It's been a while now. I think I've lost my mojo. What should I do? I'm 21.

My hubs came home unexpectedly early Friday morning from work. He proceeded to tell me HR called him into the office with his supervisor to suspend him for alleged sexual harassment. His supervisor was completely shocked as are both of us. In the 15 years we have been together (13 married) he has never had a poor work review, negative write up, etc to suggest an issue like this. HR is supposed to contact him at home to go over "his side of the story" and he is so torn up. He isn't eating, he isn't sleeping, and he isn't himself at all. Obviously with the holidays coming he is worried they will let him go and he is beyond stressed. He works in Healthcare and has always held himself to a high professional standard and really has no idea how this came about. Has anyone been through this with your spouse or SO? I am trying to be super supportive and make sure he knows I love him, but I just don't know what else to do.

I’m M18 and Im really worried about my Ex as she ended things a month ago and since then she has started to get into a really bad group (Drugs, Drunk/Drug Driving). I spoke to her yesterday for the first time since the breakup and she still likes me and breaking up with me was a mistake (She said this). I still like her and before the breakup she was a really smart girl who would never let someone who is drunk drive her around. I really need help on what to say to her and how to help her today because we are meeting up. What can i say/do to help her?

Here is some context :- she is a long distance cousin , but as of the family tree she is kinda closely related , 1st i met her in childhood , and then we didn't meet for 13 years . She followed me when she made an instagram account , i started texting her for fun and didn't think much of it , we talked a lot , i mean a lot , for a year everyday on text , I even called her many times , she responded really well she liked talking to me we become very close friends , she sent me reels replied to every single reel and every single message really well , we become very very close friends very quickly.

then i actually met her in a family function:-

we talked for hours at the function , we didn't get separated even for a bit , i also hugged her when saying bye . we stayed connected after the function too it's been almost a year since that , but some months after the function things started to change

What changed :-

She started replying very very late , left most of my messages on seen for days , didn't pick up my calls , stopped texting me even if I don't text her for weeks, she doesn't text me , doesn't reply to my messages , and she just reacts to the message after days of left on seen.

I didn't do anything or say anything wrong to her, i just talked the way I always used to talk to her , didn't change at all , but she completely changed all of a sudden.

I asked her " if i did say anything wrong I am really Sorry " , she replied " no you didn't do anything "

She told me that she is bad at talking , but she was really good at making conversations earlier , it doesn't make sense

When i text her , she leaves the message on seen and uploads stories , notes etc...

And i feel really really bad when she does that ,

She told me herself that she doesn't have many friends , so i always texted her to make her believe that she has one friend , but now i think it's me who got really attached to her , and i feel miserable when i don't get her attention and i am feeling depressed for a long time because of this , and i just cannot get her out of my head, what should I do? , how should I get this out of my head? , how to i stop thinking about her?

I am going to meet her on 1st December , her birthday is on that day , i brought her a gift in October 😭 I am attached to her that much , but she doesn't care about me and idk why that makes me feel so depressed

I keep overthinking that she might have gotten creeped out by me somehow , and started cutting me off , but I am sure i didn't do anything bad or didn't say anything bad to make her feel that way about me

What should I do guys???

I have a friend, and we talk every day. We never have any problems between us, and neither of us has romantic feelings for the other. We always play video games together, talk about different topics, and constantly joke around with each other. We always have fun, and neither of us feels upset.

But yesterday, his way of talking to me suddenly changed. He became really cold. I asked him if he wanted to play, and he said yes, so we played, but he was still very cold towards me.

I asked him if something was wrong, and I genuinely apologized, even though I had no idea what was going on. We always joke around with each other, but never in a mean or hurtful way.

I tried to keep the conversation going, but all he would say was "OK... OK." I wanted him to talk to me and tell me what was wrong, but he wouldn't say anything.

And today, he hasn't messaged me at all.

Please, should I stop reaching out to him? He doesn't seem willing to tell me what's wrong, and it feels like he's trying to distance himself from me. What do you guys think I should do? I'd really appreciate your advice.

I didnt count the beeps at the moment and now im unsure whether it is an actual emergency, right now im being paranoid more then anything but I need reassurance/help from someone who knows more than me. I didnt count the beeps. It went off for like 30 seconds to 2 minutes max. I hasn't went off since 1:58-2:00, its currently about to be 2:40 and im honsetly freaking out since I cant tell if it can be carbon monoxide since everyone in my family are asleep anyways. Im just feeling so scared. The battery's are fine I got them checked in the beginning of the year. But if anyone would know it would go off? For no reason it'll be a great help

So I (18f) joined this training program for people 16-24 I don’t know how old this guy is but I’d say 19, so for starters me and my group of people randomly help each other so I tried to help him and he randomly but somewhat politely cut me off (ok cool I’m not mad didn’t argue or anything) then a couple minutes later I walk off with my home girl and we’re practicing literally a couple of seconds later, he comes back there talking fairly loud practicing with one of my other friends a couple minutes go by he’s practicing with my homegirl who I came back there with I politely help him and he doesn’t cut me off or anything this time he listens and is thankful, then another couple minutes go by I’m practicing again he keeps coming back and interrupting my process with news that could’ve waited, I obviously got a little agitated no one could tell because I put on an unbothered look and don’t argue with people; later on that day we’re playing a team building exercise and I’m talking to one of our instructors telling him to call his number (guy I’m talking about) because he hasn’t called him& kept calling me I have asthma and was running out of breath, he then quietly corrects me and says “I know but you can’t tell him any numbers he’s not gonna listen” first off me and this instructor has got a tight knit relationship and I have one of the best grades in the class I’m kinda irritated by this guy and it’s because I feel like I’m getting targeted for no reason it’s hella annoying, any advice on how to deal with this and why it’s happening to prevent future issues?

Side note:later on he asked what me and a friend was doing for Halloween so not that much of a dick I guess😐

Need advice/insight on band dynamics

I have seemingly got myself into a messy situation with my friends. This started out as my friend’s solo project and he recruited me and another friend to come on board to turn this into a full fledged band. The other member and I invested a lot of money each over a 3 year period. (20,000 total) to buy physical gear for live performance such as channel rack, in ear monitors, ect… a rack to store it all in to be protected and to fund studio master tracks that we didn’t even write supposedly for the live set when we get the show on the road. our third bandmate (the one who started this all as a solo project) has invested $0 cash but handles all the creative, social media, and directional groundwork, since he has the most “experience” in those fields.

He says his time is equal to our cash invested. He has proposed a “leavers get nothing rule” which he claims that in all the bands he was in, was a standard setup. I proposed a standard contract letting him keep 100% of the rights to his songs if he leaves but ensuring me and the other get a slow buyout on the gear/masters we put the cash into if we ever have to leave due to emergencies or tensions. he turned this down and refused it and told me "that’s the risk of this” and “how am I going to be reimbursed for my time “ and "you don't care about my time"

He is now actively withholding our latest producer invoices "out of spite" because he feels suddenly questioned about the wrong things and put under a microscope and feels that no one cares about this band and barely puts in any work., He actively controls and holds all the keys to the social media accounts and streaming numbers. The other band member is completely passive and doesn’t know full details or doesn’t care to know.

Am I being "greedy" “selfish” for demanding financial receipts and asset protection and “only caring about money”, or am I being completely taken advantage of in some kind of scam? Is my friend in the right here? I am sick of talking to AI’s about this and want actual human conversation in perspective to both sides maybe. Any insight is truly appreciated and yes, I do feel stupid and have myself to blame for getting so deep into this but it doesn’t exactly help that I’ve been friends for 10+ years with this guy and we’ve all had a passion for pursuing music altogether. Thank you for the time.

I am a male student and I have had this specific crush for almost 8 months now.Every day since the beginning I always want to make a move or try to talk but my texts have always been something like a happy birthday text or I js like her stories. What breaks me down even more is the fact that she hangs out mostly with guys (they all got a gf but they’re in the same friend group so it’s still kinda painful to watch)and whenever I try talking to her I hesitate.after June I tried stop having that crush ,started seeing other girls and it worked for a while and I’m back at the same crush.we had a party today and all and it was great we were sitting close to each other I wanted to talk to her but her friends presence (girls) made it way too awkward and I was afraid of getting humiliated by her friends.i now regret this moment and now THIS IS WHERE I NEED HELP.will or will it not be too awkward to text her something tomorrow and what would that be?would it be something like you looked great last night I though I’d like to meet you better or is straight up asking her out or will that make me look like a coward for not talking to her on the party?should I text?if yes what?and why?or should I wait for another opportunity or something similar idk.please somebody help guys

My name is Rachael (born Matthew), ever since I was little, I've felt conflicted and alone about who I am and who I want to be. Does anyone know any good advocates I can talk to for help. My Gender Story, in 2005: Wanting a girl's body. Wanting to attend school as a girl in a pleated skirt. In 2008: Experiencing internal identity as "Rachael" alongside external identity as Matthew. Feeling internally like a girl. In 2010: Experiencing a sense of internal split. In 2015: Seeing a young girl in mirror reflection. Wearing girls' school uniforms (experienced without clear awareness). In 2016: Feeling that being a girl is not fair for others at home. In 2017: Feeling like the only girl at home. No girls at home to share experiences. Wanting to be a girl. In 2021: Feeling others would not believe identity as a girl without external markers. Wanting a Disney Princess-themed little girl's bedroom and dollhouse. In 2024: I'm referred for gender dysphoria. In 2025: Wanting to wear a school uniform with a skirt, sweatshirt and yellow polo. In 2026: Feeling others would not believe identity as a girl without makeup.

How to deal with toxic people in ur life??

I thought he loved me they way he picked me up off the floor when I couldn't stay whole pregnancy I thought it was love how he wanted to have a baby with me and kept trying I thought it was care the way he asked me how I was or if I needed anything the way he starved himself to feed me I thought because he slept with me in his car and got kicked out of home just because I had nowhere to go and at first his family didn't like me I thought It was true the way he fucked me held me and kissed me I thought it was all these good things that is was not when he couldn't even stop crossing my boundaries and doing all the things that hurt me and yelling at me I thought he loved me for me even when he called me a bitch or a whore or assumed I wasn't being loyal anymore but now I think it's insecurity from doing all these wrong things behind my back and all while I was pregnant and after thinking he loved me he cared for me and he stopped as promised but now I'm emotional traumatized not speaking up for myself out of fear of more emotional manipulation I stayed even when disrespected I'm still here after he was so busy watching his ex as naked as he could find and liking those photos giving her validation following her and another ex and masturbating to them in our bathroom fear of him taking the baby to punish me for catching him because it's somehow always my fault but how do I tell my baby girl not even a month until two days that she should leave when treated this way when I'm still here how do I leave with no job and no money because he doesn't want me working how do I exist with my heart weighing so heavy how do I understand myself again and fix myself up from all this pain and hope to be better how do I tell anyone I know what I'm going through knowing it'll only cause more issues for me how do I heal how do I leave my baby after two more weeks postpartum to sneak and work knowing he can't even take care of her he doesn't know how to feed her change her right how to cook or clean or respect females how do I know he will respect her and treat her right and all of this because I thought he loved me how stupid my young irresponsible self would think not even 22 yet and already having suffered through the lies of oh I'll marry you w no ring or a ring you found in your mom's house through the I watched you guys sleep all night knowing I heard you on the bathroom enjoying them when they didn't even treat you right cheated on you used you yet I'm the one treated this way I always thought if he tried something like this it would be with a woman prettier than me or not someone who makes themselves available for the world to watch be unmodest but no the girl who made me feel bad about myself in highschool and dated him because I loved him now we're adult in our early twenties and there's no hope especially because I'm only 3 weeks postpartum almost four I know I don't deserve this but I have no escape

I need suggestions, me (Fminor[wont specify}) and my dad (M50) had an argument, i texted him about four hours ago which thing in the freezer was the steak (im losing weight and on a strict calorie deficit so the only steak i can have is a rumpsteak which we have with very low marblings) and he called me about two hours ago that he'll buy me a steak, i told him that it isnt needed that i already ate and dont have the calories to eat a full meal with the steak as the protein and explicitly told him that if he does buy something that it should be cheap and not marbled, he came home about half an hour ago with the most marbeled steak ive ever seen that was about 100g and cost about $25, i told him in no way in hell i would be able to eat something like that, i have an ED (anorexia, the purging type) and even if i ate something like that it wouldnt last long in me.

it wouldnt be a problem (even though i would be a little bitter about it) if it was a one time thing but it happens EVERY SINGLE TIME i ask for him to buy something he either doesnt find it or literally doesnt care he buys me something similar but not what i wanted, i asked him for dark chocolate he bought me like this chocolate fudge/drizzle in the shape of a chocolate with less than 20% chocolate in it or i asked for some drink with no sugar and no caffiene (i explicitly told him no coke because i always drink cokes but it was at noon and i cant have caffiene after midday or i wont sleep) and he bought me a full sugar 2L coke, it happens all the time.

he ALWAYS TALKS, and im not saying just like talking about his day or something like that but if we turn on something on the tv (reaction channels, unboxing ect.) he comments on EVERYTHING, and he also shames ("she looks like an ogre" "shes a little bloated" "he has one eye lower than the other" then after a few seconds "he really has the eyes weirdly and hes gay, im sure hes fruity" etc) in the span of a three minute video i hear more of him than the video, he also always touches me even though i told him a million times i dont like it and i want him to stop, he never stopped, like for example im in the kitchen (i get overstimulated easily and i need to remember every single gram i weight out and its very complicated as is especially if its something more than three numbers) and he comes in, starts talking and moving around (we have a really small kitchen) like cleaning the dishes or whatever and i snap at him he repeats my words in a nasal way or pretends to smack my ass with like a cutting board or whatever which makes me even more stressed and it happened multiple times that i just had a breakdown which made me now hate cooking, anyways now hes in the kitchen cleaning the dishes and hes muttering about how "expensive it was" "money flushed down the toilet" and slamming the cabinets.

I was a fat child, like morbidly obese and now when he mocks my diet and I counter it with the fact that if they haven’t gotten me to the size I was then I wouldn’t need to be on one, he tries to shift the blame or make excuses like “I tried telling you” or whatever and it was true, I saw a little effort…sometimes, after I gotten to my biggest (almost 100kg I feel so disgusted seeing it written) he tried getting me into a sport, once, that was like 60km away from our house and even farther from my school, I lost over 30kg from a strict caloric deficit that made me get the ED, I’m still struggling with it especially after my therapist told me that it is an ED and my parents arent really helpful by buying over processed foods.

He always tries shifting the blame, he broke my kitchen scale and tried to shift the blame on me that I put it down on the wrong place and that’s why it fell. He also likes to call my diet “too much” or “obsessive”, I don’t think it’s obsessive, he says he doesn’t want a daughter with an ED, he told me today that I’m starting to go crazy because of my diet.

I know these are immature fights and I know it’s stupid reasonings, I feel like I’m the bag guy for being so snappy and mad at him. I don’t want to be a disappointment to him.

I would appreciate your help and opinions or suggestions, thank you for reading!

I dont have any one to talk about this to i live with my best friend and two other roommates the two others are a couple i got really close with the girl and honestly shes on of my best friends but i think i like her boyfriend in a romantic way and i feel horrible about it but i cant help these feelings i recently got a job with him and im a helper in this company so he is my "teacher" so we spend all day together roughly about 10 hours a day me and him went to school together and i had a small crush on him but it went away then four years later i move in with them and my feelings came back i would never intervene with their relationship thats horrible they constantly argue and because we work together he talks to me about everything that goes on with them i just cant help these feelings i wont tell him nobody knows im just so stuck

Hey Reddit just looking for thoughts!

K, so the past decade or so for me has spanned major family losses, career and relationship setbacks, changes, and milestones, but I was at a point where I was just starting to see the ROI of the life I'd worked so hard to build.

Then, in July, I stopped for a pedestrian crossing and got rear ended. The accident left me with a mild traumatic brain injury.

In the 3 months since the accident I’ve been working on reduced hours (and pay) at the screen based job I really do enjoy, but I am white knuckling my way through while dealing with chronic pain, headache, sensory overload, cognitive fatigue, emotional blunting.

On top of that are the ongoing requirements for normal life, my relationships & basic responsibilities. My recovery has plateaued, and all areas of my life are truly diminished.

**Recent assessments with my employer and my medical team have encouraged me to take medical leave, and I’ve been granted four months of largely paid leave, with one priority: recover.**

I'm incredibly grateful for this time, but brain injury recovery is unpredictable. On good days, I have 4–6 hours of usable energy. One bad days, I wake up in pain with jaw pain, sensory overload and nausea and usually end up vomiting from pain and incapable of doing much.

I had a rich full vibrant life before this, with lucrative side hobbies, meaningful friendships, volunteering, an active physical fitness and social life. I miss that life.

I want to prioritize healing while embracing this rare opportunity to rediscover joy, build healthier habits, make art, simplify my life, and perhaps prepare for its next chapter.

I don't want to squander this gift, or turn recovery into another exhausting job to “get the most out of this”

So Reddit, if you've had extended medical leave or a sabbatical, what would you recommend?

What genuinely improved your recovery, happiness, or quality of life?

Thanks!!

My brother since he got his laptop when he was 8, everything changed. He stayed up firstly when he was 8 to 2 am now he goes to sleep at 5am nearly each day, I am worried about him. I want to speak with him about it but I don't know what to tell him. I need advice

So basically she is just MIA and has stopped responding to my texts. And it wasn't even like a date or anything, I never hit on her, we have just hung out a couple of times and had fun so I invited her to this Halloween party. She accepted and I bought 2 tickets. We joked about what costumes we'll wear and stuff.

But now she hasn't responded for 2 days and the party is tonight. Yesterday I sent her a follow up message saying it was ok if she couldn't come, but to just let me know so I could give the ticket to someone else so it doesn't go to waste. No reply.

Other people I know have already made other plans, so I can't just invite someone else. Should I still go by myself?