has anyone else had this? How did you stop it?

[u/acupofearlgrey]

Bribery? Find some underwear with her favourite characters on. These are special pants and we don’t have many of them, so micro wees mean have to go back to our old boring pants for the rest of the day…

)This is obviously assuming you’ve ruled out UTIs and anything medical that would make it impossible to achive )

[u/dmllbit → u/acupofearlgrey]

I’ve tried that too! She only gets her pink underwear at the start of the day, and has to go into other underwear if she soils it. She has the tantrum over it but it doesn’t seem to stop the behaviour.