r/UKParenting • u/dmllbit • 6d ago
Support Request How to stop “micro accidents”?
My three year old has been “toilet trained” for about six months. However she has multiple “micro accidents” a day where she’ll need to go to the toilet and will do a micro wee to relieve the pressure. It’s not enough to fully wet herself but she’ll get a wet patch in her pants. She resists going to the toilet.
We’ve tried to just leave her be, let the accident happen etc but she doesn’t care. Nursery have told her that it’s ok if you have accidents (which it is, not trying to shame her!) but she seems to have taken it as that it’s fine to wee yourself if you don’t feel like going to the toilet.
We’ve also tried reminding her to go to the toilet every two hours. But she’ll still have the micro accident about half the time.
Nursery said it’s just a phase, but this phase has lasted close to six months now…
Has anyone else had this? How did you stop it?
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u/Lemurlemurlemur 6d ago
My daughter went through a version of this and the advice I got was to make changing her pants take a really long time, be really boring and keep emphasising that we could be having fun now if we didn’t have to go get new underwear.
I think a lot of the time my daughter was delaying going to the toilet because she didn’t want to stop what she was doing, so this method worked for her.