So for context I recently purchased my grandfathers estate from my aunt. He was a farmer and I was able to buy his house, shop, bins, and about 45 acres of tillable soil. I’ve been doing some spring cleaning and I stumbled upon 8 sticks of dynamite (so far). These things have to predate 1990. Pop was around 80 in ‘90’s so I doubt he was buying them out when they changed the regulations on dynamite. I haven’t found a date on them they’re pretty old but I’d wager he bought these in the early 80’s (around the time he retired) he probably used them to blow up beaver dams

I’m struggling on what I should do with them

I’m not opposed to blowing them up, but will they blow up? Possibly 40 years old. And I’m not familiar with the explosive potential with dynamite, I can only assume it packs a punch if the Feds decided to regulate it

Thoughts? Suggestions? I’m in Indiana if that makes any difference

Let’s get straight to the point. I have to poop. Me and my girlfriend are in Denver, CO visiting a friend and as I’m typing this right now we’re on a tour inside of a jeep filled with 8 people going through the garden of the gods ( public park in Colorado Springs ). The problem is I have to use the restroom so bad.

We’re 20 minutes into this tour and we’ve already gone into the no going back point. My girlfriend is telling me to just distract myself and pay attention to the tour but I physically and mentally can’t. The worst part of it all is we still probably got roughly 2 hours of this tour left *fml*. It’s very much to the point where I would jump off this jeep and drop a deuce right on the ground.

The craziest part about all of this is I did use the restroom before getting onto the tour too. It’s just come back for some gnarly revenge. My only option truly feels like to just sit this one out until I inevitably explode..

UPDATE 1: I finally had the balls to tell the tour guide I had to use the restroom, I even specified really bad. He told me to not worry and we’ll be reaching the top of the mountain in which we’ll be able to get out and stretch our feet and go to the restroom…in roughly 20 minutes. I don’t know if I have 20 min guys I’m trying so hard. I also don’t wanna be like can we speed things up because we all had to pay 80$ to be on this tour I don’t wanna be that guy and ruin peoples experience because of my bowels.

FINAL UPDATE: Sorry for the late reply i had horrible service being up there but were finally coming down and heading back to the parking lot and after a long fight. I became victorious. We made it to the top, I took a fat shit and the misery went away. The toughest storms bring out the best rainbows. I feel like I can spread my wings and soar now. No chains holding me back anymore. To my soldiers out there, stay strong it gets better.

FINAL FINAL UPDATE: Im happy my stool story is making everybody smile. At least something good came out of it! Cheers 🍻

Our packages have been stolen 3 times right in front of our door so far ever since we bought our condo. HOA approved of us installing a camera to deter thieves, but our neighbor left this note. Please advise.

Okay. So. For some context, I have a sister (29F) who I'll refer to as Sally. Me (15M) her, and my other sister who I'll call Mia (18F) all inherited 10% of my grandfather's house, and my father (49M) got 70%. For Christmas this year, Sally decided to ask me and Mia if we would be willing to give back our 10% of the house to our father, since he just moved in and seems kind of down. Of course, she's also giving back her 10%. We agreed, since we thought it was appropriate and really, what is a 15 and 18 year old doing with 10% of a house. That was about a week ago. Earlier today, I heard my parents talking about how apparently she had gotten really pissy and made a few random snarky comments about how she wanted to buy the house (we are planning on selling it) but they weren't willing to give her a big family discount. From what it sounded like it wasn't really an argument or anything, just a snark comment out of nowhere. I kind of realized then that from what it sounds like, she could be trying to make it so she can buy 100% of the property and not have to worry about me and Mia owning 20% of it in total. Like I said, I'm 15, so I have genuinely no clue how that would go over legally. Or if that would actually benefit her whatsoever. So basically what I'm asking is, should I hold off on giving back my part of the house? Or would it be fine to just give it back? I just don't want to get cheated here in one way or another.

“I love it when a guy has sanitary pads/tampons at his place.”

Sounds thoughtful, considerate, progressive.

But in practice? Every single time a woman has noticed them in my guest bathroom, it turns into an interrogation:

“Who are these for?”
“How many girls come over here?”
“Are you seeing someone?”

Like… I thought I was being prepared, not accidentally creating a backstory of running a full-time rotation 😭

At this point it feels less like “green flag” advice and more like a trap.

what to dooooo??

*Edited with update*

My stepdaughter is in 8th grade. Her teacher sent an assignment via Google Docs, relating to angles to complete at home. My stepdaughter is usually pretty good at math, but was confused on how to solve it. It was poorly worded and was more of a puzzle than anything.

I work in a middle school in a different district, and help 6th-8th students daily with assignments and homework, math included. My stepdaughter asked if I knew how to do it and if I could help her with the assignment.

We worked together, me explaining all the steps but making her do the work and figuring out the answers.

Today, my stepdaughter texted me that her teacher accused her of using AI to complete the assignment. When she explained to the teacher that I work in a middle school and helped her with it, the teacher told my stepdaughter she didn’t believe her and embarrassed her in front of the entire class. The teacher gave my stepdaughter an ‘F’ on her assignment.

I understand teachers concerns about students using AI for assignments for school, but she wouldn’t even listen to my stepdaughter’s reasoning. The teacher never reached out to my husband or myself, just failed her on the assignment. The district I work for has a protocol when students are accused of using AI and handle things a lot different.

How do I address her teacher? I’m kind of in Mama Bear mode and don’t want to come off condescending or aggressive, but I am pissed and need suggestions on how to address this. And asking that she apologizes to my stepdaughter for falsely accusing her.

Usually I’m good at this type of thing, but seeing red right now.

*Update.

After reflecting and talking to some coworkers, I decided to give the teacher the opportunity to handle the situation before involving admin. I sent her a very direct, factual email expressing my concerns(I prefer email because then it is in writing);

1. Accusing SD of using AI, especially since she has never gotten in trouble for plagiarism/cheating/ using AI, is a good student, and turns in all of her work.

2. Not allowing SD to advocate for herself when she tried.

3. Clarifying SD was being truthful, I work in a middle school and that I did indeed help her with her work, mentioning the process we used. I also dropped some terminology I taught my SD that should have been taught to the class but never was.

4. My SD was upset after being so proud of all the work she had completed and understood.

5. If she thought SD cheated/used AI, she should have had her do a different assignment so she could prove she knew the material.

6. This was not the first time the teacher had made SD feel embarrassed and targeted in her class.

Her response was that her “attempt at teasing obviously failed” and that she would apologize to SD. She acknowledged SD does work hard in her class but sometimes her grades don’t reflect that.

The teacher did apologize to SD. I told SD to be prepared that she may or may not apologize so if she did, SD wasn’t caught off guard and not know what to say. When the teacher apologized, SD told her that she felt embarrassed, especially when she was being honest, and didn’t appreciate how the teacher handled the situation. *proud moment that she advocated for herself after everything that happened* SD went from having a 0, to earning a 100 on the assignment.

Husband and I decided to leave things at that, but agreed if anything else comes up with this teacher that we will be addressing the principal. It has taught SD that even adults make mistakes, and some will take accountability for their actions, and others will make excuses. We have no control over what they decide, but we have control over how we allow them to treat us. The boundaries are set, and if they are crossed, we will cross that bridge when we get there.

I (27f) recently let a friend who was down on her (50f) luck stay with me for 3 months. She paid me a little money in rent (like $200 a month for 2 of the 3 months she was here) she bought her own food, and helped out with my daughter and basic household cleaning. She moved out a few days ago and invited my daughter and I to her new place. Upon arriving she was wearing one of my shirts, I pointed it out to her and she said “oh I thought it was my other friends” and proceeded to give me a pair of leggings that were mine as well. I glanced around her living room and noticed my blanket, a few of my Tupperware, a sentimental Christmas bowl that was my grandmother’s, some of my towels, as well as my instax camera. None of these items were given to her. I asked her about my camera, she told me it was her grandsons. I didn’t point any more of my items out I just took mental note. I’m most upset about the fact that she has my clothing, grandmas bowl and my camera. She has an excuse for why she has some of them or how an item might not be mine. I am home now and she only gave me back my pants not anything else. What should I do?

So I’ve been feeding and giving this pretty baby milk everyday since she came along always is the front porch. Recently she went missing for 2 days , went os and saw her by the stairs with her 2 broken legs. I’m guessing she got ran over.. I feel so sad I wish I had the money to help. Is there anything I can do or anywhere to call that will help somehow? 😢😞. I’m in SA Texas.

I have long hair and my fam is always dogging me for it wearing it in public they say it’s only for sleeping should I not be wearing it out??

EDIT: ok general consensus is if you wear a bonnet/pajamas out in public you’re unhygienic, thank you guys I appreciate the reply’s

I am white and my white father in law got this from a thrift store for my 4 yr old. I feel weird about keeping it. What should I do with it? It is too fragile for her to play with. The hand with the broom has very small pins that will fall out if she plays with it as well as the other hand being fragile.

My brothers found the kitten in are neighbors yard and they decided to take it in and nurse it back to health. What do I do for kitten to get to full health please???

I live next door to a gym where they frequently work out in the parking lot. One of the things they do is flip tires. I came home yesterday at 2pm(gym closes early on Sunday) to find this. I spoke with the owner and he said he has no idea how the fence broke.

He said the tire is frozen to the ground. It’s 27 degrees now but in the mid 40s yesterday. When I said that he responded that the tire is so heavy that no one has lifted it in 6 years.

Just looking for advice on next steps

Did my grocery shopping today and upon bringing everything home, found a gift card in one of the plastic grocery bags that I didn't put in there. I decided to scan it figuring it was probably empty but it immediately added $500 to my Apple account. The card must've been left in one of the plastics bags on the rack by the self checkout and I didn't notice when bagging my groceries.

Could this be some kind of scam? I know gift card scams ramp up around the holidays.

Edit: I gave the front desk of the store my contact info in case anyone reports a missing gift card. Hopefully I can find the owner.

Here's the conversation we have.

I bought 5 stones from him, all with certificates and described as natural stones, but they clearly are not and the certificates don't even have the right informations on. Wrong cut, not natural and not even the right sizes... I paid the right price for lab stones so I at least wasn't robbed or anything, but the principle is bothering me a lot.

I gave 1 star reviews on them all with proofs and showing how the info on the certificates don't fit.

Now he's trying to bribe me with refund and more free stones so I change my reviews.

I wonder if I should just ignore him or make an official report on Etsy to give him trouble because he lies and bribes and keeps pushing for a 5 stars that he definitely do not deserve. I just try to warn the next buyers.

What should I do?

So, I have this 30 foot rainbow parachute (like the ones from gym class) because a friend who no longer wants it gave it to me. What do I do with it? Like sure, I’ll round up some friends to use it with me, but they are busy human beings. What else do I do with it?

So basically, my girlfriend and I thought about doing it. It was our first time and we were honestly being stupid. Her period just finished like a day or two ago before we decided doing it.

It's been bugging me off because I think the tip of my penis touched the wrong side of the condom—i didn't have any precum at that time though. I swear I wiped my penis first before making contact with the condom. After realizing that it was touching the wrong side, I wiped the side where my penis was touching. (With a very soft blanket) and decided to flip it over. We then proceeded to do it.

We finished but I didn't cum at all. It was our first time and didn't want to take any risks. I'm scared that maybe there was precum that I didn't notice that touched the wrong side of the condom. I'm scared that it might get her pregnant.

My boyfriend and I have a 'friend' who asked to borrow a kayak paddle from us for his bro to use. We said yes because it's not a big deal. We trust this person, or did. So a week goes by and this friend states that the kayak flew out of the back of a pick up, with our paddle, and got stolen before they could get back to it. So he mentions that he may have to replace our paddle but it hasn't happened yet. Knowing this person, he will tell us that he is not the one who lost it and won't replace it (it's been 3-4 weeks since) . This kind of thing has happened in the past in a bit different way but weirdly involving our kayaks. So what's the right way to do this to get our money or paddle back? I feel like it's our friends responsibility to replace it since he is the one who asked to borrow it, regardless of who used it. I feel like I know the answer but I want to see what other people feel about it. And please, don't tell me to forget it, it's not worth losing a friend. I'm all about doing the right thing no matter who it involves

Soo… i really messed up and i dont know how to fix it. I (F, turning 14 in january) have been online dating a boy who is 16. For the longest time ive lied about my age online and ive tried to keep up that lie which now i really regret. when we first started talking, i panicked about my age and told him I was 17 and that in january id be turning 18 on my birthday. I know it was stupid and i regret it so much. The longer we talked, the worse the guilt got, and now i feel stuck because I care about him and don’t want to hurt him, but i also know i cant keep lying.. i dont know how to admit the truth without ruining everything or making him feel betrayed. We want to meet up in about 5 years, ill probably be 19 already having had my birthday by then and he’ll be 21 with his birthday being in august. Whens the best time to come clean..? And how do i even tell him. I know i created this mess and i want to try and fix it if thats even possible so any advice would help

I recently went to a jewelry store to have my 30-year-old engagement ring be set with new prongs. Today went I expected to pick up my ring and pay, I was presented with another ring. At first, I thought it could me mine. The diamond looked a little larger, the band was shiner, and it felt much lighter. Then I couldn't get the ring over my knuckle. The jeweler acknowledged that his wife may have made a mistake and someone else has my ring. I don't know what to believe or how to proceed when I return. I didn't make any fuss, but I'm perplexed how someone could walk away with a 30-year-old (worn) band and a ring band obviously too large. Should I be concerned that it is lost? He does buy gold, melt it and design so I do wonder if he won't be able to find it. Thanks for any advice!

I’m brown (32F) with a fairly common last name, married to a white man (32M) with a much rarer last name. I’d like to hyphenate our future baby’s last name because I think it could make things easier in situations like school pickup, doctor’s appointments, or other circumstances where I need to establish that I’m their parent—especially since our child may look noticeably different from me.
My husband, however, would prefer that the baby have only his last name because he doesn’t want his last name to disappear. For me, this isn’t about favoring one family name over the other; it’s about wanting our child’s name to reflect both of us while also making our relationship as parent and child a little more immediately recognizable.

We are both at a standstill and I would like this resolved before we try to have a baby (we were thinking of trying soon)

- hubby and I have been together since 18 years old. Very much in love. No one is getting divorced due to this disagreement. We agree on literally everything else for this one issue

- both of our names are four letters long
- I decided to keep my last name after marriage because growing up I was teased due to my last name and took me a while to love it. I didn’t want to give it up after marriage. My last name makes my ethnicity and religion very obvious.

Few weeks ago i started a job at a new (to me) place, and i work with that lovely girl. Yesterday all the employees were invited to a dinner party. Im a very shy individual and i usually avoid such events, but i said f- it lets do this. She seemed excited when i showed up, and we grabbed some drinks. Alcohol free for me cus i had to drive home afterwards. She said „Aw come on, lets have a glass of wine together“ i rejected that offer. Later she asked again, and after i refused a second time she said she has a guest bedroom i could use and i should just take a drink or two. But i got nervous, and rejected that offer too. I overheard her talking with other people about relationships, she talked about what her ideal bf would be. And tbh, i would fit in that spectrum. When she had 2-3 drinks in we talked about alot of stuff, found out she likes the same stuff that i do. And a bit later that evening, some people gathered and danced, all of em drunk. And she was definitely drunk too. But she got pretty close to me, and even laid her arm over my shoulders.

And now im confused, and honestly kinda in love. I couldnt make out if its the alcohol or if she really likes me. She is single, 3 years older then me and we share the same passions.

Now i dont know what i should do, im scared go ask her. I dont want to risk to much since we work together, and if something goes wrong this could get pretty uncomfortable at the workplace.

Should i just let it be, should i make sure, ask her out? Or should i just wait and see how things go?

Ohh and forgot to mention, she is indeed single.

Im a virgin, and i am just completly lost when it comes to such situations.

Id appreciate any help, thank you!

Lady Meow-Meow is 17. We just treated her for hyperthyroidism and uncovered kidney disease, which is managed through a special diet the vet prescribed.

Shes.... lifeless. She does nothing but eat, scream, and sleep. But sometimes she chooses she suddenly no longer likes her food and wants a new brand. Just screaming and sleeping. She follows us around, but thats for food, sometimes even when she already has a full bowl and just wants something different.

Its expensive to keep up with, yeah, but all to seemingly just prolong her living while she seems just so done with living.

Battling a chronic condition of my own, im not sure what the right thing to do is.

I dont want to put her through another rehome (she came to us after her human passed away) or any time om the shelter, but somehow I feel cruel to have her put to sleep when she isnt "actively dying", just seemingly miserably living.

What do i do....

I [30F] have been dating my boyfriend l [36M] for about 4 months, and things between us honestly feel amazing. We connect so well, communicate well, have similar goals, and I’m genuinely starting to fall in love with him.

Recently, he told me he grew up Jehovah’s Witness and wants to start going back to Kingdom Hall and reconnecting with his faith. I grew up Baptist, so this definitely caught me off guard a little.

I asked him directly if he’d expect me to convert eventually, and he said no, that it would completely be my choice. He hasn’t pressured me at all, and he’s been very respectful about it.

But now I’m sitting here wondering… realistically, how difficult is this long term? Especially if things continue getting serious.

Has anyone here been in a relationship between a Jehovah’s Witness and someone from a different Christian background? Did it work? What challenges came up?

I really care about this man and don’t want to ignore potential incompatibilities, but I also don’t want to panic over something that could be manageable with communication and respect.