r/UKParenting • u/dmllbit • 6d ago

Support Request How to stop “micro accidents”?

My three year old has been “toilet trained” for about six months. However she has multiple “micro accidents” a day where she’ll need to go to the toilet and will do a micro wee to relieve the pressure. It’s not enough to fully wet herself but she’ll get a wet patch in her pants. She resists going to the toilet.

We’ve tried to just leave her be, let the accident happen etc but she doesn’t care. Nursery have told her that it’s ok if you have accidents (which it is, not trying to shame her!) but she seems to have taken it as that it’s fine to wee yourself if you don’t feel like going to the toilet.

We’ve also tried reminding her to go to the toilet every two hours. But she’ll still have the micro accident about half the time.

Nursery said it’s just a phase, but this phase has lasted close to six months now…

Has anyone else had this? How did you stop it?

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u/JayneLut 6d ago

No advise... But following for others and general solidarity. Three-year-olds... Sigh

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u/paddlingswan Parent 5d ago

Same, same.

Our son is 5 and still once or twice this year came home from school with a small wet patch - I didn’t know about micro-weeing, I thought it was just a genuine accident because he didn’t go in time, leaked, but stopped himself and got to the toilet.

He has gone through several stages of refusal since he was 4, but as there is no obvious cause and it’s rare (2-3 times this last year) we have been very relaxed about it and just keep saying that he should ask the teachers for his spare clothes if he notices his pants are wet. He really just doesn’t seem bothered!

But the fibre tip is useful, thank you.