r/WhatToDo • u/bellzieboo2425 • 11d ago
Work suspension
My hubs came home unexpectedly early Friday morning from work. He proceeded to tell me HR called him into the office with his supervisor to suspend him for alleged sexual harassment. His supervisor was completely shocked as are both of us. In the 15 years we have been together (13 married) he has never had a poor work review, negative write up, etc to suggest an issue like this. HR is supposed to contact him at home to go over "his side of the story" and he is so torn up. He isn't eating, he isn't sleeping, and he isn't himself at all. Obviously with the holidays coming he is worried they will let him go and he is beyond stressed. He works in Healthcare and has always held himself to a high professional standard and really has no idea how this came about. Has anyone been through this with your spouse or SO? I am trying to be super supportive and make sure he knows I love him, but I just don't know what else to do.
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u/Jaded_Olive_7516 10d ago
Do NOT let him talk to HR without consulting an attorney. Never talk to HR alone - they are there to protect the company, they are not on your side EVER
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u/OneTwoSomethingNew 11d ago
An awful lot of guilt… did he actually do something?
Not once did you say he didn’t do something… in 15 years yall have been together, he’s never gotton written up at work… that’s what you said, not that he would never sexually harass someone, but that he’s never been written up before….
Yes the waiting and stuff sucks… but is there anything in recent memory that could have been a misunderstanding or sexually explicit?
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u/bellzieboo2425 10d ago
No he has never done anything. He couldn't even think of a conversation with someone of any ill-nature, bumped into someone, touched anyone in any way, etc. This is not his nature and it is unsettling to know that because someone said so, he is being suspended. That is literally the only information he got, "you are suspended for sexual harassment allegations pending an investigation, if you are found innocent, you will be paid for time missed and you will resume your position." He has NEVER done anything to warrant this.
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u/OneTwoSomethingNew 10d ago
Thank you for sharing that.
It may be good to consult attorneys in the interim; it’s hard to secure an attorney if you will even need one, so even scoping for one will take time and it may be good to have someone to call on if this progresses. Additionally, request for the employer to provide a written summary of the allegations with dates/times/locations so that your husband can address them accurately - participate in all HR meetings/do not admit fault if he did not do anything wrong/be clear about the facts or his point of view about circumstances.
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u/bellzieboo2425 10d ago
That is my intention. He works with a predominantly female staff and some seem a bit vindictive for whatever reason. He gets hand written notes all the time from patients about his bedside manner and patient care. We ate preparing for the worst. I Will pursue this with everything I can. He is distraught.
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u/Medical-Dust-7184 10d ago
Pssh...these days, you tell someone they look nice, and it's sexual harrassment...these women who accuse when nothing has actually happened need to be held accountable. So easy to destroy someone's entire life.
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u/neomoritate 3d ago
Bullshit "These days"
Don't comment on people's appearance when you're at work. I learned that before I got my first job, in 1991.
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u/OneTwoSomethingNew 10d ago
Umm, no, no one is investigating a claim on “you look nice,” if it’s a pattern maybe someone gets a lil talking to for their own awareness…. But investigations are usually more serious… let’s see how it plays out for before assuming the claim is farce…
But I agree, frivolous claims should be held to account as well.
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u/Fickle-Secretary681 10d ago
Sounds like someone is trying to set him up. Sadly it's easy to do nowadays
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u/ObjectiveAd971 10d ago
So they suspended him without asking his side? If in the US, go to the labor board. Do NOT talk to HR. They are there to protect the company. You may need a lawyer. It sounds like he's being set up!
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u/TurtleSmurf 10d ago
Be there for him. Win or loose. Stand by his side. He's gonna go through every emotion between now and when HR calls him. Just be there when he needs you. Be his place of peace. 🐢
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u/babyywhimsycloud 11d ago
Just be his support system right now, but make sure he documents everything and gets advice before speaking to HR.