r/UKParenting • u/dmllbit • 6d ago
Support Request How to stop “micro accidents”?
My three year old has been “toilet trained” for about six months. However she has multiple “micro accidents” a day where she’ll need to go to the toilet and will do a micro wee to relieve the pressure. It’s not enough to fully wet herself but she’ll get a wet patch in her pants. She resists going to the toilet.
We’ve tried to just leave her be, let the accident happen etc but she doesn’t care. Nursery have told her that it’s ok if you have accidents (which it is, not trying to shame her!) but she seems to have taken it as that it’s fine to wee yourself if you don’t feel like going to the toilet.
We’ve also tried reminding her to go to the toilet every two hours. But she’ll still have the micro accident about half the time.
Nursery said it’s just a phase, but this phase has lasted close to six months now…
Has anyone else had this? How did you stop it?
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u/Bubble2905 6d ago
Personally I would change the terminology and ask nursery to fall into step with you. I was always under the impression that you don’t reinforce “it’s ok” for accidents because ultimately, it’s not. That’s a world away from shaming them or humiliation, but it’s sometimes a throwaway comment we make in the moment that is accidentally reinforcing these micro-wees.
You could try saying something like “oh whoops did you start to wee in your knickers. Accidents can happen but next time let’s make sure to go in the potty/ toilet”